Tell me about redshirting your late summer/fall birthday son before Kindergarten

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

Who appointed you czar of demanding others to validate what is not best?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

It's not all about you and your kids, isn't that what the redshirting parents are told?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

It's not all about you and your kids, isn't that what the redshirting parents are told?

Did you not comprehend that pp wrote that there are other children in the classroom? It clearly says so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

It's not all about you and your kids, isn't that what the redshirting parents are told?

Did you not comprehend that pp wrote that there are other children in the classroom? It clearly says so.

Yes, I'm so sure that's why PP is going nutso. Don't be so naive.

[Anonymous]

^ Actually to amend that one of the more vocal insane anti-redshirters has admitted they have no kids and no skin in this game whatsoever. That person has no idea what they are talking about and probably just shows up to stir the pot. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the outraged PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ Actually to amend that one of the more vocal insane anti-redshirters has admitted they have no kids and no skin in this game whatsoever. That person has no idea what they are talking about and probably just shows up to stir the pot. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the outraged PP.

Wow, that’s an insightful hypothetical that you’ve put so much thought into.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ Actually to amend that one of the more vocal insane anti-redshirters has admitted they have no kids and no skin in this game whatsoever. That person has no idea what they are talking about and probably just shows up to stir the pot. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the outraged PP.

Pot, meet kettle.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ Actually to amend that one of the more vocal insane anti-redshirters has admitted they have no kids and no skin in this game whatsoever. That person has no idea what they are talking about and probably just shows up to stir the pot. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the outraged PP.

Pot, meet kettle.

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