Boyfriend is celibate until marriage
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Anonymous
Oh, friend! How WRONG you are!   I'm bi and kink-friendly, I wrote erotica for pay for over a decade, I own more lingerie and toys than most stores, and I'm unabashedly sex-positive.
I 100% stand by my previous statement. You don't need other humans to provide a release. You really just don't. I'm sorry your sex life is so boringly vanilla, and that your relationship to your sexuality so tritely one-note that you seem to believe otherwise. I wish you many happy explorations beyond your intellectually- and sexually-stunted limitations. |
Anonymous
Just as slut-shaming isn't okay, shaming people for not having sex is also not okay. They're two sides of the same coin, dummy. |
Anonymous
| Gay |
Anonymous
Correct. However be sexual with your spouse not with someone else |
Anonymous
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How is this post still going?
He confessed he was a: Sex addict; Into 100s of casual sex and ONS; Alcoholic; Has STDs; Won’t get married or engaged for 2-3 years no matter what (how old is he?); Claims he is celibate now; Codependent on some unknown family member who died who knows when ago. |
Anonymous
Y'all are still on it because you can't see the reality: NONE of that matters. OP wants something he's not willing to give. He could be the sweetest, most innocent, dreamy dude on the planet, ready to take home to mama, etc. And he's still wrong for OP. It's not about him. It's about how OP isn't willing to cut bait and move on, and now y'all are making about the guy. It's about OP. |
Anonymous
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Op was asked why the guy is celibate.
The answer is he’s a total $hit$how. That matters to most people. A lot. |
Anonymous
He is NOT saving himself for marriage. He is hiding something which is different. She wants to explore before marriage. They're not a good fit. She should move on. |
Anonymous
This is hilarious. The only reason you have anything to judge him negatively for is that he was honest, and yet you claim this person you've never met is "hiding something" Some of y'all should've been scriptwriters for soap operas with your penchant for overly dramatic BS. |
Anonymous
Why do you care so much? |
Anonymous
As a woman, I'm tired of women having this messed up double standard of (rightly) wanting respect for our boundaries around sex, and then completely shitting on a man for having boundaries and limits about sex. Culturally, it's a gross double standard that needs to be called out. Y'all made a whole thread about it, so I'm calling it out. And I'm not alone in doing that; there are other sane people here. Then there's the d-starved contingent acting like a man should wait until the exact moment a woman is ready and then provide instadick or he's problematic (or, to the particularly homophobic, gay) and she might die because she "needs" it, which is just weird, excuse-making, gender reversal bs of the same type women rant against all the time. Maybe pointing that out will make someone think about their ridiculous double standards. Probably not, but if it helps even a little, it's worth it. |
Anonymous
Exactly. They aren't a match. There's no need to demonize him or op. They want different things and long term their values are different. Op should move on there's some one out there for both of them |
Anonymous
| Unfortunately, for too many people, their idea of what constitutes “good sex” comes from porn. |
Anonymous
and lack of morals. Have sex with your spouse! |
Anonymous
| So many troll sock puppet posts again today OP. |