FA - real life

[Anonymous]

It is no surprise which group at private school has the both the most kids and most middling careers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who left a Big 3 school after over a decade of service because we could not afford to send our children there, suffice it to say that there is a lot about this that pisses me off.

Teachers should get to send their kids there for free.

At our school they automatically get half off tuition, and their teacher salary does not count in the financial aid calculations. We have a lot of faculty and staff where both parents work at the school, so their children are covered completely. This is only for full time positions.

As an only child who was a lifer at one of these schools, I do resent families like OPs. My mom took a second job, and annual tuition was a big role in my parent's decision to only have one child. (This was in the 80s/early 90s - DC publics were just generally pretty bad, and we needed to live there for work reasons). We now have our children at a k-12 in dc, and I hate donating to anything that goes to the general FA fund. I will donate all day long to faculty and staff enrichment, new buildings, scholarships for specific segments, etc, but it is families like the OP that I do not want to support. I like how OP claims to be poor by saying her children share a room. Well OP, guess what - my boys share a room, and my girls share a room, yet I am able to contribute to their school. If I couldn't, then I certainly would do something to up my income to be able to or move somewhere with public schools I was comfortable with. OP also claims that she still needs to pay for childcare in the summer. Well then her children are definitely young enough that really almost any public elementary would be fine. These are not specialized high schoolers who need something they can't get at their local public. OP at the very least, keep them off FA until they are older and can be left alone at home during the summer, saving you that money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think one of the reasons people might be upset about this is jealousy. When my spouse and I started looking at private schools for our child (when she was about 3) we made about what OP currently makes. We realized that we could only afford to have one child in the DC area if we wanted to put them through private K-12 and also pay for undergrad. So we decided not to have another kid.

We only have one child because we never thought that others should (or would!) subsidize the expense of us having more. Guess it turns out we’re the suckers. So, yeah, OP’s post upsets me on a pretty deep level.

What if you already had 2 or 3 kids when you decided to go to private schools? By the time we decided public was not working for my eldest, we already had 3 kids….

Then you make lifestyle choices to afford it or go to public.

People don’t have to do this! Stop telling people what to do and get a life.

I have a life and we earn way less than $300K and still can afford private. Why don't you get a life and stop mooching off others and leave the aid for people who need it.

And..if you have a life why are you on here worrying and complaining about what other people are doing? What are you trying to accomplish? Do you really think people are going to listen to you and not apply for aid hahahaha?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think one of the reasons people might be upset about this is jealousy. When my spouse and I started looking at private schools for our child (when she was about 3) we made about what OP currently makes. We realized that we could only afford to have one child in the DC area if we wanted to put them through private K-12 and also pay for undergrad. So we decided not to have another kid.

We only have one child because we never thought that others should (or would!) subsidize the expense of us having more. Guess it turns out we’re the suckers. So, yeah, OP’s post upsets me on a pretty deep level.

What if you already had 2 or 3 kids when you decided to go to private schools? By the time we decided public was not working for my eldest, we already had 3 kids….

Then you make lifestyle choices to afford it or go to public.

People don’t have to do this! Stop telling people what to do and get a life.

I have a life and we earn way less than $300K and still can afford private. Why don't you get a life and stop mooching off others and leave the aid for people who need it.

And..if you have a life why are you on here worrying and complaining about what other people are doing? What are you trying to accomplish? Do you really think people are going to listen to you and not apply for aid hahahaha?

Wow this is a childish response. People are posting because OP shared a great deal of information and basically invited people to comment. There have been some really thoughtful posts here. Yours is obviously not one of them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who left a Big 3 school after over a decade of service because we could not afford to send our children there, suffice it to say that there is a lot about this that pisses me off.

Teachers should get to send their kids there for free.

At our school they automatically get half off tuition, and their teacher salary does not count in the financial aid calculations. We have a lot of faculty and staff where both parents work at the school, so their children are covered completely. This is only for full time positions.

As an only child who was a lifer at one of these schools, I do resent families like OPs. My mom took a second job, and annual tuition was a big role in my parent's decision to only have one child. (This was in the 80s/early 90s - DC publics were just generally pretty bad, and we needed to live there for work reasons). We now have our children at a k-12 in dc, and I hate donating to anything that goes to the general FA fund. I will donate all day long to faculty and staff enrichment, new buildings, scholarships for specific segments, etc, but it is families like the OP that I do not want to support. I like how OP claims to be poor by saying her children share a room. Well OP, guess what - my boys share a room, and my girls share a room, yet I am able to contribute to their school. If I couldn't, then I certainly would do something to up my income to be able to or move somewhere with public schools I was comfortable with. OP also claims that she still needs to pay for childcare in the summer. Well then her children are definitely young enough that really almost any public elementary would be fine. These are not specialized high schoolers who need something they can't get at their local public. OP at the very least, keep them off FA until they are older and can be left alone at home during the summer, saving you that money.

No one asked, cheers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is no surprise which group at private school has the both the most kids and most middling careers.

Yeah, the entitled full pay families who think they are owed the world simply because they parted with a dollar for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who left a Big 3 school after over a decade of service because we could not afford to send our children there, suffice it to say that there is a lot about this that pisses me off.

Teachers should get to send their kids there for free.

At our school they automatically get half off tuition, and their teacher salary does not count in the financial aid calculations. We have a lot of faculty and staff where both parents work at the school, so their children are covered completely. This is only for full time positions.

As an only child who was a lifer at one of these schools, I do resent families like OPs. My mom took a second job, and annual tuition was a big role in my parent's decision to only have one child. (This was in the 80s/early 90s - DC publics were just generally pretty bad, and we needed to live there for work reasons). We now have our children at a k-12 in dc, and I hate donating to anything that goes to the general FA fund. I will donate all day long to faculty and staff enrichment, new buildings, scholarships for specific segments, etc, but it is families like the OP that I do not want to support. I like how OP claims to be poor by saying her children share a room. Well OP, guess what - my boys share a room, and my girls share a room, yet I am able to contribute to their school. If I couldn't, then I certainly would do something to up my income to be able to or move somewhere with public schools I was comfortable with. OP also claims that she still needs to pay for childcare in the summer. Well then her children are definitely young enough that really almost any public elementary would be fine. These are not specialized high schoolers who need something they can't get at their local public. OP at the very least, keep them off FA until they are older and can be left alone at home during the summer, saving you that money.

No one asked, cheers.

I suspect OP’s (male, less-thoughtful) spouse is now on this thread, posting some of these responses. Either that or someone’s middle schooler is posting. In any case, I think some good points have been made here, and those who aren’t able to formulate good points are starting to rage about it, so maybe it’s time to tie this thread up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is no surprise which group at private school has the both the most kids and most middling careers.

That would be the families where the wealthy grandparents have been picking up the tab for everything for their own children and now their children’s children. Generational entitlement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who left a Big 3 school after over a decade of service because we could not afford to send our children there, suffice it to say that there is a lot about this that pisses me off.

Teachers should get to send their kids there for free.

At our school they automatically get half off tuition, and their teacher salary does not count in the financial aid calculations. We have a lot of faculty and staff where both parents work at the school, so their children are covered completely. This is only for full time positions.

As an only child who was a lifer at one of these schools, I do resent families like OPs. My mom took a second job, and annual tuition was a big role in my parent's decision to only have one child. (This was in the 80s/early 90s - DC publics were just generally pretty bad, and we needed to live there for work reasons). We now have our children at a k-12 in dc, and I hate donating to anything that goes to the general FA fund. I will donate all day long to faculty and staff enrichment, new buildings, scholarships for specific segments, etc, but it is families like the OP that I do not want to support. I like how OP claims to be poor by saying her children share a room. Well OP, guess what - my boys share a room, and my girls share a room, yet I am able to contribute to their school. If I couldn't, then I certainly would do something to up my income to be able to or move somewhere with public schools I was comfortable with. OP also claims that she still needs to pay for childcare in the summer. Well then her children are definitely young enough that really almost any public elementary would be fine. These are not specialized high schoolers who need something they can't get at their local public. OP at the very least, keep them off FA until they are older and can be left alone at home during the summer, saving you that money.

No one asked, cheers.

I suspect OP’s (male, less-thoughtful) spouse is now on this thread, posting some of these responses. Either that or someone’s middle schooler is posting. In any case, I think some good points have been made here, and those who aren’t able to formulate good points are starting to rage about it, so maybe it’s time to tie this thread up.

There was no good point in someone centering an entire comment—and this whole discussion—on themself. I understand that you confuse comments you agree with with being good ones, but they are not the same.

[Anonymous]

It's interesting that people in the highest pay brackets are always starved to get more and more money pretending like they are poor and they need it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who left a Big 3 school after over a decade of service because we could not afford to send our children there, suffice it to say that there is a lot about this that pisses me off.

Teachers should get to send their kids there for free.

At our school they automatically get half off tuition, and their teacher salary does not count in the financial aid calculations. We have a lot of faculty and staff where both parents work at the school, so their children are covered completely. This is only for full time positions.

As an only child who was a lifer at one of these schools, I do resent families like OPs. My mom took a second job, and annual tuition was a big role in my parent's decision to only have one child. (This was in the 80s/early 90s - DC publics were just generally pretty bad, and we needed to live there for work reasons). We now have our children at a k-12 in dc, and I hate donating to anything that goes to the general FA fund. I will donate all day long to faculty and staff enrichment, new buildings, scholarships for specific segments, etc, but it is families like the OP that I do not want to support. I like how OP claims to be poor by saying her children share a room. Well OP, guess what - my boys share a room, and my girls share a room, yet I am able to contribute to their school. If I couldn't, then I certainly would do something to up my income to be able to or move somewhere with public schools I was comfortable with. OP also claims that she still needs to pay for childcare in the summer. Well then her children are definitely young enough that really almost any public elementary would be fine. These are not specialized high schoolers who need something they can't get at their local public. OP at the very least, keep them off FA until they are older and can be left alone at home during the summer, saving you that money.

OP is likely paying upwards of 100k per year to the school. There is no absence of "support."

[Anonymous]

I don’t get the anger at OP. Who DOES deserve financial aid? Someone who absolutely, not in a million years, couldn’t afford it, but now maybe can? The OP had three kids, cut spending sharply, rolled the dice, got aid, and are still paying out the nose for the privilege. Not the choice I would have made, but why begrudge them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher who left a Big 3 school after over a decade of service because we could not afford to send our children there, suffice it to say that there is a lot about this that pisses me off.

Teachers should get to send their kids there for free.

At our school they automatically get half off tuition, and their teacher salary does not count in the financial aid calculations. We have a lot of faculty and staff where both parents work at the school, so their children are covered completely. This is only for full time positions.

As an only child who was a lifer at one of these schools, I do resent families like OPs. My mom took a second job, and annual tuition was a big role in my parent's decision to only have one child. (This was in the 80s/early 90s - DC publics were just generally pretty bad, and we needed to live there for work reasons). We now have our children at a k-12 in dc, and I hate donating to anything that goes to the general FA fund. I will donate all day long to faculty and staff enrichment, new buildings, scholarships for specific segments, etc, but it is families like the OP that I do not want to support. I like how OP claims to be poor by saying her children share a room. Well OP, guess what - my boys share a room, and my girls share a room, yet I am able to contribute to their school. If I couldn't, then I certainly would do something to up my income to be able to or move somewhere with public schools I was comfortable with. OP also claims that she still needs to pay for childcare in the summer. Well then her children are definitely young enough that really almost any public elementary would be fine. These are not specialized high schoolers who need something they can't get at their local public. OP at the very least, keep them off FA until they are older and can be left alone at home during the summer, saving you that money.

OP is likely paying upwards of 100k per year to the school. There is no absence of "support."

That’s what is lost in all of this faux outrage. These are tuition discounts, but the families are still paying through the nose.

Of course, all of these angry posters are much poorer than OP, don’t actually have kids at DC privates, or aren’t involved in their family’s finances in the slightest, so they don’t understand this point at all.

[Anonymous]

Curious if OP thinks she fits in at the school or if being a FA family is a barrier to making friends there. She may think nobody knows, but they all do.

[Anonymous]

No way. Rich people aren't known for being superficial, snot nosed, entitled, mean girl brats. They are know for being moral high ground wwjd idealists just like their mascot Trump.