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[quote=Anonymous]I was thin and very active until it became clear that exercise was aggravating a congenital spine problem and causing debilitating injuries.  I gained some weight through medication and pregnancy, some through trying to lose the weight - dieting doesn't work - and some through emotional eating while grieving a death in the family.

I'm about a hundred pounds overweight and find others' concerns about and responses to my body sad and hilarious.  There's a ton of ill-considered projection, hatred and outright fear, based, as far as I can tell, on nothing real.   I eat well, walk and bike, am energetic and happy, and have awesome sex with a man who wanted me when I was skinny and wants me just as much now because we love each other and my naked body is magnificent.  My tits are gorgeous, my ass is beautifully shaped and firm, I'm juicy and I taste good and fat feels amazing in bed.  I have no health problems and excellent lipid panels.  I also have a much less fraught relationship with my body than most of the women I know who have managed to maintain a fashionable weight.  You couldn't pay me to have that much anxiety about meeting a commercial standard.

So the problem, really, is everyone who thinks like OP.  It's tiring, having to deal with bullshit about my body from people who are not in my body.  Yes, if the weight could just go away, I wouldn't hold on to it, and if dieting, etc., worked, I would.  There are a lot of things I like about being fat, like freedom from superficial assholes, but the prejudice is costly - literally, fat women earn less for the same credentials and achievements - and it's hard to find fabulous clothes.  I have to work harder for attention and credibility than I did in my skinny twenties because fewer people want to fuck me.

There is also this weird thing some men do: they seem actively disturbed when I talk to them because I might be flirting with them, and that is a terrifying assault beyond their coping skills.  I'm pretty ambivalent about that - I live mostly without caring what anyone thinks, and it's a rude awakening to be found disgusting.  On the other hand, there's a sort of claustrophobia at the insight into such smallness.

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