We are doing something wrong to women in our homes.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 32 year old woman. My whole life I've heard the subtle messaging that women are better than men. "Girls rule, boys drool." "Girl power!" "Throw like a girl." Etc etc. and yet on the other hand we are constantly told that women have it worse than men. Well which is it? Frankly I'm so tired of the messaging. Men face a lot of unfair shit, especially in the family courts and in labor jobs. They have higher death rates at work and in war, not to mention suicides from the pressure to be a provider at all costs and never show weakness. It's really sad how far the pendulum has swung. I have sons and I sure as hell don't want them to grow up in a world where they are demonized at every turn.

Yes, truly we live in a world where men are demonized at every turn, as proven by the fact you once you a "Girls rule, boys drool" sticker at Claire's boutique.

Your incapacity for critical thinking is why trump won. [/quot

Hey the first idiot political related post on the thread. He won because both the DNC and RNC insisted on shoving candidates people didnt want down the publics throat and actively undermined anyone competing with the leadership choice.

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Anonymous wrote:US Society is still optimized for a white, head of household, male earner. Men are paid more partly on the assumption that they are providing for a family, while women are paid on the assumption that their salary is just selfish fun money. Instead of chasing a bigger house or whatever, women should sacrifice and be at home b/c that is their natural role.

Even though this model is long been the norm, it's still imprinted on us as the American ideal. White men, who still make up the majority of positions of power, benefit greatly fro this assumption and so they are unmotivated to change the system. There's also a great many white women who also benefit (myself included, I am a white SAHM) so we unmotivated to change.*

The battle for gender equity is closely related to the battle for racial equity as the laws have (intentionally, IMHO) disenfranchised Black communities.

I'd argue that America just isn't an equitable place to live. Yes, it may be easier for the exceptional to succeed that other countries. And there are many, many exceptional people here. But our opinions and decisions over the course of our lives are based on the imprints we get when we are young. Those that exceed either are benefitting because they are the intended recipient, or they recognize how the system works and then put in extra effort to find ways around it.

Until we as a country are willing to really admit how much we've failed to live up to the ideals set out in our Constitution then equity isn't going to be a reality.

*The impersonal we. I personally am very motivated in creating a world that values and rewards my son and daughter equally.

^^Fantastic analysis!^^ I've never thought of the issue in this way.

What was your field of study?

Double Major!! gender studies & AA studies

3.9 GPA and work at starbucks!

With all do respect your majors are largely worthless to anyone from an economic standpoint. There little to nothing in those majors that offer a skill an employer needs. A degree is a degree, the skill set or aptitude it represents is what marketable.

Um, pretty sure they were just being an ass by trying to make the points you've posted.

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I believe the seeds of this message germinate in our homes

The linked to article mentions no causes except lack of paid maternity leave.

+1. OP, stop using your head.

Did you mean to start using her head?

I believe her point is that she believes the problem starts at home. I agree. Just look at the division of labor in most homes. Not all of them, of course, but in the vast majority of households it is the women who are performing most of the menial labor that is necessary.

+1000

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I wonder to what extent is some of the inequities tied to how we are "hard wired" as females and males? I have both male and female children - and have been awestruck by the differences between the sexes in terms of the choices and actions they take on at the early, early stages of life.

For example, my son is really bright but he's always needed reminders to put on his shoes - and then needs reminding to tie his shoes. On the other hand, my daughter (younger than son) unprompted will clean up after her meals, puts on her shoes and hand my son his hat and gloves.

Surely, the family is where most of these kinds of issues first play out - as OP stated. The influence of multiple forms of media that children are exposed to is a major factor in how inequality issues play out - but I think that influence is likely understated and underestimated.

I wrestled with the logic of a few posts up-thread that reasoned that the choices that women have/make greatly impacts where they end up. I think there is some merit to that argument, though I didn't particularly care for how it was pitched.

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"Let's not infantilize women." Condoleezza Rice

Interesting.

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Tom Steyer will pay for it after he impeaches Trump.