What does your nursing toddler call your boobs?

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Anonymous wrote:Who knew that this thread would get so heated!!! I think that breast feeding is awesome...but there comes a point in time when breast feeding is no longer nurtritionally neccessary. I worked at a daycare where one of the children whose mother would nurse her when she picked her up at the end of the day. She would just sit down on the floor and her daughter would lay her head on her mom's lap and nurse. The little girl was 4 years old! Go ahead...flame on. That is much too old for a child to nurse if there are other food sources available. This child ate solid food and drank milk from cups, so why is there a need to nurse at that age?

Sometimes moms need to find other ways to bond with their children.

And this bothered you ... why?

How did it involve you?

It bothered me because it bothered other parents who were picking up their children while the 4 year old was nursing in the most high traffic area at this daycare. Do YOU think that it is typical for a 4 year old to be breast fed? Do YOU think that a 4 year old should be breast fed in a public place with no discretion from the mother at all? Do YOU think that the other parents and children that were uncomfortable with this should just suck it up because this parent wanted to breast feed her 4 YEAR OLD CHILD at pick up time, instead of waiting for the 5 minutes that it would take to get home?
It DID involve me because I'm the one who got to hear the most complaints about it because I was the one who was regularly closing at the daycare. You're damn skippy it involved me, because I had to try to smooth it all over with the other families and I had a lot of kids in that class ask me why the daycare girl still drinks from her mom. It's an awkward position to put people in, and it's worse when it can be avoided. It would have been completely different if the child wasn't as old as she was, but the truth is that the age matters and attitude of the parent matters. I think that some nursing moms seem to like to cause a commotion and when it's addressed, then get all up in arms about their right to feed their children. Yes, all moms have that right, no one is disputing that. As I said before, nursing is a great thing. I'm just going to say it. In my opinion, a nursing 4 year old is very off-putting and it's awkward to be around. Don't even say a word to me about how I could have just left the room. It was in a common area where everyone retrieves their childn's things at pick up time. I couldn't leave the area because it was also the place to sign kids in and out. This family lived 5 minutes away, so the breast feeding session could have waited until then, but every single day at pick up time, she breast fed her. When she was approached by the director, she threatened to pull her daughter and did the whole "I have the right to nourish my child" bit and threatened a law suit and the director backed down. After that incident, the mom went out of her way to be even more obvious about nursing and even started sittting closer to the sign in/sign out computer. So yeah, I take issue with that and it absolutely involved me.

1. You are right about the high-traffic area. The mom should have nursed in a place where she wouldn't have been in others' way.

2. Fielding complaints from daycare parents was part of your job.

3. If you or others found it awkward to be around a nursing preschooler, you could have left the room or not looked.

4. There is no "I have the right to nourish my child" *bit*. It's a fact that she had a right to nurse anywhere she was, by law, permitted to be. Therefore there was no "bit" as her legal rights existed, and she was within them. Whether she was obnoxious about it was another question, but legally, she was completely in the right.

Daycare workers need to accept that parents who choose to do this are within their legal rights.

So actually, no, it didn't involve you, beyond the extent to which you *chose* to be involved.

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Did you not read the part about not being able to leave the area. It was in a common area at pick up time and it's not like I could leave the area. It's called being accountable for the other children in care who were waiting to be picked up. I'm not disputing that she has a legal right to feed her child in whichever way she chooses, I take issue when it is done in a place where the rights of other people aren't being considered. You're right about one thing, I could have not looked, which would have been preferable, but it's a little hard to do that when children are pointing it out and very uncomfortable parents are pointing it out to you.

There is ABSOLUTELY NO REASON that this mother couldn't have waited for 5 minutes to nurse her daughter. She would have been home by then and the child was old enough to understand the concept of waiting for a few minutes.

I'm glad you are not my daycare provider.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm glad that the 4yo's mom (and others who nursed past 12mo) had the balls to nurse in public. I didn't with #1 past a certain point because I was afraid of the stares from ignorant, judgmental people. Sounds like I was right to expect that...

Hopefully I'll have more confidence to nurse in public longer with #2. Maybe if our kids see that and think "hey that's normal" then the next generation will grow up a little more open-minded. I don't see much hope for this one.

Same here. Then again, I often don't have the balls to nurse in public AT ALL. Lots of people still see any public nursing as gross.

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You say that there is absolutely no reason that this mother couldn't have waited for 5 minutes to nurse her daughter. Maybe so, from your point of view (we don't know what hers is). Regardless, that doesn't matter, because she chose to nurse her WHERE SHE IS LEGALLY PERMITTED TO DO SO

Yes, she is legally permitted to do so, but frankly, it sounds like this woman is being obnoxious. I fully support the mother's right to nurse her four year old if she wishes to do so, and to do so in public if she wishes to do so. But not at a daycare at pickup time - it is a busy place, and the expectation is that you will go in, get your child, and leave unless there is something specific to the daycare that you want to do (looking at a special piece of art that your child made that day etc.).

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The child was LICKING the nipple - much like a husband would do to his wife's. If YOU think that's normal, then you're the one who needs therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:Once at the pediatrician, I witnessed as a 4 year old who standing beside her seated mom, unbutton mom's shirt, reach inside mom's bra, take the breast and start licking the woman's nipple. I could see the entirety of the woman's nipple because the child was not latched on.
The mother never looked up from her magazine. This image is seared into my mind forever and I still gag when I think about it. It is gross and I shouldn't have to look at that.

Yeah, that's exactly what I am was trying to express in my posts about the nursing 4 year old at daycare. The image really does get stuck in your brain but the feeling of awkwardness is even stronger than the visual!

You poor thing. Maybe you should get some therapy to recover from the trauma of having retained that visual.

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They can probably spell it by now, too, eh?

Anonymous wrote:It's extraordinary how much mothers judge mothers. Nurse as long as it works for you and your family.

All these "gross" responders = bunch of busy-body perverts, saying extended nursing is for the mother.

Infuriates me that nursing mothers have to deal with everything from those who are squeamish around breast milk ("gross -- you put that in the fridge with the regular food?!?!") to people who think nursing should only happen in the privacy of our own homes.

My kid calls it milk.

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Nothing. We nurse only in the morning and at night in our home, at the same times every day. He doesn't ask, because it is always the same routine at the same time. It just occurs.

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The more we evolve, the more we look like animals. Anyone seen the gorilla exhibit at the zoo? I don't think even monkeys nurse their children til age 4...

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Anonymous wrote:The more we evolve, the more we look like animals. Anyone seen the gorilla exhibit at the zoo? I don't think even monkeys nurse their children til age 4...

Actually didn't someone post a quote that a study determined that most primates nurse their young from anywhere between the ages of 2 to 7?


I know youre not interested in actually facts, instead insinuating that a nursing mother's behavior as something primitive and completely backwards. But I thought I'd point that out anyway.

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1. You are right about the high-traffic area. The mom should have nursed in a place where she wouldn't have been in others' way.

2. Fielding complaints from daycare parents was part of your job.

3. If you or others found it awkward to be around a nursing preschooler, you could have left the room or not looked.

4. There is no "I have the right to nourish my child" *bit*. It's a fact that she had a right to nurse anywhere she was, by law, permitted to be. Therefore there was no "bit" as her legal rights existed, and she was within them. Whether she was obnoxious about it was another question, but legally, she was completely in the right.

Daycare workers need to accept that parents who choose to do this are within their legal rights.

So actually, no, it didn't involve you, beyond the extent to which you *chose* to be involved.

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Are you serious?? She already stated it was a common area where she had to stay in order to sign kids in and out. So NO she couldn't have gone into another room and it sounds like nobody else could either. Sounds like she only got involved because she absolutely had to. Sorry, the nursing mother was obnoxious in this case. What the hell was she trying to prove????

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I am all for breastfeeding but I never felt because I had the legal right to breastfeed that I was entitled to whip out my naked breast and make others uncomfortable in public places. Courtesy always still applies. Yes, my child had to have food and that is how I fed her. BUT that didn't mean that I couldn't use a cover and feed her with discretion and courtesy to others. This I'm a breastfeeder so dammit I'm entitled to make everyone see my nipples is lost on me. I'm totally pro-breastfeeding but c'mon have some social graces. The woman feeding her 4 year old in the most public place in the daycare when she only lives 5 minutes away has SERIOUS issues.

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Anonymous wrote:The more we evolve, the more we look like animals. Anyone seen the gorilla exhibit at the zoo? I don't think even monkeys nurse their children til age 4...

Actually didn't someone post a quote that a study determined that most primates nurse their young from anywhere between the ages of 2 to 7?


I know youre not interested in actually facts, instead insinuating that a nursing mother's behavior as something primitive and completely backwards. But I thought I'd point that out anyway.

Actually, then there IS scientific proof to my point...thanks.

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i think you're actually the one with serious issues.

Anonymous wrote:I am all for breastfeeding but I never felt because I had the legal right to breastfeed that I was entitled to whip out my naked breast and make others uncomfortable in public places. Courtesy always still applies. Yes, my child had to have food and that is how I fed her. BUT that didn't mean that I couldn't use a cover and feed her with discretion and courtesy to others. This I'm a breastfeeder so dammit I'm entitled to make everyone see my nipples is lost on me. I'm totally pro-breastfeeding but c'mon have some social graces. The woman feeding her 4 year old in the most public place in the daycare when she only lives 5 minutes away has SERIOUS issues.

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Anonymous wrote:i think you're actually the one with serious issues.

Anonymous wrote:I am all for breastfeeding but I never felt because I had the legal right to breastfeed that I was entitled to whip out my naked breast and make others uncomfortable in public places. Courtesy always still applies. Yes, my child had to have food and that is how I fed her. BUT that didn't mean that I couldn't use a cover and feed her with discretion and courtesy to others. This I'm a breastfeeder so dammit I'm entitled to make everyone see my nipples is lost on me. I'm totally pro-breastfeeding but c'mon have some social graces. The woman feeding her 4 year old in the most public place in the daycare when she only lives 5 minutes away has SERIOUS issues.

Somebody who is respectful of others around her has issues??? She was saying she's pro-breastfeeding and but just be considerate and SHE has issues??? You're a dips%*!.

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Courtesy? What a novel concept to so many DCUMers!

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I didn't extend breast feeding past a year.... but I find it funny that both my daughters LOVE my boobies, as they call them. Will stare at them, try to touch them, etc. I take a no big deal attitude towards nudity, sexuality, etc - it'[s more science and nature than anything else. So my kids aren't ashamed to express themselves. And man, they like boobs.