Why do people get so much angrier at women having babies over 45 than men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience women get judgmental when they are triggered by jealousy or their own insecurity.

My guess is any woman out there that is upset by a 40+ woman having a baby falls into one of these categories:

1.) Infertile herself
2.) Regrets not having another baby
3.) Had babies much earlier in life and misses having a baby/little kid

Anyone else would be happy for an expecting mom at any age.

Theres a 4.) I’ve seen a lot in my workplace, I had mine at 34 so this is observation only.

The women who had their babies at 25-35 weren’t in very senior roles. They had to fight for nursing room privacy and make do with whatever daycare options and parental leave they could afford. They were by and large mommy-tracked. The women over 40 are Director level and above, with private offices, night-nannies and their kids will go to private school. Even if the younger moms are now in those Director jobs as well they resent seeing people have it “easier” than they did and pick a reason to tear them down.

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The younger moms sacrificed their careers because of the great fertility lie and they're big mad about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience women get judgmental when they are triggered by jealousy or their own insecurity.

My guess is any woman out there that is upset by a 40+ woman having a baby falls into one of these categories:

1.) Infertile herself
2.) Regrets not having another baby
3.) Had babies much earlier in life and misses having a baby/little kid

Anyone else would be happy for an expecting mom at any age.

Theres a 4.) I’ve seen a lot in my workplace, I had mine at 34 so this is observation only.

The women who had their babies at 25-35 weren’t in very senior roles. They had to fight for nursing room privacy and make do with whatever daycare options and parental leave they could afford. They were by and large mommy-tracked. The women over 40 are Director level and above, with private offices, night-nannies and their kids will go to private school. Even if the younger moms are now in those Director jobs as well they resent seeing people have it “easier” than they did and pick a reason to tear them down.

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The younger moms sacrificed their careers because of the great fertility lie and they're big mad about it.

Spoken from a perspective that careers and money are the most important objectives in life. Not all women feel that way and think family time is most important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience women get judgmental when they are triggered by jealousy or their own insecurity.

My guess is any woman out there that is upset by a 40+ woman having a baby falls into one of these categories:

1.) Infertile herself
2.) Regrets not having another baby
3.) Had babies much earlier in life and misses having a baby/little kid

Anyone else would be happy for an expecting mom at any age.

Theres a 4.) I’ve seen a lot in my workplace, I had mine at 34 so this is observation only.

The women who had their babies at 25-35 weren’t in very senior roles. They had to fight for nursing room privacy and make do with whatever daycare options and parental leave they could afford. They were by and large mommy-tracked. The women over 40 are Director level and above, with private offices, night-nannies and their kids will go to private school. Even if the younger moms are now in those Director jobs as well they resent seeing people have it “easier” than they did and pick a reason to tear them down.

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The younger moms sacrificed their careers because of the great fertility lie and they're big mad about it.

Spoken from a perspective that careers and money are the most important objectives in life. Not all women feel that way and think family time is most important.

Older moms don't have less family time; their family time is just shifted later in life. And they can afford the homes, vacations, education, and extras that make that time more enjoyable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience women get judgmental when they are triggered by jealousy or their own insecurity.

My guess is any woman out there that is upset by a 40+ woman having a baby falls into one of these categories:

1.) Infertile herself
2.) Regrets not having another baby
3.) Had babies much earlier in life and misses having a baby/little kid

Anyone else would be happy for an expecting mom at any age.

Theres a 4.) I’ve seen a lot in my workplace, I had mine at 34 so this is observation only.

The women who had their babies at 25-35 weren’t in very senior roles. They had to fight for nursing room privacy and make do with whatever daycare options and parental leave they could afford. They were by and large mommy-tracked. The women over 40 are Director level and above, with private offices, night-nannies and their kids will go to private school. Even if the younger moms are now in those Director jobs as well they resent seeing people have it “easier” than they did and pick a reason to tear them down.

x10000

The younger moms sacrificed their careers because of the great fertility lie and they're big mad about it.

Spoken from a perspective that careers and money are the most important objectives in life. Not all women feel that way and think family time is most important.

Older moms don't have less family time; their family time is just shifted later in life. And they can afford the homes, vacations, education, and extras that make that time more enjoyable.

Some older moms are wealthier than younger moms, but being an older mom doesn’t equate to being a wealthier mom.
Some perimenopausal mothers prefer a Sunday afternoon nap compared to going to a park to kick a ball with their preschooler.
Some older parents find that they will need to find a way to support their college aged kid when they should be planning for retirement.
Some kids will never know their parents as adults because by that time they will be elderly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience women get judgmental when they are triggered by jealousy or their own insecurity.

My guess is any woman out there that is upset by a 40+ woman having a baby falls into one of these categories:

1.) Infertile herself
2.) Regrets not having another baby
3.) Had babies much earlier in life and misses having a baby/little kid

Anyone else would be happy for an expecting mom at any age.

Theres a 4.) I’ve seen a lot in my workplace, I had mine at 34 so this is observation only.

The women who had their babies at 25-35 weren’t in very senior roles. They had to fight for nursing room privacy and make do with whatever daycare options and parental leave they could afford. They were by and large mommy-tracked. The women over 40 are Director level and above, with private offices, night-nannies and their kids will go to private school. Even if the younger moms are now in those Director jobs as well they resent seeing people have it “easier” than they did and pick a reason to tear them down.

x10000

The younger moms sacrificed their careers because of the great fertility lie and they're big mad about it.

Spoken from a perspective that careers and money are the most important objectives in life. Not all women feel that way and think family time is most important.

Older moms don't have less family time; their family time is just shifted later in life. And they can afford the homes, vacations, education, and extras that make that time more enjoyable.

Each to his own. Public schools are now trying ro educate multiple sets of twins, preemies, and students with special needs as also noted in DCUM threads. Very often these students have older moms and/or dads. Unless older moms and dads have nannies or other family supports, they are spending hours taking care of these children, no matter how precious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience women get judgmental when they are triggered by jealousy or their own insecurity.

My guess is any woman out there that is upset by a 40+ woman having a baby falls into one of these categories:

1.) Infertile herself
2.) Regrets not having another baby
3.) Had babies much earlier in life and misses having a baby/little kid

Anyone else would be happy for an expecting mom at any age.

Theres a 4.) I’ve seen a lot in my workplace, I had mine at 34 so this is observation only.

The women who had their babies at 25-35 weren’t in very senior roles. They had to fight for nursing room privacy and make do with whatever daycare options and parental leave they could afford. They were by and large mommy-tracked. The women over 40 are Director level and above, with private offices, night-nannies and their kids will go to private school. Even if the younger moms are now in those Director jobs as well they resent seeing people have it “easier” than they did and pick a reason to tear them down.

x10000

The younger moms sacrificed their careers because of the great fertility lie and they're big mad about it.

Spoken from a perspective that careers and money are the most important objectives in life. Not all women feel that way and think family time is most important.

Older moms don't have less family time; their family time is just shifted later in life. And they can afford the homes, vacations, education, and extras that make that time more enjoyable.

This is demonstrably false. A woman will have 15 more years with a child born when she is 30 compared to a child born when she is 45.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience women get judgmental when they are triggered by jealousy or their own insecurity.

My guess is any woman out there that is upset by a 40+ woman having a baby falls into one of these categories:

1.) Infertile herself
2.) Regrets not having another baby
3.) Had babies much earlier in life and misses having a baby/little kid

Anyone else would be happy for an expecting mom at any age.

Theres a 4.) I’ve seen a lot in my workplace, I had mine at 34 so this is observation only.

The women who had their babies at 25-35 weren’t in very senior roles. They had to fight for nursing room privacy and make do with whatever daycare options and parental leave they could afford. They were by and large mommy-tracked. The women over 40 are Director level and above, with private offices, night-nannies and their kids will go to private school. Even if the younger moms are now in those Director jobs as well they resent seeing people have it “easier” than they did and pick a reason to tear them down.

x10000

The younger moms sacrificed their careers because of the great fertility lie and they're big mad about it.

Spoken from a perspective that careers and money are the most important objectives in life. Not all women feel that way and think family time is most important.

Older moms don't have less family time; their family time is just shifted later in life. And they can afford the homes, vacations, education, and extras that make that time more enjoyable.

This is demonstrably false. A woman will have 15 more years with a child born when she is 30 compared to a child born when she is 45.

Not necessarily, I had 45 years with my mom but thought it would be longer because she had me at 23. I have friends in their 50s with older moms that are still alive in their 90s. It’s a crapshoot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a 48 year old woman is hormonal enough to be a lunatic online, why is t she hormonal enough to carry a baby? Is it a different hormone?

No and yes.
It's the lack of hormones.
Please, please learn more about women's health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience women get judgmental when they are triggered by jealousy or their own insecurity.

My guess is any woman out there that is upset by a 40+ woman having a baby falls into one of these categories:

1.) Infertile herself
2.) Regrets not having another baby
3.) Had babies much earlier in life and misses having a baby/little kid

Anyone else would be happy for an expecting mom at any age.

Theres a 4.) I’ve seen a lot in my workplace, I had mine at 34 so this is observation only.

The women who had their babies at 25-35 weren’t in very senior roles. They had to fight for nursing room privacy and make do with whatever daycare options and parental leave they could afford. They were by and large mommy-tracked. The women over 40 are Director level and above, with private offices, night-nannies and their kids will go to private school. Even if the younger moms are now in those Director jobs as well they resent seeing people have it “easier” than they did and pick a reason to tear them down.

x10000

The younger moms sacrificed their careers because of the great fertility lie and they're big mad about it.

NP. I am 46 and took my 10yo to the park today; she rode her bike, I walked. She met up with other friends there, but after they left, she playfully and jokingly wanted me to push her on the swings, “play monster” and other things we used to do at the playground.

There’s no getting around that a 46 year old running around a playground feels different than a 36 year old! Older bodies simply don’t have the same energy. And that certainly is not a “big lie,” LOL.

[Anonymous]

The older the woman, the more likely the baby or she will have serious complications at birth or for the rest of their lives. A neighbor went through many IVF cycles and finally had a baby at 47. The baby as cerebral palsy and is partially blind. The husband left one year after the baby was born because it was "too much" for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The older the woman, the more likely the baby or she will have serious complications at birth or for the rest of their lives. A neighbor went through many IVF cycles and finally had a baby at 47. The baby as cerebral palsy and is partially blind. The husband left one year after the baby was born because it was "too much" for him.

Could have just as easily happened if she had the baby at 27. Everyone in my circle who has their babies after 40 is thriving. Can’t say the same about those who had them under 35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The older the woman, the more likely the baby or she will have serious complications at birth or for the rest of their lives. A neighbor went through many IVF cycles and finally had a baby at 47. The baby as cerebral palsy and is partially blind. The husband left one year after the baby was born because it was "too much" for him.

Could have just as easily happened if she had the baby at 27. Everyone in my circle who has their babies after 40 is thriving. Can’t say the same about those who had them under 35.

Not true statistically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The older the woman, the more likely the baby or she will have serious complications at birth or for the rest of their lives. A neighbor went through many IVF cycles and finally had a baby at 47. The baby as cerebral palsy and is partially blind. The husband left one year after the baby was born because it was "too much" for him.

It is true risks increase but many, many kids of older moms are fine and healthy. Increased risk does not mean guaranteed problems.

Some of you are really perverse. It's like you want older moms to be punished. Sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience women get judgmental when they are triggered by jealousy or their own insecurity.

My guess is any woman out there that is upset by a 40+ woman having a baby falls into one of these categories:

1.) Infertile herself
2.) Regrets not having another baby
3.) Had babies much earlier in life and misses having a baby/little kid

Anyone else would be happy for an expecting mom at any age.

Theres a 4.) I’ve seen a lot in my workplace, I had mine at 34 so this is observation only.

The women who had their babies at 25-35 weren’t in very senior roles. They had to fight for nursing room privacy and make do with whatever daycare options and parental leave they could afford. They were by and large mommy-tracked. The women over 40 are Director level and above, with private offices, night-nannies and their kids will go to private school. Even if the younger moms are now in those Director jobs as well they resent seeing people have it “easier” than they did and pick a reason to tear them down.

x10000

The younger moms sacrificed their careers because of the great fertility lie and they're big mad about it.

Spoken from a perspective that careers and money are the most important objectives in life. Not all women feel that way and think family time is most important.

Older moms don't have less family time; their family time is just shifted later in life. And they can afford the homes, vacations, education, and extras that make that time more enjoyable.

This is demonstrably false. A woman will have 15 more years with a child born when she is 30 compared to a child born when she is 45.

Tell that to my dear friend who had kids young and died at 48 from breast cancer. Life provides no guarantees to anyone.

Cherish your own life and your own kids and stop being so awful to other people. Wish the best for everyone or else go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The older the woman, the more likely the baby or she will have serious complications at birth or for the rest of their lives. A neighbor went through many IVF cycles and finally had a baby at 47. The baby as cerebral palsy and is partially blind. The husband left one year after the baby was born because it was "too much" for him.

It is true risks increase but many, many kids of older moms are fine and healthy. Increased risk does not mean guaranteed problems.

Some of you are really perverse. It's like you want older moms to be punished. Sick.

They sacrificed their careers for nothing, so they have to convince themselves that their sacrifice was worth it because it means their kids are healthier. They hate to see the children of “older” moms thriving.