Wife spends too much money on stupid crafts

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's horrible that some posters over here are encouraging that OP's wife destroys his things. That's just low.

Destroy them? We only suggested that she make them fabulous! Obviously he doesn’t have enough joy in his life. A whole lot of glitter will cheer him right up.

Remember, OP’s wife. You want superfine.

The earth will implode and that shit will still be floating in the air.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. How is going to the gym a hobby? It’s for health and wellness. And yes, she is 20 lbs over than her usual weight and I’m not afraid to call her out on it. She knows I roll my eyes whenever she comes back with the crap and no, the craft room is where she stores the stuff. The completed crap gets put up on display and it’s just cheap and tacky AF. She crafted a little when we were dating but that was when we kept our finances separate and I don’t think she had the money then to go crazy at Hobby Lobby. Now, she does and I’m considering keeping our finances separate again because she has also max out her credit cards (Continual non-payments while racking up at Hobby Lobby and Michaels). She doesn’t think she spends too much money because she will point to so-and-so or another friend and say “But they spend twice as much as me on the same stuff” and I’ll tease her with “Well, I’m not surprised so-and-so and her husband are separating”. Not making this s*** up! She works from home part time now so that is why she has the free time to go and craft. But no, she won’t go and exercise at all, not even walking with me. I think it’s a combination of the crafts being expensive, stupid, waste of time and the opportunity costs of her crafting becoming a strain on our marriage.

She maxed out her credit cards for nonpayment? You didn't pay it even though you seem to be saying you don't have separate funds? Doesnt her income go to a joint account? Something sounds off about your statements. Did she hide her CC debt? Why is she not able to pay $600 in expenses? She warns that little?

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Anonymous wrote:OP $600/month sounds like a lot for paper & glue crafts. But it’s less than half the cost of maintaining a horse and about 1/3 of a golf hobby. You seem really mad at your DW.

OP again. I don't understand why people seem to draw comparison with extreme examples. Of course a horse is going to cost more and I don't even play golf. Yes, I am indeed mad at my wife for making a mess with all her glitter and construction paper. She only cleans up after I ask and just has no interest in anything besides going to Hobby Lobby and Michaels. I could turn a blind eye if she only went to those places for specific items that were needed. Say, placecards for a pre-Covid potluck. But to pay through the nose for items associated with preschoolers? It just makes me laugh and makes me think she has no common sense. All the more so when she doesn't pay off her credit card balance and complains to me that her credit score is getting lower. I tell her "The gym is cheaper and all that sitting makes you unhealthy" and she pulls a long face and goes back to her tacky paper and glue nonsense. None of it is Pinterest-worthy I can assure you. 

The more I read OP's post the more I think it's a female writing it and a troll. We've been had, folks.

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Anonymous wrote:Not that pp, but the wife needs therapy to figure out why she is spending to be happier (which is probably going to cost more than the crafts spending...ask me how I know...)

And the OP needs therapy because he seems to hold his wife in contempt, which a lot of marriages never recover from.

So OP needs to spend $200 to speak to some stranger about his wife's crafting hobby? Is that supposed to make feel better? Do you not realize that is money down the drain? I think the claims that OP needs to pay alimony is overblown. If OP is renting, he can move out and let the wife take over and just quietly divorce. What is the big deal? Life is too short to spend it with someone who's unattractive, both inside and out.

No, the OP needs therapy because he sounds ragey and is super upset about 20 pounds after his wife has had kids. That is, if he eventually wants to save his marriage. If not, he doesn't need therapy at all.

OP again. We don’t have kids. I don’t understand why you think 20lbs is nothing when it’s just bad for the body. It’s not about the weight. It’s about what led to it and what’s keeping it on.

20lbs is not a lot and it can reflect "emotional eating" from acute stress or depression that will pass. Are you really going to divorce over 20 lbs without giving her a chance to work on it?

I was at 135 when married, hit 149 at one point, went down to 128 at one point, and I'm back at 135 during the past 10 years of marriage. I'm excuding the weight when I was pregnant. My DH was at 150 at marriage, hit 170 and stayed at 170. I don't think that his weight gain is a problem. My point is, depending on what's going on, people's weight fluctuate more than others. Why not give her a chance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not that pp, but the wife needs therapy to figure out why she is spending to be happier (which is probably going to cost more than the crafts spending...ask me how I know...)

And the OP needs therapy because he seems to hold his wife in contempt, which a lot of marriages never recover from.

So OP needs to spend $200 to speak to some stranger about his wife's crafting hobby? Is that supposed to make feel better? Do you not realize that is money down the drain? I think the claims that OP needs to pay alimony is overblown. If OP is renting, he can move out and let the wife take over and just quietly divorce. What is the big deal? Life is too short to spend it with someone who's unattractive, both inside and out.

No, the OP needs therapy because he sounds ragey and is super upset about 20 pounds after his wife has had kids. That is, if he eventually wants to save his marriage. If not, he doesn't need therapy at all.

OP again. We don’t have kids. I don’t understand why you think 20lbs is nothing when it’s just bad for the body. It’s not about the weight. It’s about what led to it and what’s keeping it on.

20lbs is not a lot and it can reflect "emotional eating" from acute stress or depression that will pass. Are you really going to divorce over 20 lbs without giving her a chance to work on it?

I was at 135 when married, hit 149 at one point, went down to 128 at one point, and I'm back at 135 during the past 10 years of marriage. I'm excuding the weight when I was pregnant. My DH was at 150 at marriage, hit 170 and stayed at 170. I don't think that his weight gain is a problem. My point is, depending on what's going on, people's weight fluctuate more than others. Why not give her a chance.

20lbs is a substantial amount of weight. not something that happens overnight but over an entire year of neglecting your body. i can see why OP is upset

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps she can craft herself a better husband.

LOL.
She should!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP $600/month sounds like a lot for paper & glue crafts. But it’s less than half the cost of maintaining a horse and about 1/3 of a golf hobby. You seem really mad at your DW.

OP again. I don't understand why people seem to draw comparison with extreme examples. Of course a horse is going to cost more and I don't even play golf. Yes, I am indeed mad at my wife for making a mess with all her glitter and construction paper. She only cleans up after I ask and just has no interest in anything besides going to Hobby Lobby and Michaels. I could turn a blind eye if she only went to those places for specific items that were needed. Say, placecards for a pre-Covid potluck. But to pay through the nose for items associated with preschoolers? It just makes me laugh and makes me think she has no common sense. All the more so when she doesn't pay off her credit card balance and complains to me that her credit score is getting lower. I tell her "The gym is cheaper and all that sitting makes you unhealthy" and she pulls a long face and goes back to her tacky paper and glue nonsense. None of it is Pinterest-worthy I can assure you. 

The more I read OP's post the more I think it's a female writing it and a troll. We've been had, folks.

Yes, impossible to have a jerk of this level in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a peach. Just be lucky you found someone who puts up with your bad attitude. Wife's crafting is the least of your worries. You need a new personality.

I tend to agree. OP ought to understand that you need to be more tolerant and accepting. Otherwise, you will end up alone, which I assure you will be more costly than the crafting. Divorce destroys wealth and other things.