Parents of three, do you feel less bonded to your third?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you ask ppl with 3 kids, they'll support, if you ask ppl with 2 kids, they'll oppose. Most ppl justify their actions to not only others but themselves as well. It helps.

Except that the question wasn't about support or oppose.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is going to admit that they use or ignore one or more of their kids, so this thread is kinda pointless.

I'm op. That's not what I asked, at all.

No one is going to admit what you asked, either. People on this board are way too sanctimonious to admit any failures. No one is going to say, "yeah, I think I had one too many kids."

I have had MANY parents of 3 corner me to tell me to knock it off after 2 and that a 3rd is a losing proposition. People on this board actually did confirm that's not uncommon.

This seems crazy to me. I have 3 and not only do I genuinely really love our family size but I can’t imagine pulling people aside to whisper warnings about the challenges of 3. Not once has a mom of 4+ cornered me to tell me it’s a terrible idea to have more. Is this seriously happening to people?

Anyway, to the OPs question, I do not feel that I have any less of a bond with my youngest. They are all such unique people and we bond in different ways.

I have said something similar to people before. I say it for fun and I am not serious. It’s usually when people say “wow! You have 3 kids! You must be so busy!” My answer is sometimes “I know! Don’t do it! Ahahahah”
It’s never in a serious conversation with people I am close to. I actually love having 3, I am close to all 3 and I think not focusing exclusively on one kid is good for them (and for me).

It’s really funny how much hate and criticism parents of 3 get on this board. It’s never the parents of 3 that criticize the choice of having one or 2, but always the other way around…. I guess we are just happier with our decision (or busier)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am most bonded to my third.

My first was very difficult. Difficult birth, difficult baby and he’s generally indifferent to DH & I. He has always preferred my mother and his nanny.

Our second is my lovebug and I had a much easier birth and bonded with him early into infancy. But he’s a wild one and won’t snuggle for long.

My third is my miracle girl. Two losses (8 weeks and 23 weeks) before we made her and she’s such an angel.

I love all my kids but IMO birth order doesn’t matter, but the child themselves.

I feel sorry for your two older kids.

Why? They’re happy and loved and have wonderful lives.

This is an anonymous message board and I’m answering honestly. I love all my kids equally but my youngest is the one I’m most bonded too. This is true for most parents of multiple children, they just won’t admit it.

Never said I loved one child less. Like with any person, some people click and some people don’t.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. I probably feel most bound to the third. What an odd thing to start a thread about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. I probably feel most bound to the third. What an odd thing to start a thread about.

Why? Just because you personally didn't experience something doesn't mean that others don't.