HoCo dresses- Could they be any shorter

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve decided that all these anti short dress posters either don’t have girls in high school yet and will change their tune in a few years or have daughters that are extremely socially awkward….

You are wrong. My DD is not socially awkward in the least and has enough self respect and is in tune with morals and would never wear that type of dress. And if she wanted to, I would not let her.

Keep telling yourself that…

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Why so much vitriol for a flipping dress. It’s super weird. Don’t let your daughter wear them and be done with it. Judging other kids using the term prostitute is degrading and just wrong.

I know I wore skirts that were shorter and tighter than my would have liked and probably a ton of other things. But she kept her mouth shut and I am doing the same. I have a strong confident kid and I’ll do what I can to empower her to stay that way. Cutting down her clothing choices is not one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a 52-year-old mother to two college-aged sons. It is weird to me that so many people are triggered by these dresses. I don't have any issue with them -- they cover up way more than the bikinis that were on display throughout the summer. Have you guys been on college campuses recently and seen what girls are wearing to their classes? It looks really uncomfortable to me, but whatever. The amount of skin truly doesn't bother me (and it is certainly appreciated by my sons). Don't we all like to look at pretty things? (Or silently judge those who don't pull it off?)

DH went to a visit a friend who has a teen daughter. She is quite busty and was wearing a tube top. When he came by, she was constantly lifting up her tube top, and it was clear she was not comfortable wearing it. He kept thinking, "why are you wearing that ? You look so uncomfortable". And before you call him a perv, no, he thought she was ridiculous. He has no problem with nudity in general, but clearly she was not comfortable wearing that.

But why do you guys care if she was uncomfortable? Women have been uncomfortable in the name of fashion for centuries -- stilettos, corsets, headdresses, etc. (And why in the world would I call him a perv? That seems a strange reaction as well.)

When someone is constantly grabbing at a tube top and adjusting their breasts, it is poor manners and distracting. Don’t wear underwear that you feel compelled to pick out of crack in public either. Same thing

I'm sure your one of those who is always adjusting your frumpy tops due to your muffin tops. Get over it.

An interesting turn this thread has taken is the people who claim to be defending these young women to wear what they want in peace by making aggressively misogynistic and body-shaming comments about older women.

There's a PhD thesis in these comments.

I’m 51 and defending them. I don’t care what you wear. I do care you are equating athletes, honor roll students, good kids, to hookers bc they wear a short dress. I have a big problem with that, actually.

They dress like one.

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https://parentingteensandtweens.com/length-of-girls-homecoming-dress/

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve decided that all these anti short dress posters either don’t have girls in high school yet and will change their tune in a few years or have daughters that are extremely socially awkward….

You are wrong. My DD is not socially awkward in the least and has enough self respect and is in tune with morals and would never wear that type of dress. And if she wanted to, I would not let her.

Keep telling yourself that…

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Agreed..kid is odd and parent trolling kids that are not to make herself feel better about it

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Anonymous wrote:I don't really care about tightness or length but the fabric in most of these dresses is so cheap-looking. That makes the look appear cheap more than anything else imo.

Were you one of those mothers who didn’t really like it when her preschoolers wanted to wear sparkles and cheap neon?

DP but the position of "let kids wear cheaply produced synthetic fibers!" is a weird one. Like I let my kid wear what she wants for the most part but the other day I was folding clothes and she has some message tees she got online from some cheapo retailer with her birthday money and I was like "oooh that's why she has a rash on her armpits." I pointed this out to her and she had no idea that bad fabric could irritate your skin like that. She told me later that those tees also transfer dye to her skin even after several washes and the hems have already unraveled. A good lesson in being willing to spend more to get fewer items in order to avoid cheap fabric.

It's okay for parents to not want their kids to wear cheap fabric. It's also environmentally awful. I'm happy to encourage my kid to make better choices!

Oh so that’s why you don’t want your kids to wear these homecoming dresses - the environment and rashes? Huh. I swear one could walk away with a different conclusion from these 11 pages.

These are clothes kids wear one or twice. Kids outgrow their sparkly unicorn clothes. I don’t understand spending a lot of money on them or getting overly worried that the hem might unravel after several washes. These are quite the opposite of say black work pants for an adult.

My point was not about the fabric itself but about adult woman finding those little nitty ways to criticize girls.

Believe it or not this is not a thread of one person espousing 14 different reasons for disliking these dresses.

I have always opposed my kid buying "disposable" clothes that she will only wear once or twice. It's not about "little nitty ways to criticize girls" it's about having a set of values that is in opposition to buying cheap synthetic clothes made at sweatshops and then throwing them away after wearing them twice. I don't buy my kid anything she won't be able to wear for years and that has decent quality because I care about the enviroment and also don't like pissing money away on disposable crap. We also don't use disposable plates or plastic water bottles.

You aren't defending teenage girls. You're advocating for more landfills loaded with polyester crap from Shein and Forever 21. Good work -- the billionaires who own those companies are grateful for your service.

What teenager wears a homecoming dress more than once or twice? Tell us how much money was spent on your daughter’s homecoming dress, the material it was made out of it, and where you bought it/brand?

My kid wore a dress to homecoming that she also wore to several bat and bar mitzvah's the year before and also wore to the ballet at Christmas last year. I don't remember the brand but we got it at Nordstrom and it was around $90-100. It's black and sparkly with an open back but not skin tight. It has a skater-style skirt that is short but not like "spending the night pulling it down" short. She picked it out without my input but I did approve it when I agreed to buy it. I definitely factored in the fact that it was a dress I could see her wearing a bunch over the next few years when I bought it as we don't spend $100 on clothes for still growing kids lightly. We discussed how the color would make it easy to accessorize different ways without it being obvious she was wearing the same dress.

I don't judge girls who wear short and tight dresses if that's what they want to wear but I DO judge a culture of buying cheap, disposable clothes for stuff like homecoming and then acting like that's normal and if you don't support it you are somehow anti-feminist? That doesn't even make sense.

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Anonymous wrote:There are many of us comparing the look to sex workers. It is what it is.

Yep.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve decided that all these anti short dress posters either don’t have girls in high school yet and will change their tune in a few years or have daughters that are extremely socially awkward….

You are wrong. My DD is not socially awkward in the least and has enough self respect and is in tune with morals and would never wear that type of dress. And if she wanted to, I would not let her.

Keep telling yourself that…

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Anonymous wrote:There are many of us comparing the look to sex workers. It is what it is.

Yep.

Another mom of a weird girl…🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve decided that all these anti short dress posters either don’t have girls in high school yet and will change their tune in a few years or have daughters that are extremely socially awkward….

You are wrong. My DD is not socially awkward in the least and has enough self respect and is in tune with morals and would never wear that type of dress. And if she wanted to, I would not let her.

Keep telling yourself that…

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This thread is full of moms who don’t care that their 15 year old daughters are prancing around in the skimpiest outfits. Crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:There are many of us comparing the look to sex workers. It is what it is.

Yep.

Another mom of a weird girl…🤷‍♀️

Ha! I’m sorry your ugly DD needs to try so hard. Sad.

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Anonymous wrote:There are many of us comparing the look to sex workers. It is what it is.

Yep.

Another mom of a weird girl…🤷‍♀️

Ha! I’m sorry your ugly DD needs to try so hard. Sad.

I’m sorry your ugly DD is too frumpy to wear a fitted dress and has no one to go down to the monuments with holy roller mom

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is full of moms who don’t care that their 15 year old daughters are prancing around in the skimpiest outfits. Crazy.

#oddgirlmom

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Anonymous wrote:I am a 52-year-old mother to two college-aged sons. It is weird to me that so many people are triggered by these dresses. I don't have any issue with them -- they cover up way more than the bikinis that were on display throughout the summer. Have you guys been on college campuses recently and seen what girls are wearing to their classes? It looks really uncomfortable to me, but whatever. The amount of skin truly doesn't bother me (and it is certainly appreciated by my sons). Don't we all like to look at pretty things? (Or silently judge those who don't pull it off?)

DH went to a visit a friend who has a teen daughter. She is quite busty and was wearing a tube top. When he came by, she was constantly lifting up her tube top, and it was clear she was not comfortable wearing it. He kept thinking, "why are you wearing that ? You look so uncomfortable". And before you call him a perv, no, he thought she was ridiculous. He has no problem with nudity in general, but clearly she was not comfortable wearing that.

But why do you guys care if she was uncomfortable? Women have been uncomfortable in the name of fashion for centuries -- stilettos, corsets, headdresses, etc. (And why in the world would I call him a perv? That seems a strange reaction as well.)

When someone is constantly grabbing at a tube top and adjusting their breasts, it is poor manners and distracting. Don’t wear underwear that you feel compelled to pick out of crack in public either. Same thing

I'm sure your one of those who is always adjusting your frumpy tops due to your muffin tops. Get over it.

An interesting turn this thread has taken is the people who claim to be defending these young women to wear what they want in peace by making aggressively misogynistic and body-shaming comments about older women.

There's a PhD thesis in these comments.

I’m 51 and defending them. I don’t care what you wear. I do care you are equating athletes, honor roll students, good kids, to hookers bc they wear a short dress. I have a big problem with that, actually.

Would it be okay to equate C students who don’t participate in extra curricular activities and possibly go to parties at which there is underage drinking to hookers?

And nobody has said the the girls are hookers. But they’re dressing like absolute trash and their moms are egging them on for some completely baffling reason.

Dave Chappelle explained this “uniform” years ago…

To clarify, I think all of you frigid B’s who get bent out of shape over good looking and young women wearing short dresses and who are calling them prostitutes (oh sorry, LOOKING like prostitutes, as if that makes you any less uglier) the only trash on this Board.

You also have serious hang ups with sexuality. Yours and, weirdly, other peoples. And you’re beyond strange bc of it.