Current 8th graders at NCS, applying out for 9th?

[Anonymous]

Middle school is rarely pleasant anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has not been our experience, but I guess each class is different.
Not creepy at all to ask friends to write letters for other friends and to get them together by hosting them along with their children, not a big deal.

If the girls aren't friends and they're being clumped together because they belong to an exclusive country club – that seems odd to me as well and the fact that you think that's normal may be part of the problem…

This. I worry that this is going to happen in our lower school grade because several families are really working it hard to join one club and their actions are so transparent. The grade feel will be ruined...

[Anonymous]

Let me help you here: If you're going to a private, any private not just NCS for anything other than the education maybe you should rethink spending the money. If you're looking for an air of exclusivity or move into a neighborhood, drive a car, wear certain clothes, or join a club because you feel as if they make you morally superior you need some help.

I'll bet not so long ago you lived in a small house or had an upbringing that was less than Lux and now you want to act as if you were raised at the Four Seasons. Perhaps you didn't have a passport until you were in your 20s and the first trip you took abroad was some down at the heals less than extravagant trip to Europe where you lived on coffee and cheap pastries? I'm correct aren't I?

Anyway, you got lucky. You made some coin. Did you start the company or do you happen to have an in demand skill or perhaps a friend pulled you along in his wake or maybe you were just in the right place at the right time? Or maybe you got to that school and worked your a@@ off? Good for you.
Not everyone had your support and very few of us are self-made.

Point? Make sure everyone at your school is included in your thoughts. Reach out to that family on FA. Invite their kid, your kid is on their sports team to the beach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me help you here: If you're going to a private, any private not just NCS for anything other than the education maybe you should rethink spending the money. If you're looking for an air of exclusivity or move into a neighborhood, drive a car, wear certain clothes, or join a club because you feel as if they make you morally superior you need some help.

I'll bet not so long ago you lived in a small house or had an upbringing that was less than Lux and now you want to act as if you were raised at the Four Seasons. Perhaps you didn't have a passport until you were in your 20s and the first trip you took abroad was some down at the heals less than extravagant trip to Europe where you lived on coffee and cheap pastries? I'm correct aren't I?

Anyway, you got lucky. You made some coin. Did you start the company or do you happen to have an in demand skill or perhaps a friend pulled you along in his wake or maybe you were just in the right place at the right time? Or maybe you got to that school and worked your a@@ off? Good for you.
Not everyone had your support and very few of us are self-made.

Point? Make sure everyone at your school is included in your thoughts. Reach out to that family on FA. Invite their kid, your kid is on their sports team to the beach.

Huh? Very odd post.

[Anonymous]

Meaning the problem isn't the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meaning the problem isn't the school.

Yes, but PP hits the nail on the head about the types of people causing the problems and the schools don't address it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me help you here: If you're going to a private, any private not just NCS for anything other than the education maybe you should rethink spending the money. If you're looking for an air of exclusivity or move into a neighborhood, drive a car, wear certain clothes, or join a club because you feel as if they make you morally superior you need some help.

I'll bet not so long ago you lived in a small house or had an upbringing that was less than Lux and now you want to act as if you were raised at the Four Seasons. Perhaps you didn't have a passport until you were in your 20s and the first trip you took abroad was some down at the heals less than extravagant trip to Europe where you lived on coffee and cheap pastries? I'm correct aren't I?

Anyway, you got lucky. You made some coin. Did you start the company or do you happen to have an in demand skill or perhaps a friend pulled you along in his wake or maybe you were just in the right place at the right time? Or maybe you got to that school and worked your a@@ off? Good for you.
Not everyone had your support and very few of us are self-made.

Point? Make sure everyone at your school is included in your thoughts. Reach out to that family on FA. Invite their kid, your kid is on their sports team to the beach.

Is this about the 8th grade?

[Anonymous]

If it isn't fundraising related, the problem won't be addressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meaning the problem isn't the school.

Yes, but PP hits the nail on the head about the types of people causing the problems and the schools don't address it.

the problem IS the school and their complete lack of addressing what many, many, many parents have been telling them is a major problem. parents there and parents elsewhere. some of the problem girls are staying and some are leaving. the parents of girls coming into the 9th grade this fall deserve to know this!!!!!!! if you are a parent of an incoming freshman, please call the school and ask them if there is anything you should know about bullying in the classroom. call today!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meaning the problem isn't the school.

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Yes, but PP hits the nail on the head about the types of people causing the problems and the schools don't address it.

Ooh just heard a few of these same types of cliquey moms are coming in next year in the lower school... I thought they were going to holton...

[Anonymous]

To the lower school? Which grade? And, how do you know?

[Anonymous]

Do you think the school leadership and admissions office people have a natural affinity towards the kind of parents whose kids bully others? Or they have similar girls themselves? Just wondering why they don't want to address this issue.

[Anonymous]

They don't address it because the problems are systemic and would be a lot of work. Why make changes when the school can rest upon an earlier reputation? Families in the middle school will find new challenges in Upper School. Same kinds of issues, just older girls. Really, the school needs new management.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me help you here: If you're going to a private, any private not just NCS for anything other than the education maybe you should rethink spending the money. If you're looking for an air of exclusivity or move into a neighborhood, drive a car, wear certain clothes, or join a club because you feel as if they make you morally superior you need some help.

I'll bet not so long ago you lived in a small house or had an upbringing that was less than Lux and now you want to act as if you were raised at the Four Seasons. Perhaps you didn't have a passport until you were in your 20s and the first trip you took abroad was some down at the heals less than extravagant trip to Europe where you lived on coffee and cheap pastries? I'm correct aren't I?

Anyway, you got lucky. You made some coin. Did you start the company or do you happen to have an in demand skill or perhaps a friend pulled you along in his wake or maybe you were just in the right place at the right time? Or maybe you got to that school and worked your a@@ off? Good for you.
Not everyone had your support and very few of us are self-made.

Point? Make sure everyone at your school is included in your thoughts. Reach out to that family on FA. Invite their kid, your kid is on their sports team to the beach.

What does any of this have to do with this thread about 8th grade?

[Anonymous]

The statement that the school chooses not to address the issues is ludicrous. Just as is happening in every school across the country, there is both a learning curve and difficulty navigating how schools should/can deal with behavior that doesn't happen AT school. The insinuation that the school somehow attracts and or allows bullying behavior is an ignorant thing to say. These kids came from other schools and go to other schools. They're at ALL the area schools. There just seems to be a thing in this area where some people find comfort in finding and bashing a common enemy- the Cathedral schools. Sounds a little like bullying to me ... smh