Great colleges with fewer intense strivers

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Anonymous wrote:Asian-American and transplanted Southerner here. The Southern flagships are seen as “havens” of sorts for those fleeing the “Asian” striver schools but the flagships are changing because the South is drawing a lot of immigrants. Visiting those colleges with my kid was eye-opening. Just google the clubs and activities section of the university websites and see how many different cultural affinity groups there are.

I’m confused why parents here believe they can avoid Asian people by sending them to state flagships. Asian students dominate the majors that make money; particularly the stem subjects are filled with Asian students after the freshman filter.

Alabama is less than 2% Asian. That’s why Roll Tide moms love it. Their kid gets to be in an “honors” college with no strivers.

My kid goes to Stony Brook which is more than half Asian. Great school, and it's increasingly getting harder to get in, but I wouldn't call any of my DS's Asian classmate as tiger kids. They're good students who want a good college education without graduating with massive debt. Like my kid. (I guess if you were an obnoxious striver, state school isn't good enough so maybe it's self-selecting but there are plenty of UMC white students like that.)

Come on. Lots of Stuy kids at Stony Brook.
If your DS doesn't feel it, he himself might be a tiger kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Asian-American and transplanted Southerner here. The Southern flagships are seen as “havens” of sorts for those fleeing the “Asian” striver schools but the flagships are changing because the South is drawing a lot of immigrants. Visiting those colleges with my kid was eye-opening. Just google the clubs and activities section of the university websites and see how many different cultural affinity groups there are.

I’m confused why parents here believe they can avoid Asian people by sending them to state flagships. Asian students dominate the majors that make money; particularly the stem subjects are filled with Asian students after the freshman filter.

Alabama is less than 2% Asian. That’s why Roll Tide moms love it. Their kid gets to be in an “honors” college with no strivers.

My kid goes to Stony Brook which is more than half Asian. Great school, and it's increasingly getting harder to get in, but I wouldn't call any of my DS's Asian classmate as tiger kids. They're good students who want a good college education without graduating with massive debt. Like my kid. (I guess if you were an obnoxious striver, state school isn't good enough so maybe it's self-selecting but there are plenty of UMC white students like that.)

Come on. Lots of Stuy kids at Stony Brook.
If your DS doesn't feel it, he himself might be a tiger kid.

Agreed. If you're at a school like that and no one else is a striver, then perhaps you're the striver. I'm pretty sure Stony Brook has a pretty big striver population.

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I always associate the word “striver” for someone who wants to improve where they are in life. That was supposed to be the American dream. Now it’s become a negative thing associated with people seen and hoarding and stealing opportunities. There’s plenty to go around when it comes to accessing colleges and degree programs, especially if you’re UMC-UC.

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Anonymous wrote:I always associate the word “striver” for someone who wants to improve where they are in life. That was supposed to be the American dream. Now it’s become a negative thing associated with people seen and hoarding and stealing opportunities. There’s plenty to go around when it comes to accessing colleges and degree programs, especially if you’re UMC-UC.

In my mind, there's an element of doing the striving in order to be very financially successful for the sake of gaining/keeping wealth or position, with the $$$/prestige reward being the goal and not just a nice byproduct of the success.