Why do grown women post photos of social events?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still seeing fools just posting 100000 pictures of their food. I don't care what you ate!!!!

Don't read it.

If you don't want to engage in this discussion you can just stop reading and look away. It's easy, right?

Sure is, but I enjoy the pretzel logic.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still seeing fools just posting 100000 pictures of their food. I don't care what you ate!!!!

Don't read it.

If you don't want to engage in this discussion you can just stop reading and look away. It's easy, right?

Stupid response. This is a discussion. If only those who agreed with OP were permitted to participate it wouldn’t be much of one.

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Anonymous wrote:I think there is an inverse relationship between fun-ness of a get together and existence of photos on social media. People shouldn’t need external validation for legitimately good times between true friends.

So you do you then.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still seeing fools just posting 100000 pictures of their food. I don't care what you ate!!!!

Don't read it.

If you don't want to engage in this discussion you can just stop reading and look away. It's easy, right?

Stupid response. This is a discussion. If only those who agreed with OP were permitted to participate it wouldn’t be much of one.

It's a discussion. Commands don't really add to the discussion.

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Anonymous wrote:I think there is an inverse relationship between fun-ness of a get together and existence of photos on social media. People shouldn’t need external validation for legitimately good times between true friends.

So you do you then.

And you, just keep trying to fill that void inside. You’ll figure it out someday, I’m sure.

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Anonymous wrote:I think there is an inverse relationship between fun-ness of a get together and existence of photos on social media. People shouldn’t need external validation for legitimately good times between true friends.

The fact you think this way shows that there’s something going on with you not with the group you’re viewing.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

But those are not examples of what OP is talking about, where a group of adult women get together for a social event and then post the photos to social media.

From your examples: everyone loves pictures of babies, please. It's like puppies. Literally no one complains about people posting this stuff, including OP. Some people may get triggered by vacation photos but most people I know like them. I love seeing vacation photos online because it gives me ideas for where to travel. And the video of a kid's skating lesson is in the baby category (though when people obsessively post kid photos as their kids get older, it does get annoying).

So those are all things most people enjoy. But that's different than a group of women going out to dinner and taking a group photo and posting it. Why is that something most people would want to see? And obviously if there are women who are friends with that group but weren't invited, it will make them feel left out. Even if it was incidental and not intentional, they'll think "huh why didn't anyone tell me about this." Which is WHY it's weird to post these photos, because how many people are desperate to see more photos of women at dinner, and the people who actually know all the women in the photo are going to feel hurt. So there's just no reason, unless it's to prove to people you have friends, or you want to make people feel excluded.

I see. So the rule is if you go out with a bunch of women and have fun you can’t post a picture without being a dick but everything else is cool? I had no idea!

🙄

You didn't know how the rules evolved? Most women just really aren't doing this anymore. They've been on both sides and now know better.

But the majority women have never been on either side, and those are the women who are still posting.

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Social media is thirsty and try-hard. Period. A Lion does not concern himself with the opinions of the sheep.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

But those are not examples of what OP is talking about, where a group of adult women get together for a social event and then post the photos to social media.

From your examples: everyone loves pictures of babies, please. It's like puppies. Literally no one complains about people posting this stuff, including OP. Some people may get triggered by vacation photos but most people I know like them. I love seeing vacation photos online because it gives me ideas for where to travel. And the video of a kid's skating lesson is in the baby category (though when people obsessively post kid photos as their kids get older, it does get annoying).

So those are all things most people enjoy. But that's different than a group of women going out to dinner and taking a group photo and posting it. Why is that something most people would want to see? And obviously if there are women who are friends with that group but weren't invited, it will make them feel left out. Even if it was incidental and not intentional, they'll think "huh why didn't anyone tell me about this." Which is WHY it's weird to post these photos, because how many people are desperate to see more photos of women at dinner, and the people who actually know all the women in the photo are going to feel hurt. So there's just no reason, unless it's to prove to people you have friends, or you want to make people feel excluded.

I see. So the rule is if you go out with a bunch of women and have fun you can’t post a picture without being a dick but everything else is cool? I had no idea!

🙄

You didn't know how the rules evolved? Most women just really aren't doing this anymore. They've been on both sides and now know better.

But the majority women have never been on either side, and those are the women who are still posting.

What? Posting on social media is dead and dying. A majority of women are definitely not posting the drivel in the OP. Some are, a few, but certainly not the majority or most. The rest have figured out it's not worth it.

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It's also passe now because there are so many other great ways to share pix - group WhatsApps etc. so SM feels performative unless it's a big announcement like you want a wide range of friends and extended family to know you had a baby, kid is graduating, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

But those are not examples of what OP is talking about, where a group of adult women get together for a social event and then post the photos to social media.

From your examples: everyone loves pictures of babies, please. It's like puppies. Literally no one complains about people posting this stuff, including OP. Some people may get triggered by vacation photos but most people I know like them. I love seeing vacation photos online because it gives me ideas for where to travel. And the video of a kid's skating lesson is in the baby category (though when people obsessively post kid photos as their kids get older, it does get annoying).

So those are all things most people enjoy. But that's different than a group of women going out to dinner and taking a group photo and posting it. Why is that something most people would want to see? And obviously if there are women who are friends with that group but weren't invited, it will make them feel left out. Even if it was incidental and not intentional, they'll think "huh why didn't anyone tell me about this." Which is WHY it's weird to post these photos, because how many people are desperate to see more photos of women at dinner, and the people who actually know all the women in the photo are going to feel hurt. So there's just no reason, unless it's to prove to people you have friends, or you want to make people feel excluded.

I see. So the rule is if you go out with a bunch of women and have fun you can’t post a picture without being a dick but everything else is cool? I had no idea!

🙄

You didn't know how the rules evolved? Most women just really aren't doing this anymore. They've been on both sides and now know better.

But the majority women have never been on either side, and those are the women who are still posting.

What? Posting on social media is dead and dying. A majority of women are definitely not posting the drivel in the OP. Some are, a few, but certainly not the majority or most. The rest have figured out it's not worth it.

No, what I’m talking about is most women don’t play these silly middle school games with their friends where they have parties and leave them out or you see women having parties and feel left out.

It doesn’t matter how many people are posting or not posting the fact is the majority of grown women don’t think about why other women are getting together and they’re not invited.

The fact that a small portion of them post pictures about it are irrelevant to the majority of women, because we don’t care if groups of women get together and we’re not invited.

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

You’re just a small person. You really are.

I’m retired and have traveled a lot, often solo, and have met a lot of people in my life. Many are in far different positions than me in terms of age, economics, life experience, nationalities, etc. I’ve ended up following many of them on social media and they follow me.

When one of them posts something cool or interesting or fun—including them getting together with their friends—I think it’s just great. I don’t think they’re doing it to make me or others who can’t be there jealous. That never occurs to me, and I know they’re not thinking that that’s why I post what I post either.

We’re sharing the human experience with others who are interested. That’s it. If you’re not interested, don’t look. No reason to take it all so personally.

DP. One of the reasons I stopped posting many years ago, in addition to asking myself who was it for, was imagining so many people just scrolling by carelessly something that felt so meaningful to me. (As they should feel free to do, obviously.) Why would I put my own precious memories and experiences out there for people to judge or ignore or mock? It cheapens the human experience for me.

You’ve totally missed my point. I’m confident that my “followers” and the people I follow aren’t judging or mocking or affirmatively ignoring. The people I know simply aren’t wired that way. If they were I wouldn’t follow them in the first place.

Oh, honey.

“Oh, honey” also went out in 2012. Believe me, I’d never follow you on social media. I have no room in my life for nasty people.

+1

And even if someone somewhere is laughing at me and thinks I’m “cringe,” what do I care? Someone else’s thoughts are none of my business. I like me, but not everyone has to.

But clearly the motivations is "Look everyone! I'm not lonely and I so have friends! People like me!"

Except it isn’t. I post to stay in touch with friends and family. I like seeing that my cousin took her baby to see Santa and seeing the photos my friend posted from what looks like an incredible trip to the Christmas markets in Germany. I hope they enjoy seeing a five second clip from my kid’s first skating lesson. I understand that I’m not going to convince you otherwise, but I think you need to understand that not everyone shares your outlook.

But those are not examples of what OP is talking about, where a group of adult women get together for a social event and then post the photos to social media.

From your examples: everyone loves pictures of babies, please. It's like puppies. Literally no one complains about people posting this stuff, including OP. Some people may get triggered by vacation photos but most people I know like them. I love seeing vacation photos online because it gives me ideas for where to travel. And the video of a kid's skating lesson is in the baby category (though when people obsessively post kid photos as their kids get older, it does get annoying).

So those are all things most people enjoy. But that's different than a group of women going out to dinner and taking a group photo and posting it. Why is that something most people would want to see? And obviously if there are women who are friends with that group but weren't invited, it will make them feel left out. Even if it was incidental and not intentional, they'll think "huh why didn't anyone tell me about this." Which is WHY it's weird to post these photos, because how many people are desperate to see more photos of women at dinner, and the people who actually know all the women in the photo are going to feel hurt. So there's just no reason, unless it's to prove to people you have friends, or you want to make people feel excluded.

I see. So the rule is if you go out with a bunch of women and have fun you can’t post a picture without being a dick but everything else is cool? I had no idea!

🙄

You didn't know how the rules evolved? Most women just really aren't doing this anymore. They've been on both sides and now know better.

But the majority women have never been on either side, and those are the women who are still posting.

What? Posting on social media is dead and dying. A majority of women are definitely not posting the drivel in the OP. Some are, a few, but certainly not the majority or most. The rest have figured out it's not worth it.

No, what I’m talking about is most women don’t play these silly middle school games with their friends where they have parties and leave them out or you see women having parties and feel left out.

It doesn’t matter how many people are posting or not posting the fact is the majority of grown women don’t think about why other women are getting together and they’re not invited.

The fact that a small portion of them post pictures about it are irrelevant to the majority of women, because we don’t care if groups of women get together and we’re not invited.

The point remains, most women are not posting pics of their group get togethers. You might find it a huge mystery as to why, but I think everyone else has figured out it's not worth it and they weren't getting anything out of doing it. Postings of these sort are less common than they used to be.

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Anonymous wrote:Social media is thirsty and try-hard. Period. A Lion does not concern himself with the opinions of the sheep.

Boss, the proles are calling themselves lions again.

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I always have assumed that people who don’t post social outings don’t leave their houses. People with no social media are either dead or homeless. If they don’t show pics of their kids it’s because they are embarrassed by how they look.

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Anonymous wrote:I always have assumed that people who don’t post social outings don’t leave their houses. People with no social media are either dead or homeless. If they don’t show pics of their kids it’s because they are embarrassed by how they look.

You're trying to be funny, but that's exactly how I found out a prolific posting friend was dead. She was one of the few people I know who posted regularly then one day I realized I hadn't seen anything from her in months. A quick search told me she had died when I found her obit. We didn't have any mutual acquaintances. I guess we'll just never know if the non-posters die.