I am so sick of boy-mom sh*T

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.

That you don't know that baby girls are routinely KILLED in other parts of the world solely because they are girls is disgusting and shameful. Get off your privileged American high horse. JFC.

Yes, we are clearly discussing the use of #boymom by moms in rural India in this thread.

You know, you really aren't doing much to disprove the posters who called you crazy earlier.

That was a different PP, although I agree with her. Also, I could not care less what people with perspectives as pathetic as yours think of me.

And, hey, way to deflect from the bigger picture issues. That's what I despise most about the boymom thing: utter disregard for the continued privileged role that males hold in the world at large. Instead, it's all about them and their discomfort. Misogynist to the core.

DP. You've jumped the shark.

You don't care about statistics about boys graduating high school, getting college degrees, getting incarcerated or getting murdered. Because males hold privileged roles in the world at large. By all means, continue to rail at mothers of toddler boys.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.

That you don't know that baby girls are routinely KILLED in other parts of the world solely because they are girls is disgusting and shameful. Get off your privileged American high horse. JFC.

Yes, we are clearly discussing the use of #boymom by moms in rural India in this thread.

You know, you really aren't doing much to disprove the posters who called you crazy earlier.

That was a different PP, although I agree with her. Also, I could not care less what people with perspectives as pathetic as yours think of me.

And, hey, way to deflect from the bigger picture issues. That's what I despise most about the boymom thing: utter disregard for the continued privileged role that males hold in the world at large. Instead, it's all about them and their discomfort. Misogynist to the core.

DP. You've jumped the shark.

You don't care about statistics about boys graduating high school, getting college degrees, getting incarcerated or getting murdered. Because males hold privileged roles in the world at large. By all means, continue to rail at mothers of toddler boys.

Believe me, I care very much about those things. But it's telling, isn't it, that it's always the white moms throwing down the #boymom? You know, the ones whose sons are far less affected by everything you mentioned than are moms of color.

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Anonymous wrote:The belief and attitude from mothers of girls that women who use #boymom are secretly pining for girls is partly why the label became popular. Such misandry.

This was said earlier in the thread - it's because of the pity / meant in solidarity. The idea of misogyny is beyond ridiculous. WE ARE WOMEN YOU FOOLS!

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.

That you don't know that baby girls are routinely KILLED in other parts of the world solely because they are girls is disgusting and shameful. Get off your privileged American high horse. JFC.

Yes, we are clearly discussing the use of #boymom by moms in rural India in this thread.

You know, you really aren't doing much to disprove the posters who called you crazy earlier.

That was a different PP, although I agree with her. Also, I could not care less what people with perspectives as pathetic as yours think of me.

And, hey, way to deflect from the bigger picture issues. That's what I despise most about the boymom thing: utter disregard for the continued privileged role that males hold in the world at large. Instead, it's all about them and their discomfort. Misogynist to the core.

DP. You've jumped the shark.

You don't care about statistics about boys graduating high school, getting college degrees, getting incarcerated or getting murdered. Because males hold privileged roles in the world at large. By all means, continue to rail at mothers of toddler boys.

Suuuuuuure that's a different poster - ha!

She's 100% jumped the shark.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.

That you don't know that baby girls are routinely KILLED in other parts of the world solely because they are girls is disgusting and shameful. Get off your privileged American high horse. JFC.

Yes, we are clearly discussing the use of #boymom by moms in rural India in this thread.

You know, you really aren't doing much to disprove the posters who called you crazy earlier.

That was a different PP, although I agree with her. Also, I could not care less what people with perspectives as pathetic as yours think of me.

And, hey, way to deflect from the bigger picture issues. That's what I despise most about the boymom thing: utter disregard for the continued privileged role that males hold in the world at large. Instead, it's all about them and their discomfort. Misogynist to the core.

DP. You've jumped the shark.

You don't care about statistics about boys graduating high school, getting college degrees, getting incarcerated or getting murdered. Because males hold privileged roles in the world at large. By all means, continue to rail at mothers of toddler boys.

Believe me, I care very much about those things. But it's telling, isn't it, that it's always the white moms throwing down the #boymom? You know, the ones whose sons are far less affected by everything you mentioned than are moms of color.

So first it’s mothers of boys you have problems with. Now it’s white women? You can’t presume to know what everyone is thinking. Are mothers of boys supposed to ignore their children because of misogyny? You clearly have issues, but I don’t think even you know what exactly those issues are.

-POC with 2 sons

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.

That you don't know that baby girls are routinely KILLED in other parts of the world solely because they are girls is disgusting and shameful. Get off your privileged American high horse. JFC.

Yes, we are clearly discussing the use of #boymom by moms in rural India in this thread.

You know, you really aren't doing much to disprove the posters who called you crazy earlier.

That was a different PP, although I agree with her. Also, I could not care less what people with perspectives as pathetic as yours think of me.

And, hey, way to deflect from the bigger picture issues. That's what I despise most about the boymom thing: utter disregard for the continued privileged role that males hold in the world at large. Instead, it's all about them and their discomfort. Misogynist to the core.

DP. You've jumped the shark.

You don't care about statistics about boys graduating high school, getting college degrees, getting incarcerated or getting murdered. Because males hold privileged roles in the world at large. By all means, continue to rail at mothers of toddler boys.

Believe me, I care very much about those things. But it's telling, isn't it, that it's always the white moms throwing down the #boymom? You know, the ones whose sons are far less affected by everything you mentioned than are moms of color.

DP. You know, I've always wondered about those women who do not care at all about how little boys are slaughtered worldwide for the crime of being boys. Never thought I'd meet one In person, yet here you are. It's telling that you immediately jump to deaths of little girls in rural countries while ignoring the higher death rate of little boys in large parts of the world. Look at relative death rates in Iraq, for instance. Branch out to Bosnia if you want somewhere in Europe. But frankly, I don't think you care about those murdered little boys at all.


This thread has convinced me the #boymoms should just go on doing what they are doing by celebrating their boys and I thought the label was just dumb before.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.

That you don't know that baby girls are routinely KILLED in other parts of the world solely because they are girls is disgusting and shameful. Get off your privileged American high horse. JFC.

Yes, we are clearly discussing the use of #boymom by moms in rural India in this thread.

You know, you really aren't doing much to disprove the posters who called you crazy earlier.

That was a different PP, although I agree with her. Also, I could not care less what people with perspectives as pathetic as yours think of me.

And, hey, way to deflect from the bigger picture issues. That's what I despise most about the boymom thing: utter disregard for the continued privileged role that males hold in the world at large. Instead, it's all about them and their discomfort. Misogynist to the core.

DP. You've jumped the shark.

You don't care about statistics about boys graduating high school, getting college degrees, getting incarcerated or getting murdered. Because males hold privileged roles in the world at large. By all means, continue to rail at mothers of toddler boys.

Believe me, I care very much about those things. But it's telling, isn't it, that it's always the white moms throwing down the #boymom? You know, the ones whose sons are far less affected by everything you mentioned than are moms of color.

So first it’s mothers of boys you have problems with. Now it’s white women? You can’t presume to know what everyone is thinking. Are mothers of boys supposed to ignore their children because of misogyny? You clearly have issues, but I don’t think even you know what exactly those issues are.

-POC with 2 sons

I think she is literally crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.

That you don't know that baby girls are routinely KILLED in other parts of the world solely because they are girls is disgusting and shameful. Get off your privileged American high horse. JFC.

Yes, we are clearly discussing the use of #boymom by moms in rural India in this thread.

You know, you really aren't doing much to disprove the posters who called you crazy earlier.

That was a different PP, although I agree with her. Also, I could not care less what people with perspectives as pathetic as yours think of me.

And, hey, way to deflect from the bigger picture issues. That's what I despise most about the boymom thing: utter disregard for the continued privileged role that males hold in the world at large. Instead, it's all about them and their discomfort. Misogynist to the core.

DP. You've jumped the shark.

You don't care about statistics about boys graduating high school, getting college degrees, getting incarcerated or getting murdered. Because males hold privileged roles in the world at large. By all means, continue to rail at mothers of toddler boys.

Believe me, I care very much about those things. But it's telling, isn't it, that it's always the white moms throwing down the #boymom? You know, the ones whose sons are far less affected by everything you mentioned than are moms of color.

So first it’s mothers of boys you have problems with. Now it’s white women? You can’t presume to know what everyone is thinking. Are mothers of boys supposed to ignore their children because of misogyny? You clearly have issues, but I don’t think even you know what exactly those issues are.

-POC with 2 sons

I have two boys, and I have no problems with mothers of boys. I disagree with people who insist that (1) all children of the same gender are the same and (2) (privileged) boys are the true victims of society. IME, self-described "boymoms" tend to believe both.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.

That you don't know that baby girls are routinely KILLED in other parts of the world solely because they are girls is disgusting and shameful. Get off your privileged American high horse. JFC.

Yes, we are clearly discussing the use of #boymom by moms in rural India in this thread.

You know, you really aren't doing much to disprove the posters who called you crazy earlier.

That was a different PP, although I agree with her. Also, I could not care less what people with perspectives as pathetic as yours think of me.

And, hey, way to deflect from the bigger picture issues. That's what I despise most about the boymom thing: utter disregard for the continued privileged role that males hold in the world at large. Instead, it's all about them and their discomfort. Misogynist to the core.

DP. You've jumped the shark.

You don't care about statistics about boys graduating high school, getting college degrees, getting incarcerated or getting murdered. Because males hold privileged roles in the world at large. By all means, continue to rail at mothers of toddler boys.

Believe me, I care very much about those things. But it's telling, isn't it, that it's always the white moms throwing down the #boymom? You know, the ones whose sons are far less affected by everything you mentioned than are moms of color.

So first it’s mothers of boys you have problems with. Now it’s white women? You can’t presume to know what everyone is thinking. Are mothers of boys supposed to ignore their children because of misogyny? You clearly have issues, but I don’t think even you know what exactly those issues are.

-POC with 2 sons

I have two boys, and I have no problems with mothers of boys. I disagree with people who insist that (1) all children of the same gender are the same and (2) (privileged) boys are the true victims of society. IME, self-described "boymoms" tend to believe both.

Man, you are judgmental and nasty. Maybe they are just happy to have boys. Maybe their MIL is giving them hell about not producing a girl. Maybe they've had a bad day and want to be happy for a few minutes (not that you'd know what that's like).

Of course you probably also hate women who dress their girls in dresses, who are in love with their husbands, or who are happy in general, so just add boymoms to the list, I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:Look people-don’t be stupid. #boymom is used to keep our sanity in a world where moms of boys deal with constant pressure to make their boys “behave”, “reign it in”, or whatever. Things like personal hygiene, table manners, indoor voices, are just not as easy to teach to boys as it is to the *majority* of little girls, of course there are exceptions. But you just don’t need to exercise little girls like you need little boys.

I have mom friends with just boys and we literally text each other things like, “hey-I’m heading to the park to run the boys, want to join?”

“RUN the boys”

#boymom

Boymom, you sound really, really stupid. I think you might have already lost your sanity. Maybe treat your child as a human and not a wildebeest?

This is why "boy moms" no longer hang out with girl moms... our kids are just acting normal and we are called bad moms and our kids are characterized as wildebeasts.

It's no different than girls wearing 1 inch shorts and people say "who is the parent" like seeing a girls leg is some horror.

Boys moms are not raising rapist they just don't give a crap if the boys want to wrestle, burp and make fart jokes. I don't give a sh*t.

No, you're treating your own kids like wildebeests, not anyone else. The more you say they can't learn basic manners, the more you're underestimating their own capacity.

Your false equivalencies are also stupid. I don't care what your children wear or if they play wrestle with each other, as long as they are trying to be considerate of other people.

I have a boy, so please stop thinking that people who disagree with you are "girl moms."

It's true mom's of non-traditional boys have the biggest chip on their shoulder.

You tell yourself "I'm a better mom" to hide behind the fact their H's wish your boys was "more sporty".

Our boys are not your problem, your inability to accept your boys is the problem.

I'm the OP and I think this is the first post to which I've replied since page 1. You are EXACTLY the TWAT #boymom that this post was directed towards. You think because my son doesn't act like a little a-hole, that he's not or traditional or normal or good enough. YOU make other moms feel like they've failed, or their son is a failure. So, you are the catalyst for this entire rant. Thank you for hurting little boys. Thank you for causing discontentment between husbands and wives. Thank you for making moms feel less than. I'm giving you a lot of credit, but I'm guessing it's probably the only credit you receive.

I haven't read further replies, and I really hope someone more intelligent and less emotional than me responds to really make you understand what a disservice you're doing to the world.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners.
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet.

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not. Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable. But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?" It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me. But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.

That you don't know that baby girls are routinely KILLED in other parts of the world solely because they are girls is disgusting and shameful. Get off your privileged American high horse. JFC.

Yes, we are clearly discussing the use of #boymom by moms in rural India in this thread.

You know, you really aren't doing much to disprove the posters who called you crazy earlier.

That was a different PP, although I agree with her. Also, I could not care less what people with perspectives as pathetic as yours think of me.

And, hey, way to deflect from the bigger picture issues. That's what I despise most about the boymom thing: utter disregard for the continued privileged role that males hold in the world at large. Instead, it's all about them and their discomfort. Misogynist to the core.

DP. You've jumped the shark.

You don't care about statistics about boys graduating high school, getting college degrees, getting incarcerated or getting murdered. Because males hold privileged roles in the world at large. By all means, continue to rail at mothers of toddler boys.

Believe me, I care very much about those things. But it's telling, isn't it, that it's always the white moms throwing down the #boymom? You know, the ones whose sons are far less affected by everything you mentioned than are moms of color.

So first it’s mothers of boys you have problems with. Now it’s white women? You can’t presume to know what everyone is thinking. Are mothers of boys supposed to ignore their children because of misogyny? You clearly have issues, but I don’t think even you know what exactly those issues are.

-POC with 2 sons

I have two boys, and I have no problems with mothers of boys. I disagree with people who insist that (1) all children of the same gender are the same and (2) (privileged) boys are the true victims of society. IME, self-described "boymoms" tend to believe both.

Man, you are judgmental and nasty. Maybe they are just happy to have boys. Maybe their MIL is giving them hell about not producing a girl. Maybe they've had a bad day and want to be happy for a few minutes (not that you'd know what that's like).

Of course you probably also hate women who dress their girls in dresses, who are in love with their husbands, or who are happy in general, so just add boymoms to the list, I guess.

I'll take being occasionally judgmental over having zero judgment. But, please, keep on with your assumptions.

OP: solidarity.

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Anonymous wrote:Look people-don’t be stupid. #boymom is used to keep our sanity in a world where moms of boys deal with constant pressure to make their boys “behave”, “reign it in”, or whatever. Things like personal hygiene, table manners, indoor voices, are just not as easy to teach to boys as it is to the *majority* of little girls, of course there are exceptions. But you just don’t need to exercise little girls like you need little boys.

I have mom friends with just boys and we literally text each other things like, “hey-I’m heading to the park to run the boys, want to join?”

“RUN the boys”

#boymom

Boymom, you sound really, really stupid. I think you might have already lost your sanity. Maybe treat your child as a human and not a wildebeest?

This is why "boy moms" no longer hang out with girl moms... our kids are just acting normal and we are called bad moms and our kids are characterized as wildebeasts.

It's no different than girls wearing 1 inch shorts and people say "who is the parent" like seeing a girls leg is some horror.

Boys moms are not raising rapist they just don't give a crap if the boys want to wrestle, burp and make fart jokes. I don't give a sh*t.

No, you're treating your own kids like wildebeests, not anyone else. The more you say they can't learn basic manners, the more you're underestimating their own capacity.

Your false equivalencies are also stupid. I don't care what your children wear or if they play wrestle with each other, as long as they are trying to be considerate of other people.

I have a boy, so please stop thinking that people who disagree with you are "girl moms."

It's true mom's of non-traditional boys have the biggest chip on their shoulder.

You tell yourself "I'm a better mom" to hide behind the fact their H's wish your boys was "more sporty".

Our boys are not your problem, your inability to accept your boys is the problem.

I'm the OP and I think this is the first post to which I've replied since page 1. You are EXACTLY the TWAT #boymom that this post was directed towards. You think because my son doesn't act like a little a-hole, that he's not or traditional or normal or good enough. YOU make other moms feel like they've failed, or their son is a failure. So, you are the catalyst for this entire rant. Thank you for hurting little boys. Thank you for causing discontentment between husbands and wives. Thank you for making moms feel less than. I'm giving you a lot of credit, but I'm guessing it's probably the only credit you receive.

I haven't read further replies, and I really hope someone more intelligent and less emotional than me responds to really make you understand what a disservice you're doing to the world.

Mostly this thread has convinced me that people who care this deeply about the use of #boymom are unstable misandrists who should be avoided.

Signed,

Never used #boymom in my life

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Anonymous wrote:Look people-don’t be stupid. #boymom is used to keep our sanity in a world where moms of boys deal with constant pressure to make their boys “behave”, “reign it in”, or whatever. Things like personal hygiene, table manners, indoor voices, are just not as easy to teach to boys as it is to the *majority* of little girls, of course there are exceptions. But you just don’t need to exercise little girls like you need little boys.

I have mom friends with just boys and we literally text each other things like, “hey-I’m heading to the park to run the boys, want to join?”

“RUN the boys”

#boymom

Boymom, you sound really, really stupid. I think you might have already lost your sanity. Maybe treat your child as a human and not a wildebeest?

This is why "boy moms" no longer hang out with girl moms... our kids are just acting normal and we are called bad moms and our kids are characterized as wildebeasts.

It's no different than girls wearing 1 inch shorts and people say "who is the parent" like seeing a girls leg is some horror.

Boys moms are not raising rapist they just don't give a crap if the boys want to wrestle, burp and make fart jokes. I don't give a sh*t.

No, you're treating your own kids like wildebeests, not anyone else. The more you say they can't learn basic manners, the more you're underestimating their own capacity.

Your false equivalencies are also stupid. I don't care what your children wear or if they play wrestle with each other, as long as they are trying to be considerate of other people.

I have a boy, so please stop thinking that people who disagree with you are "girl moms."

It's true mom's of non-traditional boys have the biggest chip on their shoulder.

You tell yourself "I'm a better mom" to hide behind the fact their H's wish your boys was "more sporty".

Our boys are not your problem, your inability to accept your boys is the problem.

I'm the OP and I think this is the first post to which I've replied since page 1. You are EXACTLY the TWAT #boymom that this post was directed towards. You think because my son doesn't act like a little a-hole, that he's not or traditional or normal or good enough. YOU make other moms feel like they've failed, or their son is a failure. So, you are the catalyst for this entire rant. Thank you for hurting little boys. Thank you for causing discontentment between husbands and wives. Thank you for making moms feel less than. I'm giving you a lot of credit, but I'm guessing it's probably the only credit you receive.

I haven't read further replies, and I really hope someone more intelligent and less emotional than me responds to really make you understand what a disservice you're doing to the world.

Mostly this thread has convinced me that people who care this deeply about the use of #boymom are unstable misandrists who should be avoided.

Signed,

Never used #boymom in my life

since you've never used it, you're not a #boymom - do you not understand that?

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Anonymous wrote:Please.. someone explain what a boy-mom is?

A mom who only has boys and is always surrounded by boys.

Pretty much once you have boys moms of girls dump you because your kids are too crazy and you find yourself with friends that are moms of boys.

This is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. I have two girls. My best friend has two boys. We spend tons of time together with all of our kids. Our friendship has not suffered one bit due to our childrens' genders.

Glad for you. But for me it has been different. Boys wrestle and throw balls and creek and do lots of thing the majority of girls don't like. I know 2 girls that like it, one probably just tolerates it.

As our friends group evolves, the girls gravitated towards other activities... and eventually all was left was moms with just boys.

I'm the PP. Beyond my best friend, our neighborhood is a split of boys and girls. Some families have two of the same, some have one of each, some have only one. Everyone gets along and plays well together. My two girls (and the others as well), wrestle and throw balls with the boys. And the boys paint and play imaginary games with the girls. It makes me wonder exactly what "crazy" behavior on your boys' part you just excuse away. Perhaps all the boys I know have parents that don't make excuses for bad behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:Look people-don’t be stupid. #boymom is used to keep our sanity in a world where moms of boys deal with constant pressure to make their boys “behave”, “reign it in”, or whatever. Things like personal hygiene, table manners, indoor voices, are just not as easy to teach to boys as it is to the *majority* of little girls, of course there are exceptions. But you just don’t need to exercise little girls like you need little boys.

I have mom friends with just boys and we literally text each other things like, “hey-I’m heading to the park to run the boys, want to join?”

“RUN the boys”

#boymom

We run our two girls all the time. Literally all the time. They're in gymnastics and CrossFit and swimming and they need constant action. We throw the ball for our dog and make them see if they can beat him to it. Are you really so dense as to think that girls aren't like that? THAT is what is so annoying about boymom. Well, that and the ever-present excuse for your boys' behavior.