Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:

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Anonymous wrote:Southerners get no love

I'm told that I have a very southern accent. I'm wondering how many women I come into contact with are inwardly cringing every time I talk. Guys love it! I can't tell you how many men, especially in D.C., have told me that they could listen to me talk all day long. I think there is a big difference between a country "hick" sounding accent and the soft, southern drawl that most southerners have.

Also, to the PPs who oppose (hate?) "the south". It's kind of a big region. How do you know you hate all of the southeast? The Mississippi Delta is very, very different from the Tennessee mountains. Atlanta is nothing at all like Mobile. Austin and New Orleans don't have much in common. Not sure how you can hate the entire southeast portion of the Country unless you have spent a great deal of time living in each state.

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Also, SAHMs who say things like "our income" - it's not yours, it's your husband's.

You are an idiot. This is what is wrong with modern feminism. I will take 1920's feminism any day.

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Anonymous wrote:- CIO
- Circumcision
- Formula feeding in any circumstance except where the mother's life or baby's life is in imminent peril
- Epidurals
- C-sections except where the mom or baby's life is in danger (so, all but like 5% of them)
- GMOs and conventional food
- Religion of every kind
- People who consume more than they should of any resource

Define imminent peril and in danger.

Why? It's not like my personal thoughts are going to lead to public policy

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Nope; I mean what I wrote as it pertains to interracial marriages/unions. Not sure why that's so hard to comprehend.

OP, people keep asking you because your responses don't make sense. I still don't understand what "discord" you have witnessed, nor what "watering down of culture."

The part you're missing is that I don't HAVE to justify my opinion. My opinion is just that and it won't change. It's also almost certain you won't agree with any reason I give, so why would I bother?

How about you allow me to just have my opinion? I don't voice it to others (unless asked) and you'd never know I disapprove, so that is enough. You can't force everyone to agree with your life choices; you can only ask that they don't attack/insult you because of them.

You're entitled to your opinion, but you must at least admit that it's irrational. You say it's not "looks" that determine why you're against "interracial" marriage, but "culture." Then you say it's not inter-cultural marriage you're opposed to. So then what is it?

You can have your beliefs, but you must admit you're incapable of actually supporting and backing up why you hold those beliefs.

I can support them. Just because my reasons don't rise to the level of what you find rational does not mean I don't have my reasons.

Some of them are:

-it creates discord
- it results in loss of culture identity (Ex: black/white child: will not have the same cultural appreciation for their heritage. Same with other races Chinese/white, etc).
-children sometimes have identity crisis issues (accepted by some, not by others, never knowing where they fit in, being racially militant to overcompensate for their insecurities, etc)
-it creates discord *beyond* the parent/child relationship. In-law relationships (which can be tough anyway) are difficult; relating to and/or finding common ground can be an issue, etc.

I have other reasons; these are just a few. Again, you don't have to accept them (or understand them).

I'm a mixed/biracial women. The only "discord" was because of my mom's racist and bigoted family - which isn't actually a justified reason to be against mixed marriages. Personally, I think being mixed is the biggest blessing. You look at all the problems in the world, and most surround arbitrary identities. Being mixed, one easily understands what truly matters when it comes to humanity and their manmade divisions.

When I see mixed children, it warms my heart in a way that I can't describe. As a mixed women, I feel happy for the open and embracing people they will most likely grow up to be.

Thankfully, the racists are being thinned out. I don't see anything negative being lost by thinning out the "cultural identity" of racists.

I'm glad you had a positive experience. But you do realize you aren't the only biracial person in the world, right? And your comment about your Mom's racist family speaks to my point about in-law relationships.

Again, glad it worked out for you, but not really seeing how seeing mixed children warms your heart any more than seeing any child.

You do realize that any source of racism like yours is due to the wrongful attitudes of others, and not inherently about the experience of being mixed? What do you suggest - that people cower to racists like you, for fear of their racist judgment?

As I said, I feel so incredibly lucky being mixed - it's not because of anything my parents did, but because they connected and fell in love based on their similar experiences, despite coming from different cultures, countries, skin colors, and religions. We were blessed to grow up in such an informed family that emphasized love based on an individual, rather than manmade and artificial categories. It warms my heart to see any child to grow up with those blessings. Those realizations about humanity's commonalities come so much easier and naturally to mixed and biracial children - because you see it literally every day.

Again, glad you had a great experience. Please know that it is not the same for everyone and realize that the "racist" insult has no effect when it is not applicable. You can have differing opinions without being racist. Your "manmade and artificial categories" is actually indicative of the cultural watering down that I was talking about.

Racist is not an insult, when it's a reality that you're talking about preserving some kind of non-existent racial and cultural purity. I feel bad for the sad worldview you possess. I feel sadder still, for the hate you inflict on others who simply want to love whom they love.

OMG...stop playing the victim. I stated my opinion, move on already. Again, this is not about purity (the very idea is laughable) and it's definitely not about hate.

Thanks to the pp who understood my points and, while she didn't agree, understood my reasons.

Personally I'm against the cultural mixing of toilet-paper-over and toilet-paper-under marriages. This is inappropriate and leads to constant discords in too many families. This kind of cultural identity is confusing for children and leads them to pick a side, instead of you know, just rolling with whatever.

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Also, SAHMs who say things like "our income" - it's not yours, it's your husband's.

You are an idiot. This is what is wrong with modern feminism. I will take 1920's feminism any day.

I'll take 1920's anything any day.

[Anonymous]

Personally I'm against the cultural mixing of toilet-paper-over and toilet-paper-under marriages. This is inappropriate and leads to constant discords in too many families. This kind of cultural identity is confusing for children and leads them to pick a side, instead of you know, just rolling with whatever.

Okay, I LOLed at this.

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I'm opposed to rainbows, butterflies, flowers and chocolate. Oh, and puppies. Hate stupid fucking puppies.

Don't get me started on unicorns.


And yes, it does feel exhausting to have to judge so much. I wish we got rid of all the above so I could get a break.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:- My MIL
- Reduced-fat cheese
- Comic Sans
- Elimination communication *shudder*

I think we have a winner! Somethings we all can get behind collectively agree as DCUM and openly hate and oppose.

Yay, I won!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IVF
Surrogacy
Inter-racial adoption
gays/lesbian adopting
Breastfeedong after 12 months
Breastfeeding in public without cover
Same sex marriage
women having baby without benefit of marriage
Hiring illegals for anything
Immigration reform

Big law, particularly women in big law, so impressed with themselves

I'm anti-CIO, anti-cric, anti-religion poster and want to add to my list that I also oppose you.

The only thing on your list I agree with is not hiring illegal immigrants, because we should be providing a path to citizenship and hiring illegal immigrants exploits them.

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Also, SAHMs who say things like "our income" - it's not yours, it's your husband's.

You are an idiot. This is what is wrong with modern feminism. I will take 1920's feminism any day.

I'll take 1920's anything any day.

Enjoy prohibition, then! (Can I have all your booze?)

[Anonymous]

Parents who put their little girls in bikinis.

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Also, SAHMs who say things like "our income" - it's not yours, it's your husband's.

You are an idiot. This is what is wrong with modern feminism. I will take 1920's feminism any day.

I'll take 1920's anything any day.

Enjoy prohibition, then! (Can I have all your booze?)

No, I need it for my basement speakeasy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:- CIO
- Circumcision
- Formula feeding in any circumstance except where the mother's life or baby's life is in imminent peril
- Epidurals
- C-sections except where the mom or baby's life is in danger (so, all but like 5% of them)
- GMOs and conventional food
- Religion of every kind
- People who consume more than they should of any resource

Define imminent peril and in danger.

Why? It's not like my personal thoughts are going to lead to public policy

No one said they were going to. I, however, can think of quite a few reasons why formula feeding is necessary, and am wondering what your perception is. That's all.

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Personally I'm against the cultural mixing of toilet-paper-over and toilet-paper-under marriages. This is inappropriate and leads to constant discords in too many families. This kind of cultural identity is confusing for children and leads them to pick a side, instead of you know, just rolling with whatever.

Okay, I LOLed at this.

+1

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Personally I'm against the cultural mixing of toilet-paper-over and toilet-paper-under marriages. This is inappropriate and leads to constant discords in too many families. This kind of cultural identity is confusing for children and leads them to pick a side, instead of you know, just rolling with whatever.

Okay, I LOLed at this.

You're easily amused.