Tell me about redshirting your late summer/fall birthday son before Kindergarten

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those of you who are adamantly against redshirting because it's somehow detrimental to your non-redshirted child:

The DC area has a higher than average proportion of internationally adopted children, many of whom started school late due to their life circumstances. (One is my daughter.) Is it detrimental to your children to have my daughter in your class?

You know, this isn’t all about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah ha, now it comes out. Anti-red shirters aren’t in the least concerned with what’s best for the redshirted kids. They’re concerned about their non-summer kids who are no longer looking good next to the summer birthday kids. They’re just afraid of the stiffening of the (gag) “competition”. Because they want their non-summer birthday kids to be able to win kindergarten.

This post was about what is best for late summer or fall birthday kids, and I think you have your answer, OP.

In all fairness, though, the individual child and especially the environment matters a lot. Find out what is common in the particular school your child will be attending, and start from there. And completely ignore all these public school parents who are going nuts, because their insecurities have absolutely nothing to do with your son’s education. And they assuredly don’t have his best interest at heart.

Late summer kids in private schools. The parents you refer to who are going nuts are private school parents. Parents at your kid’s school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ah ha, now it comes out. Anti-red shirters aren’t in the least concerned with what’s best for the redshirted kids. They’re concerned about their non-summer kids who are no longer looking good next to the summer birthday kids. They’re just afraid of the stiffening of the (gag) “competition”. Because they want their non-summer birthday kids to be able to win kindergarten.

This post was about what is best for late summer or fall birthday kids, and I think you have your answer, OP.

In all fairness, though, the individual child and especially the environment matters a lot. Find out what is common in the particular school your child will be attending, and start from there. And completely ignore all these public school parents who are going nuts, because their insecurities have absolutely nothing to do with your son’s education. And they assuredly don’t have his best interest at heart.

Late summer kids in private schools. The parents you refer to who are going nuts are private school parents. Parents at your kid’s school.

LOL. Not at my school. The only young for grade kids in our school are transfers, and I’m sure they were offered the option of which class they wanted to have their kid enter. Private school parents either know exactly what the deal is and went into it with their eyes wide open, or completely failed to do even the most basic research.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

Do you manufacture not only your child’s life? How will you and be cope?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child is smart, don’t redshirt.

Intelligence should not play not the decision at all. It's all about developmental maturity. There are smart kids in every grade, so academically it doesn't matter. Socially, it matters a whole lot in the development of the child's personality and self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your child is smart, don’t redshirt.

Intelligence should not play not the decision at all. It's all about developmental maturity. There are smart kids in every grade, so academically it doesn't matter. Socially, it matters a whole lot in the development of the child's personality and self-esteem.

You are a nutcase.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your child is smart, don’t redshirt.

Intelligence should not play not the decision at all. It's all about developmental maturity. There are smart kids in every grade, so academically it doesn't matter. Socially, it matters a whole lot in the development of the child's personality and self-esteem.

As well as there are developmental maturities that run the gamut in every grade, so your argument is not one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your child is smart, don’t redshirt.

Intelligence should not play not the decision at all. It's all about developmental maturity. There are smart kids in every grade, so academically it doesn't matter. Socially, it matters a whole lot in the development of the child's personality and self-esteem.

You are a nutcase.

You are the most annoying, but funny poster on DCUM. You keep insulting and writing under all comments. You need a job lady!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Your extreme urge to deny the fact that kids maturity is different in every single classroom in the entirety of the planet is baffling. Your redshirting is not going to change that. That he is mastering the material is not something to brag about, he should be since he is working below his level.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

NP. Ironically, you are the one who doesn’t see that children mature at different rates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah ha, now it comes out. Anti-red shirters aren’t in the least concerned with what’s best for the redshirted kids. They’re concerned about their non-summer kids who are no longer looking good next to the summer birthday kids. They’re just afraid of the stiffening of the (gag) “competition”. Because they want their non-summer birthday kids to be able to win kindergarten.

This post was about what is best for late summer or fall birthday kids, and I think you have your answer, OP.

In all fairness, though, the individual child and especially the environment matters a lot. Find out what is common in the particular school your child will be attending, and start from there. And completely ignore all these public school parents who are going nuts, because their insecurities have absolutely nothing to do with your son’s education. And they assuredly don’t have his best interest at heart.

Late summer kids in private schools. The parents you refer to who are going nuts are private school parents. Parents at your kid’s school.

LOL. Not at my school. The only young for grade kids in our school are transfers, and I’m sure they were offered the option of which class they wanted to have their kid enter. Private school parents either know exactly what the deal is and went into it with their eyes wide open, or completely failed to do even the most basic research.

This is 100% correct. There are private/parochial K-8s that have student parking lots.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.