women who don't work or raise kids

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Anonymous wrote:What I want to know is how long these stay at home wives have been doing this? I assume the DH is expecting them to become SAHM's. I have no beefs with SAHM for the record. I do wonder if the husband would one day give an ultimatum to have children or get to work. I also wonder what happens if these women find they can't have children. Would that impact the relationship any differently than say a wife that is working a full-time job?

This is our situation and we're facing unexplained infertility. DH would never give me an ultimatum but I have started to think about what the rest of my life will look like if kids aren't an option for us. Heartbreaking, scary, and super exciting all at the same time because the future is wide open.

How about extremely boring? If you don't adopt (a great option), I'd think you'd want to follow some sort of professional pursuit to break up the day? No? Wow, I cannot identify with the lot of you. At ALL.

Umm, I'm the pp and you may have misunderstood my post. The point is that without children (we won't adopt), I'm free to embark on any career I want.

Not the PP, but oh, I too read, "the future is wide open," as, "I can do so many things at home: go to museums, take classes, read, work on myself,' not as embark on a career.

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Umm, I'm the pp and you may have misunderstood my post. The point is that without children (we won't adopt), I'm free to embark on any career I want.

My bad. And I really do hope things work out on the TTC front. But if they don't, best of luck in whatever the future holds for you.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me ill.

At first i thought I was jealous, but even if I had the option to stay home and do nothing, I have way too much pride to do that.

I'd like to be a decent role model for my daughter--I want to teach her that her goal shouldn't be to marry "well," but it should be to fulfill her potential rather than just take the easy/lazy way out. Seriously, ladies, you stay home without kids to raise? Your husbands are going to get tired of that real fast. I know I'd kick my man to the curb if he decided to do that (and we didn't have 2.5 kids, which we do). Why do you as women get that luxury, but your husbands don't?

In my case it was an arrangement that my husband wAnted as much as I did. It is a luxury for him in many ways, as well as a status symbol.

Vomit, gag, barf. It's a status symbol that you don't have to work? Imagine what status would be conferred on your DH if you had a fabulous career he could rave about.

Surely this isn't the first you've heard of SAHW as a status symbol? Very common where I'm from.

SAHWs that I know of don't have career-type jobs so they chuck them when they get their MRS.

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Umm, I'm the pp and you may have misunderstood my post. The point is that without children (we won't adopt), I'm free to embark on any career I want.

My bad. And I really do hope things work out on the TTC front. But if they don't, best of luck in whatever the future holds for you.

Thank you!!

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Anonymous wrote:Wow...some of you working women are bitter! You say you're happy with your choices, but your posts prove otherwise. Content people aren't bitter (or judgmental).

I wouldn't want to be friends with any of you because you'd bore me to tears. Seriously.

There's more to life than working. Your "intellectual superiority" is probably overrated. In the grand scheme of things, you're probably nothing more than a paper-pusher.

I bet that 'intellectual superiority' will come in handy when PP is 70 yrs old and has medical bills to pay. What happens to you when your DH leaves you? You'll be a good decade or two behind the rest of us honey.

LOL. First off, I work, so your assumption is asinine. And "intellectual superiority" coming in handy to pay medical bills? Tell that to senile and Alzheimer sufferers. You're ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me ill.

At first i thought I was jealous, but even if I had the option to stay home and do nothing, I have way too much pride to do that.

I'd like to be a decent role model for my daughter--I want to teach her that her goal shouldn't be to marry "well," but it should be to fulfill her potential rather than just take the easy/lazy way out. Seriously, ladies, you stay home without kids to raise? Your husbands are going to get tired of that real fast. I know I'd kick my man to the curb if he decided to do that (and we didn't have 2.5 kids, which we do). Why do you as women get that luxury, but your husbands don't?

In my case it was an arrangement that my husband wAnted as much as I did. It is a luxury for him in many ways, as well as a status symbol.

Vomit, gag, barf. It's a status symbol that you don't have to work? Imagine what status would be conferred on your DH if you had a fabulous career he could rave about.

Surely this isn't the first you've heard of SAHW as a status symbol? Very common where I'm from.

SAHWs that I know of don't have career-type jobs so they chuck them when they get their MRS.

Right. Is that bad?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me ill.

At first i thought I was jealous, but even if I had the option to stay home and do nothing, I have way too much pride to do that.

I'd like to be a decent role model for my daughter--I want to teach her that her goal shouldn't be to marry "well," but it should be to fulfill her potential rather than just take the easy/lazy way out. Seriously, ladies, you stay home without kids to raise? Your husbands are going to get tired of that real fast. I know I'd kick my man to the curb if he decided to do that (and we didn't have 2.5 kids, which we do). Why do you as women get that luxury, but your husbands don't?

In my case it was an arrangement that my husband wAnted as much as I did. It is a luxury for him in many ways, as well as a status symbol.

Vomit, gag, barf. It's a status symbol that you don't have to work? Imagine what status would be conferred on your DH if you had a fabulous career he could rave about.

Surely this isn't the first you've heard of SAHW as a status symbol? Very common where I'm from.

SAHWs that I know of don't have career-type jobs so they chuck them when they get their MRS.

Right. Is that bad?

Not pp, but only a raging feminist would say it is bad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me ill.

At first i thought I was jealous, but even if I had the option to stay home and do nothing, I have way too much pride to do that.

I'd like to be a decent role model for my daughter--I want to teach her that her goal shouldn't be to marry "well," but it should be to fulfill her potential rather than just take the easy/lazy way out. Seriously, ladies, you stay home without kids to raise? Your husbands are going to get tired of that real fast. I know I'd kick my man to the curb if he decided to do that (and we didn't have 2.5 kids, which we do). Why do you as women get that luxury, but your husbands don't?

In my case it was an arrangement that my husband wAnted as much as I did. It is a luxury for him in many ways, as well as a status symbol.

Vomit, gag, barf. It's a status symbol that you don't have to work? Imagine what status would be conferred on your DH if you had a fabulous career he could rave about.

Surely this isn't the first you've heard of SAHW as a status symbol? Very common where I'm from.

SAHWs that I know of don't have career-type jobs so they chuck them when they get their MRS.

Right. Is that bad?

Only wehn the newer model is purchased by the DH.

[Anonymous]

It's bad not to have a career type job, to me, yes. I would hate to have to SAH once I had kids because my salary couldn't cover daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looks like angry feminism is alive and well in DC!

Yes! It's posts like this that wake up the side of me that's usually dormant as I go through my weekdays on autopilot. Thanks, OP, and all the SAHWs for taking the place of caffeine this morning! I am so thankful for my job, my kids, my husband, and interesting friends who do more than eat bon bons all day or take pride in being trophy wives.

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Anonymous wrote:Looks like angry feminism is alive and well in DC!

Yes! It's posts like this that wake up the side of me that's usually dormant as I go through my weekdays on autopilot. Thanks, OP, and all the SAHWs for taking the place of caffeine this morning! I am so thankful for my job, my kids, my husband, and interesting friends who do more than eat bon bons all day or take pride in being trophy wives.

To each her own.

[Anonymous]

I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Looks like angry feminism is alive and well in DC!

Yes! It's posts like this that wake up the side of me that's usually dormant as I go through my weekdays on autopilot. Thanks, OP, and all the SAHWs for taking the place of caffeine this morning! I am so thankful for my job, my kids, my husband, and interesting friends who do more than eat bon bons all day or take pride in being trophy wives.

To each her own.

I didn't say otherwise. Everyone has a right to an opinion and can spend their valuable time with whomever they choose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.

We aren't telling them what to do, we are just judging them. Get your facts straight lady!

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Anonymous wrote:I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.

We aren't telling them what to do, we are just judging them. Get your facts straight lady!

Yeah!