S/o I dislike dining with “introverts” and people who have nothing to say

[Anonymous]

As an introvert. I don't say anything because I don't want to bother people. I assume they don't want me around so I stay quiet.

[Anonymous]

I belong to a group that meets weekly but I don't talk much so feel a little out of place. Do I keep going because I need social contact or quit because I don't talk as much as the others?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As an introvert. I don't say anything because I don't want to bother people. I assume they don't want me around so I stay quiet.

Introversion is not the same thing as low self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg. PLEASE don’t invite me to dinner again if we’ve already tried - and failed - to chat. I’d rather stay home than endure mindless chit chat with people I don’t like.

Signed, Proud to be Backwoods

Hardly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree. Introverts are boring.

I am an introvert. I loathe people like you. Would rather be kayaking or biking or f’cking.

Yes!

Some people like to hear the echo of their own voices. Just shut up already or say something interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree. Introverts are boring.

I am an introvert. I loathe people like you. Would rather be kayaking or biking or f’cking.

Yes!

Some people like to hear the echo of their own voices. Just shut up already or say something interesting.

So...why can’t the so-called pp “introvert” say something interesting?

[Anonymous]

Introverts don't want to talk to you...

[Anonymous]

Conversations would be more egalitarian if people took turns talking. Usually one or two people have a monopoly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Introverts don't want to talk to you...

....because introverts are petulant, antisocial, classless children who are too ignorant to extend common courtesies.

Fixed that for you.

OP, don't waste your time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg. PLEASE don’t invite me to dinner again if we’ve already tried - and failed - to chat. I’d rather stay home than endure mindless chit chat with people I don’t like.

Signed, Proud to be Backwoods

Hardly.

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Doubtful. First thing I think of when I see someone who can't along along with other people, is a self described introvert.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Introverts don't want to talk to you...

....because introverts are petulant, antisocial, classless children who are too ignorant to extend common courtesies.

Fixed that for you.

OP, don't waste your time.

So what does that make you? Critical, judgmental, and condescending? Discrimination against introverts is real so shut your piehole already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg. PLEASE don’t invite me to dinner again if we’ve already tried - and failed - to chat. I’d rather stay home than endure mindless chit chat with people I don’t like.

Signed, Proud to be Backwoods

Hardly.

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Doubtful. First thing I think of when I see someone who can't along along with other people, is a self described introvert.

I get along with most everyone. Just not blabber-mouth twits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m an extrovert, but if I don’t know you well and you start off with gossip and prying, I clam up. Not exactly a great first impression!

esp. if they, like OP, expect you to be "vulnerable" and share secrets about yourself! I'd clam up too.

You don’t get what I mean. To be vulnerable in a conversation is to have opinions, take a risk on a story, share something you think is funny or interesting. Sure it is easier to sit there and be quiet. It takes a little risk to be interesting. For example, I was in Texas and having lunch with a family friend of a friend. I didn’t know her but I loved talking to her. At one point she asked me “do you see the President all the time in DC, that would be so cool!” in kind of a star gaze way. A question like that takes risk. That person is willing to be vulnerable . She’s not afraid if it is a dumb question, she’s not concerned what people think of her. She’s just a person willing to take a risk in a conversation. We talked about her lularoe business, her kids, etc and it was awesome and interesting because she was willing to take these little risks on various topics. I respect people like that!

You are strange.

[Anonymous]

Most “introverts” I know are extremely judgyand think other people are too, so introverts don’t say anything. Fairly obvious by PPs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I use “introverts” in quotes because I don’t want to lump an entire group into one negative lump, but why do people feel it’s ok to go out for dinner and just...observe the conversation. I went out last night with 3 friends, incl one “introvert” or whatever, and I felt like the three of us were just there to entertain her. When you socialize with people, you have to try a little. We are not there to provide interesting conversation and gossip for you to just take in. Make yourself a little vulnerable and share something about your life, or put forward and observation of your own please.

If you dislike dining with introverts I would suggest you do not do it any more. Problem solved.

However, don't assume that your personality or social skills are superior. You may not be as pleasant to be around as you think.