The state of MCPS is atrocious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: ... They text us when they need pickup, but we've told them that unlike them, we don't have the phones glued to our hands, so if they need a pickup, they need to call. We can hear the phone ringing but not the text notification.

You do know you can change text notifications, right? Make it as loud as a phone call?

Passive aggressive, much?

You do know people don't have to have loud texts disrupting their entire day and it is perfectly reasonable to want to actually talk to your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally get why MCPS doesn’t want to give up on students. But there are a real subset of kids who are violent and disruptive, and they get shuffled from school to school rather than truly addressing the underlying issues. I don’t think many here are aware of some of the deeply disturbed family lives some of these kids are coming from. Social media is THE LAST CONCERN in these situations. But these kids are creating outsized problems.

MCPS thinks it can soften expectations to give kids multiple chances as they attempt to support mental health and teach social skills that aren’t being supported or taught at home.

It doesn’t work, and it degrades the educational experience of everyone else.

MCPS needs to go back to setting clear behavioral and academic expectations and then enforce them. One, this actually helps a lot of kids who struggle in terms of behavior. Two, there are kids who could behave just fine, but who take advantage of the fact there are few rules and no consequences. Three, it makes the environment healthier for everyone.

And four, for those kids with significant behavioral issues, use a collaborative case management approach to address all aspects of the child’s life. If this includes transferring the student to a special school for kids with acute behavioral issues, do it. But have a clear plan in place for reintegrating that child when they meet behavioral expectations.

Agree with ALL of this. Honestly, I think most parents and teachers would agree with you. But there is a loud and vocal groups of politicians and voters in Montgomery County who disagree and they are mostly in control at the moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh really. Are teachers rude. Well how would you feel if you were assaulted and harrased by students and admin everyday and when you tried to speak up about it you were silenced at work and made to make the paperwork rosy.

You should report incidents of assault to MCPD. It's a felony.

[Anonymous]

MCPS obsession with testing and hitting benchmarks is leading to anxiety and behavioral issues in children.

[Anonymous]

Teachers are so gaslighted that they believe that this is the new normal. We also believe that when the maladaaaptive behavior come at us from students, aaadmin, the union, parents, politicians etc that is hundreds of people and millions of dollars of toxic status quo ruining our lives with a system built around making us have rosy optics for a degraded generation. It al comes from the top down. The public needs to know what education has become. A big money scheme and that is why in aamerica the more money you dump the worse off the students are and the more in debt they become when trying to play the college game. Even the good students realize when it's too late and the dots have been made that they were unprepared for college.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure mcea has hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of lawyers on retainer paid for by teachers but released against teacher ( or threat to at least) if they have the gull to open their blabbering mouths.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally get why MCPS doesn’t want to give up on students. But there are a real subset of kids who are violent and disruptive, and they get shuffled from school to school rather than truly addressing the underlying issues. I don’t think many here are aware of some of the deeply disturbed family lives some of these kids are coming from. Social media is THE LAST CONCERN in these situations. But these kids are creating outsized problems.

MCPS thinks it can soften expectations to give kids multiple chances as they attempt to support mental health and teach social skills that aren’t being supported or taught at home.

It doesn’t work, and it degrades the educational experience of everyone else.

MCPS needs to go back to setting clear behavioral and academic expectations and then enforce them. One, this actually helps a lot of kids who struggle in terms of behavior. Two, there are kids who could behave just fine, but who take advantage of the fact there are few rules and no consequences. Three, it makes the environment healthier for everyone.

And four, for those kids with significant behavioral issues, use a collaborative case management approach to address all aspects of the child’s life. If this includes transferring the student to a special school for kids with acute behavioral issues, do it. But have a clear plan in place for reintegrating that child when they meet behavioral expectations.

It took me, the principal, and DSs teacher over a year to get him placed in a special education school. There is no reason why it should have taken that long. I did outside neuro testing since the school psychologist said that outside testing would happen faster than she could do it. I'm not sure how many other people could have been onboard to advocate that the current self contained classroom was not appropriate. Prior to all CIEP meetings, the school IEP team, including me, would pre game a strategy.

CIEP dragged their feet. I'm grateful for the principal and the teacher who worked with me to do what they could with him at school. Reintegration is now on the table and honestly, I'm not in favor of it. He's successful where he's at. I see no need to disrupt what is working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally get why MCPS doesn’t want to give up on students. But there are a real subset of kids who are violent and disruptive, and they get shuffled from school to school rather than truly addressing the underlying issues. I don’t think many here are aware of some of the deeply disturbed family lives some of these kids are coming from. Social media is THE LAST CONCERN in these situations. But these kids are creating outsized problems.

MCPS thinks it can soften expectations to give kids multiple chances as they attempt to support mental health and teach social skills that aren’t being supported or taught at home.

It doesn’t work, and it degrades the educational experience of everyone else.

MCPS needs to go back to setting clear behavioral and academic expectations and then enforce them. One, this actually helps a lot of kids who struggle in terms of behavior. Two, there are kids who could behave just fine, but who take advantage of the fact there are few rules and no consequences. Three, it makes the environment healthier for everyone.

And four, for those kids with significant behavioral issues, use a collaborative case management approach to address all aspects of the child’s life. If this includes transferring the student to a special school for kids with acute behavioral issues, do it. But have a clear plan in place for reintegrating that child when they meet behavioral expectations.

They are doing far more harm than good with their fake mental health and social support. There is no real mental health or social support, just class discussions with teachers or SSL hour lectures/activities to "discuss it." Kids with true mental health and other issues need real help outside MCPS, as MCPS is to educate, not parent or handle mental health crises, and should only get involved to help parents get their kids to the right support. Many of these kids need therapists, psychologists/psychiatrists and really good evaluations and that's not happening in MCPS. It also needs to start catching learning disabilities earlier and getting those kids help if kids cannot perform in school they get discouraged and give up or act out. MCPS and/or the county should establish a few mental health clinics outside the schools where families can go for crisis mental health (the crisis center is more set up for adults than kids) and the county needs to offer more mental health services (they do have some but not accessible to all) for kids (although I suspect one issue is they cannot hire enough social workers/therapists as no one wants to work for the county anymore as it isn't a good job as it once was).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get why MCPS doesn’t want to give up on students. But there are a real subset of kids who are violent and disruptive, and they get shuffled from school to school rather than truly addressing the underlying issues. I don’t think many here are aware of some of the deeply disturbed family lives some of these kids are coming from. Social media is THE LAST CONCERN in these situations. But these kids are creating outsized problems.

MCPS thinks it can soften expectations to give kids multiple chances as they attempt to support mental health and teach social skills that aren’t being supported or taught at home.

It doesn’t work, and it degrades the educational experience of everyone else.

MCPS needs to go back to setting clear behavioral and academic expectations and then enforce them. One, this actually helps a lot of kids who struggle in terms of behavior. Two, there are kids who could behave just fine, but who take advantage of the fact there are few rules and no consequences. Three, it makes the environment healthier for everyone.

And four, for those kids with significant behavioral issues, use a collaborative case management approach to address all aspects of the child’s life. If this includes transferring the student to a special school for kids with acute behavioral issues, do it. But have a clear plan in place for reintegrating that child when they meet behavioral expectations.

They are doing far more harm than good with their fake mental health and social support. There is no real mental health or social support, just class discussions with teachers or SSL hour lectures/activities to "discuss it." Kids with true mental health and other issues need real help outside MCPS, as MCPS is to educate, not parent or handle mental health crises, and should only get involved to help parents get their kids to the right support. Many of these kids need therapists, psychologists/psychiatrists and really good evaluations and that's not happening in MCPS. It also needs to start catching learning disabilities earlier and getting those kids help if kids cannot perform in school they get discouraged and give up or act out. MCPS and/or the county should establish a few mental health clinics outside the schools where families can go for crisis mental health (the crisis center is more set up for adults than kids) and the county needs to offer more mental health services (they do have some but not accessible to all) for kids (although I suspect one issue is they cannot hire enough social workers/therapists as no one wants to work for the county anymore as it isn't a good job as it once was).

YES! You nailed it. MCPS is NOT equipped nor should it be the lead on TREATING AND SUPPORTING kids with mental health needs or issues. It can, though, be on the front lines of diagnosing or spotting those needs, much like they are with vision and hearing.

Prince George's County is leading the way here: https://wjla.com/news/health/walk-in-services-comprehensive-mental-health-care-available-prince-georges-county-lanham-maryland-hospital-behavioral-pavilion-treatment-community-clinic-outpatient-program-dmv-make-appointment-angela-alsobrooks

Prince William County, Va: https://wjla.com/news/local/prince-william-county-holds-ribbon-cutting-for-new-mental-health-crisis-receiving-center-glenn-youngkin-substance-abuse-elizabeth-guzman-woodbridge

MoCo needs to follow suit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get why MCPS doesn’t want to give up on students. But there are a real subset of kids who are violent and disruptive, and they get shuffled from school to school rather than truly addressing the underlying issues. I don’t think many here are aware of some of the deeply disturbed family lives some of these kids are coming from. Social media is THE LAST CONCERN in these situations. But these kids are creating outsized problems.

MCPS thinks it can soften expectations to give kids multiple chances as they attempt to support mental health and teach social skills that aren’t being supported or taught at home.

It doesn’t work, and it degrades the educational experience of everyone else.

MCPS needs to go back to setting clear behavioral and academic expectations and then enforce them. One, this actually helps a lot of kids who struggle in terms of behavior. Two, there are kids who could behave just fine, but who take advantage of the fact there are few rules and no consequences. Three, it makes the environment healthier for everyone.

And four, for those kids with significant behavioral issues, use a collaborative case management approach to address all aspects of the child’s life. If this includes transferring the student to a special school for kids with acute behavioral issues, do it. But have a clear plan in place for reintegrating that child when they meet behavioral expectations.

They are doing far more harm than good with their fake mental health and social support. There is no real mental health or social support, just class discussions with teachers or SSL hour lectures/activities to "discuss it." Kids with true mental health and other issues need real help outside MCPS, as MCPS is to educate, not parent or handle mental health crises, and should only get involved to help parents get their kids to the right support. Many of these kids need therapists, psychologists/psychiatrists and really good evaluations and that's not happening in MCPS. It also needs to start catching learning disabilities earlier and getting those kids help if kids cannot perform in school they get discouraged and give up or act out. MCPS and/or the county should establish a few mental health clinics outside the schools where families can go for crisis mental health (the crisis center is more set up for adults than kids) and the county needs to offer more mental health services (they do have some but not accessible to all) for kids (although I suspect one issue is they cannot hire enough social workers/therapists as no one wants to work for the county anymore as it isn't a good job as it once was).

YES! You nailed it. MCPS is NOT equipped nor should it be the lead on TREATING AND SUPPORTING kids with mental health needs or issues. It can, though, be on the front lines of diagnosing or spotting those needs, much like they are with vision and hearing.

Prince George's County is leading the way here: https://wjla.com/news/health/walk-in-services-comprehensive-mental-health-care-available-prince-georges-county-lanham-maryland-hospital-behavioral-pavilion-treatment-community-clinic-outpatient-program-dmv-make-appointment-angela-alsobrooks

Prince William County, Va: https://wjla.com/news/local/prince-william-county-holds-ribbon-cutting-for-new-mental-health-crisis-receiving-center-glenn-youngkin-substance-abuse-elizabeth-guzman-woodbridge

MoCo needs to follow suit.

Their vision and hearing screenings are a joke, just are the ones in the ped's clinics. They were completely incorrect for my kids and they have no business doing medical care for kids. If they want to provide medical care, set up clinics in some of the local schools with parent consent so kids can get regular care and physicals at a free or low cost. It's all for the show.

They need to focus on education. If some of these kids were getting a better education and their needs met (especially via early intervention in K-5), many of them would be doing far better later on. When they ignore basic learning disabilities and only provide minimal support for other disabilities and delays they are failing our kids. When they ignore smart and gifted kids and lump them all together, they are failing our kids. When they ignore the average kids who may be struggling but too quiet or because they are passing, they are also failing those kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get why MCPS doesn’t want to give up on students. But there are a real subset of kids who are violent and disruptive, and they get shuffled from school to school rather than truly addressing the underlying issues. I don’t think many here are aware of some of the deeply disturbed family lives some of these kids are coming from. Social media is THE LAST CONCERN in these situations. But these kids are creating outsized problems.

MCPS thinks it can soften expectations to give kids multiple chances as they attempt to support mental health and teach social skills that aren’t being supported or taught at home.

It doesn’t work, and it degrades the educational experience of everyone else.

MCPS needs to go back to setting clear behavioral and academic expectations and then enforce them. One, this actually helps a lot of kids who struggle in terms of behavior. Two, there are kids who could behave just fine, but who take advantage of the fact there are few rules and no consequences. Three, it makes the environment healthier for everyone.

And four, for those kids with significant behavioral issues, use a collaborative case management approach to address all aspects of the child’s life. If this includes transferring the student to a special school for kids with acute behavioral issues, do it. But have a clear plan in place for reintegrating that child when they meet behavioral expectations.

They are doing far more harm than good with their fake mental health and social support. There is no real mental health or social support, just class discussions with teachers or SSL hour lectures/activities to "discuss it." Kids with true mental health and other issues need real help outside MCPS, as MCPS is to educate, not parent or handle mental health crises, and should only get involved to help parents get their kids to the right support. Many of these kids need therapists, psychologists/psychiatrists and really good evaluations and that's not happening in MCPS. It also needs to start catching learning disabilities earlier and getting those kids help if kids cannot perform in school they get discouraged and give up or act out. MCPS and/or the county should establish a few mental health clinics outside the schools where families can go for crisis mental health (the crisis center is more set up for adults than kids) and the county needs to offer more mental health services (they do have some but not accessible to all) for kids (although I suspect one issue is they cannot hire enough social workers/therapists as no one wants to work for the county anymore as it isn't a good job as it once was).

YES! You nailed it. MCPS is NOT equipped nor should it be the lead on TREATING AND SUPPORTING kids with mental health needs or issues. It can, though, be on the front lines of diagnosing or spotting those needs, much like they are with vision and hearing.

Prince George's County is leading the way here: https://wjla.com/news/health/walk-in-services-comprehensive-mental-health-care-available-prince-georges-county-lanham-maryland-hospital-behavioral-pavilion-treatment-community-clinic-outpatient-program-dmv-make-appointment-angela-alsobrooks

Prince William County, Va: https://wjla.com/news/local/prince-william-county-holds-ribbon-cutting-for-new-mental-health-crisis-receiving-center-glenn-youngkin-substance-abuse-elizabeth-guzman-woodbridge

MoCo needs to follow suit.

Their vision and hearing screenings are a joke, just are the ones in the ped's clinics. They were completely incorrect for my kids and they have no business doing medical care for kids. If they want to provide medical care, set up clinics in some of the local schools with parent consent so kids can get regular care and physicals at a free or low cost. It's all for the show.

They need to focus on education. If some of these kids were getting a better education and their needs met (especially via early intervention in K-5), many of them would be doing far better later on. When they ignore basic learning disabilities and only provide minimal support for other disabilities and delays they are failing our kids. When they ignore smart and gifted kids and lump them all together, they are failing our kids. When they ignore the average kids who may be struggling but too quiet or because they are passing, they are also failing those kids.

I don't know what to tell you. I personally benefited from the vision screenings in MCPS as a kid in the 90s, so I disagree that it doesn't work. My teachers noticed the issue, I had the vision screening and then I got a referral to an optometrist and I got glasses, which I desperately needed.

I agree with the other points, but it's not unreasonable to expect that the entity that has oversight of our kids for 6 hours a day every day can play a role in screening for physical and mental health anomalies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get why MCPS doesn’t want to give up on students. But there are a real subset of kids who are violent and disruptive, and they get shuffled from school to school rather than truly addressing the underlying issues. I don’t think many here are aware of some of the deeply disturbed family lives some of these kids are coming from. Social media is THE LAST CONCERN in these situations. But these kids are creating outsized problems.

MCPS thinks it can soften expectations to give kids multiple chances as they attempt to support mental health and teach social skills that aren’t being supported or taught at home.

It doesn’t work, and it degrades the educational experience of everyone else.

MCPS needs to go back to setting clear behavioral and academic expectations and then enforce them. One, this actually helps a lot of kids who struggle in terms of behavior. Two, there are kids who could behave just fine, but who take advantage of the fact there are few rules and no consequences. Three, it makes the environment healthier for everyone.

And four, for those kids with significant behavioral issues, use a collaborative case management approach to address all aspects of the child’s life. If this includes transferring the student to a special school for kids with acute behavioral issues, do it. But have a clear plan in place for reintegrating that child when they meet behavioral expectations.

They are doing far more harm than good with their fake mental health and social support. There is no real mental health or social support, just class discussions with teachers or SSL hour lectures/activities to "discuss it." Kids with true mental health and other issues need real help outside MCPS, as MCPS is to educate, not parent or handle mental health crises, and should only get involved to help parents get their kids to the right support. Many of these kids need therapists, psychologists/psychiatrists and really good evaluations and that's not happening in MCPS. It also needs to start catching learning disabilities earlier and getting those kids help if kids cannot perform in school they get discouraged and give up or act out. MCPS and/or the county should establish a few mental health clinics outside the schools where families can go for crisis mental health (the crisis center is more set up for adults than kids) and the county needs to offer more mental health services (they do have some but not accessible to all) for kids (although I suspect one issue is they cannot hire enough social workers/therapists as no one wants to work for the county anymore as it isn't a good job as it once was).

YES! You nailed it. MCPS is NOT equipped nor should it be the lead on TREATING AND SUPPORTING kids with mental health needs or issues. It can, though, be on the front lines of diagnosing or spotting those needs, much like they are with vision and hearing.

Prince George's County is leading the way here: https://wjla.com/news/health/walk-in-services-comprehensive-mental-health-care-available-prince-georges-county-lanham-maryland-hospital-behavioral-pavilion-treatment-community-clinic-outpatient-program-dmv-make-appointment-angela-alsobrooks

Prince William County, Va: https://wjla.com/news/local/prince-william-county-holds-ribbon-cutting-for-new-mental-health-crisis-receiving-center-glenn-youngkin-substance-abuse-elizabeth-guzman-woodbridge

MoCo needs to follow suit.

Their vision and hearing screenings are a joke, just are the ones in the ped's clinics. They were completely incorrect for my kids and they have no business doing medical care for kids. If they want to provide medical care, set up clinics in some of the local schools with parent consent so kids can get regular care and physicals at a free or low cost. It's all for the show.

They need to focus on education. If some of these kids were getting a better education and their needs met (especially via early intervention in K-5), many of them would be doing far better later on. When they ignore basic learning disabilities and only provide minimal support for other disabilities and delays they are failing our kids. When they ignore smart and gifted kids and lump them all together, they are failing our kids. When they ignore the average kids who may be struggling but too quiet or because they are passing, they are also failing those kids.

I don't know what to tell you. I personally benefited from the vision screenings in MCPS as a kid in the 90s, so I disagree that it doesn't work. My teachers noticed the issue, I had the vision screening and then I got a referral to an optometrist and I got glasses, which I desperately needed.

I agree with the other points, but it's not unreasonable to expect that the entity that has oversight of our kids for 6 hours a day every day can play a role in screening for physical and mental health anomalies.

With my third son who never complained about vision and pediatrician does not check eyes till like 8 so the school screening him in kindergarten showed me that my kid's reading issues were his eyes not trying. It is a wonderful thing our schools do for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: ... They text us when they need pickup, but we've told them that unlike them, we don't have the phones glued to our hands, so if they need a pickup, they need to call. We can hear the phone ringing but not the text notification.

You do know you can change text notifications, right? Make it as loud as a phone call?

Passive aggressive, much?

I don't want to keep changing the text notifications just because they can't be bothered to hit the dial button. I don't want to hear every single text from them as a ring notification.

It's not passive aggressive. Kids don't call; they text. Everything is text. I asked my kids why they don't call, and they said, "No one calls. All the kids just text".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I totally get why MCPS doesn’t want to give up on students. But there are a real subset of kids who are violent and disruptive, and they get shuffled from school to school rather than truly addressing the underlying issues. I don’t think many here are aware of some of the deeply disturbed family lives some of these kids are coming from. Social media is THE LAST CONCERN in these situations. But these kids are creating outsized problems.

MCPS thinks it can soften expectations to give kids multiple chances as they attempt to support mental health and teach social skills that aren’t being supported or taught at home.

It doesn’t work, and it degrades the educational experience of everyone else.

MCPS needs to go back to setting clear behavioral and academic expectations and then enforce them. One, this actually helps a lot of kids who struggle in terms of behavior. Two, there are kids who could behave just fine, but who take advantage of the fact there are few rules and no consequences. Three, it makes the environment healthier for everyone.

And four, for those kids with significant behavioral issues, use a collaborative case management approach to address all aspects of the child’s life. If this includes transferring the student to a special school for kids with acute behavioral issues, do it. But have a clear plan in place for reintegrating that child when they meet behavioral expectations.

They are doing far more harm than good with their fake mental health and social support. There is no real mental health or social support, just class discussions with teachers or SSL hour lectures/activities to "discuss it." Kids with true mental health and other issues need real help outside MCPS, as MCPS is to educate, not parent or handle mental health crises, and should only get involved to help parents get their kids to the right support. Many of these kids need therapists, psychologists/psychiatrists and really good evaluations and that's not happening in MCPS. It also needs to start catching learning disabilities earlier and getting those kids help if kids cannot perform in school they get discouraged and give up or act out. MCPS and/or the county should establish a few mental health clinics outside the schools where families can go for crisis mental health (the crisis center is more set up for adults than kids) and the county needs to offer more mental health services (they do have some but not accessible to all) for kids (although I suspect one issue is they cannot hire enough social workers/therapists as no one wants to work for the county anymore as it isn't a good job as it once was).

YES! You nailed it. MCPS is NOT equipped nor should it be the lead on TREATING AND SUPPORTING kids with mental health needs or issues. It can, though, be on the front lines of diagnosing or spotting those needs, much like they are with vision and hearing.

Prince George's County is leading the way here: https://wjla.com/news/health/walk-in-services-comprehensive-mental-health-care-available-prince-georges-county-lanham-maryland-hospital-behavioral-pavilion-treatment-community-clinic-outpatient-program-dmv-make-appointment-angela-alsobrooks

Prince William County, Va: https://wjla.com/news/local/prince-william-county-holds-ribbon-cutting-for-new-mental-health-crisis-receiving-center-glenn-youngkin-substance-abuse-elizabeth-guzman-woodbridge

MoCo needs to follow suit.

Their vision and hearing screenings are a joke, just are the ones in the ped's clinics. They were completely incorrect for my kids and they have no business doing medical care for kids. If they want to provide medical care, set up clinics in some of the local schools with parent consent so kids can get regular care and physicals at a free or low cost. It's all for the show.

They need to focus on education. If some of these kids were getting a better education and their needs met (especially via early intervention in K-5), many of them would be doing far better later on. When they ignore basic learning disabilities and only provide minimal support for other disabilities and delays they are failing our kids. When they ignore smart and gifted kids and lump them all together, they are failing our kids. When they ignore the average kids who may be struggling but too quiet or because they are passing, they are also failing those kids.

I don't know what to tell you. I personally benefited from the vision screenings in MCPS as a kid in the 90s, so I disagree that it doesn't work. My teachers noticed the issue, I had the vision screening and then I got a referral to an optometrist and I got glasses, which I desperately needed.

I agree with the other points, but it's not unreasonable to expect that the entity that has oversight of our kids for 6 hours a day every day can play a role in screening for physical and mental health anomalies.

Then, you had checked out parents. We always took ours for vision exams when we did our own. I don't need MCPS to do medical care. They did a huge drama for us demanding that we do a vision test for our child and it was bizarre as the child came in the week prior wearing brand new glasses and was wearing them daily. For months they demanded a copy of the doctor's exam and prescription/receipt of the classes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: ... They text us when they need pickup, but we've told them that unlike them, we don't have the phones glued to our hands, so if they need a pickup, they need to call. We can hear the phone ringing but not the text notification.

You do know you can change text notifications, right? Make it as loud as a phone call?

Passive aggressive, much?

I don't want to keep changing the text notifications just because they can't be bothered to hit the dial button. I don't want to hear every single text from them as a ring notification.

It's not passive aggressive. Kids don't call; they text. Everything is text. I asked my kids why they don't call, and they said, "No one calls. All the kids just text".

Mine do both. Sometimes they text, sometimes they call.