Aniston - Hollywood Reporter - kids

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Anonymous wrote:I think adopting comes with many challenges and it's reasonable to decide you don't want it for whatever reason. She probably didn't feel comfortable saying that precisely because she has close friends with adopted kids. Not that bio kids can't be equally challenging!

She also said more than once that she didn't want to parent alone. I would be worried about an adopted or egg donor child only having me.

She had a toxic single mother (dad not in the picture for a while), also might have been a factor here.

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MYOB also who is reviving these old threads about a woman well into her 50's FFS

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Anonymous wrote:She's now come out and said she never adopted because she "wanted her own DNA." Comes across as kind of cold, thoughts?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-15189415/Jennifer-Aniston-says-never-wanted-adopt-following-20-year-battle-baby-want-DNA.html

It rubs me the wrong way, especially since she has at least one close friend who's adopted (Sandy B), but I guess she's entitled to feel the way she feels?

Agreed. This was a terrible way to word it. DNA does not make a family and motherhood is not dependent on having mini me's. She's never been very articulate though

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not really sure what she's supposed to respond if people are going to keep asking why she didn't adopt, which is intrusive. If a person has money and wanted a child and didn't adopt then pretty much the reason is going to be that they wanted a child with their own DNA, that's normal. I respect her not going down the surrogacy route.

I suspect she never really wanted a baby.

The reality is any woman desperate to be a mother finds a way to become a mother. She has all the resources to get a baby. If she truly wanted one, she could have had one or gotten one.

It sounds like she wanted a baby more then wanting to experience motherhood. I think that's actually very common. People often love the baby/toddler and aren't so keen on the actual parenting and having their kid become their own person.

I can only imagine Sandra telling her about adoption over the years so this response does feel well harsh but not all feelings are nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's now come out and said she never adopted because she "wanted her own DNA." Comes across as kind of cold, thoughts?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-15189415/Jennifer-Aniston-says-never-wanted-adopt-following-20-year-battle-baby-want-DNA.html

Plenty of people feel this way. They just aren't pestered until they say it, or what they say is not reported in the press.

GMAFB.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's now come out and said she never adopted because she "wanted her own DNA." Comes across as kind of cold, thoughts?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-15189415/Jennifer-Aniston-says-never-wanted-adopt-following-20-year-battle-baby-want-DNA.html

It rubs me the wrong way, especially since she has at least one close friend who's adopted (Sandy B), but I guess she's entitled to feel the way she feels?

Agreed. This was a terrible way to word it. DNA does not make a family and motherhood is not dependent on having mini me's. She's never been very articulate though

Plenty of people feel exactly the same way but are never put on the spot where they would have to admit it.

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Good for her for saying what she really feels and not taking on kids she didn’t think she could fully love. Like for goodness sake! Haven’t any of you people ever seen Minnie Dearest?

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Mommie Dearest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's now come out and said she never adopted because she "wanted her own DNA." Comes across as kind of cold, thoughts?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-15189415/Jennifer-Aniston-says-never-wanted-adopt-following-20-year-battle-baby-want-DNA.html

It rubs me the wrong way, especially since she has at least one close friend who's adopted (Sandy B), but I guess she's entitled to feel the way she feels?

Agreed. This was a terrible way to word it. DNA does not make a family and motherhood is not dependent on having mini me's. She's never been very articulate though

It does seem a bit thoughtless to say when you have friends who have adopted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB also who is reviving these old threads about a woman well into her 50's FFS

DP This statement was just in the press this week, so it's a relevant thing to post about on an existing thread on the topic.

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I’m no Aniston superfan but it did take me three rounds of IVF to conceive. Her wording was not especially thoughtful but she, like many women with infertility, understands that the goal of adoption is to find homes and care for children, not to give babies to infertile people. You can’t approach adoption with grief over your infertility—it’s really not fair to the kids, who themselves are usually grieving a more typical relationship with their own biological parents. Adoption can be wonderful and I personally know many loving adoptive families, but the commonality they share is that none of them approached adoption like it was a consolation prize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's now come out and said she never adopted because she "wanted her own DNA." Comes across as kind of cold, thoughts?

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-15189415/Jennifer-Aniston-says-never-wanted-adopt-following-20-year-battle-baby-want-DNA.html

It rubs me the wrong way, especially since she has at least one close friend who's adopted (Sandy B), but I guess she's entitled to feel the way she feels?

Agreed. This was a terrible way to word it. DNA does not make a family and motherhood is not dependent on having mini me's. She's never been very articulate though

It does seem a bit thoughtless to say when you have friends who have adopted.

+1 I don’t think she was inarticulate, just honest. Would have been better off keeping that to herself though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let's go ahead and quote that whole part of the interview, shall we?

So, how do you feel the attention paid to your private life has impacted your professional one?

Well, people certainly project onto you and all that, but my job is to go, “Listen, I’ll show you what I’m capable of, and you decide if you want to subscribe.” So, you disappear as much as you can, you have fun, you take on these weird roles, you don’t give a shit, you enjoy yourself, you remember that you have a gorgeous group of friends and your life is blessed and you do the best that you can. I used to take it all very personally — the pregnancy rumors and the whole “Oh, she chose career over kids” assumption. It’s like, “You have no clue what’s going with me personally, medically, why I can’t … can I have kids?” They don’t know anything, and it was really hurtful and just nasty.

I remember hearing you talk with Gloria Steinem about how it can feel like your value as a woman is tied to your marital status and whether or not you’ve procreated, to which Gloria said …

She said, “I guess we’re in deep shit.” (Laughs.) It’s the same with Dolly Parton; Dolly Parton never had kids. But are people giving her shit for it? No, no one’s tried to put her in a white picket fence.

She didn't just bring it up out of the blue, this was a discussion about the past, and was mostly asked about by the interviewer. "Enough already" needs your be directed to the media. Not her.

She basically is confirming it's a medical issue, that she couldn't have kids. Sheesh, people are so mean about this very personal issue.

I could have kids either, but I found away to become a mother. It really isn’t hard if you have money. It really isn’t. Aniston has one hundred times more more than I have. She should stop with the BS and just admit she did not want o be a mother. It’s not a bad thing. I actually find it admirable when a woman says she doesn’t want children. It’s not for everyone and I wish those who are aware that it’s not for them don’t have unwanted children and neglect them.

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^could not have l

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I feel the same way. I know for me, pregnancy/childbirth is an important part of transitioning to motherhood, and I question my ability to make that jump without those transitions. This is not a slight to adoptive parents -- I know many. It's a reflection of knowing myself, my background, my needs. I am in awe of adoptive parents.

When I was struggling with infertility, my partner and I discussed this and decided if we couldn't conceive, we'd just not be parents and focus energy toward the next generation in other ways. In the end we had a baby. But adoption was not the path for us.