Why do women always get mad at the other woman?

[Anonymous]

I'm watching the child outside of marriage convo and it's interesting.
The man made the commitment but the other woman is hated. I have sadly been on both sides of this equation. And to this day hate the other woman and might still take a swing if I am caught off guard by her. And I know he lied to her ( and me). I have also, unbeknownst to me, been the other woman. Lied too and still the ire of the wife or gf.

Why do we get mad at the other person if they didn't know?

[Anonymous]

I guess if the other woman truly did not know my DH was married than I would not be angry at her. I find that very rare though. Like your kids being abducted by strangers, just does not happen very often. I guess one night stands and stuff. But nowadays if you don't know what is going on in the life of the man you are fucking, than you are either a prairie woman with no phone, no computer, out churning butter waiting for your cowboy to ride in for a quickie, or stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm watching the child outside of marriage convo and it's interesting.
The man made the commitment but the other woman is hated. I have sadly been on both sides of this equation. And to this day hate the other woman and might still take a swing if I am caught off guard by her. And I know he lied to her ( and me). I have also, unbeknownst to me, been the other woman. Lied too and still the ire of the wife or gf.

Why do we get mad at the other person if they didn't know?

Wow, you and your men really get around.

[Anonymous]

You know, my husband just called me on this - but perhaps mine was more of a stranger thing. My husband's best man and best friend had sex with his new girlfriend in our guest house master bathroom at our wedding at the same time that my mother was giving me a family heirloom. It was so awkward and they had to do a walk of shame. She heard.

I couldn't forgive that woman for years. I was really mad at the best friend as well but not nearly so much. I think I thought she was a bad influence on him - it just seemed SO unlike him. But it takes two to tango and it's true that I did just immediately get mad at the woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm watching the child outside of marriage convo and it's interesting.
The man made the commitment but the other woman is hated. I have sadly been on both sides of this equation. And to this day hate the other woman and might still take a swing if I am caught off guard by her. And I know he lied to her ( and me). I have also, unbeknownst to me, been the other woman. Lied too and still the ire of the wife or gf.

Why do we get mad at the other person if they didn't know?

Wow, you and your men really get around.

So does Your Momma!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know, my husband just called me on this - but perhaps mine was more of a stranger thing. My husband's best man and best friend had sex with his new girlfriend in our guest house master bathroom at our wedding at the same time that my mother was giving me a family heirloom. It was so awkward and they had to do a walk of shame. She heard.

I couldn't forgive that woman for years. I was really mad at the best friend as well but not nearly so much. I think I thought she was a bad influence on him - it just seemed SO unlike him. But it takes two to tango and it's true that I did just immediately get mad at the woman.

"I couldn't forgive that woman for years."

For what, oh DCUM Princess?

[Anonymous]

It's very rare that woman involved in affairs with married men don't know he's married. Like someone mentioned, a ONS sure but an affair that spans months/years? I simply don't buy that argument.

My husband cheated for about a year. Rest assured I was pissed at both and sought to kick both of their asses! Her and I didn't have a relationship prior to the affair, so there was no vested interest in a reconciliation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's very rare that woman involved in affairs with married men don't know he's married. Like someone mentioned, a ONS sure but an affair that spans months/years? I simply don't buy that argument.

My husband cheated for about a year. Rest assured I was pissed at both and sought to kick both of their asses! Her and I didn't have a relationship prior to the affair, so there was no vested interest in a reconciliation.

This, its easy to hate the other woman bc you do not have to live with her every day and pretend that all is well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know, my husband just called me on this - but perhaps mine was more of a stranger thing. My husband's best man and best friend had sex with his new girlfriend in our guest house master bathroom at our wedding at the same time that my mother was giving me a family heirloom. It was so awkward and they had to do a walk of shame. She heard.

I couldn't forgive that woman for years. I was really mad at the best friend as well but not nearly so much. I think I thought she was a bad influence on him - it just seemed SO unlike him. But it takes two to tango and it's true that I did just immediately get mad at the woman.

You, I don't really know what you're talking about. Those were two adults in a relationship, why were you even mad? Were they supposed to know you were nearby having a Hallmark moment with your mom? It seems insane to be mad about that at all, let alone for years.

As for the original question, it's simple. It's easier to deflect blame onto an anonymous enemy than it is to put it on the person you loved who betrayed you.

[Anonymous]

nerble.

[Anonymous]

"My husband cheated for about a year. Rest assured I was pissed at both and sought to kick both of their asses! Her and I didn't have a relationship prior to the affair, so there was no vested interest in a reconciliation. "


Her and I?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know, my husband just called me on this - but perhaps mine was more of a stranger thing. My husband's best man and best friend had sex with his new girlfriend in our guest house master bathroom at our wedding at the same time that my mother was giving me a family heirloom. It was so awkward and they had to do a walk of shame. She heard.

I couldn't forgive that woman for years. I was really mad at the best friend as well but not nearly so much. I think I thought she was a bad influence on him - it just seemed SO unlike him. But it takes two to tango and it's true that I did just immediately get mad at the woman.

Trying to understand why you were mad. Were they in your room, in your bathroom? If so, I guess I can understand your reaction...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know, my husband just called me on this - but perhaps mine was more of a stranger thing. My husband's best man and best friend had sex with his new girlfriend in our guest house master bathroom at our wedding at the same time that my mother was giving me a family heirloom. It was so awkward and they had to do a walk of shame. She heard.

I couldn't forgive that woman for years. I was really mad at the best friend as well but not nearly so much. I think I thought she was a bad influence on him - it just seemed SO unlike him. But it takes two to tango and it's true that I did just immediately get mad at the woman.

"I couldn't forgive that woman for years."

For what, oh DCUM Princess?

Yeah, I'd be pissed too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know, my husband just called me on this - but perhaps mine was more of a stranger thing. My husband's best man and best friend had sex with his new girlfriend in our guest house master bathroom at our wedding at the same time that my mother was giving me a family heirloom. It was so awkward and they had to do a walk of shame. She heard.

I couldn't forgive that woman for years. I was really mad at the best friend as well but not nearly so much. I think I thought she was a bad influence on him - it just seemed SO unlike him. But it takes two to tango and it's true that I did just immediately get mad at the woman.

Trying to understand why you were mad. Were they in your room, in your bathroom? If so, I guess I can understand your reaction...

Was he married?

[Anonymous]

OP,
Women get mad at the other woman AND their husband.