Boyfriend is celibate until marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is this post still going?

He confessed he was a:
Sex addict;
Into 100s of casual sex and ONS;
Alcoholic;
Has STDs;
Won’t get married or engaged for 2-3 years no matter what (how old is he?);
Claims he is celibate now;
Codependent on some unknown family member who died who knows when ago.

OP left this thread days ago. Why keep it up when she isn’t answering any of you back?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who wants to get married without sampling the goods?

Plenty of people, for a variety of reasons. Not everyone is a slut (not that there's anything wrong with being a slut, but not everyone is).

Can we stop with this? Ok, so he wants to save himself after sleeping with others? He is a weirdo. Move on. And no slut shaming is NOT ok. For men or women. Sex should be a postive thing with two consenting adults.

Just as slut-shaming isn't okay, shaming people for not having sex is also not okay. They're two sides of the same coin, dummy.

He is NOT saving himself for marriage. He is hiding something which is different. She wants to explore before marriage. They're not a good fit. She should move on.

This is hilarious. The only reason you have anything to judge him negatively for is that he was honest, and yet you claim this person you've never met is "hiding something"

Some of y'all should've been scriptwriters for soap operas with your penchant for overly dramatic BS.

Why do you care so much?

As a woman, I'm tired of women having this messed up double standard of (rightly) wanting respect for our boundaries around sex, and then completely shitting on a man for having boundaries and limits about sex. Culturally, it's a gross double standard that needs to be called out. Y'all made a whole thread about it, so I'm calling it out. And I'm not alone in doing that; there are other sane people here. Then there's the d-starved contingent acting like a man should wait until the exact moment a woman is ready and then provide instadick or he's problematic (or, to the particularly homophobic, gay) and she might die because she "needs" it, which is just weird, excuse-making, gender reversal bs of the same type women rant against all the time.

Maybe pointing that out will make someone think about their ridiculous double standards. Probably not, but if it helps even a little, it's worth it.

I would feel the same way about a woman who said they had a sex addiction and stds but now had found God and stopped and hey BTW any person she dates needs to date 3 years before considering marriage or sex. My first thought would be this woman probably has HIV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many troll sock puppet posts again today OP.

Op hasn’t been on here for days.

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Anonymous wrote:Who wants to get married without sampling the goods?

Plenty of people, for a variety of reasons. Not everyone is a slut (not that there's anything wrong with being a slut, but not everyone is).

Can we stop with this? Ok, so he wants to save himself after sleeping with others? He is a weirdo. Move on. And no slut shaming is NOT ok. For men or women. Sex should be a postive thing with two consenting adults.

Just as slut-shaming isn't okay, shaming people for not having sex is also not okay. They're two sides of the same coin, dummy.

He is NOT saving himself for marriage. He is hiding something which is different. She wants to explore before marriage. They're not a good fit. She should move on.

This is hilarious. The only reason you have anything to judge him negatively for is that he was honest, and yet you claim this person you've never met is "hiding something"

Some of y'all should've been scriptwriters for soap operas with your penchant for overly dramatic BS.

Why do you care so much?

As a woman, I'm tired of women having this messed up double standard of (rightly) wanting respect for our boundaries around sex, and then completely shitting on a man for having boundaries and limits about sex. Culturally, it's a gross double standard that needs to be called out. Y'all made a whole thread about it, so I'm calling it out. And I'm not alone in doing that; there are other sane people here. Then there's the d-starved contingent acting like a man should wait until the exact moment a woman is ready and then provide instadick or he's problematic (or, to the particularly homophobic, gay) and she might die because she "needs" it, which is just weird, excuse-making, gender reversal bs of the same type women rant against all the time.

Maybe pointing that out will make someone think about their ridiculous double standards. Probably not, but if it helps even a little, it's worth it.

I would feel the same way about a woman who said they had a sex addiction and stds but now had found God and stopped and hey BTW any person she dates needs to date 3 years before considering marriage or sex. My first thought would be this woman probably has HIV.

Thank you for making your pathology clear. What a creep!

[Anonymous]

He's either super religious or has a micro peen. Either way, it's a no for me.

[Anonymous]

Look at all the miserable people on this site. Do you want to be married to a man who can go mo ths, may e years ejthout being intimate? I would run. This is a glimpse into your future wkth him and you woukd be miserable.

[Anonymous]

BTDT. He is using this to control and manipulate you. And if it’s grounded in religion it’s a religion that believes in controlling and manipulating.

Run as fast as you can! I know that’s easier said than done. But that’s the effect of the control he is exercising.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, at least he will likely want to marry soon rather than serial date. Would you want to marry him? Is he caring, kind, smart, attractive, good job, shared values and beliefs? If he is the whole package, go take a cold shower.

I’m human. I want sex. We have been together 8 months and man it’s hard. He is a really great guy but he is not fast tracking marriage. His ideal timeline is marriage in 2-3 years.

Are you doing anything? Like oral or hands? You cannot marry a man without having sex first. If he isn’t even religious then he has major hang ups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is this post still going?

He confessed he was a:
Sex addict;
Into 100s of casual sex and ONS;
Alcoholic;
Has STDs;
Won’t get married or engaged for 2-3 years no matter what (how old is he?);
Claims he is celibate now;
Codependent on some unknown family member who died who knows when ago.

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OP left this thread days ago. Why keep it up when she isn’t answering any of you back?

I appreciate that summary how fd up he and Op are. Pretty much sums them both up.