Took 1.5 years to find this hire and she quits after a week

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just up and quit a career in November due to my last parent having an acute medical crisis.

I quit only after my new-to-me manager called me at home to berate me for not answering her email from the previous evening (after hours) and demanding that I outline my daily schedule as “she had no idea where I was.” I had been approved for Family Medical Leave and all was outlined on my calendar.

I left this manager natter on and managed to choke out, “I’m making hospice arrangements for my parent today. I’m heading to the hospital. I emailed you and reminded you I’m on leave.” This enraged her and she demanded I see her the next day at 8 a.m. Now crying, I told her that I would not be meeting with her because I was quitting - the most spontaneous decision I’ve ever made in my life. I’m typically a careful planner and an overly cautious person.

Called HR and asked for guidance for resigning without notice. I was advised to simply email HR with an effective date (immediately, the next business day) and if I felt like it, cc my manager. Boom. Done and dusted.

Dropped off my laptop and badge the next day en route to the hospital. No exit interview. Heard zero from the organization not counting g my final paycheck.

My parent lingered for 6 weeks but we had that time together and I was there at the end. No regrets, none. No plans to go back to work. I think I’m retired now.

You sound unhinged. I buried both my parents after long illness and I only told work about it when requesting funeral day. My Mom and Dad has a work ethic and would not want kids missing work for them.

One boss threatened to fire me for taking funeral day for Dad. I left my old home number from growing up as my contact and guy called my Mom as she was getting ready to go to funeral home. He said guess he is not lying so won’t fire him. He still docked me two days pay.

My mother then told me I should have went into work that morning and Ben thought Dad died at 8 pm night before.

It’s call work ethic. My one coworker held his status update on 9-12-01 after his son killed in 9/11. Not like skipping meeting is bringing him back.

Jesus. There's work ethic and there's disassociation. Get your head checked.

That poster has to be made up. First, almost all business were closed on 9/12 and as someone whose spouse worked in a field on 9/12 because of their military nature - even THEY weren't having status meetings.

Nice trolling though

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just up and quit a career in November due to my last parent having an acute medical crisis.

I quit only after my new-to-me manager called me at home to berate me for not answering her email from the previous evening (after hours) and demanding that I outline my daily schedule as “she had no idea where I was.” I had been approved for Family Medical Leave and all was outlined on my calendar.

I left this manager natter on and managed to choke out, “I’m making hospice arrangements for my parent today. I’m heading to the hospital. I emailed you and reminded you I’m on leave.” This enraged her and she demanded I see her the next day at 8 a.m. Now crying, I told her that I would not be meeting with her because I was quitting - the most spontaneous decision I’ve ever made in my life. I’m typically a careful planner and an overly cautious person.

Called HR and asked for guidance for resigning without notice. I was advised to simply email HR with an effective date (immediately, the next business day) and if I felt like it, cc my manager. Boom. Done and dusted.

Dropped off my laptop and badge the next day en route to the hospital. No exit interview. Heard zero from the organization not counting g my final paycheck.

My parent lingered for 6 weeks but we had that time together and I was there at the end. No regrets, none. No plans to go back to work. I think I’m retired now.

You sound unhinged. I buried both my parents after long illness and I only told work about it when requesting funeral day. My Mom and Dad has a work ethic and would not want kids missing work for them.

One boss threatened to fire me for taking funeral day for Dad. I left my old home number from growing up as my contact and guy called my Mom as she was getting ready to go to funeral home. He said guess he is not lying so won’t fire him. He still docked me two days pay.

My mother then told me I should have went into work that morning and Ben thought Dad died at 8 pm night before.

It’s call work ethic. My one coworker held his status update on 9-12-01 after his son killed in 9/11. Not like skipping meeting is bringing him back.

thisis sick and wrong and in many ways what is wrong with America

I think that person is a troll. There are a couple of poorly written posts from around the same time that are probably from the same person, possibly from outside the U.S.

It reads like the J1 J2 guy.

[Anonymous]

Who cares? It’s life. You seem a bit too high strung

No one cares that you took 1.5 years to hire someone, no one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just up and quit a career in November due to my last parent having an acute medical crisis.

I quit only after my new-to-me manager called me at home to berate me for not answering her email from the previous evening (after hours) and demanding that I outline my daily schedule as “she had no idea where I was.” I had been approved for Family Medical Leave and all was outlined on my calendar.

I left this manager natter on and managed to choke out, “I’m making hospice arrangements for my parent today. I’m heading to the hospital. I emailed you and reminded you I’m on leave.” This enraged her and she demanded I see her the next day at 8 a.m. Now crying, I told her that I would not be meeting with her because I was quitting - the most spontaneous decision I’ve ever made in my life. I’m typically a careful planner and an overly cautious person.

Called HR and asked for guidance for resigning without notice. I was advised to simply email HR with an effective date (immediately, the next business day) and if I felt like it, cc my manager. Boom. Done and dusted.

Dropped off my laptop and badge the next day en route to the hospital. No exit interview. Heard zero from the organization not counting g my final paycheck.

My parent lingered for 6 weeks but we had that time together and I was there at the end. No regrets, none. No plans to go back to work. I think I’m retired now.

You sound unhinged. I buried both my parents after long illness and I only told work about it when requesting funeral day. My Mom and Dad has a work ethic and would not want kids missing work for them.

One boss threatened to fire me for taking funeral day for Dad. I left my old home number from growing up as my contact and guy called my Mom as she was getting ready to go to funeral home. He said guess he is not lying so won’t fire him. He still docked me two days pay.

My mother then told me I should have went into work that morning and Ben thought Dad died at 8 pm night before.

It’s call work ethic. My one coworker held his status update on 9-12-01 after his son killed in 9/11. Not like skipping meeting is bringing him back.

thisis sick and wrong and in many ways what is wrong with America

I think that person is a troll. There are a couple of poorly written posts from around the same time that are probably from the same person, possibly from outside the U.S.

It reads like the J1 J2 guy.

J1 J2 is a fascinating case study. Seems to be obsessed with workplace shirking, self and others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares? It’s life. You seem a bit too high strung

No one cares that you took 1.5 years to hire someone, no one

Especially given that you’d likely have no problem cutting the person loose if it served your purposes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious - as a manager how would you respond to this? Or would you even respond?

I'd move mountains to let her work remote if she wanted to--even if it meant flying her up for 2-3 days a couple times a month--surely she could manage being gone that much. If she wasn't interested, I'd wish her well and tell her how sorry I was about her FIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just up and quit a career in November due to my last parent having an acute medical crisis.

I quit only after my new-to-me manager called me at home to berate me for not answering her email from the previous evening (after hours) and demanding that I outline my daily schedule as “she had no idea where I was.” I had been approved for Family Medical Leave and all was outlined on my calendar.

I left this manager natter on and managed to choke out, “I’m making hospice arrangements for my parent today. I’m heading to the hospital. I emailed you and reminded you I’m on leave.” This enraged her and she demanded I see her the next day at 8 a.m. Now crying, I told her that I would not be meeting with her because I was quitting - the most spontaneous decision I’ve ever made in my life. I’m typically a careful planner and an overly cautious person.

Called HR and asked for guidance for resigning without notice. I was advised to simply email HR with an effective date (immediately, the next business day) and if I felt like it, cc my manager. Boom. Done and dusted.

Dropped off my laptop and badge the next day en route to the hospital. No exit interview. Heard zero from the organization not counting g my final paycheck.

My parent lingered for 6 weeks but we had that time together and I was there at the end. No regrets, none. No plans to go back to work. I think I’m retired now.

You sound unhinged. I buried both my parents after long illness and I only told work about it when requesting funeral day. My Mom and Dad has a work ethic and would not want kids missing work for them.

One boss threatened to fire me for taking funeral day for Dad. I left my old home number from growing up as my contact and guy called my Mom as she was getting ready to go to funeral home. He said guess he is not lying so won’t fire him. He still docked me two days pay.

My mother then told me I should have went into work that morning and Ben thought Dad died at 8 pm night before.

It’s call work ethic. My one coworker held his status update on 9-12-01 after his son killed in 9/11. Not like skipping meeting is bringing him back.

thisis sick and wrong and in many ways what is wrong with America

I think that person is a troll. There are a couple of poorly written posts from around the same time that are probably from the same person, possibly from outside the U.S.

It reads like the J1 J2 guy.

J1 J2 is a fascinating case study. Seems to be obsessed with workplace shirking, self and others.

I don't get why Jeff doesn't just block his IP address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares if she is lying, everyone sites family emergency true or not.
It’s like marriage - the best thing is to give to someone who is forever grateful. Hire someone who isn’t so great on paper but is a fast learner and a personality fit. This one was just spoiled.

You sound like a crabby boomer

Nah, I am just speaking as someone who took a leave of absence due to fake family emergency and I was prepared to be fired. I am spoiled in a way too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The women is a scumbag move on. She knew damn well about FIL issue and took a job she knew she was going to quit

I also call BS as when my parents passed away I was mainly involved and wife parents mainly involved.

This is just an out of state in law. Just hire someone or put him in a home

You are the scumbag and clearly a terrible person.

[Anonymous]

You took this way to personally. Life happens and nothing is guaranteed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares? It’s life. You seem a bit too high strung

No one cares that you took 1.5 years to hire someone, no one

Especially given that you’d likely have no problem cutting the person loose if it served your purposes.

Oh my goodness, yes. OP does not give two s***s about this woman but is incensed that she won't sacrifice her personal life for OP's sake? Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious - as a manager how would you respond to this? Or would you even respond?

I'd move mountains to let her work remote if she wanted to--even if it meant flying her up for 2-3 days a couple times a month--surely she could manage being gone that much. If she wasn't interested, I'd wish her well and tell her how sorry I was about her FIL.

This. How come you didn’t offer remote work when you got the email?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never assume a new hire will stay. The first 3 months anything can happen. That is why we have a 90 day probationary period. Sometimes new hires get better job offers that were in the pipeline when I brought them on and eave us for the better job offers.

Generally I find with hires that some that are less than stellar on paper end up being the best employees.

In general my company promotes under hiring. We don't hire the best candidate as they tend to job hop.
We hire one that will be happy with the job.

So you're not at will employers? Their job is guaranteed after the probation?

NP and we are at will employers, but the job probationary period is one year. After one year, a termination process would have to include a performance plan and lots of other checkpoints and processes. Prior to the end of the probationary period, specific reasons and feedback don’t have to be given, it’s a very straightforward “this didn’t work out” conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never assume a new hire will stay. The first 3 months anything can happen. That is why we have a 90 day probationary period. Sometimes new hires get better job offers that were in the pipeline when I brought them on and eave us for the better job offers.

Generally I find with hires that some that are less than stellar on paper end up being the best employees.

In general my company promotes under hiring. We don't hire the best candidate as they tend to job hop.
We hire one that will be happy with the job.

So you're not at will employers? Their job is guaranteed after the probation?

NP and we are at will employers, but the job probationary period is one year. After one year, a termination process would have to include a performance plan and lots of other checkpoints and processes. Prior to the end of the probationary period, specific reasons and feedback don’t have to be given, it’s a very straightforward “this didn’t work out” conversation.

My company does 90 day probation. But it clearly states in offer letter we are at will even after 90 days.

In probation 90 days I can get rid of you no reason needed, no write up needed and no severance given,

After 90 days it goes through write up process and might get severance. Although our severance in only two weeks per year and we don’t round up.

A year probation is long. I know people my firm hate the uncertainty of 90 days.

[Anonymous]

I would love to hear from the new hire whether she really has a family emergency or whether she immediately realized that OP is a terrible boss. I don’t know what happened with the new hire, but I’m certain OP is, in fact, a terrible boss. It took you 1.5 years to fill a position? And now you’re furious the new hire quit because of a family emergency? I’m glad she got out.