Long term affects - good or bad - of holding back from kindergarten

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A woman in my neighborhood told me that she will definitely hold back her July birthday son who has not even in pre-k yet!!!! So meaning he will turn four this summer! When I asked how come? And why not wait one more year when he is pre k to make the decision, since a lot can change in a year, she said: "I just know he will be too immature to start k on time, plus I want him and his younger sister to be closer in school grades and attend the same school for longer". I was like okaaayyyy!
CRAZY![/quote]

This is the problem.[/quote]

Why?

First of all, this woman is just musing, her actual decision is a ways away. You are way too reactive. Second, if her DS is "too immature" than thats a great reason to hold him back. Do you want your DC's teacher distracted by having to manage the immature kid? Finally, I have two children at two different schools and its a real hassle for everyone. I'm not offended that a parent wants to consider this, especially with the other factors.

I think you are just too ready to pounce on this topic. Or maybe you just don't like this woman.

[Anonymous]

I had the somewhat same experience as poster 10:00. My DD missed the deadline for K by 7 days. She was a tall, mature girl. So she went into K already knowing the whole year's cirriculum. She already know how to read, write, alphabet and how to sit in a chair and interact with others. The teacher told her that she needed to relearn all this. So she did. She repeated the work in so many grades. Redid the first in third. Redid the 6th in 7th. Bored out of her mind. Finally I took her out of public and put her in private where she could be more challenged. Looking back (now in college), she would have been much better off to start K a little younger. Being ahead in the subjects did not help her. Repeating everything did not help her. She thought the childs version of WTF. (Yes, she did test gifted)

As 10:00 said, it made the teacher mad, or the teacher simply used her as an assistant. Then the teacher would get mad that she was not an adult assistant (at 8). We could not afford private, but she desperately needed to learn at her own pace, and get some recognition for that, so we made the sacrifice and sent her to private. In retrospect, she would have been better off to start early, not late.

[Anonymous]

Does it bother anyone else that it is effects, not affacts?

[Anonymous]

PP, does it bother you that you misspelled affects? Stop judging.