Do you think we will see a massive uptick in women choosing to stay home after this?

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Anonymous wrote:Honest Q, if you sah, do you feel your children have a superior childhood?

actually yes. But I know the reality is that they have a superior childhood because my husband makes a lot of money. So that means private school, college is taken care of, we take them on fabulous vacations all over the world, they get private tennis, ski, swim, and music lessons, cool summer camps, all the tech they want, etc. And they have a mom at home who greets them at the door, runs them around to activities, hosts the play dates, volunteers in their schools, makes a home cooked meal every night, makes sure the house is nice and tidy, keeps on top of their homework schedules, etc.

I mean, yeah it's better. It's definitely better than what they had when I was working, which was a harried mom juggling too many balls.

I hope you're not raising boys, because they'll be a real treat to be married to. Or girls, for that matter, since then they'll think that's what they have to do.

This argument is totally ridiculous. They’ll do what they want to do and I’ll be happy that they’re happy. Who’s to say they’ll even want to have kids in an age of expected, terrible global warming anyway?

I’ve been a working mom and a SAHM and SAH is a nice extra to have. It makes our home life easier and nicer. My kids are having a better childhood for it. I’m sure your mileage varies but I don’t really care one way or the other.

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Anonymous wrote:Honest Q, if you are a working mom, do you feel superior to SAHM moms? It's just something I have always wondered.

Since this is anonymous, yes I do. I would never tell you to your face though.

NP, and no, I don't. In this specific, current situation, I think I have it much harder than they do, but that doesn't make me superior to them. Grumpier, perhaps. On balance, I think there are enough trade-offs either way to make them relatively equally difficult. I guess if you're independently wealth SAH is an easier option, but that's not many people.

Do you think it might be much harder because you aren't as used to be around you kids for that many hours a day? Aside from the actual working part? It can be a little shocking if you aren't used to being around children for 12+ hours a day weeks on end.

NP. This is incredibly condescending. I work full-time, as does my husband, but it’s not the being around my kids all day that’s hard, it’s having them around plus having to work at the same time. I mean, we both take liberal leave during the year and spend time together as a family all day. And also weekends. And many school holidays we’ll take off. Also, we’re fortunate enough that our kids are in school or at an activity right after school pretty much the whole time we’re working, so it’s not like we don’t see our kids during the week. Your attitude is a reason why people hate SAHMs.

It’s not meant to be condescending. I have noticed too many WOH saying “This is so much harder for me! If I didn’t work this would be so easy. You don’t understand the demands of a career” I’m talking about moms with young children. (5 and under with hardly any independent that cannot be left unsupervised). It’s hard for everyone right now. It is also exhausting being around small children for that long for weeks on end whether you choose it or not and for many it might be the first time outside of maternity leave they have experienced this long of a stretch. I know exactly how stressful a career can be too, I did that for 13 years after grad school and worked since I was 15 and I will in a few years at all when my son is in kindergarten. It doesn’t have to be a competition over who has it harder and who is superior. If you’re a decent mom you made a conscious decision over what made the most sense for your specific family.

I'm the PP you were responding to earlier, not this one.

Here's the thing: if you have not balanced a career with kids, i.e., worked while you had kids, you have no idea what the specific challenges are. Working before you have kids is not even remotely the same as working once you have them. I'm not even talking about right now in COVID-19 time, I'm talking generally.

As for COVID-19 time, your argument that it's not harder for mothers who have to work *on top of* all the the other things SAHM are doing is ludicrous. That you can't appreciate that you do, in fact, have it easier right now, is what pisses me and many other working moms off. We're not talking about the demands of a career, we're talking about the demands of working full-time WHILE we ALSO have to parent kids at home. If you can't get that, that's on you, not us.

(I don't have anything against SAHM, either. Many of my neighbors do, and I know it's not easy for them right now. But to a one, they have acknowledged that they are grateful they are home and not also having to work right now. That earns my everlasting gratitude because they Get It.)

But you’re not doing all the thing SAHM’s are doing if you have childcare during the day when your kids are in daycare. It would be nice to have some acknowledgement, like “This is harder than I thought. It is a privilege being able to sit in quiet and have a cup of coffee in the office while the kids are being supervised at daycare.” You also don’t realize many SAHM’s have board positions on non profits and volunteer commitments that they give significant time to, comparable to a part time job and often juggle that with kids at home. So when some engineer comes in here and calls my contribution to society worthless when I raised more than her salary in fundraising last year, I can only shake my head at people who cannot see that there lies a lot of grey in between the black and white. I have no doubt it’s harder for you right now. But it’s also probably more challenging than you thought to be around your kids this much with zero breaks.

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Anonymous wrote:Honest Q, if you sah, do you feel your children have a superior childhood?

actually yes. But I know the reality is that they have a superior childhood because my husband makes a lot of money. So that means private school, college is taken care of, we take them on fabulous vacations all over the world, they get private tennis, ski, swim, and music lessons, cool summer camps, all the tech they want, etc. And they have a mom at home who greets them at the door, runs them around to activities, hosts the play dates, volunteers in their schools, makes a home cooked meal every night, makes sure the house is nice and tidy, keeps on top of their homework schedules, etc.

I mean, yeah it's better. It's definitely better than what they had when I was working, which was a harried mom juggling too many balls.

I hope you're not raising boys, because they'll be a real treat to be married to. Or girls, for that matter, since then they'll think that's what they have to do.

This argument is totally ridiculous. They’ll do what they want to do and I’ll be happy that they’re happy. Who’s to say they’ll even want to have kids in an age of expected, terrible global warming anyway?

I’ve been a working mom and a SAHM and SAH is a nice extra to have. It makes our home life easier and nicer. My kids are having a better childhood for it. I’m sure your mileage varies but I don’t really care one way or the other.

Well said. The sahm I know teach their children life skills including, but not limited to, laundry, cooking, shopping, cleaning, budgeting etc. My mother wah early in the morning and late at night throughout my childhood. In the daytime, she was essentially a sahm. She taught us everything we need to know. My brothers, sisters and I are all hands on parents and spouses. We all have the skills necessary to run a house and raise a family.

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Oh honey. Talk about having a small life! You don't even know that is not a lot of money.

I feel sad for her.

Ok I wouldn't have said it like this because it's mean but yes. I cringed at that too.

Hi, I’m the pp you’re referring to!

I never said it was the money that makes me superior. I just can’t imagine feeling fulfilled in life doing...well nothing. I’m sure you get to travel and shop but you are kind of worthless (in my view).

Again I would never say this to your face.

I’m cringing for you.

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I guess we see how she rates her children though! It's "worthless" to spend time with them!

I agree, but I also have pity for her. I find a lot of ppl in this area (men and women) who define themselves by their jobs. It is the one thing I hate about this area. I grew up on the W Coast where people actually have conversations rather than asking what you do/who you know and losing all interest if you can’t help them somehow. It’s great to have a job that you love, but it’s just as bad to pin all your self worth on your career as it is on your kids. There has to be a balance and you have to be someone outside of work, ideally with a loving family and community involvement. And judging by the vitriol she’s spouting, I’m going to guess she doesn’t have that balance. Sad! I hope for her kids’ sake that they have other positive influences in their lives...

I don't know a single working mom who defines themselves by their job. Not one. And some of them have pretty major jobs. Talking about what you do doesn't mean you're defining someone's worth by their answer. It's an interesting way to learn about someone and about the things that they do that you might know nothing about. So you can be "sad" all you want for PP, but your negative attitude is equally as disgusting.

I don’t know a single SAHM that defines herself completely by her children. So the idea that she is a waste to society is a joke. If you think she has nothing to talk to her about ask her. Trust me, she likely has plenty of other interests, life stories, a former career, an education, places she has lived and traveled to, causes she is involved with...

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Anonymous wrote:OMG I'm DYING at someone thinking they are superior to me because they make 210k.

Oh honey. Talk about having a small life! You don't even know that is not a lot of money.

I feel sad for her.

Ok I wouldn't have said it like this because it's mean but yes. I cringed at that too.

Hi, I’m the pp you’re referring to!

I never said it was the money that makes me superior. I just can’t imagine feeling fulfilled in life doing...well nothing. I’m sure you get to travel and shop but you are kind of worthless (in my view).

Again I would never say this to your face.

I’m cringing for you.

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I guess we see how she rates her children though! It's "worthless" to spend time with them!

I agree, but I also have pity for her. I find a lot of ppl in this area (men and women) who define themselves by their jobs. It is the one thing I hate about this area. I grew up on the W Coast where people actually have conversations rather than asking what you do/who you know and losing all interest if you can’t help them somehow. It’s great to have a job that you love, but it’s just as bad to pin all your self worth on your career as it is on your kids. There has to be a balance and you have to be someone outside of work, ideally with a loving family and community involvement. And judging by the vitriol she’s spouting, I’m going to guess she doesn’t have that balance. Sad! I hope for her kids’ sake that they have other positive influences in their lives...

I don't know a single working mom who defines themselves by their job. Not one. And some of them have pretty major jobs. Talking about what you do doesn't mean you're defining someone's worth by their answer. It's an interesting way to learn about someone and about the things that they do that you might know nothing about. So you can be "sad" all you want for PP, but your negative attitude is equally as disgusting.

I don’t know a single SAHM that defines herself completely by her children. So the idea that she is a waste to society is a joke. If you think she has nothing to talk to her about ask her. Trust me, she likely has plenty of other interests, life stories, a former career, an education, places she has lived and traveled to, causes she is involved with...

Too bad she didn't put that education to use!

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A recession and the disruption in the schools and care-giving industries will certainly keep a lot of people from working. The virus will not be gone until some time after the vaccine is widely used so it may be 1-3 years before the day cares are fully up and running, for instance. "Making it work" will be even tougher than before.

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Oh honey. Talk about having a small life! You don't even know that is not a lot of money.

I feel sad for her.

Ok I wouldn't have said it like this because it's mean but yes. I cringed at that too.

Hi, I’m the pp you’re referring to!

I never said it was the money that makes me superior. I just can’t imagine feeling fulfilled in life doing...well nothing. I’m sure you get to travel and shop but you are kind of worthless (in my view).

Again I would never say this to your face.

I’m cringing for you.

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I guess we see how she rates her children though! It's "worthless" to spend time with them!

I agree, but I also have pity for her. I find a lot of ppl in this area (men and women) who define themselves by their jobs. It is the one thing I hate about this area. I grew up on the W Coast where people actually have conversations rather than asking what you do/who you know and losing all interest if you can’t help them somehow. It’s great to have a job that you love, but it’s just as bad to pin all your self worth on your career as it is on your kids. There has to be a balance and you have to be someone outside of work, ideally with a loving family and community involvement. And judging by the vitriol she’s spouting, I’m going to guess she doesn’t have that balance. Sad! I hope for her kids’ sake that they have other positive influences in their lives...

I don't know a single working mom who defines themselves by their job. Not one. And some of them have pretty major jobs. Talking about what you do doesn't mean you're defining someone's worth by their answer. It's an interesting way to learn about someone and about the things that they do that you might know nothing about. So you can be "sad" all you want for PP, but your negative attitude is equally as disgusting.

I don’t know a single SAHM that defines herself completely by her children. So the idea that she is a waste to society is a joke. If you think she has nothing to talk to her about ask her. Trust me, she likely has plenty of other interests, life stories, a former career, an education, places she has lived and traveled to, causes she is involved with...

Opposite of what I’ve experienced. I find it hard to be friends with SAHMs because everything revolves around their children. They seem way less likely to want to do anything without children involved. They go on fewer date nights, don’t travel with friends, etc. I assume some of this is because they are living off one paycheck.

FWIW almost everything you listed above is in the PAST. The SAHM has a previous career, travelED places etc. That’s the problem. If you work and are friends with SAHMs, it’s easy to see how you’re moving forward in life and they aren’t. The SAHM gives up major parts of her life to stay at home with children. There are extremely wealthy women who still manage to maintain an identity, but these are not the norm.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG I'm DYING at someone thinking they are superior to me because they make 210k.

Oh honey. Talk about having a small life! You don't even know that is not a lot of money.

I feel sad for her.

Ok I wouldn't have said it like this because it's mean but yes. I cringed at that too.

Hi, I’m the pp you’re referring to!

I never said it was the money that makes me superior. I just can’t imagine feeling fulfilled in life doing...well nothing. I’m sure you get to travel and shop but you are kind of worthless (in my view).

Again I would never say this to your face.

I’m cringing for you.

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I guess we see how she rates her children though! It's "worthless" to spend time with them!

I agree, but I also have pity for her. I find a lot of ppl in this area (men and women) who define themselves by their jobs. It is the one thing I hate about this area. I grew up on the W Coast where people actually have conversations rather than asking what you do/who you know and losing all interest if you can’t help them somehow. It’s great to have a job that you love, but it’s just as bad to pin all your self worth on your career as it is on your kids. There has to be a balance and you have to be someone outside of work, ideally with a loving family and community involvement. And judging by the vitriol she’s spouting, I’m going to guess she doesn’t have that balance. Sad! I hope for her kids’ sake that they have other positive influences in their lives...

I don't know a single working mom who defines themselves by their job. Not one. And some of them have pretty major jobs. Talking about what you do doesn't mean you're defining someone's worth by their answer. It's an interesting way to learn about someone and about the things that they do that you might know nothing about. So you can be "sad" all you want for PP, but your negative attitude is equally as disgusting.

I don’t know a single SAHM that defines herself completely by her children. So the idea that she is a waste to society is a joke. If you think she has nothing to talk to her about ask her. Trust me, she likely has plenty of other interests, life stories, a former career, an education, places she has lived and traveled to, causes she is involved with...

Too bad she didn't put that education to use!

Most women stay at home for 5 years on average. You really think most wasted it because they took 5/50 of their working years off?

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Anonymous wrote:Honest Q, if you are a working mom, do you feel superior to SAHM moms? It's just something I have always wondered.

Since this is anonymous, yes I do. I would never tell you to your face though.

Ditto, and I would also never say it out loud IRL

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Anonymous wrote:Honest Q, if you sah, do you feel your children have a superior childhood?

A resounding NO. I’m not giving my kids anything that kids of two working parents don’t have.

But, I’m giving myself and my DH something: me, more time with my kids, and more space to care for myself, as I have a chronic medical issue that requires some extra attention. And for DH, the ability to focus on his work, and have our home and kids cared for.

But I hate that some WOH moms think SAH moms judge them. No, no, no. Not from me.

Maybe I just don't understand this, but my husband and I both care way more about our kids than we do our work. And honestly, I wouldn't want to be with a man who wanted to focus more on his work. Then what's the point of having a family? I feel superior to stay at home moms whose husbands are so focused on their work. I think kids benefit from having both parents equally involved in their lives. The whole dad comes up to say goodnight to them is distasteful to me.

The real winners here in COVID, as always, are the dual working parent families where both are involved and invested in the day to day and have employers who are more flexible and get that. The paycheck dad and miserable SAHMs couples are the saddest, today and always.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG I'm DYING at someone thinking they are superior to me because they make 210k.

Oh honey. Talk about having a small life! You don't even know that is not a lot of money.

I feel sad for her.

Ok I wouldn't have said it like this because it's mean but yes. I cringed at that too.

Hi, I’m the pp you’re referring to!

I never said it was the money that makes me superior. I just can’t imagine feeling fulfilled in life doing...well nothing. I’m sure you get to travel and shop but you are kind of worthless (in my view).

Again I would never say this to your face.

I’m cringing for you.

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I guess we see how she rates her children though! It's "worthless" to spend time with them!

I agree, but I also have pity for her. I find a lot of ppl in this area (men and women) who define themselves by their jobs. It is the one thing I hate about this area. I grew up on the W Coast where people actually have conversations rather than asking what you do/who you know and losing all interest if you can’t help them somehow. It’s great to have a job that you love, but it’s just as bad to pin all your self worth on your career as it is on your kids. There has to be a balance and you have to be someone outside of work, ideally with a loving family and community involvement. And judging by the vitriol she’s spouting, I’m going to guess she doesn’t have that balance. Sad! I hope for her kids’ sake that they have other positive influences in their lives...

I don't know a single working mom who defines themselves by their job. Not one. And some of them have pretty major jobs. Talking about what you do doesn't mean you're defining someone's worth by their answer. It's an interesting way to learn about someone and about the things that they do that you might know nothing about. So you can be "sad" all you want for PP, but your negative attitude is equally as disgusting.

I don’t know a single SAHM that defines herself completely by her children. So the idea that she is a waste to society is a joke. If you think she has nothing to talk to her about ask her. Trust me, she likely has plenty of other interests, life stories, a former career, an education, places she has lived and traveled to, causes she is involved with...

Opposite of what I’ve experienced. I find it hard to be friends with SAHMs because everything revolves around their children. They seem way less likely to want to do anything without children involved. They go on fewer date nights, don’t travel with friends, etc. I assume some of this is because they are living off one paycheck.

FWIW almost everything you listed above is in the PAST. The SAHM has a previous career, travelED places etc. That’s the problem. If you work and are friends with SAHMs, it’s easy to see how you’re moving forward in life and they aren’t. The SAHM gives up major parts of her life to stay at home with children. There are extremely wealthy women who still manage to maintain an identity, but these are not the norm.

Most of my working friends are breadwinners with a fairly equal split. Husband makes about 150, they make 165. Most SAHM’s I know HHI is closer to $300+ from one income so not all that accurate in my personal circle. Couple trips or traveling without kids is more common which makes sense because many couples with 2 working have a lot more family support from parents who step in when they have to travel frequently. In my own situation, both DH and I have to travel significantly and he earns more so it was the logical choice for us with no family help. Also I’m not that removed from my former life in the past as you’re “moving forward.” You’re wilding overestimating more people’s contribution to society with their jobs anyways. There are not that many career paths that most people have much interest in at a dinner conversation anyways.

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Since this is anonymous, yes I do. I would never tell you to your face though.

NP, and no, I don't. In this specific, current situation, I think I have it much harder than they do, but that doesn't make me superior to them. Grumpier, perhaps. On balance, I think there are enough trade-offs either way to make them relatively equally difficult. I guess if you're independently wealth SAH is an easier option, but that's not many people.

Do you think it might be much harder because you aren't as used to be around you kids for that many hours a day? Aside from the actual working part? It can be a little shocking if you aren't used to being around children for 12+ hours a day weeks on end.

NP. This is incredibly condescending. I work full-time, as does my husband, but it’s not the being around my kids all day that’s hard, it’s having them around plus having to work at the same time. I mean, we both take liberal leave during the year and spend time together as a family all day. And also weekends. And many school holidays we’ll take off. Also, we’re fortunate enough that our kids are in school or at an activity right after school pretty much the whole time we’re working, so it’s not like we don’t see our kids during the week. Your attitude is a reason why people hate SAHMs.

It’s not meant to be condescending. I have noticed too many WOH saying “This is so much harder for me! If I didn’t work this would be so easy. You don’t understand the demands of a career” I’m talking about moms with young children. (5 and under with hardly any independent that cannot be left unsupervised). It’s hard for everyone right now. It is also exhausting being around small children for that long for weeks on end whether you choose it or not and for many it might be the first time outside of maternity leave they have experienced this long of a stretch. I know exactly how stressful a career can be too, I did that for 13 years after grad school and worked since I was 15 and I will in a few years at all when my son is in kindergarten. It doesn’t have to be a competition over who has it harder and who is superior. If you’re a decent mom you made a conscious decision over what made the most sense for your specific family.

I'm the PP you were responding to earlier, not this one.

Here's the thing: if you have not balanced a career with kids, i.e., worked while you had kids, you have no idea what the specific challenges are. Working before you have kids is not even remotely the same as working once you have them. I'm not even talking about right now in COVID-19 time, I'm talking generally.

As for COVID-19 time, your argument that it's not harder for mothers who have to work *on top of* all the the other things SAHM are doing is ludicrous. That you can't appreciate that you do, in fact, have it easier right now, is what pisses me and many other working moms off. We're not talking about the demands of a career, we're talking about the demands of working full-time WHILE we ALSO have to parent kids at home. If you can't get that, that's on you, not us.

(I don't have anything against SAHM, either. Many of my neighbors do, and I know it's not easy for them right now. But to a one, they have acknowledged that they are grateful they are home and not also having to work right now. That earns my everlasting gratitude because they Get It.)

But you’re not doing all the thing SAHM’s are doing if you have childcare during the day when your kids are in daycare. It would be nice to have some acknowledgement, like “This is harder than I thought. It is a privilege being able to sit in quiet and have a cup of coffee in the office while the kids are being supervised at daycare.” You also don’t realize many SAHM’s have board positions on non profits and volunteer commitments that they give significant time to, comparable to a part time job and often juggle that with kids at home. So when some engineer comes in here and calls my contribution to society worthless when I raised more than her salary in fundraising last year, I can only shake my head at people who cannot see that there lies a lot of grey in between the black and white. I have no doubt it’s harder for you right now. But it’s also probably more challenging than you thought to be around your kids this much with zero breaks.

Which one is it, PP? Is it that SAHMs are around their kids with zero breaks or that they're board members who volunteer all the time? You can't have it both ways. And I'm not the PP you're responding to, but I'll repeat this for you since you seem to have a hard time understanding. What is not hard is being around our kids with zero breaks. What is hard is working full-time while doing that. You just sound ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Honest Q, if you sah, do you feel your children have a superior childhood?

actually yes. But I know the reality is that they have a superior childhood because my husband makes a lot of money. So that means private school, college is taken care of, we take them on fabulous vacations all over the world, they get private tennis, ski, swim, and music lessons, cool summer camps, all the tech they want, etc. And they have a mom at home who greets them at the door, runs them around to activities, hosts the play dates, volunteers in their schools, makes a home cooked meal every night, makes sure the house is nice and tidy, keeps on top of their homework schedules, etc.

I mean, yeah it's better. It's definitely better than what they had when I was working, which was a harried mom juggling too many balls.

I hope you're not raising boys, because they'll be a real treat to be married to. Or girls, for that matter, since then they'll think that's what they have to do.

This argument is totally ridiculous. They’ll do what they want to do and I’ll be happy that they’re happy. Who’s to say they’ll even want to have kids in an age of expected, terrible global warming anyway?

I’ve been a working mom and a SAHM and SAH is a nice extra to have. It makes our home life easier and nicer. My kids are having a better childhood for it. I’m sure your mileage varies but I don’t really care one way or the other.

Well said. The sahm I know teach their children life skills including, but not limited to, laundry, cooking, shopping, cleaning, budgeting etc. My mother wah early in the morning and late at night throughout my childhood. In the daytime, she was essentially a sahm. She taught us everything we need to know. My brothers, sisters and I are all hands on parents and spouses. We all have the skills necessary to run a house and raise a family.

Well, the WOHMs I know teach their kids all that stuff as well. So what's your point?

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Anonymous wrote:OMG I'm DYING at someone thinking they are superior to me because they make 210k.

Oh honey. Talk about having a small life! You don't even know that is not a lot of money.

I feel sad for her.

Ok I wouldn't have said it like this because it's mean but yes. I cringed at that too.

Hi, I’m the pp you’re referring to!

I never said it was the money that makes me superior. I just can’t imagine feeling fulfilled in life doing...well nothing. I’m sure you get to travel and shop but you are kind of worthless (in my view).

Again I would never say this to your face.

I’m cringing for you.

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I guess we see how she rates her children though! It's "worthless" to spend time with them!

I agree, but I also have pity for her. I find a lot of ppl in this area (men and women) who define themselves by their jobs. It is the one thing I hate about this area. I grew up on the W Coast where people actually have conversations rather than asking what you do/who you know and losing all interest if you can’t help them somehow. It’s great to have a job that you love, but it’s just as bad to pin all your self worth on your career as it is on your kids. There has to be a balance and you have to be someone outside of work, ideally with a loving family and community involvement. And judging by the vitriol she’s spouting, I’m going to guess she doesn’t have that balance. Sad! I hope for her kids’ sake that they have other positive influences in their lives...

I don't know a single working mom who defines themselves by their job. Not one. And some of them have pretty major jobs. Talking about what you do doesn't mean you're defining someone's worth by their answer. It's an interesting way to learn about someone and about the things that they do that you might know nothing about. So you can be "sad" all you want for PP, but your negative attitude is equally as disgusting.

I don’t know a single SAHM that defines herself completely by her children. So the idea that she is a waste to society is a joke. If you think she has nothing to talk to her about ask her. Trust me, she likely has plenty of other interests, life stories, a former career, an education, places she has lived and traveled to, causes she is involved with...

You make no sense. Who said SAHMs define themselves completely by their children?