How much do you pay for in-home care for an infant?

[Anonymous]

"It is usually the people who crow the loudest about how proud they are about their choices, blah, blah, blah, that are full of shit and are covering up how they really feel. Truly confident, happy people don't have to go around pointing fingers and belittling others to make themselves feel better."

Amen. I'm ashamed to admit I skimmed every page of this thread... full of hypersensitive crap. The SAHM/WM debate is tired. especially when you insinuate that the other side doesn't value their children.

[Anonymous]

I still think its funny that PP would consider 'firing' their DCP...I thought employers had to pay into CPP and EI.

As a HDCP, a parent would NEVER need to 'fire' me, they would have been gone LONG beforehand because NO DOUBT there would have been previous micromanaging problems with this parent and their delusions of grandeur, or they would have never had their baby sat on by me in the first place.

Interesting as well, that the person you've chosen to care for your most precious gift gets less respect then the cable co. as far as services provided and used. Because WE ALL KNOW you dont harass your cable co. about paying for the time your TV was off. Or better yet, for your 2 weeks summer vacation.

I also KNOW I do a a MUCH better job raising other people's children then they do, because most parents just dont care. Plain and simple. AND I said, most, not all. Unfortunately, I have never had a family who devotes their 100% to their child. They are too wrapped up in their own life and job and friends and shouldnt have had children to begin with. It is -15 and a child comes in with no hat and mitts. WTF? Most parents feel guilty leaving their child for 8-10hrs a day and make up for that on the weekend by not paretning, but trying to be a friend.

As a very wise person once said, LOL, No must be a swear word in that house.

Aside from all of that, and Im finding this to be quite amusing, I charge for days Im open and don't for days Im closed. Weekly, I see parents choose to get the bang for their buck, and send their child to care, instead of using a day off to spend with their child. Ask your child who they would rather spend the day with and 9 out of 10 would rather be with their parents. But parents have paid, and money is everything.

Pam

[Anonymous]

I still think its funny that PP would consider 'firing' their DCP...I thought employers had to pay into CPP and EI.

As a HDCP, a parent would NEVER need to 'fire' me, they would have been gone LONG beforehand because NO DOUBT there would have been previous micromanaging problems with this parent and their delusions of grandeur, or they would have never had their baby sat on by me in the first place.

Interesting as well, that the person you've chosen to care for your most precious gift gets less respect then the cable co. as far as services provided and used. Because WE ALL KNOW you dont harass your cable co. about paying for the time your TV was off. Or better yet, for your 2 weeks summer vacation.

I also KNOW I do a a MUCH better job raising other people's children then they do, because most parents just dont care. Plain and simple. AND I said, most, not all. Unfortunately, I have never had a family who devotes their 100% to their child. They are too wrapped up in their own life and job and friends and shouldnt have had children to begin with. It is -15 and a child comes in with no hat and mitts. WTF? Most parents feel guilty leaving their child for 8-10hrs a day and make up for that on the weekend by not paretning, but trying to be a friend.

As a very wise person once said, LOL, No must be a swear word in that house.

Aside from all of that, and Im finding this to be quite amusing, I charge for days Im open and don't for days Im closed. Weekly, I see parents choose to get the bang for their buck, and send their child to care, instead of using a day off to spend with their child. Ask your child who they would rather spend the day with and 9 out of 10 would rather be with their parents. But parents have paid, and money is everything.

Pam

LMAO - this has GOT to be a joke! I can't believe anyone out there can think that highly of themselves and that horribly about the parents of the children they supposedly love and care for. I thank my lucky stars my provider/nurturer/teacher/whatever isn't named Pam, Judy, Christie, or any of the other whack job daycare people that have posted on this site. I bet your parents *love* you guys - they must all get together and talk about compare notes on the way you look down your nose at them. And the real joke is on you because you claim how horrible these parents are, but yet you continue to watch their child and take their crap! My provider doesn't have a single one of the problems you outline here - it sounds like your lives really SUCK!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think what you fail to realize about why the parents on this thread are upset - the providers are lumping us all into the same category - and you just did the same thing! We don't ALL do this! Why are you continuing to assume we are all like this?

The providers aren't lumping us all in the same category. I certainly didn't. Too many people have read into the posts that they're being talked about. If you know you don't do the things described, why are you assuming you're being talked about. I haven't seen anyone say "all". Even "most" doesn't mean "all".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I still think its funny that PP would consider 'firing' their DCP...I thought employers had to pay into CPP and EI.

As a HDCP, a parent would NEVER need to 'fire' me, they would have been gone LONG beforehand because NO DOUBT there would have been previous micromanaging problems with this parent and their delusions of grandeur, or they would have never had their baby sat on by me in the first place.

Interesting as well, that the person you've chosen to care for your most precious gift gets less respect then the cable co. as far as services provided and used. Because WE ALL KNOW you dont harass your cable co. about paying for the time your TV was off. Or better yet, for your 2 weeks summer vacation.

I also KNOW I do a a MUCH better job raising other people's children then they do, because most parents just dont care. Plain and simple. AND I said, most, not all. Unfortunately, I have never had a family who devotes their 100% to their child. They are too wrapped up in their own life and job and friends and shouldnt have had children to begin with. It is -15 and a child comes in with no hat and mitts. WTF? Most parents feel guilty leaving their child for 8-10hrs a day and make up for that on the weekend by not paretning, but trying to be a friend.

As a very wise person once said, LOL, No must be a swear word in that house.

Aside from all of that, and Im finding this to be quite amusing, I charge for days Im open and don't for days Im closed. Weekly, I see parents choose to get the bang for their buck, and send their child to care, instead of using a day off to spend with their child. Ask your child who they would rather spend the day with and 9 out of 10 would rather be with their parents. But parents have paid, and money is everything.

Pam

LMAO - this has GOT to be a joke! I can't believe anyone out there can think that highly of themselves and that horribly about the parents of the children they supposedly love and care for. I thank my lucky stars my provider/nurturer/teacher/whatever isn't named Pam, Judy, Christie, or any of the other whack job daycare people that have posted on this site. I bet your parents *love* you guys - they must all get together and talk about compare notes on the way you look down your nose at them. And the real joke is on you because you claim how horrible these parents are, but yet you continue to watch their child and take their crap! My provider doesn't have a single one of the problems you outline here - it sounds like your lives really SUCK!

Wow, you really have an issue don't you. We can't lump parents together but you can lump in-home providers together. Double standard much?

Sweetheart, you bet your provider has the problems we have listed here or has had in the past. If she doesn't now it's because she's secretly like Judy and so many others.. she has the balls to stand behind her contract. No doubt she has a special little place just to bitch about you specifically.

I'm thankful not all parents are like you (and by you I mean specifically the anonymous poster I have quoted) .. . just like you're glad not every provider is like the ones who have posted here.

And to the OP.. welcome to the wonderful world of daycare. Don't listen to anon above here. Treat your provider with respect, honor whatever contract you sign and you will be just fine.

[Anonymous]

Dear 10:23: Are you a parent? If you are and you are also a daycare provider, then you have no business criticizing other parents, because, clearly, you don't devote 100% of your time to your child(ren).

If any parent devoted 100% of their time to their child, their houses would fall down and they would smell, among other things.

Then again, I should have known to stop reading as soon as I saw the words "precious gift". As soon as a DCP writes those words, you know it's one who has no grip on reality when it comes to themselves and the parents they work with.

[Anonymous]

Dear parents: don't bother writing anything more to the DCPs who are reading this thread. The ones responding on this thread are not the DCPs we know and love for their caring ways and good sense. With a very few exceptions, the ones on this thread do not listen to reason. No matter what you say, they will ignore it and go raving about how "all parents" are horrible. Which is funny, because many of them are parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even "most" doesn't mean "all".

No, but it means most, which is untrue and unfair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you really have an issue don't you. We can't lump parents together but you can lump in-home providers together. Double standard much?

I don't see anywhere where this PP or other parents have lumped all providers together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Wow, you really have an issue don't you. We can't lump parents together but you can lump in-home providers together. Double standard much?


I don't see anywhere where this PP or other parents have lumped all providers together.

You must not be reading the same thread that several of us have been reading and commenting on. Hellllooooo - that's what started this whole thing - one/two providers started lumping parents into the same group. I am done with this topic. It should be called "How many bitter daycare providers are on this board" instead of "How much do you pay for in-home care for an infant?"

[Anonymous]

PRECISELY. OMG.. someone actually got it. One or two providers lumped parents together.. not all of the providers who have posted here.

Thank you. Happy day.

[Anonymous]

Yep, I am one of the providers who didn't generalize and lump all of the parents together as "bad" but I sure do feel like some of the parents made daycare providers out to be not of good quality. For those parents that made negative comments about providers, just remember that you don't want to be lumped into the "bad" category so maybe it would be good to not all lump providers into the category of "bad" or "bitter".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, I am one of the providers who didn't generalize and lump all of the parents together as "bad" but I sure do feel like some of the parents made daycare providers out to be not of good quality. For those parents that made negative comments about providers, just remember that you don't want to be lumped into the "bad" category so maybe it would be good to not all lump providers into the category of "bad" or "bitter".

please point out one instance in this thread where a parent made a generalization about the quality of all in-home providers.

good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:



I disagree - even though I want to be with my child all the time, this just isn't realistic. Besides, you don't want them to be with you constantly - how in the world would they ever learn to relate to other people if they were constantly with Mommy? I suggest you give up the fight on this one - you are grasping at straws. You can't honestly believe anyone is buying this load of crap that you are trying to sell.

This is a total load of crap. If you wanted to be with your child you would, PERIOD!
I wanted to be with my child, so my husband and I made appropriate concessions to make that happen. I'm not a daycare provider, and I don't use one, but I take offense to any parent who says that being with their child all the time "just isn't realistic". If you want to be with your child you'll find a way. We planned for years, saving and budgeting to make it happen. We live in a modest home, in a nice neighborhood. We have only one car, we don't eat out in restaurants often or buy expensive designer clothes but we're happy, because we are raising our child, not someone else.
As for relating to other people, well there are playgroups, libraries, parks and a wealth of other places you can take you child to get interaction.
Please, stop shoveling out the crap about what's realistic, we all choose our destinies

I totally agree with this. Before I had children I was in University to be a nurse. Guess what? Once my first child was born I decided to stay home. Why? Because I value my children. I did not want anyone else raising them. I understand that I am important to my children. So, yes, they would rather watch me mop than be at a daycare. Once my children were old enough to go to school full time, I opened my own dayhome and it breaks my heart to see the parents who don't pick up early, when they are off early. I had a parent home from work all week this week and do you think they could spend even an extra hour with their child? No, he was still the first one dropped off in the morning and the last one to leave at the end of the day. Are you telling me a child who is with me 50 hours a week wouldn't enjoy a day home with his parents? Or even an extra hour in the morning or afternoon with his parents? Well the parents didn't think so because they had to squeeze every last minute out of care. Why because they paid for it. It is just sad that they don't think that their son's emotional well being is worth more than money, as is the case with some of you.

I totally agree!

Here is one you will be able to relate to...

I have a parent with 3 kids, 6 months, 3 years, 6 years...anyway parent works and goes to school about 20 hours per week total, yet the kids are here a minimum of 50 hours per week. When she does work days she needs me to open 1/2 hour early so that she can get to work on time; which I do, free of charge. Yesterday she walks in 10 minutes late for pick up and for the 2nd time in 2 weeks tells me she is late because she was napping and hit the snooze button one too many times. She laughs and on the way out says, "oh, I'm early tomorrow."

So when I talk about people leaving their kids in dacyare excessive amoutns of time, these are the parents I'm talking about, not someone who takes an afternoon here and there to run errands. And for those who wonder why it is my business what she does..well, because her 4 year old still bites, the 6 year old has an eating disorder, and both kids look sad as hell when they tell me that their Mom is at home.

Sorry to all of you who don't want to hear it, but 50 hours per week is way, way too long for an infant to be in care. When I worked outside teh home we staggered start times, worked from home when we could, did whatever it took, but I wouldn't even consider leaving a baby that long. I have parents who do it, and they no doubt love their kids, I just think that they don't truly understand what they are missing . If they did, I think that they would skip the new Denali and the 4,000 square foot home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to all of you who don't want to hear it, but 50 hours per week is way, way too long for an infant to be in care...

Yet another person who does not read. None of the parents responding to this thread do this, so who the F are you talking to?