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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Only responding to the original question (haven't read through the subsequent 12 pages of responses lol), but I think it does come across a little bit condescending.  But hard to tell just seeing what's on paper - none of us were there to witness actual delivery, your tone of voice and hers, etc.  There are three sides to every story.

It could just be conflicting communication styles and tolerance levels - no one is "right" or "wrong," but if your sense of humor or way of speaking don't mesh well with hers then maybe this is a sign.   [/quote]

My husband and I are like this now.  But in earlier dating/years of marriage, him and I would always banter back and forth like this and throw jokes at each other with laughter and love.  People said we had the best chemistry. Now throw in years of marriage, kids, exhaustion, just life in general... these types of "jokes" can become toxic and dangerously evolve into constant criticisms instead of lighthearted fun.  You can call her uptight, you can call yourself rude, but there is an element of watching this fine line when this is your style.... because in some cases, it can only be funny for so long even with a partner who does take it (at first).

I saw some other comments re: this usually highlights the OP's actual low self esteem and insecurity, and I would say in my husband's case this is 100% spot on (which he's acknowledged and admitted). It still doesn't make it right or acceptable.  JUst wanted to throw this in from a long-term perspective/someone who's been on the other side for years... used to love it, now it's literally driving a wedge in our marriage. [/quote]

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