How is Sorority Rush going?

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Anonymous wrote:I did not get a bid

So very sorry.

Rushing at Indiana? Could you please elaborate?

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Anonymous wrote:All the women I know who grew up in the south think sorority life was the peak and defining time of their life and still mention their house when they meet new people, still wear their house colors, still identify as XYZ whenever they can.

All the women I know who grew up outside the south said they had fun for a year or two but then it was pretty cringy.

Fake news.

You’ve obviously not lived in Arkansas, Alabama, Georgia, Nevada, Virginia, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania. You should get out more. Cultures are different.

NP here. I am from Virginia and went to school in North Carolina. I don't know what women who grew up in the south but either your lying or know hardly anyone. Gossiping stereotypes is gross. Do better.

We just almost elected as president a woman who fits the "constantly mentions her sorority 30+ years later" stereotype pretty much to a t, and you're going to slander PP for saying it's a real thing based on your narrow experience at Chapel Hill?

Harris was a member of a Divine 9 (majority black) sorority. They’re different. Alums in those organizations stay very active after graduation and they do a ton of work in their communities. It’s more like joining the Junior League than your typical (majority white) sorority

So, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everything about sorority rush sounds awful for 18 year girls away from home for the first time. The process is a social and psychological minefield. It's like a reality tv show where the stakes are very real. To be rejected because you don't have the right purse or don't vacation on St. Barts is ridiculous. I don't know why educated families allow their daughters to participate in sororities today. It may have made sense 50 years ago to find friends and perhaps a husband. But everything about sororities today seems cruel and stupid.

This 100%. There is an exceptional podcast called Snapped about one woman’s experience at UMD that is eye opening.

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I went through the process in the 90s with my roommate. We both only got the least desirable house. I dropped out then because I was so embarrassed and my friend joined. She went on to make great friendship and I always felt I should have been less superficial and not care what people thought. But I was 18 and trying to fit in and I didn’t want to appear not cool. I’m not encouraging my daughter to join one. I hated the process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did not get a bid

The one poster on this thread who's actually honest about why they didn't join Greek life. Respect.

My advice: Get to know as many girls as you can across many different sororities and then rush as a sophomore. Also, and this is key, make friends with or date fraternity guys. This will vastly raise your status ahead of rush.

Finally, I'm not sure if you set your sights exclusively on the top houses the first go-round, but don't close your mind to accepting a middle-tier bid when you try again. Not only will your status on campus be vastly higher than if you remain a GDI, but the networking opportunities will be just as good as the top tier, as your middle-tier house may well be top tier at the other schools that feed the city you land in after graduation.

Good luck!

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Don’t fret. Most dmv girls who go to priv school or the W public schools seem to have been accepted into top houses. Seems like established social circles from hs really matter to a certain extent. I’ve seen it at TCU, SMU, Tulane, USC, UNC and Wake. Usually ending up at kkg, pi phi, dg, zeta and chi o…. along with the la and nyc girls.

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Anonymous wrote:All the women I know who grew up in the south think sorority life was the peak and defining time of their life and still mention their house when they meet new people, still wear their house colors, still identify as XYZ whenever they can.

All the women I know who grew up outside the south said they had fun for a year or two but then it was pretty cringy.

Fake news.

You’ve obviously not lived in Arkansas, Alabama, Georgia, Nevada, Virginia, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania. You should get out more. Cultures are different.

NP here. I am from Virginia and went to school in North Carolina. I don't know what women who grew up in the south but either your lying or know hardly anyone. Gossiping stereotypes is gross. Do better.

We just almost elected as president a woman who fits the "constantly mentions her sorority 30+ years later" stereotype pretty much to a t, and you're going to slander PP for saying it's a real thing based on your narrow experience at Chapel Hill?

Harris was a member of a Divine 9 (majority black) sorority. They’re different. Alums in those organizations stay very active after graduation and they do a ton of work in their communities. It’s more like joining the Junior League than your typical (majority white) sorority

Interesting analogy since most NPC sororities are pre-Junior League experiences.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it harder at Indiana? I heard similar.

Too few spots for number of girls rushing.

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Too few spots in the specific house that silly 18-year-olds determine are the “cool” houses.
The literally set quota on the last night based on the number of girls still enrolled in recruitment divided by the number of chapters. But if every girl goes into recruitment thinking they’ll die if they aren’t a Kappa, then yes, some will be disappointed and will drop out.

It’s like claiming you didn’t go to college because there aren’t enough spots in the college freshmen classes. Ummmmm no. You didn’t go to Harvard or Stanford or Yale maybe….and possibly the state flagship didn’t have a spot for you either so you decided not to go to college. But you could have gone to a regional university or community college. You just didn’t want to.

The fact is that there are not too few spots for number of girls rushing. There are just too few spots for everyone rushing to be able to join the one or two houses they all wanted.

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Anonymous wrote:All the women I know who grew up in the south think sorority life was the peak and defining time of their life and still mention their house when they meet new people, still wear their house colors, still identify as XYZ whenever they can.

All the women I know who grew up outside the south said they had fun for a year or two but then it was pretty cringy.

Fake news.

You’ve obviously not lived in Arkansas, Alabama, Georgia, Nevada, Virginia, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania. You should get out more. Cultures are different.

New York? How is NYC comparable to a place like Alabama? Girls in Alabama die their hair a weird shade of yellow. New Yorkers have $600 carefully blended highlights. Skinny to Alabama is Size 6 at the mall. New Yorkers are Size 0 at Saks. And girls growing up in NYC are not about to wear pink to rush a sorority in a backwater state like Alabama.

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Anonymous wrote:All the women I know who grew up in the south think sorority life was the peak and defining time of their life and still mention their house when they meet new people, still wear their house colors, still identify as XYZ whenever they can.

All the women I know who grew up outside the south said they had fun for a year or two but then it was pretty cringy.

Fake news.

You’ve obviously not lived in Arkansas, Alabama, Georgia, Nevada, Virginia, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania. You should get out more. Cultures are different.

NP here. I am from Virginia and went to school in North Carolina. I don't know what women who grew up in the south but either your lying or know hardly anyone. Gossiping stereotypes is gross. Do better.

We just almost elected as president a woman who fits the "constantly mentions her sorority 30+ years later" stereotype pretty much to a t, and you're going to slander PP for saying it's a real thing based on your narrow experience at Chapel Hill?

You don't seem to know what that word means. Also what does Harris have anything to do with that? That is a data point of 1, just like mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did not get a bid

To clarify, I did not get a bid because I am in my 30s, out of college, and not rushing this year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did not get a bid

The one poster on this thread who's actually honest about why they didn't join Greek life. Respect.

My advice: Get to know as many girls as you can across many different sororities and then rush as a sophomore. Also, and this is key, make friends with or date fraternity guys. This will vastly raise your status ahead of rush.

Finally, I'm not sure if you set your sights exclusively on the top houses the first go-round, but don't close your mind to accepting a middle-tier bid when you try again. Not only will your status on campus be vastly higher than if you remain a GDI, but the networking opportunities will be just as good as the top tier, as your middle-tier house may well be top tier at the other schools that feed the city you land in after graduation.

Good luck!

‘Status on campus’? Give me a break. No one cares about this crap a year out of school, in fact, I recently passed on the resume of someone who still had multiple mentions of her sorority on it.

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Anonymous wrote:All the women I know who grew up in the south think sorority life was the peak and defining time of their life and still mention their house when they meet new people, still wear their house colors, still identify as XYZ whenever they can.

All the women I know who grew up outside the south said they had fun for a year or two but then it was pretty cringy.

Fake news.

You’ve obviously not lived in Arkansas, Alabama, Georgia, Nevada, Virginia, New York, Illinois, and Pennsylvania. You should get out more. Cultures are different.

NP here. I am from Virginia and went to school in North Carolina. I don't know what women who grew up in the south but either your lying or know hardly anyone. Gossiping stereotypes is gross. Do better.

You understand that the south is not a monolith and gatekeeping the south vs Deep South vs Bible Belt, etc doesn't make some regions not the south. Culturally. Are you also part of the Tik Tok trend that NC isn't the south? That TN isn't the south? You clam to grow up in the deep south, ok. Good of you. I am sorry someone hurt you somewhere at sometime.


Virginia is not the south - culturally. Being a college kid in a college town is not the same experience as living as an adult in the south. You didn’t live in the deep south as an adult, you have zero reason to tell me that my experiences didn’t happen. Bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Sorry you got a bid …

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it harder at Indiana? I heard similar.

Too few spots for number of girls rushing.

Correction:
Too few spots in the specific house that silly 18-year-olds determine are the “cool” houses.
The literally set quota on the last night based on the number of girls still enrolled in recruitment divided by the number of chapters. But if every girl goes into recruitment thinking they’ll die if they aren’t a Kappa, then yes, some will be disappointed and will drop out.

It’s like claiming you didn’t go to college because there aren’t enough spots in the college freshmen classes. Ummmmm no. You didn’t go to Harvard or Stanford or Yale maybe….and possibly the state flagship didn’t have a spot for you either so you decided not to go to college. But you could have gone to a regional university or community college. You just didn’t want to.

The fact is that there are not too few spots for number of girls rushing. There are just too few spots for everyone rushing to be able to join the one or two houses they all wanted.

This is absolutely the truth and people don’t seem to understand. At most schools, they literally guarantee a kid a bid and if more girls stay through all phases each house will have a higher quota and be able to offer more bids. But instead, they drop whenever they are dropped by the house they thought they deserved and cry to their mom about how it’s so unfair. Literally if girls would just stay in and maximize their options, they’d find a place and no it may not be in the “least desirable” house. My dd had a rough rush and it was over zoom which really sucked. She didn’t realize that she needed to wow them, she thought she was learning about the chaprters. She got dropped by almost all the chapters she wanted after the round robins. Turns out that the one she really liked from day one kept her and that’s where she is now, and loves. It is not a “top” house and it’s not one she’d ever heard of before either. She decided to play it out and see what happens and it worked out. Yeah it wasn’t fun getting cut but guess what, you don’t get everything you want in life but if you learn from the experience and keep at it, it will work out well.