Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of this. Privileged women who have never been through this will never understand, and men, never will either.
Yes, Fani killed it on the stand today but something stood out to me that I think needs more attention. Before she went into the amounts of cash she keeps on hand, at home etc. She said that after her divorce in 2011 or 2012, that she began keeping money at home. As a survivor of domestic abuse, that stood out to me. My first thought was ‘that’s her getaway money.’
My first husband controlled EVERYTHING. I didn’t have my own bank acct, didn’t have a car of my own and wasn’t ‘allowed’ to drive his. He took me to work and picked me up. I never went to a grocery store alone. I will never forget the day we got into an argument at Kinkos and he took off and left me to walk home. Took about 3.5 hrs in the blistering desert heat walking along the I-10 svc road. This was the early ‘90s, before everyone had a cell phone and Uber was available.
I don’t care how smart or successful you are, if you have ever been a victim of abuse—be it physical, verbal, mental or emotional—it stays with you. That vow you make to yourself to never rely on another again. Taking back, protecting and keeping your power. So I get Fani’s frustration and anger and being questioned the way she was. Having someone who has not walked in her shoes attempt to try and shame her.
Her reasons are nobody’s business, and I have no doubt that she kept a lot of her reasons to herself. They don’t deserve to know why, they are not entitled to the part of her that guides the choices she makes in regard to her finances. That’s hers. It belongs to her and I stand with her…
When you have to whip up absurd word vomit excuses for a 50 year old woman you’ve lost. This is a corrupt power drunk idiot and we can all see it clear as day. I only drink ‘goose. Good lord, she’s ratchet.