FA - real life

[Anonymous]

The way everyone is acting is that then private school can only be for the ultra rich or the very poor.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of people find OP to be irresponsible, unethical, and shameful. For the people who find this acceptable, how were you raised?

You seem perpetually confused and bothered.

You don't hate the player, you hate the game.

The game is played according to the rules that have, not the rules you WISH you had.

The quicker you grasp this very simple, basic fact, the quicker you can move on and re-discover some meaning in your life.

Some of us live by moral principles.

You are still confused here and this misunderstanding is causing you unneeded consternation during what should be a festive holiday season.

This has nothing to do with "moral principles".

You aren't happy with the established existing framework that many schools have for distributing FA but that has nothing to do with those who, adhere to these rules and apply for/receive FA.

Let me clarify. I view accepting financial assistance for what is a luxury product, private school, by a family who is relatively comfortable, at a 300k income, to be repulsive. I would look down upon them as that violates my ethical code.

I don’t blame the school, which has a system in place to help families with financial difficulties. I get it. Emergencies happen and families have real hardships.

I blame the parents who take the easy way out. Instead of supporting their own kids by earning an income that matches their expenses, they take a handout. They are not even trying to get on better financial footing. They just plan to take the handout for as long as their kids are in school. And this is completely unnecessary. It is for a private school when there are plenty of good publics available.

This isn't what financial aid is for. It's to make the school "affordable" at all income levels.

Sidwell says: "Sidwell Friends School believes that family income should never be a barrier to receiving a Sidwell education. We offer one of the most generous financial aid programs in the DC area and seek to ensure that a Sidwell education is accessible to families of all income levels."

This is clearly the huge disconnect for PP. They seem to exist only in their own mind, completely distorting the reality that everyone else lives in and only serve to disappoint themselves.

Kinda sad, really.

+1000. This whole thread is people (though it seems to really just be a few repeat posters) who are mad because they created a false construct in their minds of what financial aid is for and they are now coming to terms with the reality.

*nods grimly*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The way everyone is acting is that then private school can only be for the ultra rich or the very poor.

Well, to be fair, there's like 2 people who keep posting over and over, but yeah, it's distorted and unhinged.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of people find OP to be irresponsible, unethical, and shameful. For the people who find this acceptable, how were you raised?

You seem perpetually confused and bothered.

You don't hate the player, you hate the game.

The game is played according to the rules that have, not the rules you WISH you had.

The quicker you grasp this very simple, basic fact, the quicker you can move on and re-discover some meaning in your life.

Some of us live by moral principles.

You are still confused here and this misunderstanding is causing you unneeded consternation during what should be a festive holiday season.

This has nothing to do with "moral principles".

You aren't happy with the established existing framework that many schools have for distributing FA but that has nothing to do with those who, adhere to these rules and apply for/receive FA.

Let me clarify. I view accepting financial assistance for what is a luxury product, private school, by a family who is relatively comfortable, at a 300k income, to be repulsive. I would look down upon them as that violates my ethical code.

I don’t blame the school, which has a system in place to help families with financial difficulties. I get it. Emergencies happen and families have real hardships.

I blame the parents who take the easy way out. Instead of supporting their own kids by earning an income that matches their expenses, they take a handout. They are not even trying to get on better financial footing. They just plan to take the handout for as long as their kids are in school. And this is completely unnecessary. It is for a private school when there are plenty of good publics available.

Now I know you’re a troll. Have you read what financial aid is for on your schools website? Most schools openly say they look at how many kids you have in private school and there is no specific income level on which qualifies and doesn’t qualify for aid. A lot of factors come into play. One thing I don’t see is financial difficulties and emergencies. You know why? Those aren’t the families applying to private school. Let’s be clear schools want to attract families like OP.

Why is OP unable to meet their expenses with their income? Can’t they get a higher paying job? What is their hardship preventing them from earning enough?

Single parent? Disabled spouse? Special need kids?

In this case, it sounds like OP is just lazy. The lower income parents should have some reason they cannot pay their bills.

You're just making things up to fit the weird construct you've conjured up.

OP has clearly charted out a path whereby they are meeting all their expenses. You just don't like their path because of some strange distortion that only up live in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of people find OP to be irresponsible, unethical, and shameful. For the people who find this acceptable, how were you raised?

You seem perpetually confused and bothered.

You don't hate the player, you hate the game.

The game is played according to the rules that have, not the rules you WISH you had.

The quicker you grasp this very simple, basic fact, the quicker you can move on and re-discover some meaning in your life.

Some of us live by moral principles.

You are still confused here and this misunderstanding is causing you unneeded consternation during what should be a festive holiday season.

This has nothing to do with "moral principles".

You aren't happy with the established existing framework that many schools have for distributing FA but that has nothing to do with those who, adhere to these rules and apply for/receive FA.

Let me clarify. I view accepting financial assistance for what is a luxury product, private school, by a family who is relatively comfortable, at a 300k income, to be repulsive. I would look down upon them as that violates my ethical code.

I don’t blame the school, which has a system in place to help families with financial difficulties. I get it. Emergencies happen and families have real hardships.

I blame the parents who take the easy way out. Instead of supporting their own kids by earning an income that matches their expenses, they take a handout. They are not even trying to get on better financial footing. They just plan to take the handout for as long as their kids are in school. And this is completely unnecessary. It is for a private school when there are plenty of good publics available.

Now I know you’re a troll. Have you read what financial aid is for on your schools website? Most schools openly say they look at how many kids you have in private school and there is no specific income level on which qualifies and doesn’t qualify for aid. A lot of factors come into play. One thing I don’t see is financial difficulties and emergencies. You know why? Those aren’t the families applying to private school. Let’s be clear schools want to attract families like OP.

Why is OP unable to meet their expenses with their income? Can’t they get a higher paying job? What is their hardship preventing them from earning enough?

Single parent? Disabled spouse? Special need kids?

In this case, it sounds like OP is just lazy. The lower income parents should have some reason they cannot pay their bills.

You're just making things up to fit the weird construct you've conjured up.

OP has clearly charted out a path whereby they are meeting all their expenses. You just don't like their path because of some strange distortion that only up live in.

+1. Also, “can’t they get a higher paying job?” sounds like something my small children, who do not understand anything about working or money, would say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The way everyone is acting is that then private school can only be for the ultra rich or the very poor.

Right: people who definitely can afford private school, and people who definitely can’t afford private school. Not people who could afford private school if they made different life choices but instead think others should carry their load for them.

[Anonymous]

Why do the poor get a pass under this line of thinking? They clearly had kids they couldn't afford. The single mom clearly should not have had kids out of wedlock.

How come it's only the feds or teachers or nurses who have a HHI of $300k that are responsible for making better decisions that lead to more money and fewer kids?

I'm so curious but some people get a pass for poor decision making but others do not.

Personally I think a school should have families in ALL income brackets. It's the best thing for our kids.

[Anonymous]

Some of us prefer our kids go to school with families who aren’t a hot mess and take responsibility for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do the poor get a pass under this line of thinking? They clearly had kids they couldn't afford. The single mom clearly should not have had kids out of wedlock.

How come it's only the feds or teachers or nurses who have a HHI of $300k that are responsible for making better decisions that lead to more money and fewer kids?

I'm so curious but some people get a pass for poor decision making but others do not.

Personally I think a school should have families in ALL income brackets. It's the best thing for our kids.

You assume there is any sort of reasoning or logic underpinning this thinking. Which, there is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do the poor get a pass under this line of thinking? They clearly had kids they couldn't afford. The single mom clearly should not have had kids out of wedlock.

How come it's only the feds or teachers or nurses who have a HHI of $300k that are responsible for making better decisions that lead to more money and fewer kids?

I'm so curious but some people get a pass for poor decision making but others do not.

Personally I think a school should have families in ALL income brackets. It's the best thing for our kids.

Because things like structural racism and intergenerational trauma are real? It betters us as a society to give kids who may not be able to escape a cycle of poverty a seat at school that can give them the connections and opportunities that they can build on to bring them and their children and grandchildren a better life. That feels like a good use of FA funds. Not knocking 25% off of some fed/teachers’ kids who are going to be just fine going through public school.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of us prefer our kids go to school with families who aren’t a hot mess and take responsibility for themselves.

Lol private schools are a lot of things, but free from families that are hot messes and don’t take responsibility for themselves is not one of them. Including the full pay families.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people find OP to be irresponsible, unethical, and shameful. For the people who find this acceptable, how were you raised?

You seem perpetually confused and bothered.

You don't hate the player, you hate the game.

The game is played according to the rules that have, not the rules you WISH you had.

The quicker you grasp this very simple, basic fact, the quicker you can move on and re-discover some meaning in your life.

Some of us live by moral principles.

You are still confused here and this misunderstanding is causing you unneeded consternation during what should be a festive holiday season.

This has nothing to do with "moral principles".

You aren't happy with the established existing framework that many schools have for distributing FA but that has nothing to do with those who, adhere to these rules and apply for/receive FA.

Let me clarify. I view accepting financial assistance for what is a luxury product, private school, by a family who is relatively comfortable, at a 300k income, to be repulsive. I would look down upon them as that violates my ethical code.

I don’t blame the school, which has a system in place to help families with financial difficulties. I get it. Emergencies happen and families have real hardships.

I blame the parents who take the easy way out. Instead of supporting their own kids by earning an income that matches their expenses, they take a handout. They are not even trying to get on better financial footing. They just plan to take the handout for as long as their kids are in school. And this is completely unnecessary. It is for a private school when there are plenty of good publics available.

Now I know you’re a troll. Have you read what financial aid is for on your schools website? Most schools openly say they look at how many kids you have in private school and there is no specific income level on which qualifies and doesn’t qualify for aid. A lot of factors come into play. One thing I don’t see is financial difficulties and emergencies. You know why? Those aren’t the families applying to private school. Let’s be clear schools want to attract families like OP.

Why is OP unable to meet their expenses with their income? Can’t they get a higher paying job? What is their hardship preventing them from earning enough?

Single parent? Disabled spouse? Special need kids?

In this case, it sounds like OP is just lazy. The lower income parents should have some reason they cannot pay their bills.

You're just making things up to fit the weird construct you've conjured up.

OP has clearly charted out a path whereby they are meeting all their expenses. You just don't like their path because of some strange distortion that only up live in.

+1. Also, “can’t they get a higher paying job?” sounds like something my small children, who do not understand anything about working or money, would say.

For those of us who have made professional sacrifices to increase income, this is very real. The demands of a job that pays 7 figures is nothing like the demands of my prior jobs that paid in line with OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The way everyone is acting is that then private school can only be for the ultra rich or the very poor.

You can leave out the very poor.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people find OP to be irresponsible, unethical, and shameful. For the people who find this acceptable, how were you raised?

You seem perpetually confused and bothered.

You don't hate the player, you hate the game.

The game is played according to the rules that have, not the rules you WISH you had.

The quicker you grasp this very simple, basic fact, the quicker you can move on and re-discover some meaning in your life.

Some of us live by moral principles.

You are still confused here and this misunderstanding is causing you unneeded consternation during what should be a festive holiday season.

This has nothing to do with "moral principles".

You aren't happy with the established existing framework that many schools have for distributing FA but that has nothing to do with those who, adhere to these rules and apply for/receive FA.

Let me clarify. I view accepting financial assistance for what is a luxury product, private school, by a family who is relatively comfortable, at a 300k income, to be repulsive. I would look down upon them as that violates my ethical code.

I don’t blame the school, which has a system in place to help families with financial difficulties. I get it. Emergencies happen and families have real hardships.

I blame the parents who take the easy way out. Instead of supporting their own kids by earning an income that matches their expenses, they take a handout. They are not even trying to get on better financial footing. They just plan to take the handout for as long as their kids are in school. And this is completely unnecessary. It is for a private school when there are plenty of good publics available.

Now I know you’re a troll. Have you read what financial aid is for on your schools website? Most schools openly say they look at how many kids you have in private school and there is no specific income level on which qualifies and doesn’t qualify for aid. A lot of factors come into play. One thing I don’t see is financial difficulties and emergencies. You know why? Those aren’t the families applying to private school. Let’s be clear schools want to attract families like OP.

Why is OP unable to meet their expenses with their income? Can’t they get a higher paying job? What is their hardship preventing them from earning enough?

Single parent? Disabled spouse? Special need kids?

In this case, it sounds like OP is just lazy. The lower income parents should have some reason they cannot pay their bills.

You're just making things up to fit the weird construct you've conjured up.

OP has clearly charted out a path whereby they are meeting all their expenses. You just don't like their path because of some strange distortion that only up live in.

+1. Also, “can’t they get a higher paying job?” sounds like something my small children, who do not understand anything about working or money, would say.

For those of us who have made professional sacrifices to increase income, this is very real. The demands of a job that pays 7 figures is nothing like the demands of my prior jobs that paid in line with OP.

There is no way you have a job that pays 7 figures

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people find OP to be irresponsible, unethical, and shameful. For the people who find this acceptable, how were you raised?

You seem perpetually confused and bothered.

You don't hate the player, you hate the game.

The game is played according to the rules that have, not the rules you WISH you had.

The quicker you grasp this very simple, basic fact, the quicker you can move on and re-discover some meaning in your life.

Some of us live by moral principles.

You are still confused here and this misunderstanding is causing you unneeded consternation during what should be a festive holiday season.

This has nothing to do with "moral principles".

You aren't happy with the established existing framework that many schools have for distributing FA but that has nothing to do with those who, adhere to these rules and apply for/receive FA.

Let me clarify. I view accepting financial assistance for what is a luxury product, private school, by a family who is relatively comfortable, at a 300k income, to be repulsive. I would look down upon them as that violates my ethical code.

I don’t blame the school, which has a system in place to help families with financial difficulties. I get it. Emergencies happen and families have real hardships.

I blame the parents who take the easy way out. Instead of supporting their own kids by earning an income that matches their expenses, they take a handout. They are not even trying to get on better financial footing. They just plan to take the handout for as long as their kids are in school. And this is completely unnecessary. It is for a private school when there are plenty of good publics available.

Now I know you’re a troll. Have you read what financial aid is for on your schools website? Most schools openly say they look at how many kids you have in private school and there is no specific income level on which qualifies and doesn’t qualify for aid. A lot of factors come into play. One thing I don’t see is financial difficulties and emergencies. You know why? Those aren’t the families applying to private school. Let’s be clear schools want to attract families like OP.

Why is OP unable to meet their expenses with their income? Can’t they get a higher paying job? What is their hardship preventing them from earning enough?

Single parent? Disabled spouse? Special need kids?

In this case, it sounds like OP is just lazy. The lower income parents should have some reason they cannot pay their bills.

You're just making things up to fit the weird construct you've conjured up.

OP has clearly charted out a path whereby they are meeting all their expenses. You just don't like their path because of some strange distortion that only up live in.

+1. Also, “can’t they get a higher paying job?” sounds like something my small children, who do not understand anything about working or money, would say.

For those of us who have made professional sacrifices to increase income, this is very real. The demands of a job that pays 7 figures is nothing like the demands of my prior jobs that paid in line with OP.

There is nothing real about thinking that everyone that is already established professionally can magic themselves into 7 figures. Anyone this out of touch with reality has no business weighing in on anything financial aid related.