Great colleges with fewer intense strivers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

anonymous wrote:Striver is a term on this forum for Asian people.

Nonsense. And we are an Asian family.

Then look at the reality-these people don’t like you and think you’re ruining “their” institutions. Get your head out of the sand ffs.

Totally disagree with that assessment. Our family are diligent, but we are not strivers. We are unfailingly polite and kind; we would never push someone else down so that we could advance. We do not need to crow about our occasional successes - nor do we blame others when we do not succeed. We are team players. People here keep explaining it to you, and it has zero to do with ethnicity, but you seem unwilling to hear what they are saying.

They’re so happy to have you on their side because now they’re free to use it whenever they want. You’re the moral equivalent of “I have a black friend”.

[Anonymous]

The reality is these students got in with their striver mentality so they will continue to operate the same way for their admissions to grad school. But if you are not used to this culture in HS, it can feel very toxic while trying to enjoy your college years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

anonymous wrote:Striver is a term on this forum for Asian people.

Nonsense. And we are an Asian family.

Then look at the reality-these people don’t like you and think you’re ruining “their” institutions. Get your head out of the sand ffs.

Totally disagree with that assessment. Our family are diligent, but we are not strivers. We are unfailingly polite and kind; we would never push someone else down so that we could advance. We do not need to crow about our occasional successes - nor do we blame others when we do not succeed. We are team players. People here keep explaining it to you, and it has zero to do with ethnicity, but you seem unwilling to hear what they are saying.

Fellow Asian American who are diligent and hard working but don’t think we are strivers.

I’m well aware that when people mention strivers, they basically mean Asians. I have never heard anyone in real life say this term.

[Anonymous]

When I was a teenager thirty years ago, these strivers were the Jewish people in NY. Now it is the Persians, Indians and Chinese.

When a population starts passing the majority population, white Americans get upset.

I’m Asian American and my kids are half Chinese. I also find it annoying when the Chinese and Indians seem to be studying harder than my very Americanized mixed Asian kids who do not spend their days studying all day. My kids play sports, hang out with their friends and well rounded. I did well in school with very little effort and that is not enough these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you please suggest colleges for a bright person but without the rat race mentality that is still prestigious?

Any liberal arts colleges below the "13s" or some of the 13s. Oberlin, Macalester, Trinity. Go there for the love of learning, not for the stupid outcome.

[Anonymous]

Do you mean where an average kid won’t be bottom of class? Any school below T100. Anything above that will still have students trying to go to med school, law school, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

anonymous wrote:Striver is a term on this forum for Asian people.

Nonsense. And we are an Asian family.

Then look at the reality-these people don’t like you and think you’re ruining “their” institutions. Get your head out of the sand ffs.

Totally disagree with that assessment. Our family are diligent, but we are not strivers. We are unfailingly polite and kind; we would never push someone else down so that we could advance. We do not need to crow about our occasional successes - nor do we blame others when we do not succeed. We are team players. People here keep explaining it to you, and it has zero to do with ethnicity, but you seem unwilling to hear what they are saying.

Fellow Asian American who are diligent and hard working but don’t think we are strivers.

I’m well aware that when people mention strivers, they basically mean Asians. I have never heard anyone in real life say this term.

So on what exactly are you basing your assessment of their (these imaginary people you’ve never actually encountered) REAL meaning?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was a teenager thirty years ago, these strivers were the Jewish people in NY. Now it is the Persians, Indians and Chinese.

When a population starts passing the majority population, white Americans get upset.

I’m Asian American and my kids are half Chinese. I also find it annoying when the Chinese and Indians seem to be studying harder than my very Americanized mixed Asian kids who do not spend their days studying all day. My kids play sports, hang out with their friends and well rounded. I did well in school with very little effort and that is not enough these days.

Lots of racist Asians/Asian Americans in this thread.

[Anonymous]

The one troll in this thread is increasingly lame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

anonymous wrote:Striver is a term on this forum for Asian people.

Nonsense. And we are an Asian family.

Then look at the reality-these people don’t like you and think you’re ruining “their” institutions. Get your head out of the sand ffs.

Totally disagree with that assessment. Our family are diligent, but we are not strivers. We are unfailingly polite and kind; we would never push someone else down so that we could advance. We do not need to crow about our occasional successes - nor do we blame others when we do not succeed. We are team players. People here keep explaining it to you, and it has zero to do with ethnicity, but you seem unwilling to hear what they are saying.

Fellow Asian American who are diligent and hard working but don’t think we are strivers.

I’m well aware that when people mention strivers, they basically mean Asians. I have never heard anyone in real life say this term.

So on what exactly are you basing your assessment of their (these imaginary people you’ve never actually encountered) REAL meaning?

This board is not REAL life. And on this board it’s definitely used as code for Asians

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was a teenager thirty years ago, these strivers were the Jewish people in NY. Now it is the Persians, Indians and Chinese.

When a population starts passing the majority population, white Americans get upset.

I’m Asian American and my kids are half Chinese. I also find it annoying when the Chinese and Indians seem to be studying harder than my very Americanized mixed Asian kids who do not spend their days studying all day. My kids play sports, hang out with their friends and well rounded. I did well in school with very little effort and that is not enough these days.

So you married a white guy and now you’re upset like a white person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was a teenager thirty years ago, these strivers were the Jewish people in NY. Now it is the Persians, Indians and Chinese.

When a population starts passing the majority population, white Americans get upset.

I’m Asian American and my kids are half Chinese. I also find it annoying when the Chinese and Indians seem to be studying harder than my very Americanized mixed Asian kids who do not spend their days studying all day. My kids play sports, hang out with their friends and well rounded. I did well in school with very little effort and that is not enough these days.

So you married a white guy and now you’re upset like a white person.

Pretty fly for a white guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

anonymous wrote:Striver is a term on this forum for Asian people.

Nonsense. And we are an Asian family.

Then look at the reality-these people don’t like you and think you’re ruining “their” institutions. Get your head out of the sand ffs.

Totally disagree with that assessment. Our family are diligent, but we are not strivers. We are unfailingly polite and kind; we would never push someone else down so that we could advance. We do not need to crow about our occasional successes - nor do we blame others when we do not succeed. We are team players. People here keep explaining it to you, and it has zero to do with ethnicity, but you seem unwilling to hear what they are saying.

Fellow Asian American who are diligent and hard working but don’t think we are strivers.

I’m well aware that when people mention strivers, they basically mean Asians. I have never heard anyone in real life say this term.

The term didn't used to have a negative connotation confined to one group. It simply referred to those trying to improve their lot through hard work, which wasn't looked down upon. Growing up I heard it often enough, not as a pejorative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

anonymous wrote:Striver is a term on this forum for Asian people.

Nonsense. And we are an Asian family.

Then look at the reality-these people don’t like you and think you’re ruining “their” institutions. Get your head out of the sand ffs.

Totally disagree with that assessment. Our family are diligent, but we are not strivers. We are unfailingly polite and kind; we would never push someone else down so that we could advance. We do not need to crow about our occasional successes - nor do we blame others when we do not succeed. We are team players. People here keep explaining it to you, and it has zero to do with ethnicity, but you seem unwilling to hear what they are saying.

Fellow Asian American who are diligent and hard working but don’t think we are strivers.

I’m well aware that when people mention strivers, they basically mean Asians. I have never heard anyone in real life say this term.

The term didn't used to have a negative connotation confined to one group. It simply referred to those trying to improve their lot through hard work, which wasn't looked down upon. Growing up I heard it often enough, not as a pejorative.

Are you purposely ignoring the many posts that have defined a striver. It is not someone who works hard. It is someone who does so by sucking up, constantly humble bragging about grades, and generally being annoying about school. Most people don’t do this. As I’ve said before, act like you’ve been there before. Show some grace and dignity.

The lack of awareness and self-awareness here is shocking. Which is kind of the point. All of the people who are being so defensive and melodramatic are exactly the ones I don’t want my kids going to school with. It truly is possible to work hard, have normal relationships with professors, but also to chill. And contrary to the obsessed, there are many Asian students who do this very well. And many non-Asians who are strivers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

anonymous wrote:Striver is a term on this forum for Asian people.

Nonsense. And we are an Asian family.

Then look at the reality-these people don’t like you and think you’re ruining “their” institutions. Get your head out of the sand ffs.

Totally disagree with that assessment. Our family are diligent, but we are not strivers. We are unfailingly polite and kind; we would never push someone else down so that we could advance. We do not need to crow about our occasional successes - nor do we blame others when we do not succeed. We are team players. People here keep explaining it to you, and it has zero to do with ethnicity, but you seem unwilling to hear what they are saying.

Fellow Asian American who are diligent and hard working but don’t think we are strivers.

I’m well aware that when people mention strivers, they basically mean Asians. I have never heard anyone in real life say this term.

The term didn't used to have a negative connotation confined to one group. It simply referred to those trying to improve their lot through hard work, which wasn't looked down upon. Growing up I heard it often enough, not as a pejorative.

Are you purposely ignoring the many posts that have defined a striver. It is not someone who works hard. It is someone who does so by sucking up, constantly humble bragging about grades, and generally being annoying about school. Most people don’t do this. As I’ve said before, act like you’ve been there before. Show some grace and dignity.

The lack of awareness and self-awareness here is shocking. Which is kind of the point. All of the people who are being so defensive and melodramatic are exactly the ones I don’t want my kids going to school with. It truly is possible to work hard, have normal relationships with professors, but also to chill. And contrary to the obsessed, there are many Asian students who do this very well. And many non-Asians who are strivers.

You keep trying to normalize the slur. That says a lot about you.