What is the worst issue confronting middle aged women in 2024

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Anonymous wrote:White middle aged women are sandwiched in their family life between their children and their parents, but also in their professional life, between the patriarchy and DEI. We're everyone's caretaker, but also everyone's bad guy, and no matter how hard we work, in every aspect of our lives, we're never a priority for promotion.

White women are never a priority? What?

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Anonymous wrote:White middle aged women are sandwiched in their family life between their children and their parents, but also in their professional life, between the patriarchy and DEI. We're everyone's caretaker, but also everyone's bad guy, and no matter how hard we work, in every aspect of our lives, we're never a priority for promotion.

White women are never a priority? What?

Who prioritizes white women, beyond putting an idealized version of one on a pedestal as a beauty standard (that almost no actual white women live up to)?

I don't think white women have it as bad as people who aren't white but I don't think white women have it good either*. And we are at this weird juncture where white women are not allowed to complain about ways in which they are oppressed, or even point them out, because of a desire to boil white women down to their whiteness only (it's like the the opposite of intersectionalism). Also, this movement to hold white women accountable for their privilege and racism? It's been most embraced by white men. I wonder why....

*I know that people will say "wtf I know white women who have it good" and I do too but every single of one of them has it so good because of the support/protection of a white man. And that doesn't mean all white women married to or the children of white men have it good either, because most white men don't protect/support the white women in their lives -- they ignore, use, resent, or abuse them. And even many of the white men who offer protection/support do so for selfish reasons (think Donald Trump and Ivanka) because they view the white women in they orbit as assets and reflections of their own glory.

Being a white woman is not some joyous experience. It's a glass prison.

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Anonymous wrote:White middle aged women are sandwiched in their family life between their children and their parents, but also in their professional life, between the patriarchy and DEI. We're everyone's caretaker, but also everyone's bad guy, and no matter how hard we work, in every aspect of our lives, we're never a priority for promotion.

White women are never a priority? What?

Who prioritizes white women, beyond putting an idealized version of one on a pedestal as a beauty standard (that almost no actual white women live up to)?

I don't think white women have it as bad as people who aren't white but I don't think white women have it good either*. And we are at this weird juncture where white women are not allowed to complain about ways in which they are oppressed, or even point them out, because of a desire to boil white women down to their whiteness only (it's like the the opposite of intersectionalism). Also, this movement to hold white women accountable for their privilege and racism? It's been most embraced by white men. I wonder why....

*I know that people will say "wtf I know white women who have it good" and I do too but every single of one of them has it so good because of the support/protection of a white man. And that doesn't mean all white women married to or the children of white men have it good either, because most white men don't protect/support the white women in their lives -- they ignore, use, resent, or abuse them. And even many of the white men who offer protection/support do so for selfish reasons (think Donald Trump and Ivanka) because they view the white women in they orbit as assets and reflections of their own glory.

Being a white woman is not some joyous experience. It's a glass prison.

Try being a middle aged black woman.

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Anonymous wrote:White middle aged women are sandwiched in their family life between their children and their parents, but also in their professional life, between the patriarchy and DEI. We're everyone's caretaker, but also everyone's bad guy, and no matter how hard we work, in every aspect of our lives, we're never a priority for promotion.

White women are never a priority? What?

Who prioritizes white women, beyond putting an idealized version of one on a pedestal as a beauty standard (that almost no actual white women live up to)?

I don't think white women have it as bad as people who aren't white but I don't think white women have it good either*. And we are at this weird juncture where white women are not allowed to complain about ways in which they are oppressed, or even point them out, because of a desire to boil white women down to their whiteness only (it's like the the opposite of intersectionalism). Also, this movement to hold white women accountable for their privilege and racism? It's been most embraced by white men. I wonder why....

*I know that people will say "wtf I know white women who have it good" and I do too but every single of one of them has it so good because of the support/protection of a white man. And that doesn't mean all white women married to or the children of white men have it good either, because most white men don't protect/support the white women in their lives -- they ignore, use, resent, or abuse them. And even many of the white men who offer protection/support do so for selfish reasons (think Donald Trump and Ivanka) because they view the white women in they orbit as assets and reflections of their own glory.

Being a white woman is not some joyous experience. It's a glass prison.

Try being a middle aged black woman.

No one said this wasn't harder. Just pointing out that being a middle aged white woman is not the prize people seem to think it is. Having it easier than a black woman is not the same as "having it easy."

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Anonymous wrote:White middle aged women are sandwiched in their family life between their children and their parents, but also in their professional life, between the patriarchy and DEI. We're everyone's caretaker, but also everyone's bad guy, and no matter how hard we work, in every aspect of our lives, we're never a priority for promotion.

White women are never a priority? What?

Who prioritizes white women, beyond putting an idealized version of one on a pedestal as a beauty standard (that almost no actual white women live up to)?

I don't think white women have it as bad as people who aren't white but I don't think white women have it good either*. And we are at this weird juncture where white women are not allowed to complain about ways in which they are oppressed, or even point them out, because of a desire to boil white women down to their whiteness only (it's like the the opposite of intersectionalism). Also, this movement to hold white women accountable for their privilege and racism? It's been most embraced by white men. I wonder why....

*I know that people will say "wtf I know white women who have it good" and I do too but every single of one of them has it so good because of the support/protection of a white man. And that doesn't mean all white women married to or the children of white men have it good either, because most white men don't protect/support the white women in their lives -- they ignore, use, resent, or abuse them. And even many of the white men who offer protection/support do so for selfish reasons (think Donald Trump and Ivanka) because they view the white women in they orbit as assets and reflections of their own glory.

Being a white woman is not some joyous experience. It's a glass prison.

Try being a middle aged black woman.

No one said this wasn't harder. Just pointing out that being a middle aged white woman is not the prize people seem to think it is. Having it easier than a black woman is not the same as "having it easy."

Who has it easy?

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Anonymous wrote:Becoming invisible.

And peri/menopause has been awful for me with the hot flashes and sleep disturbances. Five years after it started, I finally have a doctor helping me address it.

I love being invisible. My life is so peaceful. I feel like I just drift along in my own world oblivious to everyone's drama.

To a point. My mother is now dying of Stage iV cancer because all the doctors blew her off and said all of her issues and aches and pains were due to old aging. Or it was all arthritis. Or worst, just in her head. Being invisible and unheard will shorten her life.

How old was she when she first started her quest? And you as well. And your kids.
My friend had a situation like this. However looking back it was better for her to deal with her mom’s passing when she was relatively young than if it lasted 10 more years or hit when her kids were applying to colleges etc.
So it does sound cruel but it may have been for the best

I'm in my 40s, kids are teen/tweens. The timing is never good. We were contemplating a cross country move for careers and that will be much harder to figure out now b/c we won't want to leave my dad on his own and he's not likely to want to move with us. It never occurred to me my dad would outlive my mom. So, no, it won't be for the best.

So it’s still before the college ordeal and your mom would probably be of little help to your dad if she were to undergo her own treatment.
It’s never a good time to lose a beloved parent but I am just weirdly trying to show you something closest to the bright side.
I am sorry about your mom and hope you can figure out things with your dad, too.
The passing of my own mother made it much, much easier to deal with dad and his needs, so I am partial, of course.

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Anonymous wrote:White middle aged women are sandwiched in their family life between their children and their parents, but also in their professional life, between the patriarchy and DEI. We're everyone's caretaker, but also everyone's bad guy, and no matter how hard we work, in every aspect of our lives, we're never a priority for promotion.

White women are never a priority? What?

Who prioritizes white women, beyond putting an idealized version of one on a pedestal as a beauty standard (that almost no actual white women live up to)?

I don't think white women have it as bad as people who aren't white but I don't think white women have it good either*. And we are at this weird juncture where white women are not allowed to complain about ways in which they are oppressed, or even point them out, because of a desire to boil white women down to their whiteness only (it's like the the opposite of intersectionalism). Also, this movement to hold white women accountable for their privilege and racism? It's been most embraced by white men. I wonder why....

*I know that people will say "wtf I know white women who have it good" and I do too but every single of one of them has it so good because of the support/protection of a white man. And that doesn't mean all white women married to or the children of white men have it good either, because most white men don't protect/support the white women in their lives -- they ignore, use, resent, or abuse them. And even many of the white men who offer protection/support do so for selfish reasons (think Donald Trump and Ivanka) because they view the white women in they orbit as assets and reflections of their own glory.

Being a white woman is not some joyous experience. It's a glass prison.

Glass prison? WTAF? If you weren’t so fixated on being a victim you might realize how privileged you are.

- old white woman

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never had trouble being taken seriously by medical professionals. I know it’s a problem for a lot of women. I’m not sure why I’ve been lucky in this regard.

You may be: rich, connected, beautiful/thin, or part of a community that gives you status.

I was surprised when it started happening to me. But the truth is that women start really losing social status once they start visibly aging past childbearing age. I started noticing people's eyes glazing over when I spoke, even for short periods of time, like they couldn't be bothered to listen or like they assumed I was being dramatic or attention seeking.

I'm in good shape and reasonably attractive but not beautiful, and look my age. I think it's even harder for women who gain weight (everything gets blamed on their weight, they are treated as inherently at fault for all medical issues) but I've seen a real shift in the last 5 years as I've entered my mid-to-late 40s.

This has also happened in other areas of life. I can feel people becoming less interested in me as a person. Not friends or family but neighbors, colleagues, service providers. It's so eye opening because it also changes how I think about how I was treated before. I thought that was just normal, like that was how everyone got treated -- reasonably polite, decent service, respectful. But now I realize I might have been getting deferent treatment because I was perceived as being higher status (thin, attractive, UMC young white woman) and maybe now I'm getting what is actually "average" treatment. I hope it's made me more self-aware -- I work hard not to treat other people as I now get treated because it's demeaning.

+1000

I had no idea what kind of attention/privilege/power I was carrying around with my beauty until I aged and gained weight -- how I am treated by virtually everyone I don't know well drastically changed.

You mean your white privilege?

Exactly. White privilege. Not a privilege to most women on the planet.

I suspect a beautiful brown woman gets a lot of special treatment. Unless maybe she is in the Deep South.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never had trouble being taken seriously by medical professionals. I know it’s a problem for a lot of women. I’m not sure why I’ve been lucky in this regard.

You may be: rich, connected, beautiful/thin, or part of a community that gives you status.

I was surprised when it started happening to me. But the truth is that women start really losing social status once they start visibly aging past childbearing age. I started noticing people's eyes glazing over when I spoke, even for short periods of time, like they couldn't be bothered to listen or like they assumed I was being dramatic or attention seeking.

I'm in good shape and reasonably attractive but not beautiful, and look my age. I think it's even harder for women who gain weight (everything gets blamed on their weight, they are treated as inherently at fault for all medical issues) but I've seen a real shift in the last 5 years as I've entered my mid-to-late 40s.

This has also happened in other areas of life. I can feel people becoming less interested in me as a person. Not friends or family but neighbors, colleagues, service providers. It's so eye opening because it also changes how I think about how I was treated before. I thought that was just normal, like that was how everyone got treated -- reasonably polite, decent service, respectful. But now I realize I might have been getting deferent treatment because I was perceived as being higher status (thin, attractive, UMC young white woman) and maybe now I'm getting what is actually "average" treatment. I hope it's made me more self-aware -- I work hard not to treat other people as I now get treated because it's demeaning.

+1000

I had no idea what kind of attention/privilege/power I was carrying around with my beauty until I aged and gained weight -- how I am treated by virtually everyone I don't know well drastically changed.

You mean your white privilege?

Exactly. White privilege. Not a privilege to most women on the planet.

I suspect a beautiful brown woman gets a lot of special treatment. Unless maybe she is in the Deep South.

Yep. Just ask my cute Hispanic wife.
Just last week she went out to shovel our driveway (while I was still inside putting my boots on)
And a guy in a snow plow drove by, stopped and said " Don't bother ill get that for you" and proceeded to plow our driveway..
If that was me out there he would have drove by laughing at me. Lol

It is LatinX, not “Latina.”

Do better.

Who used the term Latina?
Noone that's who..
I know a lot of Hispanic people and they laugh at Latinx. They claim it a term made up by white folks and is disrespectful of their culture.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never had trouble being taken seriously by medical professionals. I know it’s a problem for a lot of women. I’m not sure why I’ve been lucky in this regard.

You may be: rich, connected, beautiful/thin, or part of a community that gives you status.

I was surprised when it started happening to me. But the truth is that women start really losing social status once they start visibly aging past childbearing age. I started noticing people's eyes glazing over when I spoke, even for short periods of time, like they couldn't be bothered to listen or like they assumed I was being dramatic or attention seeking.

I'm in good shape and reasonably attractive but not beautiful, and look my age. I think it's even harder for women who gain weight (everything gets blamed on their weight, they are treated as inherently at fault for all medical issues) but I've seen a real shift in the last 5 years as I've entered my mid-to-late 40s.

This has also happened in other areas of life. I can feel people becoming less interested in me as a person. Not friends or family but neighbors, colleagues, service providers. It's so eye opening because it also changes how I think about how I was treated before. I thought that was just normal, like that was how everyone got treated -- reasonably polite, decent service, respectful. But now I realize I might have been getting deferent treatment because I was perceived as being higher status (thin, attractive, UMC young white woman) and maybe now I'm getting what is actually "average" treatment. I hope it's made me more self-aware -- I work hard not to treat other people as I now get treated because it's demeaning.

+1000

I had no idea what kind of attention/privilege/power I was carrying around with my beauty until I aged and gained weight -- how I am treated by virtually everyone I don't know well drastically changed.

You mean your white privilege?

Exactly. White privilege. Not a privilege to most women on the planet.

I suspect a beautiful brown woman gets a lot of special treatment. Unless maybe she is in the Deep South.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never had trouble being taken seriously by medical professionals. I know it’s a problem for a lot of women. I’m not sure why I’ve been lucky in this regard.

You may be: rich, connected, beautiful/thin, or part of a community that gives you status.

I was surprised when it started happening to me. But the truth is that women start really losing social status once they start visibly aging past childbearing age. I started noticing people's eyes glazing over when I spoke, even for short periods of time, like they couldn't be bothered to listen or like they assumed I was being dramatic or attention seeking.

I'm in good shape and reasonably attractive but not beautiful, and look my age. I think it's even harder for women who gain weight (everything gets blamed on their weight, they are treated as inherently at fault for all medical issues) but I've seen a real shift in the last 5 years as I've entered my mid-to-late 40s.

This has also happened in other areas of life. I can feel people becoming less interested in me as a person. Not friends or family but neighbors, colleagues, service providers. It's so eye opening because it also changes how I think about how I was treated before. I thought that was just normal, like that was how everyone got treated -- reasonably polite, decent service, respectful. But now I realize I might have been getting deferent treatment because I was perceived as being higher status (thin, attractive, UMC young white woman) and maybe now I'm getting what is actually "average" treatment. I hope it's made me more self-aware -- I work hard not to treat other people as I now get treated because it's demeaning.

+1000

I had no idea what kind of attention/privilege/power I was carrying around with my beauty until I aged and gained weight -- how I am treated by virtually everyone I don't know well drastically changed.

You mean your white privilege?

Exactly. White privilege. Not a privilege to most women on the planet.

I suspect a beautiful brown woman gets a lot of special treatment. Unless maybe she is in the Deep South.

Yep. Just ask my cute Hispanic wife.
Just last week she went out to shovel our driveway (while I was still inside putting my boots on)
And a guy in a snow plow drove by, stopped and said " Don't bother ill get that for you" and proceeded to plow our driveway..
If that was me out there he would have drove by laughing at me. Lol

It is LatinX, not “Latina.”

Do better.

Who used the term Latina?
Noone that's who..
I know a lot of Hispanic people and they laugh at Latinx. They claim it a term made up by white folks and is disrespectful of their culture.

+1, proud hard working Latina.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never had trouble being taken seriously by medical professionals. I know it’s a problem for a lot of women. I’m not sure why I’ve been lucky in this regard.

You may be: rich, connected, beautiful/thin, or part of a community that gives you status.

I was surprised when it started happening to me. But the truth is that women start really losing social status once they start visibly aging past childbearing age. I started noticing people's eyes glazing over when I spoke, even for short periods of time, like they couldn't be bothered to listen or like they assumed I was being dramatic or attention seeking.

I'm in good shape and reasonably attractive but not beautiful, and look my age. I think it's even harder for women who gain weight (everything gets blamed on their weight, they are treated as inherently at fault for all medical issues) but I've seen a real shift in the last 5 years as I've entered my mid-to-late 40s.

This has also happened in other areas of life. I can feel people becoming less interested in me as a person. Not friends or family but neighbors, colleagues, service providers. It's so eye opening because it also changes how I think about how I was treated before. I thought that was just normal, like that was how everyone got treated -- reasonably polite, decent service, respectful. But now I realize I might have been getting deferent treatment because I was perceived as being higher status (thin, attractive, UMC young white woman) and maybe now I'm getting what is actually "average" treatment. I hope it's made me more self-aware -- I work hard not to treat other people as I now get treated because it's demeaning.

+1000

I had no idea what kind of attention/privilege/power I was carrying around with my beauty until I aged and gained weight -- how I am treated by virtually everyone I don't know well drastically changed.

You mean your white privilege?

Exactly. White privilege. Not a privilege to most women on the planet.

I suspect a beautiful brown woman gets a lot of special treatment. Unless maybe she is in the Deep South.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never had trouble being taken seriously by medical professionals. I know it’s a problem for a lot of women. I’m not sure why I’ve been lucky in this regard.

You may be: rich, connected, beautiful/thin, or part of a community that gives you status.

I was surprised when it started happening to me. But the truth is that women start really losing social status once they start visibly aging past childbearing age. I started noticing people's eyes glazing over when I spoke, even for short periods of time, like they couldn't be bothered to listen or like they assumed I was being dramatic or attention seeking.

I'm in good shape and reasonably attractive but not beautiful, and look my age. I think it's even harder for women who gain weight (everything gets blamed on their weight, they are treated as inherently at fault for all medical issues) but I've seen a real shift in the last 5 years as I've entered my mid-to-late 40s.

This has also happened in other areas of life. I can feel people becoming less interested in me as a person. Not friends or family but neighbors, colleagues, service providers. It's so eye opening because it also changes how I think about how I was treated before. I thought that was just normal, like that was how everyone got treated -- reasonably polite, decent service, respectful. But now I realize I might have been getting deferent treatment because I was perceived as being higher status (thin, attractive, UMC young white woman) and maybe now I'm getting what is actually "average" treatment. I hope it's made me more self-aware -- I work hard not to treat other people as I now get treated because it's demeaning.

+1000

I had no idea what kind of attention/privilege/power I was carrying around with my beauty until I aged and gained weight -- how I am treated by virtually everyone I don't know well drastically changed.

You mean your white privilege?

Exactly. White privilege. Not a privilege to most women on the planet.

I suspect a beautiful brown woman gets a lot of special treatment. Unless maybe she is in the Deep South.

Yep. Just ask my cute Hispanic wife.
Just last week she went out to shovel our driveway (while I was still inside putting my boots on)
And a guy in a snow plow drove by, stopped and said " Don't bother ill get that for you" and proceeded to plow our driveway..
If that was me out there he would have drove by laughing at me. Lol

It is LatinX, not “Latina.”

Do better.

Who used the term Latina?
Noone that's who..
I know a lot of Hispanic people and they laugh at Latinx. They claim it a term made up by white folks and is disrespectful of their culture.

Just ignore. It's a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never had trouble being taken seriously by medical professionals. I know it’s a problem for a lot of women. I’m not sure why I’ve been lucky in this regard.

You may be: rich, connected, beautiful/thin, or part of a community that gives you status.

I was surprised when it started happening to me. But the truth is that women start really losing social status once they start visibly aging past childbearing age. I started noticing people's eyes glazing over when I spoke, even for short periods of time, like they couldn't be bothered to listen or like they assumed I was being dramatic or attention seeking.

I'm in good shape and reasonably attractive but not beautiful, and look my age. I think it's even harder for women who gain weight (everything gets blamed on their weight, they are treated as inherently at fault for all medical issues) but I've seen a real shift in the last 5 years as I've entered my mid-to-late 40s.

This has also happened in other areas of life. I can feel people becoming less interested in me as a person. Not friends or family but neighbors, colleagues, service providers. It's so eye opening because it also changes how I think about how I was treated before. I thought that was just normal, like that was how everyone got treated -- reasonably polite, decent service, respectful. But now I realize I might have been getting deferent treatment because I was perceived as being higher status (thin, attractive, UMC young white woman) and maybe now I'm getting what is actually "average" treatment. I hope it's made me more self-aware -- I work hard not to treat other people as I now get treated because it's demeaning.

+1000

I had no idea what kind of attention/privilege/power I was carrying around with my beauty until I aged and gained weight -- how I am treated by virtually everyone I don't know well drastically changed.

You mean your white privilege?

Exactly. White privilege. Not a privilege to most women on the planet.

I suspect a beautiful brown woman gets a lot of special treatment. Unless maybe she is in the Deep South.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve never had trouble being taken seriously by medical professionals. I know it’s a problem for a lot of women. I’m not sure why I’ve been lucky in this regard.

You may be: rich, connected, beautiful/thin, or part of a community that gives you status.

I was surprised when it started happening to me. But the truth is that women start really losing social status once they start visibly aging past childbearing age. I started noticing people's eyes glazing over when I spoke, even for short periods of time, like they couldn't be bothered to listen or like they assumed I was being dramatic or attention seeking.

I'm in good shape and reasonably attractive but not beautiful, and look my age. I think it's even harder for women who gain weight (everything gets blamed on their weight, they are treated as inherently at fault for all medical issues) but I've seen a real shift in the last 5 years as I've entered my mid-to-late 40s.

This has also happened in other areas of life. I can feel people becoming less interested in me as a person. Not friends or family but neighbors, colleagues, service providers. It's so eye opening because it also changes how I think about how I was treated before. I thought that was just normal, like that was how everyone got treated -- reasonably polite, decent service, respectful. But now I realize I might have been getting deferent treatment because I was perceived as being higher status (thin, attractive, UMC young white woman) and maybe now I'm getting what is actually "average" treatment. I hope it's made me more self-aware -- I work hard not to treat other people as I now get treated because it's demeaning.

+1000

I had no idea what kind of attention/privilege/power I was carrying around with my beauty until I aged and gained weight -- how I am treated by virtually everyone I don't know well drastically changed.

You mean your white privilege?

Exactly. White privilege. Not a privilege to most women on the planet.

I suspect a beautiful brown woman gets a lot of special treatment. Unless maybe she is in the Deep South.

Yep. Just ask my cute Hispanic wife.
Just last week she went out to shovel our driveway (while I was still inside putting my boots on)
And a guy in a snow plow drove by, stopped and said " Don't bother ill get that for you" and proceeded to plow our driveway..
If that was me out there he would have drove by laughing at me. Lol

It is LatinX, not “Latina.”

Do better.

Who used the term Latina?
Noone that's who..
I know a lot of Hispanic people and they laugh at Latinx. They claim it a term made up by white folks and is disrespectful of their culture.

Just ignore. It's a troll.

Yes, you're right..
I just get a bit bothered when people try to tell me how I should refer to myself. Lol

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I think it’s the rise of misogyny as an overt political platform of both parties. Both parties are openly throwing themselves into misogyny as a winning electoral issue. It’s frankly terrifying.

What is the Dem misogyny?

The progressive wing of the party has leaned in hard on taking the side of using rape and sexual assault as a weapon of political terror. The refusal to unequivocally condemn the documented sexual violence from Hamas and the silence of progressive women’s organizations (which are all Democrat supporters) on the issue has been extremely demoralizing. I started 10/7 as someone who would have probably said that I am largely aligned with the Democratic progressives on issues related to Israel, but the horrific minimization from that wing of the party of the sexual torture endured by Israeli women and children has been profoundly shocking to me, and just part and parcel of the overall trend of using misogyny as a political platform.

The Democrats have also been leading the charge in eliminating sex-based protections and spaces for women and they seem to be openly pretending that women haven’t been terrorized for millennia because of their biology. This comes up in various contexts, including the self-ID laws that they’ve pushed, and the extreme misogynist reaction to women who point out safety issues for women’s prisons, women’s sports, and other hard-fought spaces of sanctuary for women. A lot of current gender ideology is rooted in extreme misogyny, and the Democrats have leaned in heavily on that.

My political allegiance for years has been to the party that supports women, because I believe that leads to better societies. But I have no home now. Obviously the Republicans are out. But now the Democrats are too. The Democrats seem to have seen how successful misogyny as a platform was for the Republicans and just adopted that approach.

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You need to get off social media.

This response is exemplary of the increase in open misogyny from the left, particularly progressives. “Social media” doesn’t change underlying facts. You believe women can’t look around them and disagree with the orthodoxy of the progressive left on their own. You believe that women cannot look critically at some of the positions advocated by the left and reach a conclusion that disagrees with those positions. In essence, you don’t believe women can think on their own, that women are capable of independent thought outside of approved groupthink. And when faced with women who reject progressive orthodoxy, your response is to lash out and to take the position that women who disagree with progressive heterodoxy must be brainwashed by social media, influenced by Fox News (that none of us watch), or otherwise be incapable of reaching a single conflicting conclusion on our own.

And then you wonder why women, many women, see and fear a rise of misogyny as a political platform from the Democrats as well as the Republicans? You don’t even think women are capable of independent thought.

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Anonymous wrote:Not being able to purchase the bottom half of the shirt.

In all seriousness, I think it's sandwich generation stuff... raising kids in a time where very hands-on parenting is the norm, often while working a full-time job, while juggling aging parents.

Also, marital division of labor issues in two working-parent families. Many women my age (40) were raised that they could do anything and that has turned into doing everything.

This. Especially “ Many women my age (40) were raised that they could do anything and that has turned into doing everything.”

[Anonymous]

Middle aged men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Middle aged men

Truth! Who turn in to angry old men.