We just almost elected as president a woman who fits the "constantly mentions her sorority 30+ years later" stereotype pretty much to a t, and you're going to slander PP for saying it's a real thing based on your narrow experience at Chapel Hill? |
Did somebody hurt you? |
When I graduated from the southern flagship that all my family attended, and was packing up to get out of there asap, a good friend of my mother's insisted on taking me out to lunch to give me some important advice: "as soon as you get where you're going, first join the local church and then join your sorority alum chapter.". Believe it or not. Whether those sorority alums still have the ability to impact impact rush and pledge selection today, I have no idea. My best guess is absolutely. At least at my flagship. Greek life is not a homogenous culture. I keep hoping someone here will give some insider insight on Indiana. How many young women rush? What percentage are in-state How many go through rush? How many spots are there? Do some rushers get no bids? If so, how many? Thanks in advance. I really did try to Google it. |
Virginia is not the south - culturally. Being a college kid in a college town is not the same experience as living as an adult in the south. You didn’t live in the deep south as an adult, you have zero reason to tell me that my experiences didn’t happen. Bizarre. |
Re: moms. Yes, they do get involved. They also prep their girls for years for it. They begin going to college games with the primary goal of networking with current girls in houses they want. They begin “interviewing” and “auditioning” at least a year before they graduate. This matters to them. A lot. Moms do pull strings when they can, but that’s harder than it used to be. |
When I graduated from the southern flagship that all my family attended, and was packing up to get out of there asap, a good friend of my mother's insisted on taking me out to lunch to give me some important advice: "as soon as you get where you're going...join your sorority alum chapter.".
It's good advice and never too late to join. Most alum chapters are very similar to any alum group, you can meet people in a new locale where you don't know anyone, you can network, you can find opportunities for service, etc. |
I’ve heard the African American sororities and fraternities are less toxic in terms of hazing, drinking, and SA etc (although depicted as such in School Daze), is this true? And I think culturally, they serve a good purpose especially at PWIs for minority students looking for not just professional connections but cultural ones so they feel less like outsiders at PWIs. |
At my school, members of black fraternities were literally branded. So...People's definition of toxic behavior may differ. |
Harris was a member of a Divine 9 (majority black) sorority. They’re different. Alums in those organizations stay very active after graduation and they do a ton of work in their communities. It’s more like joining the Junior League than your typical (majority white) sorority |
The branding still happens there. |
I thought she was Alpha Kappa Alpha… |
DP but this is just supply and demand so of course the in-demand top sororities hold all the cards. There might be 500 girls interested in joining XYZ sorority and let’s say 100 of them are girls who fit whatever profile the sorority is looking to recruit, but if they are only allowed to invite 50 (I am making these numbers up but you get my point) then lots of perfectly nice/rich/pretty/smart/connected/whatever girls are going to be shut out of that house because of how the math works. |
IU used to be cutthroat, but it’s better now. Until two or theee years ago, Indiana ran on a “bed rush” system. Each sorority gave out bids based on how many spots they had in their house. The amount of bids given between organizations could be wildly different and could be much smaller than the total numbers of women going to through recruitment. Women could get all the way through the process and fail to get a bid. IU now runs recruitment on a RFM (release figure management) system like every other university in the US. They’re given a set number of bids they can give during formal recruitment that is based on the number of women attending the final night of parties divided by the number of houses. It’s designed to make sure every woman who completes recruitment has a bid and that as many woman as possible get their first choice. |
AKA is one of the Divine Nine organizations |
I did not get a bid |