Possible Rape at Sidwell?

[Anonymous]

More schools need to show this to their students:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8

There is also a "clean" version for middle school students.

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Anonymous wrote:There are no details and a lot of stupid comments.

There won't be any details assuming both are minors. I guess you are just here for the juicy details or afraid to realize you pay so much to protect your sweet innocent kids from such awful things yet they happen.

And the news just keeps coming.........http://nypost.com/2016/03/18/obama-girls-school-rocked-by-rape-claim/

[Anonymous]

That's exactly the same as the initial article posted.

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Anonymous wrote:The accusation is very serious. Rape. It is not consensual sex. This is why this discussion is valid. To suggest that the victim should be expelled from the school is outrageous

If the "victim" was in an underage relationship with the "perpetrator", yes, it's highly inappropriate and it's clear that neither student is really a fit for the school. The best thing is for the school to make a clean break. Good riddance to them.

Those halls would be pretty empty if the school got rid of all the sexually active kids. This is 2016, not 1816.

62% of high school seniors have engaged in sexual intercourse. http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/publications-a-z/413-adolescent-sexual-behavior-i-demographics

This means that 38% have not. And the 62% also includes many who try it once and realize they made a mistake. I actually think this number is encouraging. No, far from ALL hs kids are having sex, despite what many would want us to believe

And believe it or not, there are mature and well-adjusted teens who are in healthy relationships that include sex. That's not so bad.

-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

NP, here. I started having intercourse at the age of 17 between grades 11 and 12. I was in a relationship, used birth control, never got pregnant, never contracted a STD, and didn't have negative self-esteem before, during, or after the relationship.

Some of you live in la-la land.

That being said, my heart goes out to this young woman and her family. I hope she gets the support she needs and justice is served.

[Anonymous]

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Actually a Director of Communications is a very important position at a private school like Sidwell, especially when something like this happens.

It may be important, but it's not a mission-critical, "high ranking administrator" position. Either you or a PP suggested there was some underlying cause, perhaps something untoward, that would cause a mid-year vacancy. This isn't a head of school or even principal position; it's not even on par with a director of development or admissions. So there's neither something unusual nor troubling about the position being open.

I'm a new poster and I'd like to respectfully suggest that you are significantly understating the importance of communications director at a school like Sidwell in today's world of instant media. Let's face it, Sidwell is going to turn away scores of qualified applicants regardless of who is reading the applications. Is an admissions director that vital? Meanwhile, it can be reasonably argued that Sidwell took a significant misstep in communicating its purchase of the Washington Home, both to the public and to audiences like the alumni who have been very unhappy with the process.

And now Sidwell has every TV station in town camped out on their sidewalk. You don't think the way they communicate this to their current parents and to the public, as well as the alumni, is mission-critical?



There is so much wrong with this.

First of all, the Director of Communication is not the same person who makes comments to the media in matters like this at Sidwell.

Second, there was absolutely nothing wrong with the way Sidwell communicated the Washington Home intent to purchase. The problem there is that a couple of alumni and housing advocates latched on to the false narrative that the elite school was kicking poor elderly to the curb. Alumni in general are ambivalent to supportive of the campus consolidation, save a few members of a specific graduating class.

The school has communicated everything it needs to in this matter, that is presumably between two minors and the legal system.

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Anonymous wrote:Interestingly, Sidwell is currently searching for a Director of Communications, and the old one seems to have been rather suddenly disappeared from the school's website. That all happened before this story, but it made me wonder what had happened to bring about her displacement. Now this happens - definitely a bad time not to have a Communications person.

People get new jobs all the time.

This is true. Although in the independent school world, it's relatively uncommon for a high-ranking administrator to leave in the middle of the school year. Usually they wait until the end of the year, or at least until a search is well underway.

Communications is about more than "spin." There needs to be communication with the parents about what's going on - including whether or not an accused rapist is going to be walking the halls of the school alongside their kids. And there needs to be a strategy developed for how the school is going to handle matters if one of their seniors is arrested and charged with rape. If you're interested in reading about how a poor communications strategy can impact a school, check out this month's Vanity Fair about the St. Paul's sexual assault.

Sorry, but a school director of communications is not a "high ranking administrator." Not even at Sidwell Friends.

DOC are typically part of the school admin and speak the school gospel. They should be all over this since it is a crisis. Such as the Sidwell Admissions Office crisis of a couple years ago. There is
something in the water at Sidwell. Values and morals are not being taught.

Actually a Director of Communications is a very important position at a private school like Sidwell, especially when something like this happens.

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Anonymous wrote:The accusation is very serious. Rape. It is not consensual sex. This is why this discussion is valid. To suggest that the victim should be expelled from the school is outrageous

If the "victim" was in an underage relationship with the "perpetrator", yes, it's highly inappropriate and it's clear that neither student is really a fit for the school. The best thing is for the school to make a clean break. Good riddance to them.

Those halls would be pretty empty if the school got rid of all the sexually active kids. This is 2016, not 1816.

62% of high school seniors have engaged in sexual intercourse. http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/publications-a-z/413-adolescent-sexual-behavior-i-demographics

This means that 38% have not. And the 62% also includes many who try it once and realize they made a mistake. I actually think this number is encouraging. No, far from ALL hs kids are having sex, despite what many would want us to believe

And believe it or not, there are mature and well-adjusted teens who are in healthy relationships that include sex. That's not so bad.

But you were not raped.

-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

NP, here. I started having intercourse at the age of 17 between grades 11 and 12. I was in a relationship, used birth control, never got pregnant, never contracted a STD, and didn't have negative self-esteem before, during, or after the relationship.

Some of you live in la-la land.

That being said, my heart goes out to this young woman and her family. I hope she gets the support she needs and justice is served.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More schools need to show this to their students:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8

There is also a "clean" version for middle school students.

Too late for SIDWELL SCHOOL. The damage has been done.

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Anonymous wrote:The accusation is very serious. Rape. It is not consensual sex. This is why this discussion is valid. To suggest that the victim should be expelled from the school is outrageous

If the "victim" was in an underage relationship with the "perpetrator", yes, it's highly inappropriate and it's clear that neither student is really a fit for the school. The best thing is for the school to make a clean break. Good riddance to them.

Those halls would be pretty empty if the school got rid of all the sexually active kids. This is 2016, not 1816.

62% of high school seniors have engaged in sexual intercourse. http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/publications-a-z/413-adolescent-sexual-behavior-i-demographics

This means that 38% have not. And the 62% also includes many who try it once and realize they made a mistake. I actually think this number is encouraging. No, far from ALL hs kids are having sex, despite what many would want us to believe

And believe it or not, there are mature and well-adjusted teens who are in healthy relationships that include sex. That's not so bad.

But you were not raped.

-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

NP, here. I started having intercourse at the age of 17 between grades 11 and 12. I was in a relationship, used birth control, never got pregnant, never contracted a STD, and didn't have negative self-esteem before, during, or after the relationship.

Some of you live in la-la land.

That being said, my heart goes out to this young woman and her family. I hope she gets the support she needs and justice is served.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More schools need to show this to their students:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8

There is also a "clean" version for middle school students.

Too late for SIDWELL SCHOOL. The damage has been done.

How, exactly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Difficult to believe this could happen at Sidwell during school hours.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/public-safety/dc-police-investigating-report-of-rape-at-sidwell-friends-school/2016/03/17/9b524470-ec93-11e5-bc08-3e03a5b41910_story.html?wprss=rss_crime&tid=sm_tw_pl

More

http://nypost.com/2016/03/18/obama-girls-school-rocked-by-rape-claim/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's exactly the same as the initial article posted.

Talks about an ex-boyfriend now

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Anonymous wrote:-1,000,000 A million times "NO" to this!!! Don't get me wrong, it happens, I did it. But it's not "healthy" and it is "bad". Too many ramifications...

If you want to advocate for teen abstinence, please start your own separate thread.

Oh please, who are you, the thread police? You didn't tell people to start new threads about communications departments or the Secret Service. I'm far from an abstinence advocate. However, just because I know something occurs, doesn't mean I'm going to accept that it's "healthy". I'm not arguing that kids are destined for damnation if they have sex. I am, however, arguing that there are different ramifications for young people, and those ramifications do, in fact, make it unhealthy. Please get off the thread if you can't have a conversation without jumping 10 sharks.

This. And to pretend that this alleged rape is not in some way related to that is laughable. Yes, they are two separate things, but in these cases of blurred consent, it's far more likely to happen among those who think teen sex is no big deal in the first place.

Again, this is a form of blaming and shaming the victim. Not that it is the case here, but over 70% of actual rapes and the vast majority of blurred consent cases happen when either the victim or perp are under the influence of alcohol. Further, teenagers who pretend to practice abstinence first - pretend to their parents, that is - are as likely to be sexually active. So, get off your pious high horse , put down your martini and understand one thing; no means no. The fact that the teenagers are otherwise sexually active has nothiyng to do with it. It reminds me of the days when the clothing worn by the alleged victim was used as an indictment. As in, "she had it comin."

+1 million

[Anonymous]

The very first article said that they had a prior sexcual relationship. Why are you acting as if that is new info?

[jsteele]

I think that there may be one or two of you who have not posted the NY Post link claiming that it has new information (which it doesn't). Can you stragglers please post the link and get it out of the way?

The rest of you might consider spending your time reading this thread rather than tabloids from another city.