Swim Team Drama

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Anonymous wrote:Banquet drama. My sister and her DD went to the banquet, as my sister put it, "dressed for the pool." My sister has never known what to wear when, and is clueless with respect to fashion. She was furious that everyone else was dressed for a party, and made that really clear -- she caused a problem when she accused some of the 12 year old girls as "dressing like they are 16" because they had cute dresses on while her DD had on shorts and an old tshirt. She was really just insecure about how she and DD hadn't understood what to wear. But yeah, she blamed everyone else and made a thing about it. Lol. Par for the course with her.

Some years I dress for the pool, others I don’t. It doesn’t really matter. I’m sorry your sister in law felt awkward, she shouldn’t have. I would have jumped in the pool with her.

Same here. Our banquet is a mix of bathing suits and dresses. The kids get a kick out of dressing up, but in reality no one really cares. It’s definitely a “wear what you want” event at our pool.

Do you hold this at the pool?

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Anonymous wrote:Banquet drama. My sister and her DD went to the banquet, as my sister put it, "dressed for the pool." My sister has never known what to wear when, and is clueless with respect to fashion. She was furious that everyone else was dressed for a party, and made that really clear -- she caused a problem when she accused some of the 12 year old girls as "dressing like they are 16" because they had cute dresses on while her DD had on shorts and an old tshirt. She was really just insecure about how she and DD hadn't understood what to wear. But yeah, she blamed everyone else and made a thing about it. Lol. Par for the course with her.

Some years I dress for the pool, others I don’t. It doesn’t really matter. I’m sorry your sister in law felt awkward, she shouldn’t have. I would have jumped in the pool with her.

Same here. Our banquet is a mix of bathing suits and dresses. The kids get a kick out of dressing up, but in reality no one really cares. It’s definitely a “wear what you want” event at our pool.

Do you hold this at the pool?

We do. We rent a big tent and cater in food. Then the pool stays open late and everyone swims until 10:30 or so.

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

Now try this scenario. The coach puts your kid in fly and one of their swimmers in free. Your team losses free, when your kid would have won, and your kid finishes 4th in fly. Something's fishy right? That's the scenario people are complaining about.

Some coaches will selectively pull this trick when they know they have a meet in the bag too. That way, if anyone complains, they can always say "well, we won the meet didn't we?"

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Anonymous wrote:Looks like a CRE developer who ran for the board last year is now suing the pool. Docket CL23001682. Wish I could see the filing

Ding ding ding. The brainiacs hired a real estate lawyer 🤦‍♀️

Plaintiff has been in the news before

https://wjla.com/news/local/youre-ignoring-us-arlington-families-speak-out-against-proposed-school-reassignments

They had already been warned in writing the year prior that they were at risk of losing their membership based on her behavior. If I were this couple I'd be packing up and leaving town I'd be so ashamed. Instead they doubled down by suing.

Their poor kids. How mortifying.

The parents specifically were kicked out and not allowed on the property even for other events. Their kids could still go to the pool as guests of other members. Just not the parents. They waited until after swim season to kick them out so the kids could finish the season.

What did they DO?

It was nice that they let the kids stay on the team. I figured they would only do that for fast kids.

One of their kids was somewhat fast but I'm pretty sure they did it because it's not the kids' fault their parents are a$$holes. Division 7 is way different than Division 1. That kid swimming made little to no difference to the team as a whole.

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Anonymous wrote:Looks like a CRE developer who ran for the board last year is now suing the pool. Docket CL23001682. Wish I could see the filing

Ding ding ding. The brainiacs hired a real estate lawyer 🤦‍♀️

Plaintiff has been in the news before

https://wjla.com/news/local/youre-ignoring-us-arlington-families-speak-out-against-proposed-school-reassignments

They had already been warned in writing the year prior that they were at risk of losing their membership based on her behavior. If I were this couple I'd be packing up and leaving town I'd be so ashamed. Instead they doubled down by suing.

WHAT DID THEY DO? I don’t understand why you keep referencing this without actually saying what their transgressions were.

Since they’re suing the pool for kicking them out for whatever it was, I’m guessing no one can comment on it.

This- since all members are part of the suit technically.

Outside of this situation... she's a piece of work.

I can’t imagine they would send documents to the entire membership and then instruct them to remain silent.

They didn't.

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

You are way over invested. Sometimes switching a kid to make them more comfortable or better in that stroke is not a bad thing. Our lineup made no sense but mine just swim what they are told. The relays sucked as my kid was the only one who could swim fast in the bunch but it is what it is.

The point of A meets is to win, not make a kid more comfortable in a stroke. That’s what B meets are for.

You need to relax and let your kid have fun. Winning is a lot but not everything.

Why would you think I’m not relaxed? My kid used to be an A swimmer, then became and A/B swimmer, and this year was mostly B. This was the most fun she’s had since she started 8 years ago. Doesn’t change the fact that the point of A meets is to win.

You are not relaxed if you are studying the lineup and worrying about a perfect season. Relaxed is like us where we are proud of how ever our kids do and thankful they didn't drown. Winning is a bonus.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

You are way over invested. Sometimes switching a kid to make them more comfortable or better in that stroke is not a bad thing. Our lineup made no sense but mine just swim what they are told. The relays sucked as my kid was the only one who could swim fast in the bunch but it is what it is.

The point of A meets is to win, not make a kid more comfortable in a stroke. That’s what B meets are for.

+10000

Summer swim is all about the team, not the individual. The point of A meets is to win. Why is this so hard to understand!

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

You are way over invested. Sometimes switching a kid to make them more comfortable or better in that stroke is not a bad thing. Our lineup made no sense but mine just swim what they are told. The relays sucked as my kid was the only one who could swim fast in the bunch but it is what it is.

The point of A meets is to win, not make a kid more comfortable in a stroke. That’s what B meets are for.

+10000

Summer swim is all about the team, not the individual. The point of A meets is to win. Why is this so hard to understand!

Agree. But as you can see, raising issues with seeding gets you labeled as “drama” or “overinvested” because most people don’t look closely at what’s going on—either their kid hasn’t been been hurt by it yet, or their kid is benefitting from it.

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

You are way over invested. Sometimes switching a kid to make them more comfortable or better in that stroke is not a bad thing. Our lineup made no sense but mine just swim what they are told. The relays sucked as my kid was the only one who could swim fast in the bunch but it is what it is.

The point of A meets is to win, not make a kid more comfortable in a stroke. That’s what B meets are for.

You need to relax and let your kid have fun. Winning is a lot but not everything.

Why would you think I’m not relaxed? My kid used to be an A swimmer, then became and A/B swimmer, and this year was mostly B. This was the most fun she’s had since she started 8 years ago. Doesn’t change the fact that the point of A meets is to win.

You are not relaxed if you are studying the lineup and worrying about a perfect season. Relaxed is like us where we are proud of how ever our kids do and thankful they didn't drown. Winning is a bonus.

How old are your kids? 5? Because most kids care about the competition and get upset when things don’t seem fair.

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

You are way over invested. Sometimes switching a kid to make them more comfortable or better in that stroke is not a bad thing. Our lineup made no sense but mine just swim what they are told. The relays sucked as my kid was the only one who could swim fast in the bunch but it is what it is.

The point of A meets is to win, not make a kid more comfortable in a stroke. That’s what B meets are for.

You need to relax and let your kid have fun. Winning is a lot but not everything.

Why would you think I’m not relaxed? My kid used to be an A swimmer, then became and A/B swimmer, and this year was mostly B. This was the most fun she’s had since she started 8 years ago. Doesn’t change the fact that the point of A meets is to win.

You are not relaxed if you are studying the lineup and worrying about a perfect season. Relaxed is like us where we are proud of how ever our kids do and thankful they didn't drown. Winning is a bonus.

How old are your kids? 5? Because most kids care about the competition and get upset when things don’t seem fair.

It's swim. Each person gets a lane. Your time is your performance. Defining yourself by who happens to swim next to you is stupid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

You are way over invested. Sometimes switching a kid to make them more comfortable or better in that stroke is not a bad thing. Our lineup made no sense but mine just swim what they are told. The relays sucked as my kid was the only one who could swim fast in the bunch but it is what it is.

The point of A meets is to win, not make a kid more comfortable in a stroke. That’s what B meets are for.

You need to relax and let your kid have fun. Winning is a lot but not everything.

Why would you think I’m not relaxed? My kid used to be an A swimmer, then became and A/B swimmer, and this year was mostly B. This was the most fun she’s had since she started 8 years ago. Doesn’t change the fact that the point of A meets is to win.

You are not relaxed if you are studying the lineup and worrying about a perfect season. Relaxed is like us where we are proud of how ever our kids do and thankful they didn't drown. Winning is a bonus.

Wait who said I was studying the line up and worrying about a perfect season? Why do you keep making stuff up?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

You are way over invested. Sometimes switching a kid to make them more comfortable or better in that stroke is not a bad thing. Our lineup made no sense but mine just swim what they are told. The relays sucked as my kid was the only one who could swim fast in the bunch but it is what it is.

The point of A meets is to win, not make a kid more comfortable in a stroke. That’s what B meets are for.

+1 And if you don’t seed a meet like that, that opens all sorts of questions and issues with who is supposed to swim. Keep it simple - try to win the meet. Then parents can’t complain about who gets into the meet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

You are way over invested. Sometimes switching a kid to make them more comfortable or better in that stroke is not a bad thing. Our lineup made no sense but mine just swim what they are told. The relays sucked as my kid was the only one who could swim fast in the bunch but it is what it is.

The point of A meets is to win, not make a kid more comfortable in a stroke. That’s what B meets are for.

You need to relax and let your kid have fun. Winning is a lot but not everything.

Why would you think I’m not relaxed? My kid used to be an A swimmer, then became and A/B swimmer, and this year was mostly B. This was the most fun she’s had since she started 8 years ago. Doesn’t change the fact that the point of A meets is to win.

You are not relaxed if you are studying the lineup and worrying about a perfect season. Relaxed is like us where we are proud of how ever our kids do and thankful they didn't drown. Winning is a bonus.

How old are your kids? 5? Because most kids care about the competition and get upset when things don’t seem fair.

It's swim. Each person gets a lane. Your time is your performance. Defining yourself by who happens to swim next to you is stupid.

Holy crap you are delusional. Seriously. The next lane is your competition. If you swim faster than them, you win.

Are you being deliberately obtuse, or so you honestly not understand this?

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

You are way over invested. Sometimes switching a kid to make them more comfortable or better in that stroke is not a bad thing. Our lineup made no sense but mine just swim what they are told. The relays sucked as my kid was the only one who could swim fast in the bunch but it is what it is.

The point of A meets is to win, not make a kid more comfortable in a stroke. That’s what B meets are for.

You need to relax and let your kid have fun. Winning is a lot but not everything.

Why would you think I’m not relaxed? My kid used to be an A swimmer, then became and A/B swimmer, and this year was mostly B. This was the most fun she’s had since she started 8 years ago. Doesn’t change the fact that the point of A meets is to win.

You are not relaxed if you are studying the lineup and worrying about a perfect season. Relaxed is like us where we are proud of how ever our kids do and thankful they didn't drown. Winning is a bonus.

How old are your kids? 5? Because most kids care about the competition and get upset when things don’t seem fair.

It's swim. Each person gets a lane. Your time is your performance. Defining yourself by who happens to swim next to you is stupid.

Why even have competitive meets then? And who is defining themselves by it? People just want things to make sense. No point in competing and giving out awards if the game is rigged. This is basic stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:I swear some of you just don't understand trying to win meets.

My kids was the fastest in 3 strokes this year (free, back, and breast). At the start of the season she was swimming free and breast in A meets (her two best). Then in the third meet the coach switched her to back and breast. She came in second in back, but would have easily won free. Were we mad? No, of course not. Looking at the times from our team and the other team it was obvious that the second fastest swimmer on our team in free was going to easily win and that our daughter had a chance to win back while the second fastest back swimmer on our team had no chance. Our coach was trying to win the meet.

It "cost" my kid a chance to have a perfect season and win every race in every A meet. But it was what was best for the team. It was an awesome learning opportunity for her. When we explained it to her she had no problem with it because she wanted to do what was best for the team.

I can create the lineup for our team for A meets just by looking at our ladder and looking up the other teams times in mynvls.com. Clearly I spend way too much time on this, but I'm usually pretty close each week to what our coach picks. The places where I get it wrong are almost always minor judgment calls that could go either way.

The best part about this is there is no drama because the meet lineups follow two rules:
1. Do what is best for the team
2. Fastest swimmer swims

You are way over invested. Sometimes switching a kid to make them more comfortable or better in that stroke is not a bad thing. Our lineup made no sense but mine just swim what they are told. The relays sucked as my kid was the only one who could swim fast in the bunch but it is what it is.

The point of A meets is to win, not make a kid more comfortable in a stroke. That’s what B meets are for.

You need to relax and let your kid have fun. Winning is a lot but not everything.

Why would you think I’m not relaxed? My kid used to be an A swimmer, then became and A/B swimmer, and this year was mostly B. This was the most fun she’s had since she started 8 years ago. Doesn’t change the fact that the point of A meets is to win.

You are not relaxed if you are studying the lineup and worrying about a perfect season. Relaxed is like us where we are proud of how ever our kids do and thankful they didn't drown. Winning is a bonus.

How old are your kids? 5? Because most kids care about the competition and get upset when things don’t seem fair.

It's swim. Each person gets a lane. Your time is your performance. Defining yourself by who happens to swim next to you is stupid.

So now it's like T-ball and they're not keeping score at those Saturday A meets huh? Come on, give me a break, even the youngest kids figure out the whole points system pretty quickly. All it takes is one end of year banquet for them to associate winning and points and prizes and recognition. Then the next year they start talking amongst themselves and soon they are comparing notes in the team area on who's scoring points and who's not. And there's always one or two kids rubbing it in that they won or someone else lost. It takes a good coach to navigate this dynamic. A bad coach or playing favorites can make it worse.