Is Karen considered a racial slur?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged white woman and do not consider it a racial slur. Karens are busybodies and misdemeanor vigilantes against minorities. Not sure why other middle age women want to defend this behavior and label it racist?

Because some people feel entitled to continue their bad behavior.

I feel like it started as a remark to police women who are being entitled and racist (unfortunately named, given how many people actually DO have the name Karen).

It is now a word to tell white, middle aged women specifically that they are being uppity and should sit down and accept whatever they are given in a way that alludes to racism, but isn't necessarily racist in itself (what the women are saying).

For example, in the hot coffee situation. If I am asking or hotter coffee, does that make me a Karen? Because now I think common usage would say "yes" if I am a middle-aged white woman. If I am telling a young black man I am going to get them fired for the lukewarm story, THAT is worth shutting down.

It all depends on how you ask.

There are ways of “using your voice” that don’t sound entitled or abusive.

BS. There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right. Just make the coffee the correct way and there won't be any problems. But serving lukewarm crap and expecting customers to sheepishly accept it and shuffle away is ridiculous. If you suck at your job, maybe find another. But the person pointing out that the coffee is bad is not the problem.

BS. It’s 100% in the way someone asks.

Some people have to find something to complain about everywhere they go. Those people also tend to come across as overly rude and unreasonable. I have never been served a "lukewarm" cup of coffee in my life. You remind me of my mom - she goes to a bunch of shitty, cheap establishments and then complains when the food definitely matches her price point. For example, she goes somewhere that has a $13.99 "baked salmon." It comes out all freezer burned and dry and overcooked. She complains. No shit that's how it came out - what do you expect for 13.99. That's how people become Karens (one way)

Agree. Some people just seek out problems.

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Anonymous wrote:FWIW, kids have all picked this up and use it in place of the word “tattletale” now. It’s not only directed at older white women, although it started that way.

And yes, as a white woman, I do pause when I see legitimately bad behavior and wonder if I’ll be filmed and called a Karen for speaking up.

+1

Young people use it for everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. It is directed at one race in particular.

+1. This is an awful slur that is for some reason tolerated. I appreciate that teacher shutting it down.

This is a bit dramatic, and honestly exactly the reason people use it to describe a certain kind of person. It's on the level of calling someone a busy body. Calling it a slur is disrespectful to the experience of people who actually get slurs lobbed at them, and is typical centering behavior of exactly the kind of person who gets called a Karen.

OK, Laqueefa.

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YES of course it is.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged white woman and do not consider it a racial slur. Karens are busybodies and misdemeanor vigilantes against minorities. Not sure why other middle age women want to defend this behavior and label it racist?

Because some people feel entitled to continue their bad behavior.

I feel like it started as a remark to police women who are being entitled and racist (unfortunately named, given how many people actually DO have the name Karen).

It is now a word to tell white, middle aged women specifically that they are being uppity and should sit down and accept whatever they are given in a way that alludes to racism, but isn't necessarily racist in itself (what the women are saying).

For example, in the hot coffee situation. If I am asking or hotter coffee, does that make me a Karen? Because now I think common usage would say "yes" if I am a middle-aged white woman. If I am telling a young black man I am going to get them fired for the lukewarm story, THAT is worth shutting down.

It all depends on how you ask.

There are ways of “using your voice” that don’t sound entitled or abusive.

BS. There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right. Just make the coffee the correct way and there won't be any problems. But serving lukewarm crap and expecting customers to sheepishly accept it and shuffle away is ridiculous. If you suck at your job, maybe find another. But the person pointing out that the coffee is bad is not the problem.

BS. It’s 100% in the way someone asks.

How can you say 100%? The word is tossed around very easily. And no, it's not deserved 100% of the time. Obviously.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged white woman and do not consider it a racial slur. Karens are busybodies and misdemeanor vigilantes against minorities. Not sure why other middle age women want to defend this behavior and label it racist?

Because some people feel entitled to continue their bad behavior.

I feel like it started as a remark to police women who are being entitled and racist (unfortunately named, given how many people actually DO have the name Karen).

It is now a word to tell white, middle aged women specifically that they are being uppity and should sit down and accept whatever they are given in a way that alludes to racism, but isn't necessarily racist in itself (what the women are saying).

For example, in the hot coffee situation. If I am asking or hotter coffee, does that make me a Karen? Because now I think common usage would say "yes" if I am a middle-aged white woman. If I am telling a young black man I am going to get them fired for the lukewarm story, THAT is worth shutting down.

It all depends on how you ask.

There are ways of “using your voice” that don’t sound entitled or abusive.

BS. There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right. Just make the coffee the correct way and there won't be any problems. But serving lukewarm crap and expecting customers to sheepishly accept it and shuffle away is ridiculous. If you suck at your job, maybe find another. But the person pointing out that the coffee is bad is not the problem.

BS. It’s 100% in the way someone asks.

How can you say 100%? The word is tossed around very easily. And no, it's not deserved 100% of the time. Obviously.

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It is 100% NOT “There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right”.

If someone is constantly getting that feedback in all areas of their life then that person should reflect on how they interact with others.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged white woman and do not consider it a racial slur. Karens are busybodies and misdemeanor vigilantes against minorities. Not sure why other middle age women want to defend this behavior and label it racist?

Because some people feel entitled to continue their bad behavior.

I feel like it started as a remark to police women who are being entitled and racist (unfortunately named, given how many people actually DO have the name Karen).

It is now a word to tell white, middle aged women specifically that they are being uppity and should sit down and accept whatever they are given in a way that alludes to racism, but isn't necessarily racist in itself (what the women are saying).

For example, in the hot coffee situation. If I am asking or hotter coffee, does that make me a Karen? Because now I think common usage would say "yes" if I am a middle-aged white woman. If I am telling a young black man I am going to get them fired for the lukewarm story, THAT is worth shutting down.

It all depends on how you ask.

There are ways of “using your voice” that don’t sound entitled or abusive.

BS. There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right. Just make the coffee the correct way and there won't be any problems. But serving lukewarm crap and expecting customers to sheepishly accept it and shuffle away is ridiculous. If you suck at your job, maybe find another. But the person pointing out that the coffee is bad is not the problem.

BS. It’s 100% in the way someone asks.

How can you say 100%? The word is tossed around very easily. And no, it's not deserved 100% of the time. Obviously.

99.9%

It is 100% NOT “There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right”.

If someone is constantly getting that feedback in all areas of their life then that person should reflect on how they interact with others.

I think you're pretty out to lunch on how often the word is used. I was recently at a drive thru and one of my kids noticed something wasn't in our bag. So I pulled over to check and said if it was forgotten we would go back and ask for it. He said I can't do that because I would be called a Karen. Turns out we weren't charged for it anyway so we just left since I didn't want to go back through the line. Why would asking for an item I paid for, if that's what had indeed happened brand me a "Karen" but that's where we 're at. You're not up to speed on this.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Racist and sexist. When you take a term associated with a specific race, age, gender, or nationality and use it to negatively describe an action, that term is a slur.

A “Karen” refers to a white, older woman. Using a term that reflects age, race, and gender to denigrate another is using the term as a slur.

Our society doesn’t look at it like a slur, because it’s seen as socially acceptable to denigrate white women. Same with the term “Becky”.

I call people out on it all the time. We should be encouraging women to use their voices.

100, even when -- or maybe especially when -- that is a group of women who have been silenced and told that what they have should is good enough for them.

Karens are infraction vigilantes, we don’t need “hall monitors” in society. I don’t encourage this speaking and those women need to stop trying to control others.

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Anonymous wrote:Rich white women want to be oppressed so bad.

Some. Not all.

I could be considered this -- a rich white woman. (Although I am poor by DCUM standards- HHI about 150,000). And is my situation worse than a poor black woman's, on average? Hell no. Do I experience discrimination, especially in situations in which my education/wealth isn't apparent? 1000%

Do you flex your “power” when you talk down to others?

Well, my first instinct is to say no -- not consciously.
But if I reflect more, maybe I do? For example: I have a chronically ill child. I know how to manage their condition. A person at a lab recently gave instructions for something that would result in my kid having inaccurate test results. The woman who was administering (also white, if it matter) was very insistent. I called the doctor and had the doctor tell the woman the woman was doing the test wrong. Does that count?

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Anonymous wrote:Rich white women want to be oppressed so bad.

Some. Not all.

I could be considered this -- a rich white woman. (Although I am poor by DCUM standards- HHI about 150,000). And is my situation worse than a poor black woman's, on average? Hell no. Do I experience discrimination, especially in situations in which my education/wealth isn't apparent? 1000%

Do you flex your “power” when you talk down to others?

Well, my first instinct is to say no -- not consciously.
But if I reflect more, maybe I do? For example: I have a chronically ill child. I know how to manage their condition. A person at a lab recently gave instructions for something that would result in my kid having inaccurate test results. The woman who was administering (also white, if it matter) was very insistent. I called the doctor and had the doctor tell the woman the woman was doing the test wrong. Does that count?

PP again-- to add, because **I** don't think it would count. I don't think I had a choice; accurate results matter, and I *knew* it was being done incorrectly. But I am absolutely sure some people might think it's entitled behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged white woman and do not consider it a racial slur. Karens are busybodies and misdemeanor vigilantes against minorities. Not sure why other middle age women want to defend this behavior and label it racist?

Because some people feel entitled to continue their bad behavior.

I feel like it started as a remark to police women who are being entitled and racist (unfortunately named, given how many people actually DO have the name Karen).

It is now a word to tell white, middle aged women specifically that they are being uppity and should sit down and accept whatever they are given in a way that alludes to racism, but isn't necessarily racist in itself (what the women are saying).

For example, in the hot coffee situation. If I am asking or hotter coffee, does that make me a Karen? Because now I think common usage would say "yes" if I am a middle-aged white woman. If I am telling a young black man I am going to get them fired for the lukewarm story, THAT is worth shutting down.

It all depends on how you ask.

There are ways of “using your voice” that don’t sound entitled or abusive.

BS. There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right. Just make the coffee the correct way and there won't be any problems. But serving lukewarm crap and expecting customers to sheepishly accept it and shuffle away is ridiculous. If you suck at your job, maybe find another. But the person pointing out that the coffee is bad is not the problem.

BS. It’s 100% in the way someone asks.

How can you say 100%? The word is tossed around very easily. And no, it's not deserved 100% of the time. Obviously.

99.9%

It is 100% NOT “There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right”.

If someone is constantly getting that feedback in all areas of their life then that person should reflect on how they interact with others.

I think you're pretty out to lunch on how often the word is used. I was recently at a drive thru and one of my kids noticed something wasn't in our bag. So I pulled over to check and said if it was forgotten we would go back and ask for it. He said I can't do that because I would be called a Karen. Turns out we weren't charged for it anyway so we just left since I didn't want to go back through the line. Why would asking for an item I paid for, if that's what had indeed happened brand me a "Karen" but that's where we 're at. You're not up to speed on this.

Sounds like you have a history of being rude to staff.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged white woman and do not consider it a racial slur. Karens are busybodies and misdemeanor vigilantes against minorities. Not sure why other middle age women want to defend this behavior and label it racist?

Because some people feel entitled to continue their bad behavior.

I feel like it started as a remark to police women who are being entitled and racist (unfortunately named, given how many people actually DO have the name Karen).

It is now a word to tell white, middle aged women specifically that they are being uppity and should sit down and accept whatever they are given in a way that alludes to racism, but isn't necessarily racist in itself (what the women are saying).

For example, in the hot coffee situation. If I am asking or hotter coffee, does that make me a Karen? Because now I think common usage would say "yes" if I am a middle-aged white woman. If I am telling a young black man I am going to get them fired for the lukewarm story, THAT is worth shutting down.

It all depends on how you ask.

There are ways of “using your voice” that don’t sound entitled or abusive.

BS. There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right. Just make the coffee the correct way and there won't be any problems. But serving lukewarm crap and expecting customers to sheepishly accept it and shuffle away is ridiculous. If you suck at your job, maybe find another. But the person pointing out that the coffee is bad is not the problem.

BS. It’s 100% in the way someone asks.

How can you say 100%? The word is tossed around very easily. And no, it's not deserved 100% of the time. Obviously.

99.9%

It is 100% NOT “There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right”.

If someone is constantly getting that feedback in all areas of their life then that person should reflect on how they interact with others.

I think you're pretty out to lunch on how often the word is used. I was recently at a drive thru and one of my kids noticed something wasn't in our bag. So I pulled over to check and said if it was forgotten we would go back and ask for it. He said I can't do that because I would be called a Karen. Turns out we weren't charged for it anyway so we just left since I didn't want to go back through the line. Why would asking for an item I paid for, if that's what had indeed happened brand me a "Karen" but that's where we 're at. You're not up to speed on this.

Sounds like you have a history of being rude to staff.

Uh no, but that's how the kids use the word. Guess you haven't been around any recently.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged white woman and do not consider it a racial slur. Karens are busybodies and misdemeanor vigilantes against minorities. Not sure why other middle age women want to defend this behavior and label it racist?

Because some people feel entitled to continue their bad behavior.

I feel like it started as a remark to police women who are being entitled and racist (unfortunately named, given how many people actually DO have the name Karen).

It is now a word to tell white, middle aged women specifically that they are being uppity and should sit down and accept whatever they are given in a way that alludes to racism, but isn't necessarily racist in itself (what the women are saying).

For example, in the hot coffee situation. If I am asking or hotter coffee, does that make me a Karen? Because now I think common usage would say "yes" if I am a middle-aged white woman. If I am telling a young black man I am going to get them fired for the lukewarm story, THAT is worth shutting down.

It all depends on how you ask.

There are ways of “using your voice” that don’t sound entitled or abusive.

BS. There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right. Just make the coffee the correct way and there won't be any problems. But serving lukewarm crap and expecting customers to sheepishly accept it and shuffle away is ridiculous. If you suck at your job, maybe find another. But the person pointing out that the coffee is bad is not the problem.

BS. It’s 100% in the way someone asks.

How can you say 100%? The word is tossed around very easily. And no, it's not deserved 100% of the time. Obviously.

99.9%

It is 100% NOT “There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right”.

If someone is constantly getting that feedback in all areas of their life then that person should reflect on how they interact with others.

I think you're pretty out to lunch on how often the word is used. I was recently at a drive thru and one of my kids noticed something wasn't in our bag. So I pulled over to check and said if it was forgotten we would go back and ask for it. He said I can't do that because I would be called a Karen. Turns out we weren't charged for it anyway so we just left since I didn't want to go back through the line. Why would asking for an item I paid for, if that's what had indeed happened brand me a "Karen" but that's where we 're at. You're not up to speed on this.

This is what bothers me. My own kids seem to think they are policing my ability to for what I have literally paid for, and I don't think society is encouraging them to do the same for their dad. How does that transfer into what girls and boys internalize about what they are entitled to? (PS, I also can't remember ever complaining about a lukewarm coffee, but if you ask for hot coffee, I really don't think that is racism most of the time. And I don't even think it's over-entitlement).

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged white woman and do not consider it a racial slur. Karens are busybodies and misdemeanor vigilantes against minorities. Not sure why other middle age women want to defend this behavior and label it racist?

Because some people feel entitled to continue their bad behavior.

I feel like it started as a remark to police women who are being entitled and racist (unfortunately named, given how many people actually DO have the name Karen).

It is now a word to tell white, middle aged women specifically that they are being uppity and should sit down and accept whatever they are given in a way that alludes to racism, but isn't necessarily racist in itself (what the women are saying).

For example, in the hot coffee situation. If I am asking or hotter coffee, does that make me a Karen? Because now I think common usage would say "yes" if I am a middle-aged white woman. If I am telling a young black man I am going to get them fired for the lukewarm story, THAT is worth shutting down.

It all depends on how you ask.

There are ways of “using your voice” that don’t sound entitled or abusive.

BS. There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right. Just make the coffee the correct way and there won't be any problems. But serving lukewarm crap and expecting customers to sheepishly accept it and shuffle away is ridiculous. If you suck at your job, maybe find another. But the person pointing out that the coffee is bad is not the problem.

BS. It’s 100% in the way someone asks.

How can you say 100%? The word is tossed around very easily. And no, it's not deserved 100% of the time. Obviously.

99.9%

It is 100% NOT “There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right”.

If someone is constantly getting that feedback in all areas of their life then that person should reflect on how they interact with others.

I think you're pretty out to lunch on how often the word is used. I was recently at a drive thru and one of my kids noticed something wasn't in our bag. So I pulled over to check and said if it was forgotten we would go back and ask for it. He said I can't do that because I would be called a Karen. Turns out we weren't charged for it anyway so we just left since I didn't want to go back through the line. Why would asking for an item I paid for, if that's what had indeed happened brand me a "Karen" but that's where we 're at. You're not up to speed on this.

Sounds like you have a history of being rude to staff.

Uh no, but that's how the kids use the word. Guess you haven't been around any recently.

This is also my point. For whatever reason, Karen now = a person who asks for something and embarasses their kids. At least among my kids. Racism doesn't really have anything to do with it for them. although they may think it does.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a middle aged white woman and do not consider it a racial slur. Karens are busybodies and misdemeanor vigilantes against minorities. Not sure why other middle age women want to defend this behavior and label it racist?

Because some people feel entitled to continue their bad behavior.

I feel like it started as a remark to police women who are being entitled and racist (unfortunately named, given how many people actually DO have the name Karen).

It is now a word to tell white, middle aged women specifically that they are being uppity and should sit down and accept whatever they are given in a way that alludes to racism, but isn't necessarily racist in itself (what the women are saying).

For example, in the hot coffee situation. If I am asking or hotter coffee, does that make me a Karen? Because now I think common usage would say "yes" if I am a middle-aged white woman. If I am telling a young black man I am going to get them fired for the lukewarm story, THAT is worth shutting down.

It all depends on how you ask.

There are ways of “using your voice” that don’t sound entitled or abusive.

BS. There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right. Just make the coffee the correct way and there won't be any problems. But serving lukewarm crap and expecting customers to sheepishly accept it and shuffle away is ridiculous. If you suck at your job, maybe find another. But the person pointing out that the coffee is bad is not the problem.

BS. It’s 100% in the way someone asks.

How can you say 100%? The word is tossed around very easily. And no, it's not deserved 100% of the time. Obviously.

99.9%

It is 100% NOT “There is nothing some women of a certain age can do right”.

If someone is constantly getting that feedback in all areas of their life then that person should reflect on how they interact with others.

I think you're pretty out to lunch on how often the word is used. I was recently at a drive thru and one of my kids noticed something wasn't in our bag. So I pulled over to check and said if it was forgotten we would go back and ask for it. He said I can't do that because I would be called a Karen. Turns out we weren't charged for it anyway so we just left since I didn't want to go back through the line. Why would asking for an item I paid for, if that's what had indeed happened brand me a "Karen" but that's where we 're at. You're not up to speed on this.

Np I’m with you. I’ve actually never heard it used in the intended way in real life. Lots of “Karen” TikTok’s of women being actually rude but, in real life, I’ve only seen it used as an insult to a woman who is making a valid request or comment.