Why are older men attracted to very young women when they are older?

[Anonymous]

Even a relatively low earning 50 year old has a lot of money compared to a 20 year old. So the 20 year old treats them like a rich man even when they aren’t. The 20 year old also sees them as wise and distinguished, even if they aren’t particularly. Because relative to them they are.

There was an article about it somewhere. I’ll try to track it down. It is why big age gap relationships break down as the woman figures out the old man is actually not that wealthy and not that smart

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even a relatively low earning 50 year old has a lot of money compared to a 20 year old. So the 20 year old treats them like a rich man even when they aren’t. The 20 year old also sees them as wise and distinguished, even if they aren’t particularly. Because relative to them they are.

There was an article about it somewhere. I’ll try to track it down. It is why big age gap relationships break down as the woman figures out the old man is actually not that wealthy and not that smart

30 year age gap is just not going to work over the long term. 10-15 years, which is still a big gap, has the potential to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men are afraid of dying in a way that women can't understand. I'm a woman, but i work with a lot of male cancer survivors and they, fundamentally, lack mental fortitude when it comes to dying.

If you want a man to stay with you and not leave you for a younger woman, make him feel immortal. They leave older women for younger ones because they are afraid of dying, and their little bird brains equate immortality with the age of their partner.

I agree that it is something like this. For men, sex is life-affirming, and young women in their twenties remind them of sex and vitality. It’s a way to distract themselves from the fact that they are on a downward slope, sliding ever more quickly towards their inevitable death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

Livin' the dream.

I mean, the answer to OP's question isn't that complicated. Attractive women in their 20's don't stop being attractive just because a man's gotten older. I mean, yeah, we might not have the same cultural references—she don't remember the queen of soul (or the song I just referenced), and I can't tell a Taylor Swift song from Adele—but there's more to a relationship than shared cultural references. And it's not like we're talking about 17 year-olds: a woman in her mid to late 20s is a grownup with (probably) a real job and everything.

But a woman I'd have thought was gorgeous when I was in my 20's? Yeah, I'm still gonna think she's gorgeous. I'm in my mid-50s and I'd absolutely date a 27 year-old woman if I had the looks and game to manage it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And old, fat, balding men are objectively NOT.

Nobody is forcing you to date them. Doesn't stop *some* of them from getting with young attractive women though. If you're a guy with money and decent looks/charm you can pull 20's babes for a while. This is only a small fraction of the male population obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

Livin' the dream.

I mean, the answer to OP's question isn't that complicated. Attractive women in their 20's don't stop being attractive just because a man's gotten older. I mean, yeah, we might not have the same cultural references—she don't remember the queen of soul (or the song I just referenced), and I can't tell a Taylor Swift song from Adele—but there's more to a relationship than shared cultural references. And it's not like we're talking about 17 year-olds: a woman in her mid to late 20s is a grownup with (probably) a real job and everything.

But a woman I'd have thought was gorgeous when I was in my 20's? Yeah, I'm still gonna think she's gorgeous. I'm in my mid-50s and I'd absolutely date a 27 year-old woman if I had the looks and game to manage it.

Trust me, young men look far better than 56-year-old men, too.

[Anonymous]

Clearly the weirdest thread I have seen.
Men are wired to be attracted to younger beauties. Period.

[Anonymous]

They are attracted to attractive older women too, but since it is much easier to be hot in your 20’s there are way more hot young women, and they can’t be as picky as the hot older women. So ordinary older guys engage in gradations of SD/SB relationships with young women who prioritize being spoiled. Meanwhile, the attractive older women are outnumbered by men on the dating apps by huge margins.

[Anonymous]

Because they are not invested in the long term. In the long term, they will die, or their hot 25 year old will eventually become a 35 or 45 year old and it's time to trade in for a new model, a la Leonardo DiCaprio.

Even if you are in it solely for superficiality, looks and aesthetics, the best long-term investment is an attractive woman with a healthy lifestyle and positive attitude.

It's easy to be hot and have a great body at 25. It takes more effort at 35, and certainly at 45. Lots of hot 25-year-olds get away with boozing and brunching. If a woman is 35+ and thin and fit, she more than likely doesn't drink in excess and eats clean. This is the type of woman who is a keeper.

[Anonymous]

It's not that young women are better, it's that old women are so much worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

This, men of every age find women in their early 20's to be the most sexually attractive while women generally prefer men around their own age.

I’m a 52 year old dating a 55 year old and couldn’t be happier and neither could he.

[Anonymous]

When I started dating post divorce my first bc was 16 years older and made $350K. I left him and have dated several people successively closer to my age until finding the current one who is 3 years older and makes $150K. I make more than he does. It’s not all about money.

[Anonymous]

^bf (boyfriend)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they are not invested in the long term. In the long term, they will die, or their hot 25 year old will eventually become a 35 or 45 year old and it's time to trade in for a new model, a la Leonardo DiCaprio.

Even if you are in it solely for superficiality, looks and aesthetics, the best long-term investment is an attractive woman with a healthy lifestyle and positive attitude.

It's easy to be hot and have a great body at 25. It takes more effort at 35, and certainly at 45. Lots of hot 25-year-olds get away with boozing and brunching. If a woman is 35+ and thin and fit, she more than likely doesn't drink in excess and eats clean. This is the type of woman who is a keeper.

I have dated/slept with 20-25 women ages 20-27 since my divorce five years ago. The relationships never last (longest has been six months), but they’re easy no-drama for both of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I started dating post divorce my first bc was 16 years older and made $350K. I left him and have dated several people successively closer to my age until finding the current one who is 3 years older and makes $150K. I make more than he does. It’s not all about money.

45 yo woman here, thin and attractive. Profile looks like it’s fake - picture perfect face and body. Even had disgruntled dates calling the app asking to deactivate it. I have a huge choice of men 38 to 58 (my age settings). But most men past age 45 look trashy - bellies, fat necks and chins etc. I discard money factor almost completely. Eg I would prefer to date a 40 yo teacher who still looks great and makes 100k vs a 55 yo executive who makes 350k but looks trashy. As long as a man is supporting himself independently as economic unit and able to take me out for drinks and contribute to local travel equally I’m fine.
I honestly don’t know how all these young women date men over 50 - they must be stepping over their natural needs for relatively small money. Few 50+ men on dating apps would make so much to be considered truly financially successful. And even 500k+ category are saddened by divorce payouts and are cheap relative their wealth
It’s easy for me to settle on money though as I make 300k+ myself