Very creepy Metro story

Anonymous
Last night, I got on a near-empty train and started to twist my long hair into a bun. A man across from me said, "Ma'am, it was better the other way." I smiled and said, "Thanks, but it's a pain when it's down." He asked if I was pregnant, and I said yes, he said congrats, and then he got a call, so I pulled out my phone and turned my back to him. He had a pepper and salt beard and tan skin, maybe about 60.

Suddenly, he moved to sit next to me. He asked if the baby was my first, I said no, it's my Xth (I have several children). He expressed complete disbelief that I've had so many kids, said I must be having a boy because I am so beautiful. He tells me about his four kids, how he teaches Middle Eastern studies at night, works as an skilled laborer during the day, etc., and I need to lean in to understand him over his accent and because he keeps dropping his voice confidentially.

Next thing I know, he's complaining about his sex life with his wife!! Says it's never enough, and when he gets any, it's over in 30 seconds, and it's just not enough for him. He says he could have any of his students, but he wants a real connection, mind and body. He tells me I am obviously both smart and beautiful.

I. Can't. Tell. You. How. Creeped. Out. I. Was. I was being propositioned by an old man!!

I had no idea what to do. I talked loudly, told him my HUSBAND was a MARINE, that we were really very happy, and after a few more attempts, he said, OK, OK...how many times a week do you do it? What do you like to do? What is your favorite thing to do to him?

I had thought things could not possibly get worse. I was wrong.

I think I handled it badly. I just acted like an airhead, like I didn't know what he was asking, and kept saying, oh, obviously we're really in love, having all these kids! I wanted to cry, scream, and throw up.

When my stop came up, I flew out of my seat, and he reached out after me and said, "I would give anything to be your husband. You tell him he is the luckiest man in the world. I will pray for you."

(As an aside, what is wrong with me that I attract this kind of creep? Several years ago, in the middle of the day in a busy McDonalds, when I was also noticeably pregnant and with some of my other kids, a construction worker kept leaning down and looking up my skirt! Once I realized what he was doing, I grabbed my girls and left, and as I straightened up after strapping them into their carseats, THERE HE WAS. He tried to grab me, I tried to drive away, he stood in my way, he tried to jump in the car, I managed to drive off...WTH?)

Tell me, does this happen regularly on the Metro? It's like I was living a online explicit chat room conversation...or at least, what I imagine they would be.

Pregnant. Mother of many. Married. VERY married. Not a problem? Is this an ethnic thing? Or too many years chatting with strangers online??

Totally grossed out even still.
Anonymous
Two words: Pregnancy porn.

Maybe he was trying to recruit you.

But in general -- men a creepy. Men on the metro? Totally creepy.
Anonymous
This happens to any and everyone.... consider yourself the majority.
Anonymous
You sound like a weirdo magnet. Something about you and the way you react and interact with these people encourages them. I know someone just like that who gets hassled all the time. She is polite and they mistake that for whatever it is that they are looking for. I think a lot of other people wouldn't put up with them or even acknowledge them. They are used to that kind of treatment so they think it is okay to keep doing what they are doing when you treat them respectfully. Remember it is better to be safe than a victim because you are polite.
Anonymous
That is more than unacceptable. At the first weirdthing, I'd move to another car, rude or not. If he follows, call the cops. The Michael tayborne (sp) announcements have made the number stick in my head - 202.962.2121. Ugh, not fun - you didnt do anything wrong, but this does suck.
Anonymous
At all times:

Sunglasses

Ipod

Book


It's not that difficult. Cardinal rule: do not engage.
Anonymous
Be rude next time someone makes you uncomfortable. Get up and walk away, tell them harshly to leave you alone, make a scene if they persist.
Anonymous
One more thing: look perpetually annoyed. It works wonders.
Anonymous
OP here...I did learn a hard lesson about being friendly, that's for sure!

But i was wondering...does this ever work for these guys? Ever? If not, why do they keep trying? Is part of the fun asking these questions? I don't get it.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:At all times:

Sunglasses

Ipod

Book


It's not that difficult. Cardinal rule: do not engage.


Book is good. Ipod invites theft. Sunglasses seems strange on the metro especially at night.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Be rude next time someone makes you uncomfortable. Get up and walk away, tell them harshly to leave you alone, make a scene if they persist.


This should be common sense and I am not sure why OP even continued engaging with the guy.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here...I did learn a hard lesson about being friendly, that's for sure!

But i was wondering...does this ever work for these guys? Ever? If not, why do they keep trying? Is part of the fun asking these questions? I don't get it.


You had a full blown conversation with the guy, why not just ask him these questions?
Anonymous
Do NOT beat yourself up about this. The guy was a perv. He knows that nice polite women will get frozen when approached, and will probably allow him to go on and on without saying anything. This kind of thing has happened to me several times -- it's horrible and he was a creep.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At all times:

Sunglasses

Ipod

Book


It's not that difficult. Cardinal rule: do not engage.


Book is good. Ipod invites theft. Sunglasses seems strange on the metro especially at night.


Perfect, no one will mess with the stranger woman with glasses. Seems like a good idea to me.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here...I did learn a hard lesson about being friendly, that's for sure!

But i was wondering...does this ever work for these guys? Ever? If not, why do they keep trying? Is part of the fun asking these questions? I don't get it.


They only do it to people who they think they can away with it. They want to see how far they can get. But to answer why, they are LOSERS and/or have mental issues.
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