WWYD - 13 yr old just binged on an entire bag of Oreo cookies

[Anonymous]

This post is classic DCUM.
OP is being chastised for her disordered eating parenting by other parents who are also disordered in their eating

the "my kids can have a small scoop of rice pudding and I'm a size 2 at at 40" lady and the the "my neighbor is 5'6" and 160 (which is a BMI of 25.8) but she is so markedly overweight in my worldview that I'll her as an example of an "overweight" human in my DCUM post" lady.

It's the blind leading the blind around here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who among us has not done such a thing?

+ 1 lol. I definitely did this in middle school! Multiple times.
I don’t have a binge food eating problem. Is and am slender.
I’d just tel him that’s not what one should do for blah blah reason, and then let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This can not be a serious post

Get the f out here. LOL

This should have been the end of this thread. OMG.

[Anonymous]

It's really OK if your kid wants to have six pints of Ben & Jerry's at a sitting on a regular basis?

If food is not restricted, a kid is much less likely to want to eat six pints of Ben & Jerry's - because he knows that he can have a scoop of Ben & Jerry's whenever he wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It's really OK if your kid wants to have six pints of Ben & Jerry's at a sitting on a regular basis?

If food is not restricted, a kid is much less likely to want to eat six pints of Ben & Jerry's - because he knows that he can have a scoop of Ben & Jerry's whenever he wants.

This. If it's restricted, they are more tempted to binge and possibly binge in secret or at a friend's house.

[Anonymous]

Bottom line who bought and brought them in the house? Lesson learned to not do this again and expect a different result. Stop shaming your child.

[Anonymous]

Good for him. I envy him. If I did that, I’d be in a diabetic coma. Enjoy your youth!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you make something a forbidden fruit, humans want it even more?

I've always bought everything. I exposed our kids (now HS and college) to every single type of food growing up. Yes, even the FunYuns and the PopTarts and the Boo Berry Captain Crunch cereals. Why? Because I didn't want to food to be a forbidden fruit.

Skip ahead to today, and we never finish a cake or pie in our house. I throw half of it away. I've had a big bowl of Christmas bite-sized chocolates sitting on the counter since Christmas, and our DDs have not touched it. I'm eating it all very, very, very slowly and will likely throw the rest away to make room for the Easter candy.

When you make it inaccessible, you make it desireable, OP.

+1

My kids are like this. They have had access to all sorts of snack, candy, cakes, junk food and will eat some but do not gorge. We always have leftovers sitting around and I end up throwing out so I don’t eat it.

[Anonymous]

This thread made me hungry for Oreos so I went down and polished off a package of the black and white ones. So good.

OP is probably no longer reading, but if she is, please try to take some of these comments into consideration. We are worried about your child. Take the emotion out of it and try to see the control issues underlying everything. Disciplining your son for eating too many cookies is not going to teach better eating habits or control, it’s going to teach him to cover his tracks better and sneak it behind your back. Make cookies an ok choice after a meal and teach him the skills he will need to make good choices. Nutritious food first, treats ok if we’ve given our bodies what they need to grown and run well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He probably binged because he feels deprived. Dessert once a week is nothing for a teen. I understand wanting your kids to eat healthy but restricting works against your goals. I’d be more concerned if dessert was readily available and he still binged.

agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor kid.

+1

Raising a kid who is going to rebel. Hard if you restrict other things like you do on foods.

Tale as old as time. And goes for everything. I’m NOT one that ever advocates for extreme free-range parenting and I fully believe there are some things you can in fact, keep your kids from doing (drugs, sex, etc) but I also know that the kind of micromanaging and strictness of every little thing—like punishing him for eating something too quick that he bought with his own money— is going to backfire horribly at some point down the line.

[Anonymous]

and this is how kids get issues around food when there are crazy rules and restictions from the adults.

[Anonymous]

OP is priming her child for an eating disorder and thinks she is doing a great job as a parent AND wants to punish the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread made me hungry for Oreos so I went down and polished off a package of the black and white ones. So good.

OP is probably no longer reading, but if she is, please try to take some of these comments into consideration. We are worried about your child. Take the emotion out of it and try to see the control issues underlying everything. Disciplining your son for eating too many cookies is not going to teach better eating habits or control, it’s going to teach him to cover his tracks better and sneak it behind your back. Make cookies an ok choice after a meal and teach him the skills he will need to make good choices. Nutritious food first, treats ok if we’ve given our bodies what they need to grown and run well.

Thank you for specifying the color of your oreos.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid wants sugary dessert every night. That’s not healthy either. People piling on OP for restricting sweets aren’t being entirely realistic. She wants to teach good habits. Letting her kid eat dessert every day is not going to lead her son to not being obsessed with sugar.

There’s nothing wrong with a bit of dessert every day. I am naturally thin and have a sweet tooth. My kids are also thin/athletic. They like a little treat after dinner which doesn’t mean huge bowls of ice cream, but maybe a little cup of rice pudding or a handful of gummy bears or a little bit of fruit sorbet. We find ways to reasonably satisfy the sweet craving instead of winding up with kids spending allowance money on Oreos and then crushing a bag in 24 hours. Sugar is nbd to my kids, they will even pass up cake at birthday parties if they’re not hungry.

But having dessert is part of a bigger picture of meal times. From a young age we’ve talked about listening to hunger cues, eating enough protein, enjoying foods in moderation, eating a variety of foods, etc. Meals and snacks are eaten at the kitchen table. They don’t just mindlessly wander the house shoving food in their face. They also are really good water drinks — sometimes hunger is actually thirst, so they know to drink during the day.

My parents gave me a lot of leeway with food growing up and I’m still a size 2 in my 40s after having 3 babies. Better to help kids learn food autonomy early on so they can balance food intake as an adult.

I hate posts like this

Not that pp but posted a few times on this thread.

We are a thin, active and healthy family. My three kids all play sports. I have tween and teen boys and they eat a ton. They eat steaks, chipotle, pizza, chips and cake. We are not a big cookie family but they will eat a lot of other food.

I think when kids are deprived of something, it makes them want it more. This happens especially in college when kids have freedom after having controlling parents.

To be clear, I hate it because the poster describes herself as "naturally thin" with "thin/athletic" kids who have not been deprived from dessert or sugar, but I could make an Almond Mom found poem from the restrictive subtext. Hunger is actually thirst! Don't wander around the house shoving food in your face! No huge bowls of ice cream, have some fruit sorbet instead! Do you really need that birthday cake? If I was a size 2 after three babies, you can be too! I don't see it as different from what everyone is piling on the OP for.

I was a size 4 after having 3 babies and we are a thin family. We are Asian. My Asian boys are skinny and we are always trying to fatten them up. I don’t try to feed them cookies and ice cream but we don’t limit it. They can grab ice cream or whatever they want from the pantry. I don’t let them snack right before dinner but otherwise, I let them eat.

Their American friends say we have good snacks. We have a lot of snacks from the international store.