Why do teens self-segregate along racial lines ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a South Asian woman with mixed kids, it's because the white kids exclude the non-white kids (or rather, the white parents exclude the non-white kids from a very early age), so the non-white kids feel like they have to stick together. At least this was my experience as a child, and my kids' experience, too -- even though they are the children of a South Asian mom born and raised in the midwest and a white dad. I'm as American as apple pie, but the white moms have always still excluded me. Even after talking to me and realizing I'm not an immigrant (they're scared of immigrants).

I am white and live in an area with many predominantly south Asian neighborhoods and it’s the reverse there. The few white kids in schools stick together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s why parents should be careful not to send their kids where they will be a below 10% minority. Unfortunately Black parents don’t have that luxury but other races should take note.

Where do you invent some total BS like that? Are you completely ignorant about the many majority AA schools in the DC area?

They are mostly very bad, I meant AA parents who are middle class and up and value education

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s why parents should be careful not to send their kids where they will be a below 10% minority. Unfortunately Black parents don’t have that luxury but other races should take note.

Where do you invent some total BS like that? Are you completely ignorant about the many majority AA schools in the DC area?

They are mostly very bad, I meant AA parents who are middle class and up and value education

They=schools

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s why parents should be careful not to send their kids where they will be a below 10% minority. Unfortunately Black parents don’t have that luxury but other races should take note.

Huh? DCPS is a majority-black school district. So are many in the South.

I meant decent schools

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s why parents should be careful not to send their kids where they will be a below 10% minority. Unfortunately Black parents don’t have that luxury but other races should take note.

Where do you invent some total BS like that? Are you completely ignorant about the many majority AA schools in the DC area?

They are mostly very bad, I meant AA parents who are middle class and up and value education

Low income black people don’t value education?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s why parents should be careful not to send their kids where they will be a below 10% minority. Unfortunately Black parents don’t have that luxury but other races should take note.

Where do you invent some total BS like that? Are you completely ignorant about the many majority AA schools in the DC area?

They are mostly very bad, I meant AA parents who are middle class and up and value education

Low income black people don’t value education?

DP. It obviously varies by family. But some don’t appear to. https://www.washingtonpost.com/investigations/interactive/2025/dc-schools-truancy-youth-crime/?utm_campaign=wp_post_most&utm_medium=email&utm_source=newsletter&carta-url=https%3A%2F%2Fs2.washingtonpost.com%2Fcar-ln-tr%2F42fb47d%2F684706f922827c5c3021c4cb%2F597323179bbc0f1cdcf25526%2F11%2F67%2F684706f922827c5c3021c4cb

[Anonymous]

It’s a learned behavior. A lot of parents don’t have mixed raced friend groups themselves and minorities often push children to make friends with other people in their ethnic groups.

[Anonymous]

It seems like self segregation, but really the white kids don’t invite the African Americans to join them.

[Anonymous]

When Asians move into neighborhoods, white people self segregate too. White people don’t invite Asians to join. Too jealous of Asians becoming valedictorian over them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I teach at an international school in Asia, and the kids definitely self-segregate. The white expat kids stick together, the Indian expat kids have their own groups, the Korean and Japanese kids group together with each other (weirdly, these are the only nationalities that cross that line for friend groups, but only with each other and not any other nationalities), and the Chinese kids stick with their own group.

There are some exceptions to the rule, but in general, the kids self segregate. They are not mean to other groups and will happily work together in class if the teacher breaks up friend groups and mixes them, but they definitely self segregate.

Exactly, it’s a thing among all races. Not sure why OP acts like it exclusive with African Americans only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a South Asian woman with mixed kids, it's because the white kids exclude the non-white kids (or rather, the white parents exclude the non-white kids from a very early age), so the non-white kids feel like they have to stick together. At least this was my experience as a child, and my kids' experience, too -- even though they are the children of a South Asian mom born and raised in the midwest and a white dad. I'm as American as apple pie, but the white moms have always still excluded me. Even after talking to me and realizing I'm not an immigrant (they're scared of immigrants).

I am white and live in an area with many predominantly south Asian neighborhoods and it’s the reverse there. The few white kids in schools stick together.

Same. In my neighborhood they didn’t want to come to block parties so they made their own south Asian block parties. They also don’t join the normal moms groups and make their own. I’ve actually never met such exclusionary people and I went to school in the Deep South. Blacks and whites mingled a whole lot more there than south Asians do here. Other Asian Americans are not like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a South Asian woman with mixed kids, it's because the white kids exclude the non-white kids (or rather, the white parents exclude the non-white kids from a very early age), so the non-white kids feel like they have to stick together. At least this was my experience as a child, and my kids' experience, too -- even though they are the children of a South Asian mom born and raised in the midwest and a white dad. I'm as American as apple pie, but the white moms have always still excluded me. Even after talking to me and realizing I'm not an immigrant (they're scared of immigrants).

I am white and live in an area with many predominantly south Asian neighborhoods and it’s the reverse there. The few white kids in schools stick together.

Same. In my neighborhood they didn’t want to come to block parties so they made their own south Asian block parties. They also don’t join the normal moms groups and make their own. I’ve actually never met such exclusionary people and I went to school in the Deep South. Blacks and whites mingled a whole lot more there than south Asians do here. Other Asian Americans are not like that.

But doing this is problematic because it runs in exactly the opposite direction of a diverse and multicultural society we have all been working so hard toward achieving for the last 50 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s why parents should be careful not to send their kids where they will be a below 10% minority. Unfortunately Black parents don’t have that luxury but other races should take note.

Where do you invent some total BS like that? Are you completely ignorant about the many majority AA schools in the DC area?

They are mostly very bad, I meant AA parents who are middle class and up and value education

Low income black people don’t value education?

That's correct in general.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know. My daughter is half white half Asian and a high percentage of her friends are Asian or Wasian. She seems to seek out and value friendships with Asian girls with interests similar to hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a South Asian woman with mixed kids, it's because the white kids exclude the non-white kids (or rather, the white parents exclude the non-white kids from a very early age), so the non-white kids feel like they have to stick together. At least this was my experience as a child, and my kids' experience, too -- even though they are the children of a South Asian mom born and raised in the midwest and a white dad. I'm as American as apple pie, but the white moms have always still excluded me. Even after talking to me and realizing I'm not an immigrant (they're scared of immigrants).

I am white and live in an area with many predominantly south Asian neighborhoods and it’s the reverse there. The few white kids in schools stick together.

Same. In my neighborhood they didn’t want to come to block parties so they made their own south Asian block parties. They also don’t join the normal moms groups and make their own. I’ve actually never met such exclusionary people and I went to school in the Deep South. Blacks and whites mingled a whole lot more there than south Asians do here. Other Asian Americans are not like that.

+3. Some South Asians in my neighborhood are exclusionary and sometimes outright hostile towards non South Asians.
Some. Not all. My son has had friends with friendly parents and they are usually Khatri.