Arriving 10 minutes early to a dinner party

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Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

The host would rather I show up 30 minutes late, and yet be among the first to leave?

Most hosts wouldn't care when you left. Just don't show up early.

If they don't care that they actually get to spend time with me, why are they inviting me at all?

[Anonymous]

They need time to prepare. Don't act like such a child pp.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Everybody knows that the proper time is a good 15min late and up to 30. 10 min early? No way!

I'm 48 and have entertained for over 20 years. I'd be pissed if you showed up 30 minutes late to one of my sit down dinners. You'd miss your first drink and apps, and the pleasure of settling in and meeting everyone, because I'd be serving shortly after you arrived.

So you're saying that I'd still get served dinner with everyone else? And I can still have a drink and meet everyone during dinner? Okay, I'm good with that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

The host would rather I show up 30 minutes late, and yet be among the first to leave?

Most hosts wouldn't care when you left. Just don't show up early.

If they don't care that they actually get to spend time with me, why are they inviting me at all?

np. They care that you don't arrive early. It has nothing to do with when you leave or spending time with you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

The host would rather I show up 30 minutes late, and yet be among the first to leave?

Most hosts wouldn't care when you left. Just don't show up early.

If they don't care that they actually get to spend time with me, why are they inviting me at all?

Are you socially awkward or just trying to be difficult?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They need time to prepare. Don't act like such a child pp.

Solution is to invite people for a time at which the hosts will actually be ready.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

The host would rather I show up 30 minutes late, and yet be among the first to leave?

Most hosts wouldn't care when you left. Just don't show up early.

If they don't care that they actually get to spend time with me, why are they inviting me at all?

Are you socially awkward or just trying to be difficult?

Neither. Just interested in the true purpose of the dinner party.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They need time to prepare. Don't act like such a child pp.

Solution is to invite people for a time at which the hosts will actually be ready.

Nobody has indicated that the hosts are not ready on time. They are just not necessarily ready before that time.

And for the people that sit outside the house, that just makes you both rude and crazy. Drive around. Check out a park. Do something other than essentially sit on the front lawn waiting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

The host would rather I show up 30 minutes late, and yet be among the first to leave?

Most hosts wouldn't care when you left. Just don't show up early.

If they don't care that they actually get to spend time with me, why are they inviting me at all?

Are you socially awkward or just trying to be difficult?

Neither. Just interested in the true purpose of the dinner party.

That answers my question. Socially awkward it it.

[Anonymous]

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Neither. Just interested in the true purpose of the dinner party.

Clearly you are socially awkward. The purpose of the party is to socialize with you. But not until the invited time (you said that you show up at the right time, which is fine; I would prefer 5 minutes later, but on time is absolutely fine). If you can't stay long, then you can't. But that is on you, not on the people that invited you. You should host things at times that work better for you.

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Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

The host would rather I show up 30 minutes late, and yet be among the first to leave?

Most hosts wouldn't care when you left. Just don't show up early.

If they don't care that they actually get to spend time with me, why are they inviting me at all?

Are you socially awkward or just trying to be difficult?

Neither. Just interested in the true purpose of the dinner party.

That answers my question. Socially awkward it it.

+1. Obviously this is a person who shows up early and doesn't understand why she isn't welcomed with open arms. If your host wanted you to arrive at 10 til 8 - not 8 - she'd ask you to come at 10 til 8. This is so glaringly, SMH obvious that my mind is boggled by this thread. NO ONE WANTS EARLY GUESTS!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

The host would rather I show up 30 minutes late, and yet be among the first to leave?

Most hosts wouldn't care when you left. Just don't show up early.

If they don't care that they actually get to spend time with me, why are they inviting me at all?

Are you socially awkward or just trying to be difficult?

Neither. Just interested in the true purpose of the dinner party.

Well, what's your purpose in attending? If it's to spend time with the host, then it seems odd that you would leave early. Then again, if you're just there for the food....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know I'm in the minority, but I always come on time on the dot. I'm still too early! Then again, I leave early too. I'm a morning person - I'm on time because if you call the party for 7, I'm done by 10, so I need to go right on time so it doesn't appear that I don't want to stay for the full evening.

When I entertain, I don't care if people come late, but please don't compound it by staying late.

So it's all about you and your schedule, and how you appear? What a mess!

The host would rather I show up 30 minutes late, and yet be among the first to leave?

Most hosts wouldn't care when you left. Just don't show up early.

If they don't care that they actually get to spend time with me, why are they inviting me at all?

Are you socially awkward or just trying to be difficult?

Neither. Just interested in the true purpose of the dinner party.

Another vote for socially awkward.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL now I see. I am 75% German. No wonder I'm on time/early.

You can/should be on time when you meet out. But if you are invited to someone's house at a certain time, you are an uninvited guest prior to that time so you shouldn't be surprised that you are unwelcome.

What host is not ready 10 or 15 minutes before the invited time? Unless you are a procrastinator or disorganized or inexperienced at entertaining this shouldn't be a problem.

Apparently most of the people in DC. Which is surprising because everyone is so damn uptight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL now I see. I am 75% German. No wonder I'm on time/early.

You can/should be on time when you meet out. But if you are invited to someone's house at a certain time, you are an uninvited guest prior to that time so you shouldn't be surprised that you are unwelcome.

What host is not ready 10 or 15 minutes before the invited time? Unless you are a procrastinator or disorganized or inexperienced at entertaining this shouldn't be a problem.

Apparently most of the people in DC. Which is surprising because everyone is so damn uptight.

Who cares if they are ready or not 10 minutes before the invited time. That's their personal time and you weren't invited to come over before that. You can get a lot done in 15 minutes before the guests arrive and having some idiot show up early is a pain in the ass.