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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend has four boys and she’ll #boymom on occasion. It’s meant to be lighthearted, and those boys have excellent manners. 
She is absolutely desperate for a girl. They are considering IVF for gender selection. I suspect most of the #boymoms are deeply longing for girls, so we should be kind.[/quote]

I don't know one #boymom that wished for a girl.. especially once middle school hits.

It's like missing a bullet. [/quote]

Yep. They are all a little sad about not getting a girl. It’s not a mystery. Also, I’m not sure what world you guys a living in where middle school boys are a breeze. Silly stuff.[/quote]

I have all boys and have never used the phrase BOYMOM in my life prior to this post, but the fact that you and other posters have apparently decided that moms of boys must be sad about not having girls makes me want to cheer on the people who use it. Honestly the only time I ever think about having all boys is when some all girl mom asks me in a fake tone of sympathy whether I am going "try for a girl." It's so obnoxious.[/quote]

DP, but if you don't self-identify as a #boymom, then this thread isn't directed at you, whether you have all boys or not.  Plenty of moms of only boys love having boys, don't call themselves boymoms, and are reasonable.  But seriously, have you not heard of people asking moms of all girls whether they're going to "try for a boy?"  It goes both ways.

Why women who don't have daughters think they're qualified to opine on how different it is than raising sons is beyond me.  But I'm sick of the laziness at best and misogyny at worst that #boymom represents.[/quote]

I'm PP and in my friend group, the difference in how moms of all girls are treated with respect to having a boy is different enough from what happens to the all boy moms that we've talked about it. All (and I mean every single boy mom) has has multiple encounters like I have, the syrupy-sweet fake pity for not having girls from girl moms. It happens the other way, but rarely.

This is born out in surveys, by the way. Americans prefer baby girls in general. [b]Sex selection is done more often for girls. It is a thing, and you pretending it doesn't happen is obnoxious.[/b]

I will also say that I had never thought much about BOYMOM before this thread but the reaction of you and other posters like you makes me want to cheer them on.[/quote]

That you don't know that baby girls are routinely KILLED in other parts of the world solely because they are girls is disgusting and shameful.  Get off your privileged American high horse.  JFC.[/quote]

Yes, we are clearly discussing the use of #boymom by moms in rural India in this thread.  :roll:

You know, you really aren't doing much to disprove the posters who called you crazy earlier.[/quote]

That was a different PP, although I agree with her.  Also, I could not care less what people with perspectives as pathetic as yours think of me.

And, hey, way to deflect from the bigger picture issues.  That's what I despise most about the boymom thing: utter disregard for the continued privileged role that males hold in the world at large.  Instead, it's all about them and their discomfort.  Misogynist to the core.[/quote]

DP.  You've jumped the shark.

You don't care about statistics about boys graduating high school, getting college degrees, getting incarcerated or getting murdered.  Because males hold privileged roles in the world at large.  By all means, continue to rail at mothers of toddler boys.  [/quote]

Believe me, I care very much about those things.  But it's telling, isn't it, that it's always the white moms throwing down the #boymom?  You know, the ones whose sons are far less affected by everything you mentioned than are moms of color.  [/quote]

So first it’s mothers of boys you have problems with.  Now it’s white women? You can’t presume to know what everyone is thinking. Are mothers of boys supposed to ignore their children because of misogyny? You clearly have issues, but I don’t think even you know what exactly those issues are.

-POC with 2 sons[/quote]

I have two boys, and I have no problems with mothers of boys.  I disagree with people who insist that (1) all children of the same gender are the same and (2) (privileged) boys are the true victims of society.  IME, self-described "boymoms" tend to believe both.[/quote]

Man, you are judgmental and nasty. Maybe they are just happy to have boys. Maybe their MIL is giving them hell about not producing a girl. Maybe they've had a bad day and want to be happy for a few minutes (not that you'd know what that's like).

Of course you probably also hate women who dress their girls in dresses, who are in love with their husbands, or who are happy in general, so just add boymoms to the list, I guess.

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I'll take being occasionally judgmental over having zero judgment.  But, please, keep on with your assumptions.

OP: solidarity.[/quote]

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