Most annoying modern parenting lingo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SAHMs have the HARDEST JOB IN THE WORLD!!!!!!!!
I don't want to MISS their firsts!!!
The GUILT.
"We're" pregnant.
"Our" school.
Five yeard olds still sucking on the tit.

Yes!

Also

--gifted (for a preschool-aged child)
--SAHM. They don't actually stay at home but actually spend lots of time running around getting things done outside, and "mom" is what your kids call you, not what the rest of the world does
--WOHM. All parents work outside, including those who aren't paid for it. And when I'm at my job, I am not "mom." thank you very much. I am conducting business and whether I have a child is entirely irrelevant to anyone in the room or on the phone with me.


This is not a phrase but I hate it when people state that another person is jealous or upset just because they disagree. Some people just don't care about what you care about. Believe them when they tell you that.

[Anonymous]

Naughty chair. Time out spot.

They're no different than standing a kid in the corner but THAT's bad for their delicate psyches.

[Anonymous]

SAHM. When did housewives become SAHMs?

Our mothers were referred to as housewives and you still hear this term more commonly outside urban metro areas. Men, even in this area, tend to use the term housewife when talking about their wives who don't work still while the women have decided to call themselves SAHMs.

[Anonymous]

"Housewife" isn't any more accurate or descriptive than "stay-at-home mom." Plus, most women decide to stay home when they have children, to take care of the children, not because of their husband or the house... so "stay-at-home mom" seems more appropriate to me.

[Anonymous]

"I loved the seven month old with art projects too! I cite it to my parents when stating why I want to move away from the craziness that is raising a family in DC. "

What is the issue with the term art projects? My babies used to fingerpaint. I would hang the picture on the wall or the fridge. Their fingerpaintings were more visually appealing than MIL's oil paint by numbers she gives us every Christmas. Project seems appropriate. The activity has a start when I set it up and a hard stop when I clean up, which is a project on its own. We don't do random free form fingerpainting throughout the house.

What phrases are OK? Would it be better to say I need to get off the phone, Jimmy is developing his visual color recognition skills, tactile sensations, and fine motor skills by manipulating liquid washable pigments? Should I not look for fingerpaints under the art supply aisle at the store anymore? Or is OK to say art project since I don't use daycare?

[Anonymous]

If you believe that Jimmy, at seven months old, is actually trying to paint or create art rather than just smear around whatever you set in front of him, call it an art project.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
--gifted (for a preschool-aged child)
--SAHM. They don't actually stay at home but actually spend lots of time running around getting things done outside, and "mom" is what your kids call you, not what the rest of the world does
--WOHM. All parents work outside, including those who aren't paid for it. And when I'm at my job, I am not "mom." thank you very much. I am conducting business and whether I have a child is entirely irrelevant to anyone in the room or on the phone with me.

Please tell me this is a joke. The whole reason we have "work outside the home mom" is because people got their panties in a bunch over "working mom" (we ALL work!). When talking about parenting, it DOES matter if I spend my days in an office away from my children, as opposed to going to spending the whole day caring for them.

So what phrase DOESN'T offend your delicate sensibilities in making the distinction between those two categories?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Housewife" isn't any more accurate or descriptive than "stay-at-home mom." Plus, most women decide to stay home when they have children, to take care of the children, not because of their husband or the house... so "stay-at-home mom" seems more appropriate to me.

How much time do they spend taking care of the children when the children are in school and activities all day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Five yeard olds still sucking on the tit.

I find it annoying and distasteful when adult women think it's youthful and cool to be vulgar, especially in reference to children.

[Anonymous]

How much time do they spend taking care of the children when the children are in school and activities all day?

Probably a lot more time still than they spend taking care of their husband, who is probably at work... so why is the "wife" term more accurate than the "mom" one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I loved the seven month old with art projects too! I cite it to my parents when stating why I want to move away from the craziness that is raising a family in DC. "

What is the issue with the term art projects? My babies used to fingerpaint. I would hang the picture on the wall or the fridge. Their fingerpaintings were more visually appealing than MIL's oil paint by numbers she gives us every Christmas. Project seems appropriate. The activity has a start when I set it up and a hard stop when I clean up, which is a project on its own. We don't do random free form fingerpainting throughout the house.

What phrases are OK? Would it be better to say I need to get off the phone, Jimmy is developing his visual color recognition skills, tactile sensations, and fine motor skills by manipulating liquid washable pigments? Should I not look for fingerpaints under the art supply aisle at the store anymore? Or is OK to say art project since I don't use daycare?

I call it "playing with fingerpaint." Throwing out "developing his [fill in the blank] skills" only cements the fact that you don't get it.

[Anonymous]

The thing about referring to unmedicated childbirth as the only "natural" childbirth is that we don't do that with anything else. For example, one of my friends who is a very vocal "natural childbirth" advocate conceived after several cycles on Clomid. But nobody would ever say her pregnancy was "unnatural" just because she didn't ovulate naturally. I conceived my child without medication, but needed pitocin when my labor stalled, and then I got an epidural after that. I had to listen to my friend, the one with the "unnatural pregnancy" go on and on about how I shouldn't have agreed to the pitocin b/c one intervention leads to another and I could have had the natural childbirth I wanted if I had just waited it out, blah blah blah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing about referring to unmedicated childbirth as the only "natural" childbirth is that we don't do that with anything else. For example, one of my friends who is a very vocal "natural childbirth" advocate conceived after several cycles on Clomid. But nobody would ever say her pregnancy was "unnatural" just because she didn't ovulate naturally. I conceived my child without medication, but needed pitocin when my labor stalled, and then I got an epidural after that. I had to listen to my friend, the one with the "unnatural pregnancy" go on and on about how I shouldn't have agreed to the pitocin b/c one intervention leads to another and I could have had the natural childbirth I wanted if I had just waited it out, blah blah blah.

Well you should have just told her what you think of her unnatural pregnancy, since you were clearly thinking it silently the whole time. We DO do that with other things, like it or not. Natural parenting, (meaning cloth diapers, etc), natural alternatives to traditional (western) medicine, natural products (that don't have artificial chemicals, etc in them), etc. Natural means "of nature." Pitocin and an epidural are chemical reproductions of nature. There is a difference. While there may be a value judgment involved that may not be appropriate (I wouldn't want to listen to anyone drone on and on about what I *should* have done better / differently / etc during childbirth, either) that value judgment is not inextricably linked to the term natural.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I loved the seven month old with art projects too! I cite it to my parents when stating why I want to move away from the craziness that is raising a family in DC. "

What is the issue with the term art projects? My babies used to fingerpaint. I would hang the picture on the wall or the fridge. Their fingerpaintings were more visually appealing than MIL's oil paint by numbers she gives us every Christmas. Project seems appropriate. The activity has a start when I set it up and a hard stop when I clean up, which is a project on its own. We don't do random free form fingerpainting throughout the house.

What phrases are OK? Would it be better to say I need to get off the phone, Jimmy is developing his visual color recognition skills, tactile sensations, and fine motor skills by manipulating liquid washable pigments? Should I not look for fingerpaints under the art supply aisle at the store anymore? Or is OK to say art project since I don't use daycare?

I call it "playing with fingerpaint." Throwing out "developing his [fill in the blank] skills" only cements the fact that you don't get it.

Can I call it "art" if I do so ironically? Maybe I can use air quotes. I'll be sure not to let the child think he's done anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing about referring to unmedicated childbirth as the only "natural" childbirth is that we don't do that with anything else. For example, one of my friends who is a very vocal "natural childbirth" advocate conceived after several cycles on Clomid. But nobody would ever say her pregnancy was "unnatural" just because she didn't ovulate naturally. I conceived my child without medication, but needed pitocin when my labor stalled, and then I got an epidural after that. I had to listen to my friend, the one with the "unnatural pregnancy" go on and on about how I shouldn't have agreed to the pitocin b/c one intervention leads to another and I could have had the natural childbirth I wanted if I had just waited it out, blah blah blah.

I have determined that this is because it's just fine to use medical intervention to conceive, but not to deliver. Not to deny anyone their children conceived through any form of intervention. I just don't see why it's wonderful to use medicine to conceive but after that medical intervention of any kind is now being viewed as a horrible thing. Some of us need help to get pregnant but can deliver easily. You would think from some of the stories that the poor children almost fall out of the womb at delivery time. Others get pregnant at the drop of a hat (or a belt I suppose) but don't deliver as easily as others.