Predict DW's response when I tell her I would like her to lose some weight

[Anonymous]

Find yourself a younger, fitter lover.

[Anonymous]

Tell us how (and how many times) you’ve tried to approach this with her in the past, and how specifically (as in, actual phrasing) you’re going to do it now…then I’ll answer your question!

Did she used to be fit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope she tells you to STFU. If she has any self-respect.

This. And hope you called an ambulance, because you'll need one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her body is not for you.

You each get to control your own bodies. If she sees a physician annually, he or she can bring this up.

Focus on the parts of her that matter more than dress size. Be grateful for the qualities she has which others can’t see, but you benefit from.

To have and to hold, hon.

[Anonymous]

Ha ha promoting domestic violence is hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the record:
-- the gain I'm talking about increased her weight by 20-25% from her old normal
-- this is not baby weight. The last baby was 9 yars ago. The weight gaining has been only in the past couple years
-- I keep myself trim

What do you cook for her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha ha promoting domestic violence is hilarious.

+1
Incredible

Pretty epic DCUM post here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why foreign women are better (from that mega thread a few weeks ago)

You can be more honest with them and they won’t act a fool

OP, just be honest.

“Larla, you’ve gained weight. I’m concerned about how that affects your health and attractiveness. Let’s build a nutrition and fitness plan to get you back to your prior best”

This is why men prefer foreign. I am not foreign, nor am I male, but I get it.

Some women are lazy and/or takers, OP. You should be able to communicate, no?

[Anonymous]

What if she says, “OK, I’m on board?” What’s your next step?

Also, what if it takes her 6-12 months to lose the weight? Are you going to be happy she’s working on it during that time? Or are you going to feel angry/out of love/offended/whatever you feel that entire time?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why you think she’ll still like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the record:
-- the gain I'm talking about increased her weight by 20-25% from her old normal
-- this is not baby weight. The last baby was 9 yars ago. The weight gaining has been only in the past couple years
-- I keep myself trim

How do you keep yourself trim? Do you have time to exercise? If so when? Who is caring for your children while you exercise?

She's gained weight in the past couple years...hmmm, I wonder what happened in the past couple of years that might have made a mother with children at home during a pandemic gain weight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why foreign women are better (from that mega thread a few weeks ago)

You can be more honest with them and they won’t act a fool

OP, just be honest.

“Larla, you’ve gained weight. I’m concerned about how that affects your health and attractiveness. Let’s build a nutrition and fitness plan to get you back to your prior best”

"Sure. I would like to go to the gym 5 times a week, M-F, 7:30-9 pm. By the time I come home, the kids should be in beds, all their stuff including lunch ready for the next day, the kitchen should be clean, the dinner prep for tomorrow should be finished. Oh, you only come home at 7:30? No problem, I can wait a few minutes for you to take your shoes off".

[Anonymous]

20% just… isn’t that much? So let’s say she went from 130 to… 156?? Hardly enough to feel like it’s something to bring up to her! Post her actual stats bc if it’s something like 130—>156 and she’s taller than 5 feet even, this is a joke.

[Anonymous]

OP, she knows. do not do this to her.

[Anonymous]

I do not think this is a good idea OP.