Sounds like going OOS for college was the right choice for you, but is your life "better" than those who choose to stay close to home? I just got back from visiting some of my wife's extended family in Sioux Falls, SD. Her relatives there (all educated in colleges in SD or adjoining states) are prosperous, content, happy and have strong connections within their communities. I've lived in 8 different countries and travelled extensively - I wouldn't trade that experience for anything. But am I happier or do I have a better quality of life for having done that? I don't think so. |
The ignorance here is unbelievable. My SLAC is less diverse than UVA. The big controversy is that UVA accepts more OOS and international students at 32% than most state schools, like UCLA, Berkeley (less than 10%) or UNC (10%) or TExas. Virginians want access to their top schools. They are angry they can't get in. It has LOTS of diversity because it can. The SLACs often can't compete and wind up less diverse. |
A) they might not get into the OOS with a similar reputation - that's a pretty small grouping like UCLA, Berkeley, Michigan; and B) $$$$$$$$ |
I’m the NP who pointed out that the PP criticizing NEU didn’t understand her own link. I don’t have a tie to NEU. But I think that there are a few obsessed haters who post ALL the time, sort of like the Meghan Markle haters, SLAC haters, or the University of Chicago haters. I don’t think you are seeing a big group of people who think NEU is overhyped, I think you are seeing a few relentless borderline spammers who are hate-obsessed with the school. I don’t consider any of those groups of posters to be rational people, and I’d be skeptical of their posts. |
No it doesn't. more than half of the In-state students come from the highly educated, very diverse area near D.C. Some counties don't send a single student whereas Fairfax sends 700+ each year. Also, UVA has 32 percent OOS and international. It's a very cosmopolitan campus. |
I moved away from my family and am happy with my life but one big downside has been that while we have traveled some internationally we have not traveled as extensively as I would like because we end up using a substantial amount of our vacation time to visit family. One much overlooked benefit of living near your family is you never have to travel to visit them so you can spend your time/money traveling more places. |
A lot also can afford and they are not asking for your money. Personally, If money is same which was my kids case with some aid/scholarship, I would send them to Northeastern or BU. If we are affluent family and a dozen K is not so big deal, I would send them to Northeastern or BU. |
No disdain for it. However, I grew up moving around the country, so "home" was just where I spent 6 years before heading to college. At that point, I knew I didn't really want to call anywhere I'd lived (8 different places) "Home" for the long haul. So for me, college was the perfect opportunity to start the process, explore and expand my horizons. Just feel kids shouldn't be discouraged from attending college at a distance if that's what they want (not what mom/dad want) and if it's affordable to the family. If you are happy never living/going much further than 2 hours from where you live, except for a vacation each year, that is totally fine. However, if your kid wants to get out and explore the world, college is a great place to start this. Even if you end up returning "home", you will still have so many friends around the country that you will have reasons to visit/explore. So nothing wrong with either situation. Yes,sometime I wish my grown kids were closer, but then I realize how happy my kids are and I just book a plane ticket to go visit them I don't ever want to be the reason they don't strive for what ever they want to do.
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And nobody is suggesting (or at least I'm not) that you send your kid to a school you cannot afford. I actually think everyone should go to the most affordable school for them that has their major. Nothing is worth going into debt. |
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If you’re going to elect someone to speak for you, try to get someone to speak who has a basic understanding of links they post. I have to agree that long rant was pretty embarrassing, and I have nothing to do with NEU. |
NP. No child at NEU, no child applying to NEU (although I thought it was worth looking at, she did not). This is out of control. Literally very few people other those that have kids going or applying think a lot about NEU. There are a few posters on this DCUM forum that feel the need to boost NEU and its accomplishments in every thread about elite universities or rankings. It is not the haters, it is the booster that bring out the derision. It is a very good school with a great co op program, there are many very good schools. It is so wonderful to have a school that would fit many, but that does not make it elite. Whatever elite means, it does not mean Northeastern. The boosters are making everyone that is not a booster be annoyed by Northeastern. That is too bad, because it is a very good school. |
Obviously my life isn't any better than theirs for choosing to leave "home". I never stated or implied that. However, I am very happy my parents never restricted me and attempted to keep me instate just to keep me nearby. Which they could have easily done---I could have attended Va Tech or UVA for free at that time and we didn't have much $$. But I attended a T10 which was T3 for one of my majors and T15 for the other and I came out with less than $10K in loans for 5 years. I worked my ass off to make it affordable---I only came home for winter break because I couldn't afford thanksgiving and spring break travel. So from a financial standpoint, my factory working, non-college educated parents could have easily encouraged me to stay close by. But they didn't---they allowed me to be me and pick what path I wanted to follow. |
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As someone who literally had no opinion about NEU before reading DCUM, I think more highly of the school now because the haters come across as so incredibly deranged and obsessed. The boosters seem pretty innocuous to me. I went to HYS myself, fwiw. |