Predict DW's response when I tell her I would like her to lose some weight
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Anonymous
All exercise no matter the weight will ruin knees. Pretending it’s weight related is just plain weightizm. Reality is people who are low in fat, cannot protect their joints, and will have more issues with their knees when they run, than people who are slightly overweight. |
Anonymous
Sure if you have a kindergarten education. But if you have an education beyond that, you’ll understand that there are a lot of things that are in play, including cortisol levels, hormonal levels, require drug intakes to treat diseases, sexual abuse, rape victimization, etc. |
Anonymous
Ah, thank you, Mr. Spock! |
Anonymous
Yikes. This does not sound advisable |
Anonymous
Yes. It is obvious that DH is force feeding her those big macsand Twinkies at an alarming rate. It's ot her fault, you see. She's just a victim of the patriarchy and a misogynistic spouse. |
Anonymous
None of which factors any fat or obese people even take into consideration whilst relentlessly stuffing their maws. Their weight problems are anyone's fault but their own. |
Anonymous
Because physics doesn't matter,well I guess not. This kind of ignorance is why we have an obesity pandemic. Kids aren't taught to read and write, no way are.they going to learn anything about healthy nutrition. It really just boils down to having a society which encourages people to be fat and stupid,most likely because there is money to be made from it. |
Anonymous
It is a sad testament to our culture that if someone maintains their weight, they must have an eating disorder. I eat three good meals a day, plus wine and snacks lattes etc as I feel like it. I just don’t go overboard. |
Anonymous
I'm a DP but you are quite confused. The other "things in play" you're talking about can affect HOW MANY calories someone's body needs or WHY someone is consuming a particular amount of calories. They do not alter the basic fact that eating more calories than you burn is the cause of weight gain. Suppose someone starts "eating their feelings" in response to a trauma. That might be psychologically understandable, and we can sympathize with that person, but if they're eating more than they're burning, they're going to gain weight, and the solution is to eat less. Now, to do that, they might need counseling or therapy--something targeted at their emotional state rather than their physical--but that doesn't change the fact that if they want to lose weight, they're going to have to alter the equation of how much they eat and how much they burn. And it's always easier to reduce consumption than to increase burning. "I gained weight because I aged". Well, as you aged, your body needed fewer calories to operate. That's normal. If you gained weight, it's because you didn't make a corresponding adjustment to your caloric intake. You need to also eat less as your body slows down. "I gained weight because I don't have time to exercise." Not really. Exercise is an inefficient and often counterproductive way to lose weight. You can bust your hump on an elliptical for a half hour or skip a snack--same effect on the calorie equation. And if you have bad eating habits--as most overweight people do--then the exercise will just make them hungrier and result in weight GAIN because they won't know how to manage their intake as their need increases. And so on. If you're not focused on reducing calories in relative to calories out, nothing else will matter for weight loss. |
Anonymous
I’ve been running and doing other forms of intense exercise for 30 years give or take. My knees are okay. |
Anonymous
Sure. If you eat less than you burn, then you will lose weight. But you have no way of knowing how much you burn, and all sorts of things affect it, so this isn’t useful information. Also, I have been a therapist for many years. I can help people manage their lives and relationships and deal with trauma and stop self harming behavior or frequent suicide attempts, but it’s hard to change how people eat with talking. Do you know what can change weight? Concerta. Zyprexa. This is all more biological than people like to admit. |
Anonymous
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Hi - I'd like you to get your hormones out of wack, get 2 c-sections and get dinged at work because no one takes oyur seriously anymore.
no, I don't want that, of course, but I do want to not care, because you can BJs yourself with your own paycheck. Despite my challenges, I have gotten bigger raises than you since our kids were born. But you won't be getting alimony. Good luck to you. Luckily my DH has an IQ above 90 so this is all hypothetical for the OP. Not that my DH might not be getting some on the side but he isn't so low on EQ as to think the OP's grand pronouncements are the way.. |
Anonymous
Could not disagree more. How you eat is most effectively controlled through the formation of better habits. This is very doable. The reason people don't is that they're not taught that's the answer. Instead, our culture--media, therapists, self-anointed fitness gurus--finds all kinds of other excuses and solutions, which are totally misguided. To lose weight, you don't have to know your baseline metabolic rate and you don't have to count calories. Here's an approach: figure out something you eat routinely that you think you could do without. Maybe it's that midnight snack. Estimate how many calories it entails. You want to find something that's about 300-400 calories. Then stop eating that for 3-4 weeks and see what happens. I bet you'll start losing weight. As long as the weight is coming off, stick with that; when you stop losing weight again, find another way to shave a few hundred calories off your daily eating, and add that to the reduction for 3-4 weeks, and then see what happens, and repeat. Now, as for how to stop eating that extra food, there are lots of behavioral things you can do to make it easier. Here's a list of some good ones off the top of my head: * Don't buy or cook large amounts of food. Acquire as close to the amount you should eat as possible. You're trying to avoid giving yourself the chance to have second or third helpings. * Relatedly, don't take out more food than you think you should eat. If you're going to eat some crackers, don't put the box next to you. Instead, take 8 or 10 or however many crackers out of the box, put the box away, and go sit somewhere else to eat. * Don't drink your calories. Don't drink artificially sweetened drinks because they reinforce your desire for sugar. Only water, black coffee, plain tea (no milk). * Choose foods with no or low added sugar. * Don't eat while watching tv; don't eat mindlessly. * Try not to eat alone. * Try to eat slowly. * Don't snack at all between dinner and bed. * Don't ratchet up your exercise level until you've learned to control your eating. |
Anonymous
| I'd like to know if OP is still alive. |
Anonymous
Do you have a list like this for how to stop word vomit on the internet? |