Another mom invited herself to my kid’s birthday party

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If she shows up just ignore her and talk to your friends! Have fun OP

This is OP. This is basically what I'm planning to do. I may just "forget" to respond to her text. If she shows up and stays, fine, but I'm not there to entertain her.

She's not there to be entertained by you, LOL. She's there to keep an eye on her kid because she knows you're a flake who cannot be trusted to watch others' kids. Other parents are going to stay too, they just haven't given you the heads up. And trust me, all the other moms also know you can't be trusted to watch kids. You give that vibe.

You give off a vibe of a helicopter mom to a hilarious brat that no one likes (either of you) and is only invited because OP is forced to invite the entire class.

Oh, you peaked in middle school. We get it.

[Anonymous]

Don't think so highly of yourself OP. This parent gives ZERO f's about you or chatting w/you + your girlfriends. As the parent of a SN 7yo, when we get those class invites we accept because he is the most extroverted person I know. But, trust and believe when I stay for that party I give zero thought to being "entertained" by the host. My entire focus is making sure my kid doesn't become overstimulated and meltdown in the middle of the party.

[Anonymous]

Wow. This is such mean girl, immature behavior. I hope you do respond to the mom so she knows what she is dealing with and doesn’t waste her or her child’s energy with your family.

[Anonymous]

OP, for the sake of all of us, please tell her she can come and report back to us either how bad it turned out or how nice it was for everybody, or what have you. This will help people in the future with similar situations (as host or extra mom). When is the party?

[Anonymous]

OP you're being really unfair.. catch up with your friends another time. This is your child's party and it is about the kids.. even the ones who have anxiety.

[Anonymous]

She didn’t invite herself to the party. It’s not like she said she’ll come bounce too. Parents always hang out at lower ES parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, for the sake of all of us, please tell her she can come and report back to us either how bad it turned out or how nice it was for everybody, or what have you. This will help people in the future with similar situations (as host or extra mom). When is the party?

I would more trust the reporting of the other mom. I hope she's on dcum, seeing that most people support her and her child, despite the awfulness of OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My second grader invited all the kids in her class to her birthday party. We’re having it at a party venue and there’s enough room for all the kids, DH and myself, my parents, and two of my good friends whose kids are in DD’s class. A mom I don’t know texted me today asking if she could come to the party as well because her son is anxious and it would be easier for him if she were there. I’m a little annoyed because I was looking forward to this time to catch up with my two friends and my parents, and now we’ll have a random mom there as well. It’s going to feel a little more crowded. I asked DD about this boy and she said she doesn’t know him that well because he is quiet and doesn’t talk much. Can I just tell the mom sorry, it’s a drop off party or so I need to let her come too?

I want to hear all the moms jump in from the 7 year mean girl thread and start talking about how inclusive and open and welcoming they are. This is the exact thing I was talking about on that thread — there are times that you don’t want to include everyone and people shouldn’t feel bad about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My second grader invited all the kids in her class to her birthday party. We’re having it at a party venue and there’s enough room for all the kids, DH and myself, my parents, and two of my good friends whose kids are in DD’s class. A mom I don’t know texted me today asking if she could come to the party as well because her son is anxious and it would be easier for him if she were there. I’m a little annoyed because I was looking forward to this time to catch up with my two friends and my parents, and now we’ll have a random mom there as well. It’s going to feel a little more crowded. I asked DD about this boy and she said she doesn’t know him that well because he is quiet and doesn’t talk much. Can I just tell the mom sorry, it’s a drop off party or so I need to let her come too?

I want to hear all the moms jump in from the 7 year mean girl thread and start talking about how inclusive and open and welcoming they are. This is the exact thing I was talking about on that thread — there are times that you don’t want to include everyone and people shouldn’t feel bad about that.

NP. It’s a venue party for little kids, not a dinner party. Parents will be staying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My second grader invited all the kids in her class to her birthday party. We’re having it at a party venue and there’s enough room for all the kids, DH and myself, my parents, and two of my good friends whose kids are in DD’s class. A mom I don’t know texted me today asking if she could come to the party as well because her son is anxious and it would be easier for him if she were there. I’m a little annoyed because I was looking forward to this time to catch up with my two friends and my parents, and now we’ll have a random mom there as well. It’s going to feel a little more crowded. I asked DD about this boy and she said she doesn’t know him that well because he is quiet and doesn’t talk much. Can I just tell the mom sorry, it’s a drop off party or so I need to let her come too?

I would tell her no and instruct her that she needs to stop letting her kid use anxiety as a crutch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My second grader invited all the kids in her class to her birthday party. We’re having it at a party venue and there’s enough room for all the kids, DH and myself, my parents, and two of my good friends whose kids are in DD’s class. A mom I don’t know texted me today asking if she could come to the party as well because her son is anxious and it would be easier for him if she were there. I’m a little annoyed because I was looking forward to this time to catch up with my two friends and my parents, and now we’ll have a random mom there as well. It’s going to feel a little more crowded. I asked DD about this boy and she said she doesn’t know him that well because he is quiet and doesn’t talk much. Can I just tell the mom sorry, it’s a drop off party or so I need to let her come too?

I would tell her no and instruct her that she needs to stop letting her kid use anxiety as a crutch.

Sure you would

[Anonymous]

Hey OP - you suck.

[Anonymous]

I stay at parties b/c of food allergies. Trust me, I don't want to be there or chitchat with you and your clique, I don't need food or entertainment. Solely there until my child can manage his own epipen.

[Anonymous]

Nice title OP!

My kid has ASD and is anxious. If he did not know you or your family, I might be graciously writing you asking the same. At least she asked in advance. Many may not.
Hopefully your yield will provide a little space for her to stand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My second grader invited all the kids in her class to her birthday party. We’re having it at a party venue and there’s enough room for all the kids, DH and myself, my parents, and two of my good friends whose kids are in DD’s class. A mom I don’t know texted me today asking if she could come to the party as well because her son is anxious and it would be easier for him if she were there. I’m a little annoyed because I was looking forward to this time to catch up with my two friends and my parents, and now we’ll have a random mom there as well. It’s going to feel a little more crowded. I asked DD about this boy and she said she doesn’t know him that well because he is quiet and doesn’t talk much. Can I just tell the mom sorry, it’s a drop off party or so I need to let her come too?

I would tell her no and instruct her that she needs to stop letting her kid use anxiety as a crutch.

May you never be blessed with a child with future mental health issues.