Husband’s Announcement

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Anonymous wrote:Ok I’m not getting how you DON’T follow your husband. How do you get a divorce over your location? And if it’s really this sudden, which I really don’t think it is and the OP is leaving something major out of her side of the story, then how do you not try to really see what’s going on with him emotionally? OP is hiding something bigger I think that she has not told us.

You get a divorce because you don't want to leave where you live and you aren't going to live with being ordered around.

And so typical, blaming the woman.

That seems like such a trivial reason to divorce.

Being *told* to move and uproot your life, and your children's lives, with no say in the matter, is trivial?

JFC, PP.

Happened to me twice. Happens to military and trailing spouses all the time.

Sure. But this is on a whim. Big difference.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he is having a midlife crisis.

or coming to his senses. I wish we have left Mclean long time ago. a cesspool of wealth and privilege

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You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

Who on earth calls someone "nuts" for not agreeing to a life they never signed up for? What's wrong with you PP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

Who on earth calls someone "nuts" for not agreeing to a life they never signed up for? What's wrong with you PP?

Oh, please. OP's DH is talking about ONE move. She needs to grow up. Some much-needed time in flyover country would knock that arrogance right out of her.

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

if your hubby decided to quit and move to NYC because he likes the nightlife there without a job would you agree? This is not about a job.

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OP, I would privately seek legal advice and know if there are steps you should take to protect yourself, and yet still think the best of your husband. If it were my husband, I would absolutely say, calmly, "you go. we are not going right away. get yourself set-up, make sure you've secured a good job and work long enough in it that you know you like it ... and we will join you later. (months -a year later) And I would mean it and it would be my intention. But he has to want this change bad enough and make a good thing happen -- not just imagine something good is going to happen.

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Op if you go do not sell your house. Rent it so you have something to return to if this all falls apart.

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

Who on earth calls someone "nuts" for not agreeing to a life they never signed up for? What's wrong with you PP?

Oh, please. OP's DH is talking about ONE move. She needs to grow up. Some much-needed time in flyover country would knock that arrogance right out of her.

Lol, the "arrogance" of wanting to share major decisions in a marriage. Whether you're an MRA troll or an indoctrinated spouse, enjoy this take on life. Let us know how it works out for you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

if your hubby decided to quit and move to NYC because he likes the nightlife there without a job would you agree? This is not about a job.

I missed where OP's husband is moving for the nightlife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

Who on earth calls someone "nuts" for not agreeing to a life they never signed up for? What's wrong with you PP?

Oh, please. OP's DH is talking about ONE move. She needs to grow up. Some much-needed time in flyover country would knock that arrogance right out of her.

Lol, the "arrogance" of wanting to share major decisions in a marriage. Whether you're an MRA troll or an indoctrinated spouse, enjoy this take on life. Let us know how it works out for you!

I wasn't speaking of arrogance in her marriage. I'm talking about her refusal to leave the DMV.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

Who on earth calls someone "nuts" for not agreeing to a life they never signed up for? What's wrong with you PP?

Oh, please. OP's DH is talking about ONE move. She needs to grow up. Some much-needed time in flyover country would knock that arrogance right out of her.

Lol, the "arrogance" of wanting to share major decisions in a marriage. Whether you're an MRA troll or an indoctrinated spouse, enjoy this take on life. Let us know how it works out for you!

I wasn't speaking of arrogance in her marriage. I'm talking about her refusal to leave the DMV.

The fact that you think the issue is merely geography says everything about your understanding of marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

Who on earth calls someone "nuts" for not agreeing to a life they never signed up for? What's wrong with you PP?

Oh, please. OP's DH is talking about ONE move. She needs to grow up. Some much-needed time in flyover country would knock that arrogance right out of her.

Lol, the "arrogance" of wanting to share major decisions in a marriage. Whether you're an MRA troll or an indoctrinated spouse, enjoy this take on life. Let us know how it works out for you!

I wasn't speaking of arrogance in her marriage. I'm talking about her refusal to leave the DMV.

The fact that you think the issue is merely geography says everything about your understanding of marriage.

I know it's not about geography. OP thinks she's too good for the rest of the country. Cry me a river.

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Anonymous wrote:My father did this to my mother when I was 8 years old. Announced we were moving across country but at least he was taking a job with another branch of his then employer. In our case it meant leaving all the family we were close to and very close best friends that I and my brother had throughout our early childhood. We also left the best schools in the country and moved to some of the worst, in the bottom five. My brother and I who were both gifted students spent the remaining years of our public schooling being unchallenged and thus underperforming.

I know that sometimes people have to move, but I think it really sucks to move kids around in childhood without very compelling reasons. Childhood is a challenging journey as it is, to be uprooted at some point from all you know and love seems unnecessarily cruel unless the family cannot survive without the move - it shouldn’t be just on a parent’s whim.

Your mother should not have agreed. It was on both your parents.

Mothers didn’t have much choice at the time.

In what decade was this?

The 1980s and 1990s for my mom. My dad was the breadwinner. There was no choice. Not that long ago. This was common.

Only if she didn't want to support herself, which yours did not, I guess. Come on. Women have been supporting themselves for decades before that.

Most women working traditional jobs like a teacher, could not support themselves. My mom was mentally ill and could not hold down a job. No women in my family worked in those decades and assume that everyone did is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're nuts, OP.

- military spouse who has no choice of what conservative or liberal area she moves to

Who on earth calls someone "nuts" for not agreeing to a life they never signed up for? What's wrong with you PP?

Oh, please. OP's DH is talking about ONE move. She needs to grow up. Some much-needed time in flyover country would knock that arrogance right out of her.

Lol, the "arrogance" of wanting to share major decisions in a marriage. Whether you're an MRA troll or an indoctrinated spouse, enjoy this take on life. Let us know how it works out for you!

I wasn't speaking of arrogance in her marriage. I'm talking about her refusal to leave the DMV.

The fact that you think the issue is merely geography says everything about your understanding of marriage.

I know it's not about geography. OP thinks she's too good for the rest of the country. Cry me a river.

She has a job here. It's not arrogant to want to have a plan for supporting your family.