Why are older men attracted to very young women when they are older?

[Anonymous]

I’ll bite- deep down they are borderline pedophiles. Ha! Zing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

Livin' the dream.

I mean, the answer to OP's question isn't that complicated. Attractive women in their 20's don't stop being attractive just because a man's gotten older. I mean, yeah, we might not have the same cultural references—she don't remember the queen of soul (or the song I just referenced), and I can't tell a Taylor Swift song from Adele—but there's more to a relationship than shared cultural references. And it's not like we're talking about 17 year-olds: a woman in her mid to late 20s is a grownup with (probably) a real job and everything.

But a woman I'd have thought was gorgeous when I was in my 20's? Yeah, I'm still gonna think she's gorgeous. I'm in my mid-50s and I'd absolutely date a 27 year-old woman if I had the looks and game to manage it.

Trust me, young men look far better than 56-year-old men, too.

56-year old men have more attractive wallets.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men are afraid of dying in a way that women can't understand. I'm a woman, but i work with a lot of male cancer survivors and they, fundamentally, lack mental fortitude when it comes to dying.

If you want a man to stay with you and not leave you for a younger woman, make him feel immortal. They leave older women for younger ones because they are afraid of dying, and their little bird brains equate immortality with the age of their partner.

I agree that it is something like this. For men, sex is life-affirming, and young women in their twenties remind them of sex and vitality. It’s a way to distract themselves from the fact that they are on a downward slope, sliding ever more quickly towards their inevitable death.

So why do young vital men also like young woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

Livin' the dream.

I mean, the answer to OP's question isn't that complicated. Attractive women in their 20's don't stop being attractive just because a man's gotten older. I mean, yeah, we might not have the same cultural references—she don't remember the queen of soul (or the song I just referenced), and I can't tell a Taylor Swift song from Adele—but there's more to a relationship than shared cultural references. And it's not like we're talking about 17 year-olds: a woman in her mid to late 20s is a grownup with (probably) a real job and everything.

But a woman I'd have thought was gorgeous when I was in my 20's? Yeah, I'm still gonna think she's gorgeous. I'm in my mid-50s and I'd absolutely date a 27 year-old woman if I had the looks and game to manage it.

Why would a woman with (and keeping) a real job want an older man?

[Anonymous]

Men are attracted to fertility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

You have none of that so what does she get out of it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not that at all.

If anything, being with younger women makes me only feel older than I am (46).

It’s purely for beauty and fun.

And despite what many will claim for cope, the conversation/intelligence level is not any different when it’s a typical DC career woman if they’re 26 or 46.

The idea that middle aged people are more fun to talk to than 25-35 is wild.

Who thinks "I wish I were 45 so I could have fun!"

Blathering about kids and backaches and office politics and Israel is not the peak of exciting human achievement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not that at all.

If anything, being with younger women makes me only feel older than I am (46).

It’s purely for beauty and fun.

And despite what many will claim for cope, the conversation/intelligence level is not any different when it’s a typical DC career woman if they’re 26 or 46.

The idea that middle aged people are more fun to talk to than 25-35 is wild.

Who thinks "I wish I were 45 so I could have fun!"

Blathering about kids and backaches and office politics and Israel is not the peak of exciting human achievement.

I have shared here before, but have dated women at DOJ, Wash Post, World Bank, NSA, lawyers, a million non-profits and think tanks. The conversation is the same with them as with a 22yo finishing up at American, Howard or GW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men are afraid of dying in a way that women can't understand. I'm a woman, but i work with a lot of male cancer survivors and they, fundamentally, lack mental fortitude when it comes to dying.

If you want a man to stay with you and not leave you for a younger woman, make him feel immortal. They leave older women for younger ones because they are afraid of dying, and their little bird brains equate immortality with the age of their partner.

I agree that it is something like this. For men, sex is life-affirming, and young women in their twenties remind them of sex and vitality. It’s a way to distract themselves from the fact that they are on a downward slope, sliding ever more quickly towards their inevitable death.

So why do young vital men also like young woman?

There is a portion of young men who date older women. I have a 55-year-old acquaintance who is dating a 35 yo man. She's okay-looking, has a great personality, and has a successful career. She's dating him for similar reasons: he's objectively better-looking than men her age, and she enjoys the power imbalance relative to their financial resources.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men are afraid of dying in a way that women can't understand. I'm a woman, but i work with a lot of male cancer survivors and they, fundamentally, lack mental fortitude when it comes to dying.

If you want a man to stay with you and not leave you for a younger woman, make him feel immortal. They leave older women for younger ones because they are afraid of dying, and their little bird brains equate immortality with the age of their partner.

I agree that it is something like this. For men, sex is life-affirming, and young women in their twenties remind them of sex and vitality. It’s a way to distract themselves from the fact that they are on a downward slope, sliding ever more quickly towards their inevitable death.

So why do young vital men also like young woman?

There is a portion of young men who date older women. I have a 55-year-old acquaintance who is dating a 35 yo man. She's okay-looking, has a great personality, and has a successful career. She's dating him for similar reasons: he's objectively better-looking than men her age, and she enjoys the power imbalance relative to their financial resources.

This comes up all the time and I’ve never seen men on here get butt hurt about it or call the women borderline pedophiles.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I started dating post divorce my first bc was 16 years older and made $350K. I left him and have dated several people successively closer to my age until finding the current one who is 3 years older and makes $150K. I make more than he does. It’s not all about money.

45 yo woman here, thin and attractive. Profile looks like it’s fake - picture perfect face and body. Even had disgruntled dates calling the app asking to deactivate it. I have a huge choice of men 38 to 58 (my age settings). But most men past age 45 look trashy - bellies, fat necks and chins etc. I discard money factor almost completely. Eg I would prefer to date a 40 yo teacher who still looks great and makes 100k vs a 55 yo executive who makes 350k but looks trashy. As long as a man is supporting himself independently as economic unit and able to take me out for drinks and contribute to local travel equally I’m fine.
I honestly don’t know how all these young women date men over 50 - they must be stepping over their natural needs for relatively small money. Few 50+ men on dating apps would make so much to be considered truly financially successful. And even 500k+ category are saddened by divorce payouts and are cheap relative their wealth
It’s easy for me to settle on money though as I make 300k+ myself

This is the issue. When a man bringing in $500k+ can't date to his maximum level because of divorce payouts, something's seriously wrong.

Alimony is supposed to provide subsistence until the woman works and can pay for her own apartment. It should be like unemployment where you have to demonstrate you're making a real effort to find work beyond part-time library assistant at the kid's school. Child support is supposed to get her to a bedroom and extra food and health insurance for the kids. The ex-wife doesn't have some sort of right to the lifestyle she had with the man. That only came with being a legit wife. If she wasn't pulling her weight, she's not supposed to keep riding the gravy train. The train is for the next GF or wife.

The notion 50 or 55-year-old guys can't have meaningful relationships and feel alive with girls fresh out of college is a huge myth. It LOOKS that way because the EX draws so much $$$ away from wooing the girl. We all know the hotter the girl is you have to kick in more money on dates and cool outings and trips. That's just the market. And by definition the 22 or 25-year old girl is at her maximum hotness, so you have to maximize your gifts of wisdom and cash to compete and land her. But just as the ex didn't pull her weight during marriage, the ex is an anchor when the man should be living large again and finally feeling alive now that she's gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I started dating post divorce my first bc was 16 years older and made $350K. I left him and have dated several people successively closer to my age until finding the current one who is 3 years older and makes $150K. I make more than he does. It’s not all about money.

45 yo woman here, thin and attractive. Profile looks like it’s fake - picture perfect face and body. Even had disgruntled dates calling the app asking to deactivate it. I have a huge choice of men 38 to 58 (my age settings). But most men past age 45 look trashy - bellies, fat necks and chins etc. I discard money factor almost completely. Eg I would prefer to date a 40 yo teacher who still looks great and makes 100k vs a 55 yo executive who makes 350k but looks trashy. As long as a man is supporting himself independently as economic unit and able to take me out for drinks and contribute to local travel equally I’m fine.
I honestly don’t know how all these young women date men over 50 - they must be stepping over their natural needs for relatively small money. Few 50+ men on dating apps would make so much to be considered truly financially successful. And even 500k+ category are saddened by divorce payouts and are cheap relative their wealth
It’s easy for me to settle on money though as I make 300k+ myself

This is the issue. When a man bringing in $500k+ can't date to his maximum level because of divorce payouts, something's seriously wrong.

Alimony is supposed to provide subsistence until the woman works and can pay for her own apartment. It should be like unemployment where you have to demonstrate you're making a real effort to find work beyond part-time library assistant at the kid's school. Child support is supposed to get her to a bedroom and extra food and health insurance for the kids. The ex-wife doesn't have some sort of right to the lifestyle she had with the man. That only came with being a legit wife. If she wasn't pulling her weight, she's not supposed to keep riding the gravy train. The train is for the next GF or wife.

The notion 50 or 55-year-old guys can't have meaningful relationships and feel alive with girls fresh out of college is a huge myth. It LOOKS that way because the EX draws so much $$$ away from wooing the girl. We all know the hotter the girl is you have to kick in more money on dates and cool outings and trips. That's just the market. And by definition the 22 or 25-year old girl is at her maximum hotness, so you have to maximize your gifts of wisdom and cash to compete and land her. But just as the ex didn't pull her weight during marriage, the ex is an anchor when the man should be living large again and finally feeling alive now that she's gone.

You are the epitome of what I dislike in 50+ "executive" men and why I don't date them. You are responsible for those you tamed. Women are not waste that you can discard after she turns 40, move on for free and date new hot bodies. You exW birthed your children, and yet the spousal support is to maintain her lifestyle and keep her well taken care of and not in total distress after divorce, as men tend to move on after women enter menopause. Judges know all that too well!
These relationships with 20 y.o. are only meaningful to you but for them you are just a wallet and she's secretly disgusted under the sheets. I've seen many men like that for first dates bragging about dating younger women. But sorry, if he's not looking hot enough to me for granting him a second date just based on his looks and his intelligence (and I'm 45), the only reason a 25 yo woman would agree to see him again is nice dinners and trips.

I take myself, my family and friends to nice dinners and trips (including international): don't need to suck old balls for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I started dating post divorce my first bc was 16 years older and made $350K. I left him and have dated several people successively closer to my age until finding the current one who is 3 years older and makes $150K. I make more than he does. It’s not all about money.

45 yo woman here, thin and attractive. Profile looks like it’s fake - picture perfect face and body. Even had disgruntled dates calling the app asking to deactivate it. I have a huge choice of men 38 to 58 (my age settings). But most men past age 45 look trashy - bellies, fat necks and chins etc. I discard money factor almost completely. Eg I would prefer to date a 40 yo teacher who still looks great and makes 100k vs a 55 yo executive who makes 350k but looks trashy. As long as a man is supporting himself independently as economic unit and able to take me out for drinks and contribute to local travel equally I’m fine.
I honestly don’t know how all these young women date men over 50 - they must be stepping over their natural needs for relatively small money. Few 50+ men on dating apps would make so much to be considered truly financially successful. And even 500k+ category are saddened by divorce payouts and are cheap relative their wealth
It’s easy for me to settle on money though as I make 300k+ myself

Really don’t know what your point is or how it is a response to what this PP posted?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
It’s a natural match. Mother Nature at work. Both are attracted to each other.

it's really impossible to know how much of this is biology and how much of it is culture. For most of history there has been a huge power imbalance in terms of status and resources, where women are dependent on men, and they make a trade of sex for resources.

So it really unclear to what degree biology plays a role. But data points to culture playing an enormous role. As women have been able to work and earn income, the age gap in marriages has gone dramatically down. It is pretty strong evidence that women for the most part prefer men around their age. There is also ample evidence that young women like a lot older men, but it's unclear if this is just "mother nature" or the fact that they need or want wealth and security.

I find that it's almost always men who say that it's "biology "and "mother nature "without wanting to consider the fact that females might not actually and naturally prefer older men.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I started dating post divorce my first bc was 16 years older and made $350K. I left him and have dated several people successively closer to my age until finding the current one who is 3 years older and makes $150K. I make more than he does. It’s not all about money.

45 yo woman here, thin and attractive. Profile looks like it’s fake - picture perfect face and body. Even had disgruntled dates calling the app asking to deactivate it. I have a huge choice of men 38 to 58 (my age settings). But most men past age 45 look trashy - bellies, fat necks and chins etc. I discard money factor almost completely. Eg I would prefer to date a 40 yo teacher who still looks great and makes 100k vs a 55 yo executive who makes 350k but looks trashy. As long as a man is supporting himself independently as economic unit and able to take me out for drinks and contribute to local travel equally I’m fine.
I honestly don’t know how all these young women date men over 50 - they must be stepping over their natural needs for relatively small money. Few 50+ men on dating apps would make so much to be considered truly financially successful. And even 500k+ category are saddened by divorce payouts and are cheap relative their wealth
It’s easy for me to settle on money though as I make 300k+ myself

Really don’t know what your point is or how it is a response to what this PP posted?

The point is of course men will always be attracted to younger women, or beautiful women. But any man sleeping with a 25 yo should realize she's in for money or she's just not hot enough for men her age. There is no reason a truly hot 25 y.o. wouldn't find a man in his 30s for serious relationship - there are many successful men in that age group who date 7-10 years younger
I've seen couples with large age gap and usually something is "off" with the younger wife: she's either too tall (like, 6 ft), she's fat, plain Jane, or something similar.