My son brought a friend on vacation

[Anonymous]

Maybe your son was trying to annoy you.

Let it go. It’s vacation. Don’t let your reaction to his actions ruin it for you.

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A 19 year old is more than capable of cooking for himself/herself and cleaning up after cooking. You shouldn't be making the meals for everyone, it's your vacation as well. Everyone should take turns preparing meals and cleaning up during the vacation.

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Anonymous wrote:Good god it's still going on?? I 100% stand by my glutton comment. We had our last dinner out last night. He ordered a fish special and eyed my son's plate like a vulture and the SECOND my son took a break from eating he asked "YOU'RE DONE!?" My son said no and kept eating. When he DID finish and place his napkin in his plate to clean up the friend barked at him "HUSHPUPPIES!!!" and snatched them off the plate.

We ordered an appetizer and what does he do? Grab the dipping sauce it came with, pulled it right over to himself and started eating directly over it dipping each bite.

We brought in shells from the balcony and my son asked what to do with them. I said the younger girls would want them. This a**hole went over and TOOK ALL THE GOOD ONES OUT FOR HIMSELF. I saw him looking but didn't realize til this morning that he had actually taken them.

He is the absolute WORST guest we have ever brought on a trip for any of my kids. Ever. Never thanked us for a thing. Just consumed consumed whined and consumed. I'm so pissed I had to spend my vacation with him and I'm pissed my son even invited him knowing he's like this.

This thread has been entertaining for the past couple days but now I’m calling troll. No 19 year old man wants to keep shells from the beach.

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Anonymous wrote:Good god it's still going on?? I 100% stand by my glutton comment. We had our last dinner out last night. He ordered a fish special and eyed my son's plate like a vulture and the SECOND my son took a break from eating he asked "YOU'RE DONE!?" My son said no and kept eating. When he DID finish and place his napkin in his plate to clean up the friend barked at him "HUSHPUPPIES!!!" and snatched them off the plate.

We ordered an appetizer and what does he do? Grab the dipping sauce it came with, pulled it right over to himself and started eating directly over it dipping each bite.

We brought in shells from the balcony and my son asked what to do with them. I said the younger girls would want them. This a**hole went over and TOOK ALL THE GOOD ONES OUT FOR HIMSELF. I saw him looking but didn't realize til this morning that he had actually taken them.

He is the absolute WORST guest we have ever brought on a trip for any of my kids. Ever. Never thanked us for a thing. Just consumed consumed whined and consumed. I'm so pissed I had to spend my vacation with him and I'm pissed my son even invited him knowing he's like this.

This thread has been entertaining for the past couple days but now I’m calling troll. No 19 year old man wants to keep shells from the beach.

You would think, huh? I too was surprised. But no, I am not making it up. He is THAT preposterous and greedy.

[Anonymous]

Sorry your vacation was ruined, OP. He sounds absolutely horrendous. If there is anymore follow-up (will the parents reach out to thank you? Reimburse you? How bad will the car ride going home be?) please let us know!

You have my sympathies. I guess this friendship is over?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry your vacation was ruined, OP. He sounds absolutely horrendous. If there is anymore follow-up (will the parents reach out to thank you? Reimburse you? How bad will the car ride going home be?) please let us know!

You have my sympathies. I guess this friendship is over?

Nah, my son is freakishly easygoing and evidently isn't bothered by a lot of this. Even if something annoys him he can shake it off. They will stay friends. He's just never, ever invited to go anywhere with us ever again.

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Oh and the boys are driving home in my son's car so I am free and don't have to deal with him anymore now.

[Anonymous]

Ok parents....is your DS returning from a beach trip today with a friend?

With seashells? (The good ones of course)

If so, debrief and please give us the other side

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Anonymous wrote:Ok parents....is your DS returning from a beach trip today with a friend?

With seashells? (The good ones of course)

If so, debrief and please give us the other side

OMG!!! best post of the thread!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm team OP.

I generally discourage my kids from being friends with those that are very overweight or downright obese.

I can't stand being around anyone who is that food-centric. They suck the fun out of things. My SIL is obese and only ever wants to eat at restaurants where you "get your money's worth" instead of nicer places. We went to a nice prix fixe meal for my MIL's bday in May and all SIL did was complain about portion sizes. "TWO SHRIMP? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?" It was a 8 course meal and everyone else got full except for her, who kept complaining and then went to McDonald's on the way back to MIL's house for cake.

I also grew up with an overweight sister who refused to wear a bathing suit in public, so until I was old enough to go to the pool on my own or I found a friend's parent to take me, I didn't get to go swimming because my mom didn't think it was right to make her sit on the side or stay home alone. No beach trips either. No water park trips. When we went to a theme park, any ride that she may not have fit on, we didn't even attempt to ride for fear that she might be singled out and made to get off the ride in front of everyone. Instead of trying to help her lose weight, everyone just catered to her. Even she admitted this when she was older and finally lost the weight as an adult. She said she wished our parents had been more strict with her instead of bending over backward to accommodate her.

Wow. You are.... Wow. You have issues.

Now, instead of "obese" let's put in disabled. Imagine being friends with someone in a wheelchair, someone who's blind, deaf, etc. Imagine how it would cramp your style.

Not the PP but my mom was like this. She thought if we had unhealthy, fat friends then we’d learn their habits. She also didn’t want us to be friends with the handicap kids for fear others would perceive us as slow.

What’s even sadder is my mom was a doctor. I’m 100% sure she probably fat shamed her patients. Somehow I didn’t grow up with any food issues but looking back it’s seriously a miracle.

You think these people don’t exist but they do. Sooooo crazy!

[Anonymous]

My cheapskate dad always taught me to order the most expensive thing on menu when someone else was footing th bill. Maybe his parents were the same idiotic way.

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Anonymous wrote:My cheapskate dad always taught me to order the most expensive thing on menu when someone else was footing th bill. Maybe his parents were the same idiotic way.

Did he teach you to pilfer through kids' nets and purloin the spiral seashells too? Lol

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Anonymous wrote:My cheapskate dad always taught me to order the most expensive thing on menu when someone else was footing th bill. Maybe his parents were the same idiotic way.

Did he teach you to pilfer through kids' nets and purloin the spiral seashells too? Lol

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Anonymous wrote:Good god it's still going on?? I 100% stand by my glutton comment. We had our last dinner out last night. He ordered a fish special and eyed my son's plate like a vulture and the SECOND my son took a break from eating he asked "YOU'RE DONE!?" My son said no and kept eating. When he DID finish and place his napkin in his plate to clean up the friend barked at him "HUSHPUPPIES!!!" and snatched them off the plate.

We ordered an appetizer and what does he do? Grab the dipping sauce it came with, pulled it right over to himself and started eating directly over it dipping each bite.

We brought in shells from the balcony and my son asked what to do with them. I said the younger girls would want them. This a**hole went over and TOOK ALL THE GOOD ONES OUT FOR HIMSELF. I saw him looking but didn't realize til this morning that he had actually taken them.

He is the absolute WORST guest we have ever brought on a trip for any of my kids. Ever. Never thanked us for a thing. Just consumed consumed whined and consumed. I'm so pissed I had to spend my vacation with him and I'm pissed my son even invited him knowing he's like this.

Next time do not invite a kid that you clearly Do Not Know. This was your family vacation for goodness sake.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??

Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.

He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.

Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.

Spaghetti should be on a plate.

Team Bowl. With a few red pepper flakes and a little bit of Parmesan. Twirl on a fork. DO NOT CUT.